Decisions, Decisions, Decisions
Hey everyone, I went and got myself into a predicament.
So awhile back I was at a work mixer and got the card of a 7/10 babe, emailed her, got her number, and have been texting her on-and-off the past month (Werk stuff kept me busy, her too). I texted her today and set up plans for thursday (text exchange below after blurb about the other option).
Here's where things get tricky, tonight I also got the number of a bartender at this bar/venue where my work had a couple of bands we sponsor playing and playfully made plans for Thursday too thinking she wouldn't actually give me her number, but she did... (Full interaction below)
If you guys could give me advice on how to handle this or who to pic that would be osmmmmm. I don't have the insight/expierence of juggling two different people...
Chick From The Mixer
A little background:
So she's been into me since we met, I shoulda banged her sooner because she's chill and gave signals but I didn't handle the situations exactly right, I was a pussy there I said it. Anywho here's how it went down today
Me: Sitting at work bored as a blind kid how you doing bright eyes <--- thanks whoever I got that from
Her: Today has been sooooooooooo slowwwwwwwwww
Her: Not even like i didn't have shit to do
Her:What ever. Any interest in getting food or something on thursday?
Her: My sister was supposed to be in town but she may have to stay in ohio now
Me: Tell me about it *meme about getting paid to sit*
Me: I'm up for robbing banks and pantsing old people if that's what you mean, forsure
Me: Ever been to *bar*?
Her: Duh, i'm no noob
Me: Uh RUDE!
Me: Imma newb *wink tounge out*
Me:So *bar* sound good or is there a cooler place you want to blow my mind with since I don't know many places?
Her: Haha we can do *bar*. There's also *other bar* which is awesome. *first bar* can get a bit rowdy but we can check that out first
Me: Sounds killer, afterward we can go fight crime. I'll have my cape so make sure you bring your spandex
Me: Meeting at *Subway stop* at 7 work alright?
Her: Yes but 715 is more likely
Me: I'll practice my crazy subway dance move routine
Me: So what's been up and whatnot? I bet my weekend could beat your weekend up
Her: HA bullshit
Her: I was partying hard in nashville
Me: Pfft Nashville ain't got nothing on the Boston party scene
Me: Though you are a worthy rival
Her: Sure. Boston. Where everything shuts down at 11pm and the best bar is Cheers
Me:.... shots fired
Her: *kiss wink*
Me: Haha I'm surprised you had the will to not make a Boston massacre joke *crying emoji*
Her: Please. I have taste
Me: It's been 200 years I think it's safe to make jokes lol what kind of jokes do you like wholesome, dirty, dark, or punny?
*no response* (It was 10/11 at this point and she usually goes to bed at a half decent time to be up early for her work)
So, not sure what she was up to today but she seemed receptive and I really feel like the only mistake I made was that boston massacre joke, wtf was I thinking, I actually thought she'd go for the joke lol She also seemed pretty timid compared to usual, but I was also taking forever inbetween replied crafting some of this. So I've got solid plans for thursday excluding a flake. She actually lives a couple of subway stops before mine on the same train line.
I honestly think as long as I text her tomorrow and the day of that I'll be safe from flaking and will probably fuck her by going back to hers or mine after the bar providing that my inpseron game goes well.
Bartender Girl
So I went to this bar where our bands are playing, head to the bar to order the tab, and immediately rexgonize the bartender.
This chick rejected me in the past by giving me a big fat lie about her being engaged or some shit. The first time I met her I flirted and did well, but I was also about 75% drunk so I think she was humoring me or some shit. Anyway she deflected me and I forgot about her till tonight.
I couldn't hide the reaction on my face, surprised and humored! I said:
me: hey! great to see you again! I remember you!
Her: Hi do I know you?
me: *humored playful disbelief* You don't remember me?!?!
her: no *nervous laugh*
me: well that probably for the best then *winked and proceeded to order drinks*
I didn't really talk to her besides ordering drinks. She had an eye on me because I guess she was trying to remember me, idk.
I watched the first band, then went to eat with my ladyfriend coworker across the street. Turns out she lost her phone. We already ordered food so I told her to wait at the restaurant and I'd go look at the bar. I looked around and asked the bartender if anyone turned in a phone. She said no so a kept looking a bit more but went back empty handed.
We went back to the bar and my coworker gave the bartender info about her phone and I wrote my name and number as the contact to call if they found it.
*Goes on small adventure to find phone with coworker, it doesn't matter for this. We found it*
*before our second band goes on I step up to order another round*
me: hey, is our tab closed?
her: I still have it under *name on card*
me: that's it!
Her: *closes tab because I guess she heard wrong*
me: Yo! Did you just close that?!?! I Was gonna order more
her: Oh I can fix it *reopens tab*
me: *clutches chest* You almost gave me a heart attack! Do you know CPR??
her: *thinks* Yeah actually I do
me: Or really that's impressive
her: yeah I can give it anytime
me: *raised eyebrow* how's about we get together on friday for some CPR?
Her: mmm no I can't do friday, how about thursday?
me: HMMMMM *looks at watch* I guuesss I can make that work, but let's do it after 8, that work for you? *raised eyebrow*
She didn't answer but I held that eyecontact like a MOTHAFUKA she broke first, got her wet I think too
her: *blushes and laughs* What do you want to drink?
me: *orders drinks*
I watch our next band for their set and sit in a group of my coworkers, we're all chatting it up and I notice the bar tender is actually glancing over every not and again, I definitely have her interest so I think, "What the hell" and decide to approach before I leave.
Me:*walks up to bar and she walks over* Hey Starlight, so i was just checking to see if you were actually still up for CPR on thursday.
her: *thinks, bites her lip, smiles* Yeah actually I think I could do that.
her: but isn't that your girlfriend over there? *gestures to coworker*
me: Nah that's just my coworker beb
her: oh, a coworker you practice CPR with?
me: You're getting kinda personal don'tcha think? *playful smirk/flirt* <-- looking back I think "wouldn't you like to know" or "what if we do?" or somewthing like those would've been better
me: So how about thursday then?
her: *bites lip, smiles, ponders* You know I think that works
me: great! Let me get your number
her: *she turns around and grabs that paper with my number on it from earlier* Is this it?
me: Yeah that's it. You should text me
her: ok I will <--- I thought she was gonna do it right there but she didn't, I also thought I was gonna be ghosted there
me: What's your actual name Starlight
her: *name*
me: *Repeats name* good one. I'll talk to you soon *name* *High fives to see if she's on my level*
I leave and surprisingly enough I get a text after
Her: What should I save your name as in my phone? <-- lol wut? It was on that paper I gave you
me: Hmmmm... Stud muffin, David Hasselhoff, CPR coach, or batman are all 5-star options
me: Since we're using code names which is your favorite: Rainbow Brite, Wendy Peffercorn, Starlight, Pumpkin Butt, or Catwoman?
me: This is the bartender that can save my life and not a clever ruse by the IRS or my crazy ex right?
*no reply*
It could very easily be the case that she's still working and too busy (they have shows till 2am). I'm gonna leave it till I actually go to bed and maybe follow up with
me: *Pretending that I finished barhopping/partying* Hey just made it home in one piece, which is crazy after the night we had. Gotta get my beauty rest in, hope you survived the shift or RIP you lol
If I don't do that tonight I'll do it in the morning, which I'm leaning toward anyway so she'll have time to reply and I can hit her fresh. (open to suggestions on what to say)
What do you guys think? Does either chick show more promise? What do I do if Thursday is this bartenders open day?
I think Imma keep plans with the mixer chick and see, but if I had to choose that means one girl gets pushed till next week. Thursday is my only free night.
If it comes down to it I think the mixer girl should probably get priotity because I may lose her if I flake I feel like, but if it's a "guaranteed" lay from the bartender that might be more worth it.
P.S. Have plans with a OkC girl tomorrow night, I've got them lined up and ready to go!
Well the mixer chick got back to me this morning, so I guess I didn't fuk up and I'm all good.
her: Usually dirty and dark. Need to read the audience first though
Brainstorming a response. Thinking of replying in an hour
me: *dank dark funny sexual meme*
me: Dark and dirty? you're speaking my language ;)
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Also bartender chick hit me up while I was typing this too!
her: Stud muffin is perfect. I would like to be called pumpkin butt.
her: I did NOT get enough sleep last night... if I want to be awake tonight, I may have to reschedule.
I'm not sure what/why she said this? It doesn't make any sense to me because our plan was thursday, not that I'm complaining.. It certainly solves my problem of having two dates scheduled for one night and picking a chick, but also the only way her text makes sense is if she thinks we were meeting this afternoon?
Anywho, also holding off on replying till I decide what to say
Me: Pumpkin butt will be your espionage code name.
Me: *getting no slep meme with ugly bird*
Me: Lol This you today?
(^she'll laught and say yep I hope)
Me: Pumpkin butt will be your espionage code name.
Me: *getting no slep meme with ugly bird*
Me: Lol This you today?
Me: What happened? Up too late studying for your CPR exam? ;) I know you're just trying to get more time to study for the test
Lemme know what y'all think. Imma just got for it (how am I gonna learn if I coast on you guyz lol) in about 45min on both of them
Good work on both of em! :) The text game is fire-balls
Question...When you were texting the first chick why did you keep on messaging after the date was planned? I usually just end it there when the tension is high.
Thanks mayne!
Uhm, not sure why I did that I guess it was unnecessary and I'm pretty sure I just put myself back when I didn't need to do that.
At the time, I was bored at work and also maybe I felt like I didn't have enough rapport since we haven't talked much really..... BUT APPARENTLY NOT SINCE SHE MADE THE PLANS FOR US AND REFERENCED HER EMPTY APARTMENT... The things you realize when you look back later with a clear mind
Here's the convo from today (which was very one sided)
her: Usually dirty and dark. Need to read the audience first though
me: Dark and dirty? you're speaking my language, hit me with your best shot
me: *http://jokideo.com/wp-content/uploads/meme/2014/04/Funny-sex-meme.jpg*
*radio silence*
Maybe she got busy or maybe she just didn't see my text, she usually does this every time. We'll talk and she'l drop off only to come back later like "Oh I'm sorry I never saw this" or just reply like nothing happened.
Not sure if I should follow up with a "why you not texting me ya dork" maybe like
me: guess you couldn't beat my meme? what a shame...
or
me: I must have killed you with laughter. RIP
or I'll just hold off and reengage tomorrow confirming the date with something like
me: just picked up my cape from the dry cleaners. Still down for causing trouble and ruining the reputation of *bar*?
Also, the bartender didn't reply to my text today either
her:Stud muffin is perfect. I would like to be called pumpkin butt.
her: I did NOT get enough sleep last night... if I want to be awake tonight, I may have to reschedule.
me: Up too late studying for your CPR exam? ;) I know you're just trying to get more time to study for the test
me: It’s all good though chickiepoo I’m all about student success here. You work a lot during the week? Wed, Fri, and Sat are typically pretty good days for me <---- I probably should've just waited for a response from my prior text
if I follow up tonight it'll be something like
me: guess you spent all day dreaming of me
me: studying so hard for the test you couldn't reply? You gotta work on that werk-life balance
or tomorrow with some random opener.
Whatcha think?
SPEAK OF THE DEVIL BARTENDER CHICK JUST TEXTED ME
her: Haha yeah that's exactly why :)
her: Yeah I work lots. I may be free Saturday night, but I'll only know closer to the date.
her: How's your day been so far? What did you do?
*cracks knuckles*
looks like imma work some game
Yo so the bartender isn't replying to my texts.. gonna wait till tuesday and then reengage.
The chick fro the mixer though.. we ended not being able to get together thursday because of her work, she got held up waiting on delieverables (this happens in the ad industry all the time so I believe her). I texted her the next day a bit, tried to reengage on saturday, no response, reengaged today and went out with her and a couple friends to a local bar.
we all had a good time, her friends were a married couple and this was the first time we've got together since we met about a month ago. We didn't get to touch much or flirt till after they left. I got to work some game when they did and it was great.
She had to get home to get ready for the week so she said we'd get together later this week.
So from what I can tell, she desparately wants to fuck, but she wants the logistics to be right. She's made it clear what she wants for sure because as we were leaving she said we'd pick a night when both of us has the time to "get crazy".
SInce meeting her in person, turns out that she is kind of sef-concious of her age. She's probably somewhere between 28-32 and I'm 22. Not a problem for me but she's worried about the gap. she said, "The last guy I dated was 14 years older than be so I have a type". I think I handled the age thing well. I acted like it was no big deal and soemthing she shouldn't be concerned about anyway. A little while later I said "I think you may be to old for me" as a challenge type thing but I don't thin it worked because she doesn't think she's too good, but not good enough.
Anyway, is there a good way to handle chicks who do the "I'm too old for you card?" How do I do this? I'm sure I act like nothing has happened and it's no big deal but I'm worried (by the way her actions from when she was asking about my age) that she might ghost me or go cold. Do i continue on like normal? Act more "mature" (she did say I act a lot older than I am)?
Overall I think she thinks one of two things "He's too immature for me" or "I'm too old and not fun for this guy" and I think it's the latter.
Any help or words of advice would be awesome guys. I think I can get laid this week if I handle it right
You're not being assertive enough and/or shaping the interaction well at all. In fact sounds a lot like zero game you've just gotten to where you're at based on the fact she finds you attractive. Which is why basically nothing's happened she's just gotten to parade you around in front of her friends without hooking up with you. Zero game, letting circumtsances dictate your reality, etc.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I would say that's spot on. I'm not tooting my own horn here but I'm attractive, fit, confident, and relatively successful for my age. That makes most women easy pickins. It's the texting, the fact that I overthink, and my "nice factor" that are all my downfalls.
Some how i lucked out so I'm trying not to drop the ball here.
All text interactions have been relatively not good for game. She always drops off the map or goes unresponsive when I try to be playful or start to flirt.
i still haven't found the way to resonate with this chick, she's very aloof and very dominant. I haven't been able to really pull any fun out of her.
Also dis bitch asked me to get her a beer the moment I walked in and I was like "nah I ain't your errand boy", pretty sure the look I got earned me points lol it was kind of funny like she wasn't expecting it.
She didnt "parade" me in front of her friends. She said she'd be at x bar reading, her friends were showing up for a bit, then she was gonna stay for me to pop by afterward once they left. I just happened to be headed back from the city and it was on the way so it worked out perfectly.
The friends were stoned af so they didn't actually end up leaving and I tried to work with it.
I could make something happen this week because she said she was available tonight (once I get out of my conference) or another night this week.
So, to be assertive, Im thinking to reengage around lunch and shoot for tonight (her suggestion to get together tonight), reengage tonight at the conference, or drop off the radar tonight, get her wondering (maybe?), and reengage Tuesday night.
If i go the tonight route I'm thinking it needs to be during the first couple hours of the conference. I'll start a convo about it with her, make fun of it or something, see where she's at, and go for the pull.
im thinking asking her to a pinball bar, shes giving me the signal she doesn't like loud/rowdy type stuff, but I'm thinking she'd have fun. So maybe
me: yo this conference is cool, but the way they present it is such a snooze fest. lol that's what I get for going to a *music company* event.
(^shes works for a competitor so making fun of them should hit home)
me: I'm gonna head to *arcade bar/neighborhood bar* afterward to pump some life back into me. Come by and help me hustle the lunch money from these nerds.
me: unless you're already in your grannie panties for the night ;)
(^ I'm 50/50 on this. Should I poke fun at something she's self conscious of?)
OR
me: you can be the distraction ;)
OR
Me: With the winnings we can get a baby seal and teach it tricks ;) (<-- seal thing, thanks mw lol)
if I hit her up Tuesday. I'll stay at the conference, try to find an after party, maybe send a gibberish text about it tonight or something just showing I'm having a good time (invite her if the opportunity presents itself). Make some joke about the text tomorrow night after my open mic and her book club and try to set something up for later in the week.
If both of these plans suck and I should kill myself let me know and I'll head back to the drawing board.
*Yawn*
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Boring? I'll fiddle around more
I challenge you to read any of these and tell me where I could have been used as a fucking prop on "girl's night out":
Or any of the several dozen others.
C'mon bruh. "Ken doll antics" at 22? That shit got old on the playground. All looks get you in this world is dick. Either your own 'cuz you're left with yours in your hand at the end of the night since you can't actually make shit happen, or because the only other thing it gets you in this world is propositions from gay dudes. Don't be lazy.
Are you sure "most women are easy pickins"? I challenge you to put that belief to the test as well. Lol. See if you can bang some of these women that are "easy pickins" and lettuce know how it goes.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I'll read all of them! Challenge accepted! Thanks for throwing them my way, I'm here to get better and learn, I've been reading the forum back-to-front in my spare time.
If that came across as ken doll antics then I came off wrong (straight into my hand apparently).
I dont think women are easy pickin's per say. If it was easy for me why would I be here? Lol
Getting through the door (especially in person) is easy. And now that I type this I see that it doesn't matter anyway because anybody with a brain can make it through the door if they do it right. So maybe I mean it just happens that they fall into my lap and straight off my soft loser Dick?
The hard part is everything after, which is everything that matters :P
cant wait till things start clicking...
So club chick with the clit piercing you coulda sat down talking all night but you turned the tables and forced the win by turning the tables on her and expertly taking what you wanted.
English lass is pretty obvious. Instead of "oh no I can't bang her, her friends are in the way" you forced the win there by finding a way out.
Webcam girls, I don't know why you would be prop here. Coulda fucked one instead of both? Either way, epic win.
Fast escalation chick - if this one wasn't obvious, I don't know what was. You broke through anything that came up in your way, whereas I probably would've stopped when she started murmuring about having a boyfriend and not consenting.
I had read the first two articles before, this was a good refresher for me though.
And shows me yep I was prop, yep I wasn't aggressive whatsoever, and yep I've got a lotta work to do...
i also gotta learn to not be so defensive and say you're wrong when you tell me what's going wrong with my shit. Because I'm obviously not the expert and why would you help me if I shit on what you say and don't listen :P
Welp last night I tried to be more aggressive, but I definitely didn't do it right.
Me: *sends pic of me holding beer in awesome music office*
me: gotta love it when they have free beer at these things
her: yes I remember the excitement of being able to legally drink too
me: pfft you wish you were having free beer granny panties
i gave her 30 minutes to reply, when she didn't I followed up
me: No need to be intimidated by this young stallion beb I'm headed outta here at 9 to sweep you up. Get those little black riding boots on.
Her: Haha nah, i'm in *city neighborhood* with friends.. i'll let you know if i come back towards *other neighborhood* anytime soon.
So I should've took this as a win and said "great, I'll be doing cool thing in that area. Head in on your way home." but I felt the need to push it at the time, I don't know.
Me: Welllllll looks like you've got about two hours to get that trianglebooty to two-bits and meet me and hustle some nerd
1hr later me: yo where you at Dorothy? I just hopped out of the bat mobile.
30minutes later: Aye, do I need to get you a hearing aid? ;)
so again i in I think I fucked up where I pointed it out.
At the time I was thinking that she responded to unphased confidence and the old joke so more of those will help. Ya no.
I think I'm still good to make it work with this chick, but I've gotta come back from the back pedal with this.
Theres the opportunity to message her after her after her book club tonight but I think I'm just gonna let it sit a couple of days.
Will keep yall updated on the lessons I learn from this failure lol
Yo I'm honestly really confused right now... I didn't actually screw up? She just texted me first for the first time ever
her: how was the partay
so did I fuck up? Did I not? How do I proceed? Just keep the young, witty, confident thing I got going on?
im just flabbergasted.
We both do the 9-5 grind so I have time to get some input from all of you and not reply for a bit because of a "busy day"
How could you think you fucked up when she texts you back? Take a deep breath.
Make this "partay" sound awesome, then make it seem like it would've been even better if she came. Proceed as normal.
Ex:
Her: Not today good sir
Me: K babe enjoy lounging around w smelly animals ;)
Me: Imma eat this delicious icecream & watch my sugar levels rise w style
Her: How was the icecream? You closer to being a diabetic now?
Me: Seduced the owner and got it for free. Tastes even better this way
Me: Wouldve got it done faster if u were there Jess
Me: Our sexiness together is overwhelming
Is this the eldery girl you're trying to bang?
Yeah this is the old lady. Damn! Too little too late Jihad.. I was a boring fucker and sent
Me: So gangsta. Hows your day pumpkin it's been a fuster cluck at work, finally had a chance to sit down practice for tonight
(^she knows I've got an open mic tonight)
no response as of yet. I've got awhile to decide if my gonna prod her with a text later because she's at book club tonight. The alternative is waiting a day or two.
You could
"Bout to go on stage and T-Swift this place to the ground. I'll have atleast 7 record labels fighting over my ballz afterwards. Hope you're bookywooky club is going well bebe"
"I'll pick u up afterwards w some ciroc and cheetos to celebrate"
^Something like that
So I ended up not texting her because (imma bout to post about this) I met a chick on tinder who actually goes to the open mic and I made out w her/got a handjob lol
so i guess I'll reengage tomorrow or the next day.
Maybe tomorrow, about the same text you sent me but about last night. If not tomorrow, then the next day. Though I won't be able to do something like what you suggested. I'll think of something and throw it up here for review.
"easy pickins" and lettuce know how it goes.
lol
You could"Bout to go on stage and T-Swift this place to the ground. I'll have atleast 7 record labels fighting over my ballz afterwards. Hope you're bookywooky club is going well bebe"
"I'll pick u up afterwards w some ciroc and cheetos to celebrate"
^Something like that
hot cheetos and takis, hot cheetos n takis. Finger stained red like dem hot cheetos n takis
Haha how did I live my life without you guys before???
Mixer girl who is insecure about being old gave me a shit test
me: where you at
her: this rooftop party in bushwick. All the cool kids will be there
her: but it's 25+
Tryna think of a clever reply
me: not all the cool kids. *send pic of bar down the street from my work with belly dancers and fire breathers*
me: never heard of a party like that, you celebrating your insurance discount?
me: sounds about your speed granny.
Me: sounds lame, shine the batsignal and I'll break you out.
I don't know, I suck and I pray to the wise game kings, that they bestow gracious knowledge on me before I solo it and fuck it up
Mixer girl who is insecure about being old gave me a shit test
me: where you at
her: this rooftop party in bushwick. All the cool kids will be there
her: but it's 25+
Tryna think of a clever reply
me: not all the cool kids. *send pic of bar down the street from my work with belly dancers and fire breathers*
me: never heard of a party like that, you celebrating your insurance discount?
me: sounds about your speed granny.
Me: sounds lame, shine the batsignal and I'll break you out.
I don't know, I suck and I pray to the wise game kings, that they bestow gracious knowledge on me before I solo it and fuck it up
If ya don't want to straight up tell me the answer tell me I suck or what direction to go. I want to learn, but I also need a little nudge in the right direction
Yeah fuckers, wtf. Answer this poor bastard
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Haha too late my friend, I sent
"not all the cool kids" and a vid of the belly dancer I'm watching that's twirling fire.
Fuck me right
Ha! Fine, I'm coming but only if you keep our secret like that means no fibbing ya nerd ;)
lol id prob send something like that
wait shit fibbing is the wrong word. Damn it sounded so good too lol she prob wouldn't even notice honestly... it fits the rhythm real well. lol I'd send it- zero chance she calls you out on that piece and if she does just post it here and we'll have a killer response back
uhm idk man- I didn't read the whole post so not sure if you have plans or actually are down to hit up that party.
Ha! manwhore told ya to start shaping the interaction and you send another text that does none of it :) :)
think of it like how how can you add sand to the sand box. You wanna fill that puppy up so y'all can play in it and make castles and shit.
That text is just like taking the sand that's there and swirling it around into a cool design but not actually creating anything
Fuccckkkkkk that's hitting me in the gut so hard. I need such learning.... that's what I get for being impatient and not waiting.
I appreciate the response and answer but I gotta learn to think that or post here with out being like "she said this, what do I say?", "oh that's awesome thanks!", "hey guys she said this, what now?"
Sandbox sandbox sandbox.
I followed up with shit too
me: though what I wouldn't give to have the wind going through these luscious locks of mine. You take over the dacefloor yet?
is there any way back from the shit I sent? Or should I sit and reengage later?
dont give me a what to say answer, but a 'how to say it' answer. I gotta start building up on myself
Dude you're 100% golden. It's not a big deal at all. She'll respond.
read Manwhore's silly/Sincere
like what you sent isn't "bad dude " fire breathers and stuff is cool as shit. Just not sure if it takes the interaction anywhere it's not already. That's what my interpretation anyway
For some reason I can't take this interaction anywhere forward and that's why I'm considering it bad :p I'm tryna escalate and get her more on my side.
At the moment I'm thinking that she's thinking (subconsciously) "this guy is alright" vs her being intrigued and interactive. Most of my interactions are one sided/stale and I feel like that's failing.. at least in my mind
Also I haven't unlocked silly/sincere yet.. only on month 2 going on 3
Yo, so, update on this. There's a short version and a version with more context if you need it below that.
Short Version:
Mixer chick is sorta back in the picture. Looking for help with what direction to respond with.
her: as much as I'd like icecream you can't come over because I've got to be up early tomorrow and my roommate has her boyfriend over.
Me: alright sleepy kitty
me: I'm headed home with a pint o ice cream.
Me: just know.. I'm not ashamed of what's about to happen..
her: *kiss wink emoji*
her: maybe I'll partake one day
her: But also, don't tell a girl you're going to randomly show up at their apartment. It might have been cute in texas, but you're in the big city now and that shit comes off as creepy.
Wasnt sure where that came from so I thought about it for a bit and said.
Me: haha "maybe"
me: not with that attitude you won't
me: Ah right that makes sense.. Sorry I fucked up there won't happen again.
I wasnt sure what to do. I thought being creepy was a decent objection (regardless of how I thought I was she interpreted it that way) and that I didn't want to fight over it or explain anything because I'm not tryna be on the defensive.
After that I decided to let it die or wait for her to text to stay true to the "maybe" text I sent.
Lo and behold she texted me and I'm a little put off so I'm counting on y'all to help me out.
Her: Do you look like the guy in the new show Will?
im put off because she apparently doesn't remember what I look like?
but also I'm happy because she texted first, idk. Anyway here's what I've got so far
Me: do I?
Me: yeah that's me actually, hope you can keep a secret
me: idk do you look like *insert celebrity*?
me: nah I look more like *insert ridiculously gorgeous person here*
me: nah but add some muscle, a better smile, and seriously good sex moves and you've got it.
Idk, lemme know if I'm on the right track guys. Thanks in advance!
Long Version:
Older mixer chick and I have been texting back and forth sporadically. My game has sucked, I have no idea why she still replies to me so maybe I'm doing something right.
Since I've pretty much given up home on her I decided to reengage with a phone call as my last resort. I called her after getting out of work a little later and my vocal projection and confidence were through the roof because I had nothing to lose. She didn't answer but I left this in her voicemail:
me: Hey chickie! How ya been? It's been awhile since we're both workaholics. I remember you saying that you'd be working late a lot with the new promotion and- OH DAMN!- haha my bad! I'm calling you outside this neighborhood basketball game on W4th St and it's heated! A minute left and the score is 110 to 111--OH SHIT! 111-111 with a minute left! What's gonna happen?!?-- haha anyway I just got outta work and I'm so starving I could eat a stray hobo. I'm thinking about getting food on my way home. Lemme know if you wanna escape "The Man" and go on the run with me. Lemme know soon! Hasta la bye beb!!
So about 45~ minutes later she calls me back, a little tipsy too, but I'm on an armpit to armpit subway ride
her: hey I got your voicemail, so glad you kept me posted on that intense basketball game lol. Me and some coworkers just left our favorite bar, XXX bar.
Me: ah cool yeah I bet that was fun. I'm headed home on the train now.
We did a bit more chitchat but it was meh. I really didn't want to game this chick on the phone and 3 people's ears on this subway car so we basically hung up on "let's get together soon"
This was kinda unreal because I wasn't expecting such a positive response after all the impartial ones.
Also, I was a little pissed that I ended it like that instead of "I don't wanna corrupt this nun standing next to me with our dirty talk, lemme call you back in a sec" or something else fun because I realized right after she hung up that SHE WANTED to talk to me. She MIGHT'VE even wanted to bang.
So kinda jumped the gun with my next move. Once off of the train I called her saying (voicemail)
me: yo so I don't really like talking on trains. Anywho, it's my cheat day so I was gonna grab some BJ's. Hope you like BJs as much as I do I'll head over, we can split it, and if you're an angel you can help nurse my shoulder back to health. Lemme know!
she didn't reply for a bit so I bought some chunky monkey and sent her a pic.
I think she misunderstood something or I said something weird without realizing because the rest of the convo went like this:
her: as much as I'd like icecream you can't come over because I've got to be up early tomorrow and my roommate has her boyfriend over.
Me: alright sleepy kitty
me: I'm headed home with a pint o ice cream.
Me: just know.. I'm not ashamed of what's about to happen..
her: *kiss wink emoji*
her: maybe I'll partake one day
her: But also, don't tell a girl you're going to randomly show up at their apartment. It might have been cute in texas, but you're in the big city now and that shit comes off as creepy.
Wasnt sure where that came from so I thought about it for a bit and said.
Me: haha "maybe"
me: not with that attitude you won't
me: Ah right that makes sense.. Sorry I fucked up there won't happen again.
I wasnt sure what to do. I thought being creepy was a decent objection (regardless of how I thought I was she interpreted it that way) and that I didn't want to fight over it or explain anything because I'm not tryna be on the defensive.
After that I decided to let it die or wait for her to text to stay true to the "maybe" text I sent.
Lo and behold she texted me and I'm a little put off so I'm counting on y'all to help me out.
Her: Do you look like the guy in the new show Will?
im put off because she apparently doesn't remember what I look like?
but also I'm happy because she texted first, idk. Anyway here's what I've got so far
Me: do I?
Me: yeah that's me actually, hope you can keep a secret
me: idk do you look like *insert celebrity*?
me: nah I look more like *insert ridiculously gorgeous person here*
me: nah but add some muscle, a better smile, and seriously good sex moves and you've got it.
Idk, lemme know if I'm on the right track guys. Thanks in advance!
I winged it because I can't learn if I don't try.
Her: do you look like the guy in that new show will?
me: Never heard of it, too busy to watch tv for the most part punkin
me: Is he tall, sexy, and have killer dance moves?
her: nah it stars Warwick Davis
me: yeah to skin n bones to be me
me: You're still up? I thought you'd be in your jammies and passed out by now ;)
her: haha I went out
her: I party when I want
me: phew
me: and here I thought you were just a workaholic
(30 min later) me: Well since the big promotion anyway, I met you at a mixer after all
her: I've consistently been the last one up at all of these weddings
her: I like to think I can shut the shit down when I really want to
me: oooo peaking my interest there beb
me: if that's true we'd prolly ruin the reputation of a 5-star bar together.
no response, probably because it was 11:30 at this point and she's an old lady lol I hit her up this morning
me: hope you survived the late night beb
her: hardly
her: what are you doing tonight
I want to go for the meetup because it's been pretty hard to pin this chick down but I also feel like I don't want it to seem like I'm jumping at the first opportunity to meet. Especially since she's so difficult (actually it's because I've sucked at this so far)
So imma go with one of these:
me: having a bro night drinking and playing battleship
(^shoots her down easy, she probably won't try to make anything work I assume)
me: Thursday night ritual is annilating wings, drinkin beer, and watchin sports with the buddies
(^leaves the possibility of us getting together afterward)
or if I do decide to leave the door open since she'll probably invite me out
me: no work tonight for one so I'm prolly gonna grab a bite and then go make the people in the park tear up when I seranade them with my guitar
(^door is wide open, make it happen)
lemme know what y'all think. Picking a text and sending in a couple hours
She asks what you're doing tonight and you shoot her down? With a scripted text? Dafuq
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