Feel like I lost this girl
Fri, 04/19/2013 - 19:51
I finally took up MW's advice, stopped bullshitting, and went for the meetup with the girl from my last thread.
It ended up with me feeling like i'm in a mass storm of bullshit.
I called her up last night telling her I was going to be downtown. I had to drop some buddies there anyways, and that we should meet.
And so we did, to my surprise she invited me to her place real quick while she got ready. I roll onto her front yard and she inevitably starts teasing and bantering.
"I can't even see you, where are you?" cuz i'm black. Minutes into the house my brother calls me, so I lose track a little. When i'm done we chat a little more before she asks me "where is the beer and ice cream?" to which I replied "We have to go get it." I figured i'd drive her to my place where I actually DID have them, but shit didn't pan out. Instead she pulled out a big bottle of white wine and two cups and we bounced.
She said "Where are we going? Let's go to the beach! Or there this park up the hill"
I told her let's play rock paper scissors which she was up for, until i said that if she wins we go to the beach, if I win we go to my college town. She shut down straight after that and insisted we don't go to the college town. I could have gone anyways since I was the one driving but i'm positive she really meant "no" (she hates the place) Fast forward we went to the beach because the park was closed. She's giving me shit the whole time about my driving skills, the fact that I have not congratulated her on her exam grades, etc. I pretty much ignored her requests, made fun of her voice and stripped her of validation (she's full of herself big-time)
THIS is where things really take a twist.
SIDE STORY: I recently learned she's been engaging my close buddy AJ on OKcupid prior to meeting me over a month ago. They never met, AJ backed off completely and let me have a go at her. He never told me he knew her until a week ago, then she texts me "You could tell me that AJ is your friend lol"
She sent me that because AJ basically texted her that he stopped talking to her because she was talking to me, her response: "we're friends"
(I saw the texts and timeline)
Back to the beach: She brought up the fact that she told AJ we were friends and she's probably trying to keep it that way now that I reflect. I saw the whole thing as a shit-test when she said that, I went into "gaming mode". When she threw the friend card I didn't give a shit; I acknowledged it verbally but kept trying to escalate. She even sarcastically threw "Stop thinking with your dick" She would resist HARD to any attempt to kiss her or anything to a level above, this went on since I stepped into her house. She was preaching "we are friends, we can't blah blah" and further disqualifying herself "You should get a girl for you" some crap like that. Yet we were chilling at the beach and when I didn't attempt anything, she would lean into me with her legs over mine willing to look me right in the face.
And when I dropped her off, i managed to chill at her place for a bit. She told me to text her when I get home to make sure I was ok. When I didn't text her she texted "You home!?"
I'm confused as fuck right now guys.
Last night was nothing like the first time I saw her, an abrupt transition.
Did I lose her
It ended up with me feeling like i'm in a mass storm of bullshit.
I called her up last night telling her I was going to be downtown. I had to drop some buddies there anyways, and that we should meet.
And so we did, to my surprise she invited me to her place real quick while she got ready. I roll onto her front yard and she inevitably starts teasing and bantering.
"I can't even see you, where are you?" cuz i'm black. Minutes into the house my brother calls me, so I lose track a little. When i'm done we chat a little more before she asks me "where is the beer and ice cream?" to which I replied "We have to go get it." I figured i'd drive her to my place where I actually DID have them, but shit didn't pan out. Instead she pulled out a big bottle of white wine and two cups and we bounced.
She said "Where are we going? Let's go to the beach! Or there this park up the hill"
I told her let's play rock paper scissors which she was up for, until i said that if she wins we go to the beach, if I win we go to my college town. She shut down straight after that and insisted we don't go to the college town. I could have gone anyways since I was the one driving but i'm positive she really meant "no" (she hates the place) Fast forward we went to the beach because the park was closed. She's giving me shit the whole time about my driving skills, the fact that I have not congratulated her on her exam grades, etc. I pretty much ignored her requests, made fun of her voice and stripped her of validation (she's full of herself big-time)
THIS is where things really take a twist.
SIDE STORY: I recently learned she's been engaging my close buddy AJ on OKcupid prior to meeting me over a month ago. They never met, AJ backed off completely and let me have a go at her. He never told me he knew her until a week ago, then she texts me "You could tell me that AJ is your friend lol"
She sent me that because AJ basically texted her that he stopped talking to her because she was talking to me, her response: "we're friends"
(I saw the texts and timeline)
Back to the beach: She brought up the fact that she told AJ we were friends and she's probably trying to keep it that way now that I reflect. I saw the whole thing as a shit-test when she said that, I went into "gaming mode". When she threw the friend card I didn't give a shit; I acknowledged it verbally but kept trying to escalate. She even sarcastically threw "Stop thinking with your dick" She would resist HARD to any attempt to kiss her or anything to a level above, this went on since I stepped into her house. She was preaching "we are friends, we can't blah blah" and further disqualifying herself "You should get a girl for you" some crap like that. Yet we were chilling at the beach and when I didn't attempt anything, she would lean into me with her legs over mine willing to look me right in the face.
And when I dropped her off, i managed to chill at her place for a bit. She told me to text her when I get home to make sure I was ok. When I didn't text her she texted "You home!?"
I'm confused as fuck right now guys.
Last night was nothing like the first time I saw her, an abrupt transition.
Did I lose her
Fri, 04/19/2013 - 21:06
#1
Too much rapport in textNot
Too much rapport in text
Not enough touching in person
Not dominant enough in your reality
EDIT: I only read up to the part where you talked about getting friend-zoned.
Yeah dude- lol idk what you're trippin on - she wants your D
Not enough touching in person
Not dominant enough in your reality
EDIT: I only read up to the part where you talked about getting friend-zoned.
Yeah dude- lol idk what you're trippin on - she wants your D
Fri, 04/19/2013 - 20:54
#2
Dude, I don't think you lost
Dude, I don't think you lost her. She was giving you shit tests and disqualifying galore, but look at all the iois.
-put her legs over you
-eye contact
-shit test - ioi
-invited you to her house at the end
You got this shit man. She digs you. Next time just go for the kiss. I know it's hard, but just go for the makeout. Especially when she has her legs and ass all over you.
Keep ignoring her 'friend' frame, and escalate. She is just saying all this so she doesn't feel like a slut.
-put her legs over you
-eye contact
-shit test - ioi
-invited you to her house at the end
You got this shit man. She digs you. Next time just go for the kiss. I know it's hard, but just go for the makeout. Especially when she has her legs and ass all over you.
Keep ignoring her 'friend' frame, and escalate. She is just saying all this so she doesn't feel like a slut.
Sat, 04/20/2013 - 17:25
#3
Two steps forward one step
Two steps forward one step back physically while verbally agreeing that you're just friends with a coy smirk on your face. That really owns the situation. Lets the girl know you know the REAL scoreboard
Sun, 04/21/2013 - 00:39
#4
Lol I can't even begin to
Lol I can't even begin to count the number of times I tried to go for the make-out, she put up a good fight the whole night.
Some other shit went down when I was with her that I can remember:
- I wrestled her down, she kneed my balls pretty good soon as I tried to kiss. what the fuck.
- I only got as far as rubbing her thighs despite the fact that she was also giving me shit for it.
- Steering the convo sexually as much as I can and occasionally qualifying her (I should do more of it) ex: On the way back to my car I told her she sucks for whatever reason. She agreed, then I asked her if she spits or swallows. She said she wouldn't answer because I would get too excited, which I barely acknowledged. Ironically enough, 10mins later mid-convo she goes "I swallow *5 seconds pause* Did you even hear me? I just told you I swallow" to which I replied "Yeah I heard you, why? Was I supposed to react?"
- She asked me how many girls I met on OKcupid since we last met. I told her 2 and that one of them surprised me in a bad way (truth). A good amount of the time at the beach was spent with her constantly begging me to tell her what was wrong with the girl, but I wouldn't give in. And i'm glad I didn't tell her too much because that would have enforced the friend frame. She would go "whhhyy?? but we're friends!!"
- Once or twice did she ask me if I had any cute friends
- She threw in "noo!! not that kind of friend!" when i implied kissing is what friends do
- She confirmed that i'm a persistent motherfucker despite the fact that she said that we would not be having sex since day 1.
What's basically going on is i'm pushing it when i'm with her.
However when I come back home i'm having doubts and start typing on here lol
Some other shit went down when I was with her that I can remember:
- I wrestled her down, she kneed my balls pretty good soon as I tried to kiss. what the fuck.
- I only got as far as rubbing her thighs despite the fact that she was also giving me shit for it.
- Steering the convo sexually as much as I can and occasionally qualifying her (I should do more of it) ex: On the way back to my car I told her she sucks for whatever reason. She agreed, then I asked her if she spits or swallows. She said she wouldn't answer because I would get too excited, which I barely acknowledged. Ironically enough, 10mins later mid-convo she goes "I swallow *5 seconds pause* Did you even hear me? I just told you I swallow" to which I replied "Yeah I heard you, why? Was I supposed to react?"
- She asked me how many girls I met on OKcupid since we last met. I told her 2 and that one of them surprised me in a bad way (truth). A good amount of the time at the beach was spent with her constantly begging me to tell her what was wrong with the girl, but I wouldn't give in. And i'm glad I didn't tell her too much because that would have enforced the friend frame. She would go "whhhyy?? but we're friends!!"
- Once or twice did she ask me if I had any cute friends
- She threw in "noo!! not that kind of friend!" when i implied kissing is what friends do
- She confirmed that i'm a persistent motherfucker despite the fact that she said that we would not be having sex since day 1.
What's basically going on is i'm pushing it when i'm with her.
However when I come back home i'm having doubts and start typing on here lol
Sun, 04/21/2013 - 03:50
#5
Maybe you were a bit too
Maybe you were a bit too reactive when she friendzoned you and tried a bit too hard to come across as a sexual guy. Maybe a bit of disinterest would have helped
Mon, 04/22/2013 - 01:42
#6
@Meow
I get what you're
@Meow
I get what you're saying but I was just finishing where I started off.
I already was a sexual/physical with her since day 1 and through text on occasion.
Shit just getting harder now that my friend is involved lol
I get what you're saying but I was just finishing where I started off.
I already was a sexual/physical with her since day 1 and through text on occasion.
Shit just getting harder now that my friend is involved lol