Getting her to Invest
So I'm not an expert pimp yet by any means. I'm training with MW now and we're working on getting me there, developing more boss-ness and authoritative-ness, and obviously getting my texting better.
While there are certain components of my game that obviously need work, I can consistently get girls attracted to me. I pretty much have no problem getting a girls #, getting her giggly, anime eyed, and generally positively reacting to me.
However, I think one area I struggle with, lack understanding of the most is how to get the girl invested. Like I almost pulled a girl on Saturday, had her laughing, was being physical, pulled here away from her friends, led her around the venue, and gave her tons of funny reasons why she should leave with me and ditch her friends, and she ended up giving me her #. In my mind I was like ok she's definitely going to text me back, I mean I almost pulled her.... I text her next day and get no response. While this could be because of my abysmal text-game, I feel like It also has to do with her level of investment in me/the interaction, because this type of thing happens to me all the time. It's almost like I could be the coolest guy ever, but if the whole time I am the one doing the talking and making all the moves, she feels like she is still the prize that this cool guy is fighting for, and therefor she is the one with value and/or didn't have to invest too much into me, so she isn't keen on continuing. In other words I give all this value away (my charisma, physicality, time) without her really earning it, and so she's like I already have this guy's validation or whatever, so what's the point in continuing this.
I realize MW has stellar text game and could give me some texts to send her that would make her want to meet up with me, but then you look at guys like Julien who just text "What are you doing" "Meet me at xCafe" or whatever and the girl comes. I feel like that works for him because he's gotten the girl to invest during the interaction. And probly MW could send similar texts to those with chicks he's talking to but just has more fun sending badass texts instead.
So my question for you guys who are consistently pulling/fucking is, how do you get her to invest? What are you guys actively doing that makes her feel like she is more invested in the interaction than you are. How the fuck do you do this lol.
Here is a cool post on rsdnation I was reading about this and this guy also raises some good points,
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/530403/forum
This guy also raises some good points-
http://www.girlschase.com/content/its-not-your-investment-her-its-hers-y...
but I am really curious what PottedFlowers, JackRuby, G-Money, DarkRain, PatrickBateman, and all you guys on here who are consistently closing have to say about this
Hard to say without specific details or watching you talk to chicks. But from what I've personally seen, you're probably giving her too much validation way too fast. You're basically at her beck and call and she knows it. There's no real "conquest" happening here. Not only do you have to make moves but you have to make sure the girl is worth making moves for in the first place.
If you want her to invest you need to:
1. Make her qualify herself
"Damn, girl ease up on the drinks. You're not one of THOSE party girls are you?"
2. Push playfully
"Hey! You don't have to try so hard....it's cool."
im assuming if you replay your interaction in your head, it was missing these key elements. There's a fun, cocky, slightly assholish vibe to solid one night stands in my opinion. Not only that, but if you get the number it cements in the girls mind you're a real man and she'll be way more likely to meet up. I would recommend starting a journal where you write down your interactions in detail. It will help you see where you should make tweaks and changes in your game way faster.
Alex read Julien's texts on Facebook. Not at all what you think
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Read that article again. He's doing shit you wouldn't do. This guy's a boss with balls. You are talking about getting beat up by a girl telling you you shouldn't make out with girls. Derp
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
This article by Johhny Manwhore helped me piece it together.
Dude I totally know wtf your going through. I think Im on the exact same level. Im gonna take a look at the articles posted here but I think the way Im gonna deal with it is maybe just be a bit more harder to catch for these chicks. I guess its hard to see because we really want the lay. If you are getting laid alot I can imagine this being alot easier as you don't care about it that much. Ill be out with a girl and honestly be the man and definatley think it has to do with making the chick invest more to me.
What do you guys think about just maybe bringing out more of a cocky dooshy character of yourself , not in a disrespectful way (or maybe yes), to try and get her to chase a little.
hey dude, im really new to this but I've got chicks to invest in the past and I think your willingness to walk away from any situation you don't like is huge.