how do you screen?
How do you screen girls? I tried it out while using my limited understanding on tinder. And I've had more success Just being direct. So I must've done something wrong.
You're probably tryign to make a girl jump through a big hoop way too early when you haven't showed any value yet. They're just gonna call the bluff.
Try more subtle screening / push game
Dude, screening, as I use it , is to see where the girl's state is. Ideally, she is in a high state of arousal and ready to fuck. To use an example, if I text a girl something like... I have a pickle dick. Based on her response, it lets me know where she is in her head. A female who is into me and in a high state of arousal might say something like lol pickle my favorite! Whereas a female who is bored or not into me might say what do you mean? or you're gross. You use screening to see where her head is at and how to stimulate her next. I am either opening her up or holding the space for her to contribute to and be open in.
To expand a little bit because screening to me is not the same as qualifying. You might be asking about qualifying here and I misread your question. Qualifying is more where I say something to give the girl the opportunity to contribute to the frame. This means I screened the bitch and she is in a high state of arousal, whether it be sexually or mentally. This is when I qualify her so she can contribute to my frame because she is viewing everything as the frame I hold that she can play in. If I try to qualify her and let her do work for me and she does not bite then I misread her. I might say something like look at you being all uppity, what bit you on the butt? or I do not believe it, you are jerking my chain, woman! then she shall lean into me and start qualifying herself, which I of course reward with my positive feedback which gives her the space to play some more which she shall if she is into me or she might be bit hesitant because she needs to screen me to make sure I am that guy which is fair enough. I am a huge believer in the more a woman talks, the more real it makes the experience for her and if she is doing her best to keep up with and contribute to my frame/vibe/or whatever you want to call it then the more she talks the better.
Remember, include sex when you qualify her sometimes because it gives her the opportunity to be directly into you and sexual, but I save that more for when I can fuck her. I usually screen and qualify her for her ability to play with me on other levels other than straight sexual. For instance, a favorite of mine is the dgaf level, saying outrageous things, and talking shit to each other in a playful way because it forces her to break her social conditioning and not care either to keep up with me as long as I keep the emotions high and positive. She wants to show me she is just as bad as I am.
PS I was using some vanilla examples when I was talking about screening and qualifying, but they are just to illustrate a point as simply as I can.
I recommend you watch Owen Cook's Six Secrets of Social Calibration from the 30:12 mark and on to get a real feel for how to screen.
I would love to hear everyone else's take on the topic.
My texting conversations can take place over longer time so it doesn't seem like figuring out their current headspace works for me as well. I have to provoke responses or engage them super solidly or I'll miss a beat and it drops off
This is a very.. "old" way of looking at things like screening and qualification. Things like this have a much better more naturalized flow now.
Dude, screening, as I use it , is to see where the girl's state is. Ideally, she is in a high state of arousal and ready to fuck. To use an example, if I text a girl something like... I have a pickle dick. Based on her response, it lets me know where she is in her head. A female who is into me and in a high state of arousal might say something like lol pickle my favorite! Whereas a female who is bored or not into me might say what do you mean? or you're gross. You use screening to see where her head is at and how to stimulate her next. I am either opening her up or holding the space for her to contribute to and be open in.To expand a little bit because screening to me is not the same as qualifying. You might be asking about qualifying here and I misread your question. Qualifying is more where I say something to give the girl the opportunity to contribute to the frame. This means I screened the bitch and she is in a high state of arousal, whether it be sexually or mentally. This is when I qualify her so she can contribute to my frame because she is viewing everything as the frame I hold that she can play in. If I try to qualify her and let her do work for me and she does not bite then I misread her. I might say something like look at you being all uppity, what bit you on the butt? or I do not believe it, you are jerking my chain, woman! then she shall lean into me and start qualifying herself, which I of course reward with my positive feedback which gives her the space to play some more which she shall if she is into me or she might be bit hesitant because she needs to screen me to make sure I am that guy which is fair enough. I am a huge believer in the more a woman talks, the more real it makes the experience for her and if she is doing her best to keep up with and contribute to my frame/vibe/or whatever you want to call it then the more she talks the better.
Remember, include sex when you qualify her sometimes because it gives her the opportunity to be directly into you and sexual, but I save that more for when I can fuck her. I usually screen and qualify her for her ability to play with me on other levels other than straight sexual. For instance, a favorite of mine is the dgaf level, saying outrageous things, and talking shit to each other in a playful way because it forces her to break her social conditioning and not care either to keep up with me as long as I keep the emotions high and positive. She wants to show me she is just as bad as I am.
PS I was using some vanilla examples when I was talking about screening and qualifying, but they are just to illustrate a point as simply as I can.
I recommend you watch Owen Cook's Six Secrets of Social Calibration from the 30:12 mark and on to get a real feel for how to screen.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Things like this have a much better more naturalized flow now
Can you details this part please.
It flows because the woman is into you the whole time, dude, so the interaction has that natural flow to it.
Thanks.
Everything is supposed to be a mutual journey. Back in the day it was all broken down and mechanized, but as we got better and better at this we were also able to naturalize the process within ourselves as well. Probably the single most important piece of this that's somewhat missing from the above explanation is the idea of "pacing". Pacing is a psychological term, even an NLP term, but what it really is is the natural process of going somewhere together. Obviously in this case men usually lead and guide the process, but really they're only one or two steps ahead, because any natural knows there is NO FUCKING REASON to jump the gun and take things too sexual too fast, or blow it out. That's not the point. The point is to stay on track. You could call this natural calibration, but any "natural" knows it's the whole point of an interaction with a woman. This is why women can recognize a "player" but will always appreciate a true seductive dude.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Everything is supposed to be a mutual journey. Back in the day it was all broken down and mechanized, but as we got better and better at this we were also able to naturalize the process within ourselves as well. Probably the single most important piece of this that's somewhat missing from the above explanation is the idea of "pacing". Pacing is a psychological term, even an NLP term, but what it really is is the natural process of going somewhere together. Obviously in this case men usually lead and guide the process, but really they're only one or two steps ahead, because any natural knows there is NO FUCKING REASON to jump the gun and take things too sexual too fast, or blow it out. That's not the point. The point is to stay on track. You could call this natural calibration, but any "natural" knows it's the whole point of an interaction with a woman. This is why women can recognize a "player" but will always appreciate a true seductive dude.
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Everything is supposed to be a mutual journey. Back in the day it was all broken down and mechanized, but as we got better and better at this we were also able to naturalize the process within ourselves as well. Probably the single most important piece of this that's somewhat missing from the above explanation is the idea of "pacing". Pacing is a psychological term, even an NLP term, but what it really is is the natural process of going somewhere together. Obviously in this case men usually lead and guide the process, but really they're only one or two steps ahead, because any natural knows there is NO FUCKING REASON to jump the gun and take things too sexual too fast, or blow it out. That's not the point. The point is to stay on track. You could call this natural calibration, but any "natural" knows it's the whole point of an interaction with a woman. This is why women can recognize a "player" but will always appreciate a true seductive dude.
yeah ah and once you master pacing the girl won't even know what's consciously going on because she's so in the moment with you. And then her head hitting the headboard wakes her up.
Shit. Or knocks her out
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male