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Sup dudes, 

Essentially I'm not satisfied with my performance in school at the moment.  That said I've had to dig deep and be brutally honest with myself. I think I am severely underperforming on my exams based on what seems is anxiety issues. So I'm already going to the psychiatrist to figure out what the hell is going on, but aside from that I am being proactive because I think there are alternative routes to addressing what I think are my issues are. 

To give you an idea of what I went through first year I was studying 12 hours daily ( class of 2-4 hours included ), 7 days a week for essentially the academic school year. I fine tuned my studying to be more efficient so truthfully it isn't thatt, it's really on the anxiety side. Stress was always high, but as exams neared it would get ridiculous. Like I would flat out start dry heaving uncontrollably for long periods of time, loss of appetite, loss of sleep -  I kinda tried bull dozing my way through it and thought I was just being a pussy. But upon talking about this with people, lol this is definitely not normal. Consequentially it'd lead to me missinsg obvious shit on the exam that I knew forward and backwards.Throughout

Put it like this, I studied with my two homies and they both got top 10% grades and I missed 1 major issue which resulted in a MUCH lower grade. And I taught one of them the class lol. But the curves are very unforgiving so one mishap and you can kiss an A/A- good bye.

Anyway, I'm really looking for ways to manage stress and help with performance anxiety. 

So far I've come up with this

1) Seek therapy to vent 

2) Seek medication

3) Probably meditation

4) Continue to gym so I have an outlet. [ Something I would get away from around exam time ] 

Look forward for people to chime in.

Best,

Aequitas

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1.  Get the audiobook of

1.  Get the audiobook of Practicing the Power of Now and sit still somewhere and listen to the whole thing through one time.  When he says to do something do it.

2.  Try a simple meditation practice for the purpose of learning how to calm and later control your mind.  First time, sit somwhere quiet where you are comfortable and simply "follow your breath."  Focus on your breathing and only your breathing.  Feel your lungs drawing the air in through your nose and filling up.  Feel the air slowly leaving on the exhale.  Its this easy.  Try for 10mins.  When thoughts come into your mind do your best to observe them and let them go. 

3.  Sleep -- make sure you are getting quality sleep. 

4. Daily exercise.  Go to the gym and workout, but if you feel short on time then just put some shoes on and go for a 15min run around where you live.

5.  Eat well -- Lean protein, leafy green and fibrous veggies, fruit, nuts, etc. 

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Managing stress/conquering

Managing stress/conquering anxiety is Step .5. You're way behind dude, explains a lot. You need to kick that shit in the head. 

I only say this and take this sort of approach to make it EXTREMELY clear how lacking this is. It's pathetic. You've been on this forum for how long and you still haven't gotten the message? You will not achieve the good things in life until you completely sort this out, because you will not be able to experience them. You will be able to "have" them but not actually have them. I do not experience anxiety in the slightest, I had a big leap in high school with it, another big leap around 22, and by 25 was immune. Why be anxious when you can be awesome instead? 

You're going to look at medication before meditation. Idiotic. You sound like a woman. Good luck 

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Just accept your gonna have

Just accept your gonna have to continue to hustle

So how exactly are you studying? My studying improved big time when I started recopying all of my notes, essenitally creating my own study guide for every exam. 

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I'm sure at this point he has

I'm sure at this point he has studying down to an exact science. 

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1. Meditation/Listen to

1. Meditation/Listen to Eckhart Tolle on audiobook. This should be common sense for anyone on this forum tbh. It's probably not going to be a fast solution, but it is a real one. I know when I really got deep into meditation/eckhart tolle it helped me pay attention in class WAY better, because I had conditioned myself to not pay attention and be addicted to various forms of mental stimulation, like checking my phone for no reason and often I didn't even realize I was doing it. "Unconciousness" in action. When I became more present it was a LOT easier to pay attention, but obviously it will help you deal with your stress and anxiety as well.

2. Buy the book "The Ultramind Solution". I don't think you need to read the whole thing cause it's fairly long and a lot of it is pure science that isn't really actionable. Rather, just take the quizzes and buy the supplements that it says to get, since you can do that right away and they will have a pretty big impact. I know when I started taking L-Phenylalanine and L-Tyrosine I started being able to remember things waaaay better, so it would probably make your studying more effective. He also recommends some that help with relaxation, which will help you as well. After you do that, you can read through some of the other things that it says to do and decide if you think they're a good idea for you or not.

3. Lifting + Adequate Nutrition/Sleep is also obviously common sense.

4. Be Patient, habits/emotions that are deeply rooted like this don't disappear overnight.

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Manwhore wrote:Managing

Manwhore wrote:
Managing stress/conquering anxiety is Step .5. You're way behind dude, explains a lot. You need to kick that shit in the head. 

I only say this and take this sort of approach to make it EXTREMELY clear how lacking this is. It's pathetic. You've been on this forum for how long and you still haven't gotten the message? You will not achieve the good things in life until you completely sort this out, because you will not be able to experience them. You will be able to "have" them but not actually have them. I do not experience anxiety in the slightest, I had a big leap in high school with it, another big leap around 22, and by 25 was immune. Why be anxious when you can be awesome instead? 

You're going to look at medication before meditation. Idiotic. You sound like a woman. Good luck 

I mean truthfully I think I never got this handled probably because I rarely pushed myself outside my comfort zone. It's just something I just never dealt with. In undergrad I just coasted by on raw talent, always doing the bare minimum to get by. Then when studying for the entrance exam I had a wake up call and realized that I'm not that special of a snowflake and I had to work hard. So I did and I did not perform where I felt I was capable of, so I retook. I figured out what went wrong and why, then handled it accordingly. But I'm competing at a level I've never competed at before. The margin for error is so low here it's hella fucking stressful and the ramifications on job prospects is nuts. For me everything is on the line here.

It's funny because I felt I've handled my anxiety in other areas of life, but am now having to address my anxiety in this context for the first time. To be perfectly clear since I can be cryptic in posts, I am looking to explore ANY and ALL avenues to get me where I need to get to. 

And yes, I am very confident this is on the anxiety side and not my actual studying methods.  

Thanks for the post - you and a couple other people confirmed what I thought needed to get done. 

Edit: Which in case was unclear, is to start meditating to focus on being more present. 

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Aequitas wrote: Manwhore

Aequitas wrote:
Manwhore wrote:
Managing stress/conquering anxiety is Step .5. You're way behind dude, explains a lot. You need to kick that shit in the head. 

I only say this and take this sort of approach to make it EXTREMELY clear how lacking this is. It's pathetic. You've been on this forum for how long and you still haven't gotten the message? You will not achieve the good things in life until you completely sort this out, because you will not be able to experience them. You will be able to "have" them but not actually have them. I do not experience anxiety in the slightest, I had a big leap in high school with it, another big leap around 22, and by 25 was immune. Why be anxious when you can be awesome instead? 

You're going to look at medication before meditation. Idiotic. You sound like a woman. Good luck 

I mean truthfully I think I never got this handled probably because I rarely pushed myself outside my comfort zone. It's just something I just never dealt with. In undergrad I just coasted by on raw talent, always doing the bare minimum to get by. Then when studying for the entrance exam I had a wake up call and realized that I'm not that special of a snowflake and I had to work hard. So I did and I did not perform where I felt I was capable of, so I retook. I figured out what went wrong and why, then handled it accordingly. But I'm competing at a level I've never competed at before. The margin for error is so low here it's hella fucking stressful and the ramifications on job prospects is nuts. For me everything is on the line here.

It's funny because I felt I've handled my anxiety in other areas of life, but am now having to address my anxiety in this context for the first time. To be perfectly clear since I can be cryptic in posts, I am looking to explore ANY and ALL avenues to get me where I need to get to. 

And yes, I am very confident this is on the anxiety side and not my actual studying methods.  

Thanks for the post - you and a couple other people confirmed what I thought needed to get done. 

Edit: Which in case was unclear, is to start meditating to focus on being more present. 

Durr, start doing these now.  *Clicky*

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Archangel wrote:Aequitas

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Aequitas wrote:
Manwhore wrote:
Managing stress/conquering anxiety is Step .5. You're way behind dude, explains a lot. You need to kick that shit in the head. 

I only say this and take this sort of approach to make it EXTREMELY clear how lacking this is. It's pathetic. You've been on this forum for how long and you still haven't gotten the message? You will not achieve the good things in life until you completely sort this out, because you will not be able to experience them. You will be able to "have" them but not actually have them. I do not experience anxiety in the slightest, I had a big leap in high school with it, another big leap around 22, and by 25 was immune. Why be anxious when you can be awesome instead? 

You're going to look at medication before meditation. Idiotic. You sound like a woman. Good luck 

I mean truthfully I think I never got this handled probably because I rarely pushed myself outside my comfort zone. It's just something I just never dealt with. In undergrad I just coasted by on raw talent, always doing the bare minimum to get by. Then when studying for the entrance exam I had a wake up call and realized that I'm not that special of a snowflake and I had to work hard. So I did and I did not perform where I felt I was capable of, so I retook. I figured out what went wrong and why, then handled it accordingly. But I'm competing at a level I've never competed at before. The margin for error is so low here it's hella fucking stressful and the ramifications on job prospects is nuts. For me everything is on the line here.

It's funny because I felt I've handled my anxiety in other areas of life, but am now having to address my anxiety in this context for the first time. To be perfectly clear since I can be cryptic in posts, I am looking to explore ANY and ALL avenues to get me where I need to get to. 

And yes, I am very confident this is on the anxiety side and not my actual studying methods.  

Thanks for the post - you and a couple other people confirmed what I thought needed to get done. 

Edit: Which in case was unclear, is to start meditating to focus on being more present. 

Durr, start doing these now.  *Clicky*

Interesting. I've dabbled with binaural beats. I've also seen youtube ones that target specific goals (i.e. better memory, faster reflexes, etc). Do those targeted binaural beats work? I feel like binaural beats have worked to help me sleep before in the past and calm me down. 

 

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Aequitas

Aequitas wrote:
Archangel wrote:

Durr, start doing these now.  *Clicky*

Interesting. I've dabbled with binaural beats. I've also seen youtube ones that target specific goals (i.e. better memory, faster reflexes, etc). Do those targeted binaural beats work? I feel like binaural beats have worked to help me sleep before in the past and calm me down. 

 

This isn't binaural beats.  This is you take the time to slowly read the script out loud while recording yourself.  Then each night while you're lying in bed you listen to it in the dark with the lights off (when you're ready to fall asleep).  Mine takes me 37mins to listen to each night, but its worth it!

In this way you program your subconscious with your own voice.  Your own voice is deeper and more powerful than someone else's.

Over time you'll learn what language resonates with you and what doesn't, and you can substitute words or phrases that work better for you. 

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The  binaural beats audio I

The  binaural beats audio I have for sale is mostly that script with binaural beats and a musical score played over it. But yes it's designed to teach you physiological and mental control over yourself. 

https://gumroad.com/products/jNUR/

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So still do the script while

So still do the script while listening to that beat? Or is that beat supposed to replace the script for lazier people?

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The beat is really powerful

The beat is really powerful and yes much easier. I'd start with the beat, there's a reason why I had it developed. As Tim Ferriss says, I'm a dude who's scratching his own itch.

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Yea word, I figured it'd be

Yea word, I figured it'd be easier to start with your beat then eventually record my own. Just bought it. 

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You'll love it.

You'll love it.

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Just got it too. It is really

Just got it too. It is really awesome

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Your list is out of order

Your list is out of order brutha. Seek medication should not even be on there. Should be more to the tune of this.

1. Exercise your ass off= higher confidence and more endorphins.

2. Meditate

3. Eat a clean diet including a ton of raw veggies.

4. Work hard. And get laid:)

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batehs wrote: Your list is

batehs wrote:
Your list is out of order brutha. Seek medication should not even be on there. Should be more to the tune of this.

1. Exercise your ass off= higher confidence and more endorphins.

2. Meditate

3. Eat a clean diet including a ton of raw veggies.

4. Work hard. And get laid:)

Those weren't really in any particular order except I was skeptical about meditation. Though seems like the move. Does listening to that binaural beat count as meditation?

Getting laid is also probably off the table beyond a steady slam, since there really isn't enough time.  But word, we'll see I need to figure this out - got too much riding on this. Granted, these are first world problems that I have, but I set the bar extremely high for myself. 

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I wouldn't count binaural

I wouldn't count binaural beats as meditation, do both.

Also when you work out hard your meditation sessions are 10 times better.