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I met this girl in the pub about a week ago. Solid interaction 

me: Hey xx, you've got my number now ;) Jack (the one who was not wearing a ski jacket and nothing else) [callback]

her: Jack:) Jack Jack Jack!!! [Also callback] Sweet, thanks for your number... What shall I do with it?

me: maybe call or text hello sometime :)

me: maybe have a few too many glasses of wine and send something naughty..

me: let your imagination be the limit

her: perfect! Thanks for the creative freedom:)))

 

2hrs later

her: just pouring the first glass;)

me: good girl ;) keep me posted

I went out that night (Friday) and ran into her briefly. "Hello", claw, kiss by her lips. She kind of melts in my arms (I think), but I was out with another girl so left it at that.

Next day (saturday) at 2pm

me: ok I'm guessing you either had too much wine or not enough..

her: I went for an attitude adjustment, shook it on the dance floor for a bit and left at 1:30ish... ;)

Sunday- I was busy all weekend so I hadn't really been putting much energy into this girl. I got up thinking I'd try to get her over to chill either that day or early week

me: got out early on Friday, last nite was late though.. Glad it's Sunday. How's your weekend?

her: Fun! Great weekend so far... I'm just enroute to (fucking gorgeous high-end resort town) for the week...

me: ha nice! Have fun out there

I figured I'd leave it there and hit her up when she gets back, then today... This

her: :) having too much fun :) I have a huge king size bed at the fairmont....

me: oh shit I'll be right over

her: ;)

I feel like its pretty 'on' with this girl based on our live interactions. I realize this is not great text-work. I feel like I could be one text away from her inviting me to drive out and chill with her, which would probably be a blast. Ideas?

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Gawd your smooth! Also this

Gawd your smooth! Also this girl is definitely head over tits for your dong 

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Thanks PB, now how to get the

Thanks PB, now how to get the invite out of her..

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Well as soon as you try to

Well as soon as you try to prompt the invite she's probably going to lose interest in doing so. So maybe it's better to create false obstacles or qualify. Also do you see her inviting you as a legitamate possibility. If not, probably best to sit back and chill and work on it when the logistics are more favorable. 

You could go with 

me: Too bad I don't know you well enough, otherwise I would be down 

But depending on where this girls head is, this could almost be like taking a step back. You could say.... 

me: If I'm going to make this trip, you better have some good drinks and a hotel hot tub. Otherwise this ass is parked 

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Nice. I had similar thoughts

Nice. I had similar thoughts as far as qualifying/false barriers. How about combining your suggestions into these:

ok I barely know you

and its very forward of you to ask ;)

but if there are cocktails and a hot tub involved you might convince me..

the middle one could probably be left out, I just thought it was a funny little push. Thoughts?

edit. And yes, I think this girl would be down for the adventure. I don't mind burning it down either, for science

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Jack.Ruby wrote: Nice. I had

Jack.Ruby wrote:
Nice. I had similar thoughts as far as qualifying/false barriers. How about combining your suggestions into these:

ok I barely know you

and its very forward of you to ask ;)

but if there are cocktails and a hot tub involved you might convince me..

the middle one could probably be left out, I just thought it was a funny little push. Thoughts?

edit. And yes, I think this girl would be down for the adventure. I don't mind burning it down either, for science

haha I dig your outlook. 

And that is definitely the best way to play it, great text crafting. 

Hmm I think it might sound stronger if you leave the second part out. 

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I'd go me: k I barely know

I'd go 

me: k I barely know you

me: but if there are cocktails and a hot tub involved, I may be inclined to acquiesce

but not actually. Definitely better to keep it simple 

I may be convinced (a lot better). I just like to fuck around with big words 

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Ok I barely know you but if

Ok I barely know you

but if there are cocktails and a hot tub involved I might be convinced

-still no reply 

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Jack.Ruby wrote:Ok I barely

Jack.Ruby wrote:
Ok I barely know you

but if there are cocktails and a hot tub involved I might be convinced

-still no reply 

Yeah she's going to message you in a few hours when it's way too late for logistics to allow for it.  Girls are so fuckign dumbbbbbb

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She's there all week and on

She's there all week and on business I think. I wasn't expecting a reply right away ;)

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Her: HAHAHAHAHA... As a

Her: HAHAHAHAHA... As a matter of fact.. It's now cocktail hour and I did bring my suit to check out the hot tub later:)

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How far is it from you? If

How far is it from you? If it's only an hour or hour and a half then that's pretty low pressure.

You can be like

me: Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation. But just because I'm coming doens't mean i'm going to put out, I'm not that easy 

or you can say! 

me: Okay fine, but if you snore I'm totally kicking you out of the room 

or 

me: you had me at cocktails! Don't even think about putting that suit on until i'm there. 

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It's several hours away, if I

It's several hours away, if I did go Wednesday or Thursday would prob be best, I could do a day or two.

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patrick.bateman wrote:How

patrick.bateman wrote:
How far is it from you? If it's only an hour or hour and a half then that's pretty low pressure.

You can be like

me: Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation. But just because I'm coming doens't mean i'm going to put out, I'm not that easy 

or you can say! 

me: Okay fine, but if you snore I'm totally kicking you out of the room 

or 

me: you had me at cocktails! Don't even think about putting that suit on until i'm there. 

tite. How about:

Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation, but I can't get away the next couple of days

But just because I'm coming doens't mean i'm going to put out, I'm not that easy 

and if you snore I'm kicking you out of the room

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Risky

Risky

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Well then I may be inclined

Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation, but I can't get away the next couple of days

But just because I'm coming doens't mean i'm going to put out, I'm not that easy 

and if you snore I'm kicking you out of the room

I think that's too much going on

I'd go

me: Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation

me: But if I come that doens't mean i'm going to put out, I'm not that easy 

me: and if you snore I'm kicking you out of the room

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me: Well then I may be

me: Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation
 
me: But if I come that doens't mean i'm going to put out
 
me: and if you snore I'm kicking you out of the room

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Yah I was thinking the same.

Yah I was thinking the same. That may have been overkill with the 'i'm not that easy' 

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It would be hilarious if this

It would be hilarious if this works lol

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Shit I would have delivered

Shit I would have delivered it like this

me: Well then I may be inclined to accept your invitation but first, two conditions 

 

me: 1) if I come that doens't mean i'm going to put out

 

me: 2) if you snore I'm kicking you out of the room

 

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Jack.Ruby wrote:Nice. I had

Jack.Ruby wrote:
Nice. I had similar thoughts as far as qualifying/false barriers. How about combining your suggestions into these:

ok I barely know you

and its very forward of you to ask ;)

but if there are cocktails and a hot tub involved you might convince me..

the middle one could probably be left out, I just thought it was a funny little push. Thoughts?

edit. And yes, I think this girl would be down for the adventure. I don't mind burning it down either, for science

You guys nailed it here.Yeah leave out the second one.

Going forward you could have qualified her on what "kind" of bed it is or what rating, e.g. p.g. or R rating, or if she's going to "put it to good use", etc. This is a good segue text before a false barrier to gauge her interest. She may jump on it stat and tell you she needs your help on this one. 

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I'd take out the snoring part

I'd take out the snoring part it's not sexy 

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Manwhore wrote: I'd take out

Manwhore wrote:
I'd take out the snoring part it's not sexy 

so true, if she snores it could fuck me up

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Tuesday at about 9pm Her: Ha

Tuesday at about 9pm

Her: Ha ha... Did I invite you?;)
I don't put out on the first date;) what if u snore?

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me: Insinutation is

me: Insinutation is pretty much an invitation 

me: I don't usually snore but if I do, good luck waking me up

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Dammit Bateman you're good. I

Dammit Bateman you're good. I really like the first one, not sure about the second. I sorta feel like dropping the "snoring".. 

The insinuation was pretty much an invitation

you pretty much had me at cocktails and hot tub

also glad you agreed to not take advantage of me

What about this? The third line I'm unsure of, does the sex need to be brought up again?

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Good point "the sex" does

Good point "the sex" does not necessarily need to be brought up again. 

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"The sex" lol, bad wording.

"The sex" lol, bad wording. Does that third line or some variation diffuse sexual pressure or is it redundant is I guess what I was pondering..

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I get the sense that she's

I get the sense that she's still flirting but actually running out the clock lol

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Though there is the unspoken

Though there is the unspoken "well what's going to go down then" thought floating around. I would fill it with.. cake and ice cream. Or anything else you could think of. You'll obviously handle the sex part once you get there, and if you don't we'll all just laugh at you so it'll be worth it. So, what reasons would you have for going over there.. 

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A few reasons come to

A few reasons come to mind

its an awesome town I haven't seen for awhile

she seems fun and chill

I could use the break, haven't been out if town for awhile

theres a really annoying former friend going to be around for a few days I don't need to see

...

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The insinuation was pretty

 Edit. 

Well, you insinuated..

and you had me at cocktails and hot tub lol

I'm a classy bitch

-Thoughts?

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I think that would come off

I think that would come off as you almost blaming her. That would trigger asd I imagine. 

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I thought you insinuated ;)

Me: I thought you insinuated ;) maybe I was mistaken. You had me at cocktails and hot tub though

 

Me: What kind of a trip is this btw? action/adventure, comedy... Romance?

Her:  ;) ya, I guess hot tub and cocktails have an underlying meaning ;)

her: I'm at the xxx xxx xxx xxx ski association conference...

 

Me: no underlying meaning, we've both already established we're not that easy ;) I just have an affinity for spontaneity 

me: and hot tubs, and cocktails 

me: and (town)

me: conference sounds pretty g-rated, I hope you're finding some excitement apart from that..

 

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Her: Sounds like we'd get

Her: Sounds like we'd get along.... I also like those things:))

Her: It's actually been pretty fun... I skied, golf tournament. Zip line tomorrow ... and too much drinking every night;) it's a fairly male dominated industry so being one of few females is a nice change from (home town) ;)) I like men:)

Her: Shoot !! Maybe I shouldn't have written that last sentence

Me: why not?

Her: I don't want you to get the wrong impression of me ;)

Me: that you like men? Not so shocking

Her: ha! I guess not :)

Me: That certainly sounds like a packed schedule, I was imagining something at least moderately relaxing

Her: not this trip :)

Me: Ok I think you've inspired me to get away for a couple of nights.. Now I have to think of something at least as cool as (town) thanks slot

Me: That's *alot

Me: Wow that was one letter away from being really offensive lol

Her: Haha... Where will I go? What do u like to do?

Her: I mean u go, not me.... Or...

Me: Well by day; maybe some adventure, intrigue, also relaxation, (shopping).. By night; wine and dine (I'm a classy bitch), maybe some club action, romance...

Her: I like your style :)

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Me: Thanks, nice compliment

Me: Thanks, nice compliment coming from the girl on one of the coolest sounding trips ever ;)

Me: How long are you out there?

Her: My room is payed for Thursday night and I'm catching a ride back to (home) on Friday... Unless...

Me: Unless you want me to drive out tomorrow and spend Thursday and Friday nite...?

Her: Well, ummm, I dunno... ? Wanna?

Her: I'm just heading into a meeting... Think about it?

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You fucking boss, you!  It's

You fucking boss, you! 

It's done, well played. No go claim your prize 

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I also love the way you

I also love the way you handelled that. Like you went with the route of sayign that you'll have to find something as exciting to do. This forced her to chase you and pretty much invite you. Damnnnn! Very well done. 

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I thought it was kinda

I thought it was kinda mediocre lol 

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Meh its a win, I'll take it

Meh its a win, I'll take it

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Ok so I met this girl at her

Ok so I met this girl at her hotel on Thursday evening, she had dinner plans with some adventure-tourism-executive type people at a very high end restaurant. I was invited so I got showered and dressed in the room. I did a bit of physical escalation on the girl but we were rushed so it had to wait. I was a charming mf'er and worked the table pretty good. I found out later that when I used the bathroom she filled them in more or less about who I was and they gushed about me. We had a drink after dinner then I took her to the room and fucked her.

the next day she got a bit irritated with me. I wasn't treating us like a couple. We had breakfast together but I wanted to take some time on my own. There was a breif period of about two hours where, as I see it, she came to terms with what was going on.. Basically that I wasn't going to be tied down. Once this was firmly established, we were free again to party, have fun, we hung out lots together and had plenty of sex. I gamed and pulled girls right in front of her, invited her for a threesome on a couple of occasions. I also winged for her and made sure she had guys and girls to talk to. There was a girl sorta kinda trying to get some shaming going with her mainly towards me but she wasn't having it. The girl was asking "what's in it for you?" And my girl was saying "he's got a great cock, you should try it!" Plenty of girls challenged her but I had this girls back all weekend and we were rock solid travel buddies and wings who also fucked. She had nothing but positive things to say about me, pretty much everyone did from the weekend and we made some noise.

Another note-able little thing that happened was I was sitting with a girl that was kinda gaming me at a nice bar. I was pretty much the social hub that night and on fire. Meeting, opening everyone, pulling people in and making a lot of friends instantly. The girl notices a hottie approach the bar right behind me and says "she's cute". I turned and pulled her over instantly and introduced the girls. I didn't think about it, it was automatic. The girl was with her bf so no-go but it turned the interaction into tandem threesome hunting pretty damn quickly. 

I wanted to write this up while it was fresh on my mind. I think it ties right in with the alpha vs. provider roles on Tyler's new video and this is absolutely what we should be discussing on the call