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OKC chick reluctant to give out her number early

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11/24/2013

ME: (4:20pm) I love you

HER: (4:30pm) *weird phone symbol*

ME: (6:16pm) lol care to elaborate that?

HER: (6:28pm) Lol care to explain your first message?

ME: (6:50pm) lmfao Ohhh! So we're playing like that? Ok. I've always fancied me a girl who is adventurous and likes to travel, it keeps the relationship interesting ;) I am Guru btw

HER: (7:23pm) I would agree, although...Did you happen to notice the fact that we're 56% enemies supposedly? That's pretty impressive :p

ME: (7:59pm) Very darn impressive actually :) 

We're probably going to end up being one of those couples wrestling, out-smarting each other, and when you'll want to go shopping i'll stay at home playing battleship with the kids

ME: (8:00pm) I'm laughing my ass of just thinking about it

HER: (8:05pm) Wow you do have an active imagination don't you?

ME: (8:20pm) Pretty much. I tend to be a creative and unpredictable man when i'm in a playful mood 

Would you be able to put up with that?

HER: (8:28pm) Within limits I'm sure :p I'm a pretty logical and analytical though could you really put up with that?

ME: (8:55pm) Is that right? That probably means you don't waste much time with little decisions, like which dress you're going to wear when we embark on an adventure haha 

In that case i'm down, hit me up *phone number*

HER: (10:01pm) I'm sure you're really nice and I appreciate that you gave me your number but I don't give mine out that quickly or easily.

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ugh dude your texting is

yeah man gotta work on that

This textgame needs work- when yo start somethin like this, do you understand where you are trying to go? But more than that, you gotta understand what needs to happen in order for that end result to take place. 

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HER: (8:05pm) Wow you do have

HER: (8:05pm) Wow you do have an active imagination don't you?

 I would have responded to this by slightly challenging her in a cute//funny way and simaltaneoulsy grounding myself and being "real"

HER: (6:28pm) Lol care to explain your first message?

Also here- you're not getting any compliance... so for starters- your profile prob needs some work, but beyond that- if you're not getting compliance here, you need to come back with some slight push

ME: (7:59pm) Very darn impressive actually :) 

We're probably going to end up being one of those couples wrestling, out-smarting each other, and when you'll want to go shopping i'll stay at home playing battleship with the kids

 

ME: (8:00pm) I'm laughing my ass of just thinking about it

Okay so the issue, as I see it here, is that she's basically been pushing you this entire time and giving very little compliance, but you come back with this massive pull- and that's why it comes across odd... and that's why she responds with what she says- she's getting weirded out at this point dude... you're pulling WAY too much, especially for what she's giving you

I think from that point on you just needed to ground yourself a bit- like you're coming at her with a TON of pull and on top of that- it all sounds sorta "contrived".... so I think she's just slightly uncomfortable with the idea of meeting you.... mainly because she prob senses you're slightly needy, but more importantly..... she has no clue who you are at all.... you can create the illusion of this, which is fine too, but you didn't even create the illusion of it
 

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GhettoPants, I personally

GhettoPants, I personally like to keep my responses to challenges like that really short and witty/ambiguous, if possible.

HER: (7:23pm) I would agree, although...Did you happen to notice the fact that we're 56% enemies supposedly? That's pretty impressive :p
You: You're effed. I know karate.

HER: (8:28pm) Within limits I'm sure :p I'm a pretty logical and analytical though could you really put up with that?
You: Sure thing spock :)

I don't think you're gonna have much luck going forward with this chick. She pretty much dismissed you, unfortunately. Won't hurt to try though.

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Infinity wrote:GhettoPants,

Infinity wrote:
GhettoPants, I personally like to keep my responses to challenges like that really short and witty/ambiguous, if possible. HER: (7:23pm) I would agree, although...Did you happen to notice the fact that we're 56% enemies supposedly? That's pretty impressive :p You: You're effed. I know karate. HER: (8:28pm) Within limits I'm sure :p I'm a pretty logical and analytical though could you really put up with that? You: Sure thing spock :) I don't think you're gonna have much luck going forward with this chick. She pretty much dismissed you, unfortunately. Won't hurt to try though.

Nice. You have any text convos you can throw up? Or online stuff....  You give solid advise, so I'm interested to see it all put togteher.  

No matter how much I do this, I'm literally ALWAYS looking for an opportunity to learn lol.... actually- if you could- check out some of my convos I've posted.... would love your thoughts- I'll hit you back if you post some of yours as well

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...Just to try to simplify
...Just to try to simplify what Pottyflowers said: Keep your investment at roughly the same level as hers.
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pottedflowers

pottedflowers wrote:
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GhettoPants, I personally like to keep my responses to challenges like that really short and witty/ambiguous, if possible. HER: (7:23pm) I would agree, although...Did you happen to notice the fact that we're 56% enemies supposedly? That's pretty impressive :p You: You're effed. I know karate. HER: (8:28pm) Within limits I'm sure :p I'm a pretty logical and analytical though could you really put up with that? You: Sure thing spock :) I don't think you're gonna have much luck going forward with this chick. She pretty much dismissed you, unfortunately. Won't hurt to try though.

Nice. You have any text convos you can throw up? Or online stuff....  You give solid advise, so I'm interested to see it all put togteher.  

No matter how much I do this, I'm literally ALWAYS looking for an opportunity to learn lol.... actually- if you could- check out some of my convos I've posted.... would love your thoughts- I'll hit you back if you post some of yours as well

Yeah, I'll put up my most recent convo in a separate post for you to check out. Honestly tho, I don't have a whole lot of long, involved convos... I don't like texting much and try to keep it to a minimum :)

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Infinity

Infinity wrote:
pottedflowers wrote:
Infinity wrote:
GhettoPants, I personally like to keep my responses to challenges like that really short and witty/ambiguous, if possible. HER: (7:23pm) I would agree, although...Did you happen to notice the fact that we're 56% enemies supposedly? That's pretty impressive :p You: You're effed. I know karate. HER: (8:28pm) Within limits I'm sure :p I'm a pretty logical and analytical though could you really put up with that? You: Sure thing spock :) I don't think you're gonna have much luck going forward with this chick. She pretty much dismissed you, unfortunately. Won't hurt to try though.

Nice. You have any text convos you can throw up? Or online stuff....  You give solid advise, so I'm interested to see it all put togteher.  

No matter how much I do this, I'm literally ALWAYS looking for an opportunity to learn lol.... actually- if you could- check out some of my convos I've posted.... would love your thoughts- I'll hit you back if you post some of yours as well

Yeah, I'll put up my most recent convo in a separate post for you to check out. Honestly tho, I don't have a whole lot of long, involved convos... I don't like texting much and try to keep it to a minimum :)

haha apprciate it dude.... and yeah, that's fine- I'll check out wtvr you got

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Thanks for the analysis.  I

Thanks for the analysis. 

I did see the push when we were messaging but decided to let that carelessly fly over my head.

Lesson learned