Rite of Passage; a coaching review

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Thu, 05/30/2013 - 21:24

A.j.Ruby

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Historically in many cultures there are, in various forms, masculine coming of age rituals and rites of passage. These are typically designed to figuratively or sometimes literally rip a boy from the comfort of his mother and throw him into some form of trial. The trial is intended to put the boy through some suffering, so much suffering in fact that the burden of the suffering is too much to bear and the boy is forced to let go. Let go of the fear, let go of the doubt, give up hope for the comfort that he once knew, thus becoming a man. So many of us men in modern society are lacking such an experience, having been comforted our whole lives and never knowing what it really means to face fear, anxiety, doubt. We move through life without having faith in ourselves, always staying protected by keeping physical and mental safety nets in place; don't venture outside what's normal, known, safe, don't try something new, don't quit the job you hate, don't leave the girl who is clearly the wrong one. The mind is a powerful machine, one of its prime directives is homeostasis. The mind does not want change. It will create false beliefs which will help support and rationalize whatever the current model of behaviour may be, there will never be a short supply of reasons not to take a chance.

A Bird Sitting On a Tree Is Never Afraid of The Branch Breaking Because Her Trust Is Not On The Branch But On It’s Own Wings

For too long I have been trying to navigate all this by myself. I didn't realize to what extent my own mind was working against me until I finally sought help. Working with Manhair has been truly a privilege. I have been completely honest with him. He is extremely intuitive and has a razor sharp understanding of how we fool ourselves into carrying beliefs that serve the purpose of keeping everything the same. Safe. He calls me out on beliefs that aren't serving me. He leads me to question them for myself. Dragging them out into the light of day to be scrutinized and burned when they are exposed as lies that were in place to prevent change and growth.

My biggest breakthrough came in the past week. When certain beliefs were dissolved it was like a switch. Until last week I hadn't pulled or fucked a new girl in months, and its been years of sparse lays or pulls otherwise. Last week I felt something click. Since then I pulled a threesome, a blowjob that could have been a lay if logistics had been different, and another lay with a very hot girl with whom I am working on setting up another threesome. There are several other girls hitting me up, some of whom will undoubtedly get slain over the coming weeks. The world looks different to me now. I may never have made this realization without Jon.

Jon was hard on me at times, using tough language that was sometimes hurtful. He was not being intentionally hurtful, I was already battling severe anxiety, bad enough that sometimes I felt like I was being strangled. My inner turmoil was manifesting itself as physical and emotional pain. He encouraged me and armed me with tools to push through it. I forced myself on despite the anxiety, despite fear, pain, and despite Manwhores hard-line approach. After hearing it and feeling sensitive about it for awhile I eventually learned to absorb it, realizing that I didn't have to react, allowing it to motivate me and make me stronger and more unreactive. It was exactly what I needed to hear. Eventually I came to realize that I had been doing it to myself all along, resistance was replaced by surrender and I was able to let go and get out of my own way.

There are no words that can describe what a truly profound experience this has been. I can only say that if you believe you have it in you to make a change, Jon can show you how.

Thu, 05/30/2013 - 22:35

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awesome Man, sounds like you

awesome Man, sounds like you really absorbed alot from mr m. btw congrats on your lay. i like this part :

"The mind does not want change. It will create false beliefs which will help support and rationalize whatever the current model of behaviour may be, there will never be a short supply of reasons not to take a chance. "

Sun, 06/02/2013 - 00:54

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Thank you man, this is one of

Thank you man, this is one of my favorite reviews.

I think what you're referring to was this second to last week, where stuff came to a head and we just needed to make some changes. Overall though you have to realize, and hopefully I made it clear, that on some levels I just felt like I was talking to myself. So out of respect I held nothing back. And that's really just where our training stemmed from.

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Sun, 06/02/2013 - 03:09

A.j.Ruby

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Having epiphanies like that are why I'm addicted to self-development.

Sun, 06/02/2013 - 01:22

A.j.Ruby

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Nothing but gratitude over

Nothing but gratitude over here

Sun, 06/02/2013 - 01:27

Manwhore

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Cool, awesome stuff. Just

Cool, awesome stuff. Just sent you your drills for the week

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Sun, 06/02/2013 - 01:29

A.j.Ruby

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And girls. There are also

And girls. There are also lots of girls over here

Sun, 06/02/2013 - 01:42

Manwhore

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Shit. I'm biking over.

Shit. I'm biking over. Bringing my vader mask

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Sun, 06/02/2013 - 01:59

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Good, you can help me turn

Good, you can help me turn them to the dark side

Thu, 06/06/2013 - 04:59

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Yo! Just finished an 8 week

Yo! Just finished an 8 week round of coaching. To sum things up, I started out with severe social anxiety that was stopping me from going out and actually having much fun. I'd go out but i'd be too much in my head to enjoy myself and get anything done. I had a bisexual girlfriend who was down for threesomes, which we'd manage to pull maybe a couple of times a year with better than average to somewhat hot girls. Over the course of the past couple of weeks I've had blow-jobs from and fucked several girls. There are two girls in particular who are girlfriends, fully hot, have both fucked me, know about each other and my girl and we're all still friends and everyone's cool with it. One of these girls is becoming more and more a part of my relationship with my girl. I was at a dinner party the other night where there were a total of four girls that I've fucked in the last 8 days. Jon has not only armed me with the tools to beat the anxiety, meet more girls and make a good impression, but also helped me to become comfortable with carrying the mindset of being 'that guy'. Eg. That guy who spend the other day hanging out with two girls that he alternately fucked over several days, neither of whom was his girlfriend, who was able to make everyone comfortable with it.

I couldn't have pulled this off without having a guy like Jon to bounce ideas off of and receive creative feedback. This is a program of immeasurable value.