I generally stay away from topics like this as too quickly the topic turns into mental masturbation and a lapse of forward momentum in personal development. However I was in a discussion with some fellow strong masculine thinkers on this and was able to flesh out some of my own thinking on the subject:
There’s a lot of inherent difficulties in trying to address gender conflicts openly and honestly, especially in the case of feminists. Seems any time you try to tackle this “problem” you end up appearing to cater to preconceived ideas about what masculinity and/or feminism is. It’s like a straw man argument or something along those lines. Many women fall back on socially accepted views/opinions of what masculinity is to try to hedge in the competition. I think for the most part a lot of these so called “power” feminists don’t know what they’re actually fighting about… it’s simply a mass of self-serving beliefs and behaviors. “You can buy me dinner and hold the door open but if you try to say I should pay for my half you’re not a “gentleman”" (A gentleman is some malformed definition of a man that is temporarily twisted to fit any expectation or demand they want at that time)
This creates a lot of resistance and gender frustrations. Girls can smell their own bullshit and men get sick of it quickly if they don’t know how to deal with it. We also deal with the prevalent culture of ANGRY feminists. But this itself is based on the faulty paradigm.
The reason why they’re so angry all the time is twofold:
1) They force themselves to deny their own feminine nature in favor of a much more dominant and business-like mentality. This creates internal resistance and frustration because they’re denying and even completely shutting down their own natural drives and impulses; and therefore they’re always pissed off. Of course men get blamed for these same frustrations.
2) They use “masculine oppression” to justify why they can’t get anything done in their lives. Same as a lot of black culture blames racism for their lack of success, when in actuality it’s a lack of motivation and simply barrelling through till you get the job done. Now I’m not saying racism doesn’t exist, I’ve seen it from time to time.. but it doesn’t have nearly the far-reaching effects a lot of black Americans claim it has. Same for women. Women make their choices every day. They live the life they create for themselves, and in fact are more empowered in many ways then a lot of males are. Same as we have advantages ourselves.
For me personally, the end result is I just haven’t gotten involved with any of it. In fact this is the first time I’ve really had a discussion about gender conflicts. I’ve always viewed it as just having to be even more awesome. Completely beyond reproach. I get along pretty damn well with angry feminists. But it’s also not necessarily based on “mutual respect” and appreciation. More fear based than anything else. I make a lot of them nervous as they can’t explain their own impulses and I seem to know them so well. But alas, this is the true issue here. If women do not come to terms and accept who they are and their own impulses, then they will continue to be a slave to them.
Cheers, and have a happy day.
Manwhore is the dude that inspires me most in this game.
Manwhore
Damn, this is a great article. Denial of our true desires + blaming our life situations on external factors really hold us back. But of course, getting angry is easier than changing.
How would you recommend dealing with angry feminists? I just generally steer clear of them.
Hi Manwhore,
Love your new pop-up, lol
Well, it’s a double edged sword, isn’t it? I feel great frustration that if I sit and do nothing and just be a woman — unless I am at a seminar with a lot of accomplished male seduction coaches
— then most guys don’t DO anything.
And it’s frustrating to be in situations where there is a total lack of leadership. Eventually, if a man doesn’t step up, I’m going to take care of the things I need to take care of for my own comfort.
But that doesn’t give me the space to be a WOMAN.
And then every so often a guy comes along who is all man and leads every step of the way, and reminds me on such a deep level how much I long to BE A FEMININE, RECEPTIVE, SENSUAL WOMAN ALL OF THE TIME.
Why are most of the men being such pussies? Men: It is time to step up and reclaim your masculinity. Please, FFS.
Thank you
xoxo,
Erika
Sure there’s no point to dealing with them most of the time. It’s good to understand though, that if you DO have to deal with a woman who’s just angry.. that her anger is reactive, and makes her look emotional and potentially silly. Just don’t follow her emotionally charged mental track and you’ll be good.
Don’t respond to it- doesn’t mean you do NOTHING, it means that you keep doing whatever you were doing before, or simply stay on the same mental track you were on before she had her little spiel. Even if she calls you on something that she’s RIGHT about, it doesn’t mean you have to adopt and respond to the situation on the same emotional level she’s trying to paint the situation in. Stay true to yourself.
Hey pumpkin. Yes good point, however I’m not saying that to step up as a woman and own your environment means you have to betray or put your femininity on hold. Not at all. You yourself step up and take action, yet you are SUPER feminine, as I got to witness for the first time a couple weeks ago. There’s a difference.
Cheers butthead