ABSOLUTE INCREDIBLE talk on Vulnerability
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 15:37
"When you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say 'look at her, she's perfect, my job is just to keep her perfect and make sure she makes the tennis team by 6th grade and yale by 7th grade'... That's not our job, our job is to look at her and say, 'you kno what? You're imperfect and you're wired for struggle but you are WORTHY of love and beloning... THATS our job"
I remember the first time I watched this about two years ago, I literally cried because I didn't feel that I was deserving of love or belonging... well things have changed and watching this now- I cried again... But this time, because I was just so grateful because I have become the kind of person who understands that he is worthy of love and belonging.
Seriously guys, this is 20 minutes of your life that will be well spent.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
I literally cannot tell you how true, what she is talking about is...
Listening to this video won't single-handidly make you a beast in the field... But understaning the importance of the stuff she's talking about and how it relates to you, as a man... WILL help you stay focused and, if you're taking action, keep you on the right track.
ABSOLUTELY AMAZING
I remember the first time I watched this about two years ago, I literally cried because I didn't feel that I was deserving of love or belonging... well things have changed and watching this now- I cried again... But this time, because I was just so grateful because I have become the kind of person who understands that he is worthy of love and belonging.
Seriously guys, this is 20 minutes of your life that will be well spent.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
I literally cannot tell you how true, what she is talking about is...
Listening to this video won't single-handidly make you a beast in the field... But understaning the importance of the stuff she's talking about and how it relates to you, as a man... WILL help you stay focused and, if you're taking action, keep you on the right track.
ABSOLUTELY AMAZING
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 21:40
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@buddhagames:
Shit dude. That's an awesome talk. Thanks for sharing, really appreciate it.
Shit dude. That's an awesome talk. Thanks for sharing, really appreciate it.
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 22:54
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@linus:
This is a gem of a post. Made me realize that I have NOT allowed myself to be really seen and scrutinized. Not allowed myself to be really out in the open... And that I am wanting to be perfect/ better than what i am (not what i am) and in the process, lose.
Thanks dude. I don't know if you realize how much some of the stuff you post on here means to guys like me. I mean really this whole forum seems like its full of great guys with their hearts in the right place. The skills we are trying to learn are ALL about connection. And what this woman talked about is like the biggest issue we're facing in the world right now.
And you know what Ghandi says- "Be the change you want to see in the world."
This is a gem of a post. Made me realize that I have NOT allowed myself to be really seen and scrutinized. Not allowed myself to be really out in the open... And that I am wanting to be perfect/ better than what i am (not what i am) and in the process, lose.
Thanks dude. I don't know if you realize how much some of the stuff you post on here means to guys like me. I mean really this whole forum seems like its full of great guys with their hearts in the right place. The skills we are trying to learn are ALL about connection. And what this woman talked about is like the biggest issue we're facing in the world right now.
And you know what Ghandi says- "Be the change you want to see in the world."
Thu, 07/12/2012 - 23:35
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Alex123;855.6485;99 wrote:
This is a gem of a post. Made me realize that I have NOT allowed myself to be really seen and scrutinized. Not allowed myself to be really out in the open... And that I am wanting to be perfect/ better than what i am (not what i am) and in the process, lose.
Cool man. Ya going to watch it myself. Hopefully I start sniffling in front of my buddy.
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Fri, 07/13/2012 - 00:10
#4
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Alex123;855.6485;99 wrote:
@linus:
This is a gem of a post. Made me realize that I have NOT allowed myself to be really seen and scrutinized. Not allowed myself to be really out in the open... And that I am wanting to be perfect/ better than what i am (not what i am) and in the process, lose.
Thanks dude. I don't know if you realize how much some of the stuff you post on here means to guys like me. I mean really this whole forum seems like its full of great guys with their hearts in the right place. The skills we are trying to learn are ALL about connection. And what this woman talked about is like the biggest issue we're facing in the world right now.
And you know what Ghandi says- "Be the change you want to see in the world."
Damn.. Thanks man, I appreciate that.
Honestly, I gotta say- I think what it comes down to is that there are certain guys in this game who just aren't willing to sacrifice certain things, in order to have sex with really hot women... manwhore, I believe is one of those guys.
I KNOW that I am one of those guys and that, no matter how far I get into this shit, I will ALWAYs be one of those guys. Glad you got a lot out of this. Seriously, I remember the first time I heard this and it was just like.. holy ... shit..
Def. one of the turning points in my own self development.
Fri, 07/13/2012 - 01:13
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@buddhagames:
Well what we're talking about here is hard to pinpoint. When you describe it like that I would say that I am one of those guys willing to make sacrifices, I have already made them and continue to do so.
It's hard to describe, but its kind of like, in certain situations.. like with this girl at camp last week. I'll try to "be like manwhore" or at least, my idea of manwhore, and so I'll attempt to execute my idea of flawless game, like "making the girl chase me" for example, since she was already invested. But this whole thing just made me too much in my head and I likely would have been better off just talking with her like a normal person lol. Instead of paying super close attention to myself and remain kind of aloof while trying to be as "cool" as possible. & I have decided that I am not going to go super direct with girls at this camp for reasons that I don't feel like going into right now.
But i'm drawing distinctions every day and while its good for me to emulate someone like manwhore, there's certain times when I should probably just stick with basics, and not be overly focused on my voice for example. Cuz it makes me scrutinize myself and then become less open. Fucking ironic
This is super hard to describe and I probably sound lame here but I'm clarifying things for myself so Im glad
Well what we're talking about here is hard to pinpoint. When you describe it like that I would say that I am one of those guys willing to make sacrifices, I have already made them and continue to do so.
It's hard to describe, but its kind of like, in certain situations.. like with this girl at camp last week. I'll try to "be like manwhore" or at least, my idea of manwhore, and so I'll attempt to execute my idea of flawless game, like "making the girl chase me" for example, since she was already invested. But this whole thing just made me too much in my head and I likely would have been better off just talking with her like a normal person lol. Instead of paying super close attention to myself and remain kind of aloof while trying to be as "cool" as possible. & I have decided that I am not going to go super direct with girls at this camp for reasons that I don't feel like going into right now.
But i'm drawing distinctions every day and while its good for me to emulate someone like manwhore, there's certain times when I should probably just stick with basics, and not be overly focused on my voice for example. Cuz it makes me scrutinize myself and then become less open. Fucking ironic
This is super hard to describe and I probably sound lame here but I'm clarifying things for myself so Im glad
Fri, 07/13/2012 - 01:20
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@Alex123:
Not at all man, you're bringing up some REALLY IMPORTANT stuff..
Like the difficulty in having a mentor but also being yourself... the difficulty in visualizing what the "perfect pickup" is and tryint to emulate that vs. just doing you...
I think that as you get further into this- the paradoxes will just sorta drop away... But seriously, this is really good stuff to be thinking about, as long as you're taking action.
Not at all man, you're bringing up some REALLY IMPORTANT stuff..
Like the difficulty in having a mentor but also being yourself... the difficulty in visualizing what the "perfect pickup" is and tryint to emulate that vs. just doing you...
I think that as you get further into this- the paradoxes will just sorta drop away... But seriously, this is really good stuff to be thinking about, as long as you're taking action.
Sat, 07/14/2012 - 09:32
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Frig this was amazing. It's sooo obvious but she just pointed it out to us. I have a tendency to numb the fuck outta a lot of my emotions.
Sun, 07/15/2012 - 17:48
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@icewahine:
Another fucking GREAT talk:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTAxZPOtGKk&feature=fvwrel
Much shorter.
Another fucking GREAT talk:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTAxZPOtGKk&feature=fvwrel
Much shorter.
Sun, 07/15/2012 - 20:58
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@buddhagames:
Damn, both of these videos were great...good find man
Damn, both of these videos were great...good find man
Wed, 07/18/2012 - 03:34
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@buddhagames:
Really thanks for this dude. I ended up breaking down some of the shit in my life I went through to my two main fuck buddies. Not to get something but it was just on my mind from the video. It's pretty crazy. They just wanted crazy romantic sex after. I guess this is the part where you start to realize you're enough? Great reference point, girlies, accepting the virgin who started cold approaching after he lost all his friends and turned into a pimp w/ several social circles/girls a year and a bit down the road..turning point? Cool stuff! You the man. I might be coming back to NYC. I'll hit ya up.
Really thanks for this dude. I ended up breaking down some of the shit in my life I went through to my two main fuck buddies. Not to get something but it was just on my mind from the video. It's pretty crazy. They just wanted crazy romantic sex after. I guess this is the part where you start to realize you're enough? Great reference point, girlies, accepting the virgin who started cold approaching after he lost all his friends and turned into a pimp w/ several social circles/girls a year and a bit down the road..turning point? Cool stuff! You the man. I might be coming back to NYC. I'll hit ya up.