Exclusivity
Hey guys,
So invariably, some of the girls that I end up having sex with, want the exclusivity. They don't want to share me and they don't like the idea of me seeeing other girls.
How do you deal with this. I dont' want to tell them flat out that I'm planning on banging other girls.
Usually I tell them, "Woah, this is way too early for the exclusivity conversation, we're just not there yet."
Or I'll be like, "I don't beleive in possessivness. I don't want to own you and tell you that you can't see anyone else. That's crazy. It's about the time we share together and I don't think we should try to define it, that will ruin the very essence of when we're together because then we'll be putting eachother into a box of how we should act as bf/gf instead of just expressing ourselves."
Or I'll be like, "emotionally, mentally and spirtually, I"m not ready for anything super serious. I still have a lot of deep seated issues that i need to work through before I can commit to someone like that"
If they're very obtuse about my reality then what are your thoughts on just letting them believe what they want to believe?
I would leave the "I'm not ready, I have issues" out of it. Also its not as much about managing her feelings as it is your own. In the end its not a logical conversation, its a feeling. You're a guy who will not be nailed down, period. The more solid you are with that, the more you will be sub communicating that. Your girls will increasingly realize that you're just a really fun kick ass dude and if they want to be a part of your awesome life, they just have to get with the program. It's like threesomes, if you just are that guy, you don't really have to talk about it. Your way just speaks for itself, stay on or get off. Having a handle on yourself in this way is also what makes you a sexy irresistible motherfucker, you'll find they want to stay on (and get off lol)
I would leave the "I'm not ready, I have issues" out of it. Also its not as much about managing her feelings as it is your own. In the end its not a logical conversation, its a feeling. You're a guy who will not be nailed down, period. The more solid you are with that, the more you will be sub communicating that. Your girls will increasingly realize that you're just a really fun kick ass dude and if they want to be a part of your awesome life, they just have to get with the program. It's like threesomes, if you just are that guy, you don't really have to talk about it. Your way just speaks for itself, stay on or get off. Having a handle on yourself in this way is also what makes you a sexy irresistible motherfucker, you'll find they want to stay on (and get off lol)
This is spot on.
Yah thanks for the response man, just what I needed to hear.
I would leave the "I'm not ready, I have issues" out of it. Also its not as much about managing her feelings as it is your own. In the end its not a logical conversation, its a feeling. You're a guy who will not be nailed down, period. The more solid you are with that, the more you will be sub communicating that. Your girls will increasingly realize that you're just a really fun kick ass dude and if they want to be a part of your awesome life, they just have to get with the program. It's like threesomes, if you just are that guy, you don't really have to talk about it. Your way just speaks for itself, stay on or get off. Having a handle on yourself in this way is also what makes you a sexy irresistible motherfucker, you'll find they want to stay on (and get off lol)
I also 100% agree