Partnership dynamics in my new business

I'm partnered up with a badass chick in small business venture. She's working hard, committed and I have every reason to believe she and it will be a success. I have way more experience than she does. I have very much taken the lead in operations so far, she would agree she has a lot to learn from me. She was describing her interaction with a potential client today, I don't think I was too rough with her but I did have some strong suggestions on how I might have gone about things differently. I get a call from her later and she wants to talk about how she's feeling she's not an equal, I think what she's trying to say is that I'm overbearing. She also said that she has found my input very valuable.

From my perspective; I think back on how I had to learn this, the shit I put up with, the strong powerful personalities, the unforgiving nature of business and I feel like she still has it too easy. Sure, her journey as a HB is probably such that she can probably be spared some of the shit and abuse I had to swallow but I have to figure out a balance here. I think I could probably practice better active listening and that alone would improve things. I'm reluctant to soften my edge for the sake of preserving her feelings of equality. What I'd like to see is for her to step up and hone that hard sharp edge, that killer instinct. To be able to integrate the knowledge I'm trying to drill into her without the emotional reaction or feelings of subordination. 

We came to terms on the grounds that I was going to listen better and she is going to try out my suggestions wether she initially agrees with them or not. I'm open to criticism from all perspectives here, we've settled it for now but I have a feeling there's an issue here that has yet to be resolved