Pretty Fucked Up Message - What Are Your Thoughts
About two months ago I slept with this girl. She was a really hott half asian / half white looking chick. She was really interesting. Extremely self aware, strangely logical and very well articualted. Haven't met a girl like this before lol. We ended up meeting on tinder, messaging for a while and then we got a drink at a bar. We ended up having sex that night.
She put up tons of resistance that night while I was escalating but using MW's coaching techniques, it just ended up happening. Eventually she just ended up completely giving in. I projected my reality onto her, I was completely in the moment and I was shamlessly persistent while also being objective and guaging where she was at. As well, I was very self depricaitng and basically showing that I was completely real and not tryign to pretend to be someone just to get her to like me.
I also qualitfied her heavily during the entire time, validated her and made her feel like she had earned me.
Anyways that night it was quite obvious e were both really into eachother and all that. Anyways we get up to my room and she still is under the impression that we're not having sex. I tell her we're jut going to sleep or cuddle and go to bed or whatever. But this time i make her take off her clothes to get in bed. A mistake I made in the past that fucked up my chances of banging lol. She put up a lot of resistance but I pushed past it. Once she was half naked in my bed it was game over. She wanted the sex as much as I did.
After that night she became extremely 'busy' and aloof. So I left it alone. Then two months later I get this facebook message.
Hey I know this is really unexpected, and kind of strange I am sure, but I would just like to apologize. What happened between you and I is very, very, VERY out of my character. And as much as I would like to justify it with societal notions of the acceptability of "one-night-stands" or "sex-on-the-first-date", I cannot justify it to myself. Hence why I haven't really spoken to you... I don't want to have to confront what I did, which is unfair to you... so I'm sorry.
Woahhhh.
This shit is just crazy lol. Talk about judging yourself. How would you guys handle it. I'm not too worried about banging here again to be frankly. But it's just interesting that having sex very, very quickly, seemed to backfire in this case.
Yeah. One of those weird casualties of war. Just understand that most people aren't capable of even holding down a consistent job and/or supporting a family. Some girls these days cannot accept their own sexuality, and the effects that boys have on them ;) Don't blame yourself, just part of the game of life. That being said this one actually hit you up about it afterwards. So she's obviously looking to see your take on things.
Now since this is over text you are really screwed because your written communication is terrible ;p You're just going to make her feel worse. Bahaha!
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Just text her something like, "That wasn't casual to me. But you ended up treating me like I was. You got a lot of making up to do"
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
She's basically saying she derives all her self esteem and self worth from her sex value. It's a precious commodity to her. So giving it away so easily takes away her self esteem, makes her feel worthless, and interacting with you only reminds her of that. You probably just didn't spend enough time in rapport with her but had tactics to blast past her resistance to that, hence guilt on her part. Probably the best way that I can understand and relate how she feels to you is to get you to think of some times where you choded out really hard with a girl (approaching etc) or otherwise and felt that gross guilty feeling, like you weren't a man.
If it was me, and I'm not saying you HAVE to do this, but if was me... Don't put up any resistance to her emotions. Allow them. But don't encourage them. Having sex should be a win/win for you and the girl. You didn't do enough to make it that. So, if it was me, I would do my best to fix it.
Awesome feeback Manwhore, really appreciate it!
Yes, my texting definitely needs work. But hopefully in the near future I'll have everything I need ;)
Yeah I've always chosen to be a bit "unaware" of what I was doing. I think it's honestly an emotion that's "below me", for better or worse. Rogan was the best at turning these sorts of situations into multiple ltr's. He would call them the next day and just have a conversation about random stuff.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Awesome feeback Manwhore, really appreciate it!Yes, my texting definitely needs work. But hopefully in the near future I'll have everything I need ;)
Help me set up the trip wire and free chapter giveaway page and we're off.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Edit button's not working bleh. I'm tired and seeing cross-eyed right now, but I didn't mean "fix it." You didn't do anything wrong. But if it was me, I would put in an effort to help her see things differently.