How To Talk To Girls
How to talk to girls
There are 3 main areas you must cover when learning how to talk to girls. They are: 1) Vocal Projection 2) “Lowering the Bar“, and 3) “Boss Daddy” Communication (instead of friend to friend)
1) Vocal Projection
When you talk to a girl, or a group of people, you must speak clearly, forcefully, and always have emotion in your voice. This conveys authority and conviction, two things that humans are hardwired to respond to with compliance. Most people think of an orator or a public speaker when envisioning someone with this kind of speaking ability. And they imagine they must have incredibly significant content to be “allowed” to speak with such power or conviction. But in actuality it has more to do with the physiological way in which the voice is projected (through use of lungs, diaphragm, and vocal cords to produce volume and “force” in the voice), rather than the content itself. Many public speakers and politicians, and even preachers, use incredibly simple rhetoric when speaking, yet are masters of vocal projection and therefore are incredibly compelling to listen to and watch.
Good solid vocal projection is produced through: “diaphragmatic breathing” (proper breathing technique), “speaking cognizance“, and “modulated vocal tonality“. Through these techniques, the voice becomes louder and stronger, and more full of emotional expression.
It is also the most effective way of cold approaching a woman you don’t yet know. By walking up and speaking loudly and clearly to her, it communicates to her on an unconscious biological level, that you are a strong high-value male. She will instantly respond to you, and treat you with more respect than she gives to quieter, more subdued men.
2) Lowering the Bar
This refers to the idea of removing your “social filter” and simply saying anything that pops into your head when talking to a girl. The main reason why this is so difficult for most, is that people adopt filters in their heads that keep them from saying things that could be perceived as “strange” or abnormal, and that then might subsequently lower their perceived social status. This is many times completely unconscious, and frustratingly enough seems to strike at exactly the wrong moment, e.g. you’re talking to a girl you like, or need to impress a potential new client/boss/contact, and your mouth and brain clam up. But by training oneself to simply speak without filter, and trusting on natural calibration (you have a lifetime of experience talking to people, and your natural conversational quirks are simply that.. unique), you develop the ability to sound comfortable and compelling when speaking. This also has the added benefit of never inadvertently creating verbal competition between you and a girl. You take her off her guard by letting her know you are simply self-expressing, completely nonjudgmental, and just having fun.
So, by lowering the bar, e.g. just spitting out whatever comes out, and keeping your vocal projection strong, you have achieved the ability to “pimp talk” a girl. Listen to any guy that’s good with women, or anyone you know of that’s good at talking off the cuff.. and what you’ll notice is that their content isn’t that good at all, it’s their delivery.
So by paying attention to #1 (above) you give yourself the ability to say anything, and make it sound magical. This concept is also many times also referred to as the “million dollar mouthpiece”, or, “verbal vomiting”.
3) Boss Daddy Communication
This is one of the big secrets of “seduction” that doesn’t get talked about enough, and isn’t really even understood by most of the big companies out there. It is understood that most men talk to women in a way that unconsciously conveys they are seeking their approval, want something from them, or perceive themselves to be of lower social value than the woman they are speaking to. This is incredibly unattractive to most women, and is a killer of natural biological attraction between a man and a woman. This part is understood reasonably well, however, what isn’t addressed very well at all, is what to say to women, e.g. how to steer the conversation in the right direction, how to shape a “seductive” conversation, and how to make her want to have sex.. when she didn’t want to before the guy started talking to her.
Women want a guy who’s strong-willed and masculine, and a social leader, but they also want him to be “nice” to them, and never hurt them emotionally. “Boss Daddy Communication” refers to this dichotomy. The “boss” side of things refers to the authority and masculinity you bring to bear when conversing with her, and the “daddy” part refers to the endearing, “comfort-based” tonality and attitude you use with her.
Being an ex-military guy, I had the “boss” side of things down, but I could be a bit intimidating to some girls, or not emotionally flexible enough to be able to provide certain things a girl needed to feel comfortable with me. Hanging out with Tim of RSD really gave me my first glimpse of the “daddy” attitude he had when talking with women. (He called it the “Bubble of Love”) He always let them know that even if he was teasing them and “showing them who was boss”, he always did it in a playful way and always let them know he wasn’t trying to vilify them or lower their social status. This is the problem with the typical “seduction community” dogma that states you must “neg” a girl.. in the hands of an inexperienced guy, or a bitter one, negging comes off harsh and inappropriate between a guy and a girl, and makes her feel like you’re trying to paint her as a social outcast. No girl wants to feel this way.. ever. She will scratch your eyes out first!
So the correct way to do this is to tease a girl playfully, or boss her around in a way that isn’t serious or condescending.
Look girl.. I think you need to make me a sandwich.. STAT. And I hope you only “cook” using the best ingredients, that being jiffy! Do NOT try to hand me any of that generic peanut butter. Ew gross!
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