Dealing with Difficult//Annoying//Try-Hard people at work
Thu, 08/01/2013 - 15:54
So this guy is a friend of mine, and there's super super super annoying guy in the office (He's like 29 but his behavior is that of a 16-17 year old highschool boy) - this was my advice on how to handle the situation. I think this kinda stuff is important for a lot of guys who are gonna be going into the workforce - cause you always gotta deal with difficult people.
Him:: kinda off topic - but was just triggered
me: yeah?
HIM :
: if I stayed in office with this dude - i would legit snap at him - too many things he does
Sent at 10:16 AM on Thursday
me: like?
im just using it as an opportunity
im gonna love him for who he is
like the only reason I find him annoying is because he's beyond try-hard but like i get it, he just wants to be loved... so ima give that much to him
HIM: yeah but when do you step in and be like dude - this is not gonna help you
try this
or do you not?
me: lol
dude
it's not our job to be his therapist
or like "social coach"
it's our job to accept him how he is
we can control ourselves. So we accept him and let the rest of the world do what the rest of the world needs to do
HIM: word
its a gift
but a challenging one
me: he's annoying man
but don't let the smallness of others inhibit your own greatness
if you let the fact that he's kinda annoying
bring you down as a person and make you hate
that's weak
HIM: but i have to use my voice to and put my foot down - set boundaries
me: yes
setting boundaires is fine
obviously
HIM: communication is key
me: yup
like what are some things he does?
where you need to set boundaries
HIM: speaks to me and asks for shit whne im focused
me: so tell him
HIM: grills my screen
me: yeah, tell him to stop
HIM: word
me: yeah
it's an office dude - you have a right to not have some dude grillin your screen
HIM: its me bein too try hard - like i wanna be nice to everyone
me: nah
what it is
is a misunderstandin
setting boundaries isn't mean
HIM: word
agreed
its on point
me: you can still be nice to everyone and set boundaries
it's more authentic
HIM: word
me: cause now your sitll being mean to him
you just are keeping it inside
HIM: yeah dude - sessions 24/7
me: whereas when you set boundaries, it allows him the chance to be loved by you
HIM: so on point
me: honestly man
in my opinnion on this situation
you just gotta let the kid live