advice on my long term girlfriend?
i've been with a girl for over a year and a half, she's smart, beautiful, in school, theres definitely guys lining up around the block for her and i really do enjoy our time together.
BUT.... i feel i'm not advancing as a man with her around. like she's insidious to my growth. i feel like i want to do much more self exploration and that she isnt into that type of thing, or fully supportive... i need more experimenting, more finding myself, more fun, more meeting new people. im 23 so i have a long time to go before i want to "settle" and i feel like if im single and challenging myself deeper now i can really become the guy i want to be by the time im 30 or whatever
i also do not know how to break it off. i've done it before in a long term relationship but this is tough, i'm literally worried for her sanity if i break it off. she is gonna flip.
any advice, or detached from the situation views, would be helpful....
also needs to be mentioned that she's totally awesome, understanding, intelligent, and not a dumb bitch. she's a catch for sure
K-dawg you could become a guy strong-willed and aggressive enough to be able to do this with her.
While I was doing the hypnosis audio today I had a crazy vision/idea (whatever you want to call it). I dreamed of myself being inhabited by another form, another version of myself. And basically every time I let off the gas, became unaware of my impulses and not controlling my output and what I directed my energy to.. this thing took over. It immediately jumped on the motorcycle and took over (yes I was riding a motorcycle during this lol).
But even though it was me, it wasn't me.. it was definitely a separate consciousness. And it wasn't necessarily an enemy, but it definitely wasn't a friend either.
It was also powerful as fuck. If I wasn't actively riding shotgun it was automatically forcing itself onto the bike, not a moment's hesitation.
All of a sudden I had the snap realization that this thing represented my human nature. My default behaviors and headspaces.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Is it the movement speed you want? To be only limited by your own locomotion not somebody else's? Is it sexual experiences? Have you tried the Shocker? :p
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
partly her feminist ideas are starting to frustrate me. she keeps me on a tether and emotionally guilts me. very subtly about things any "conventional" person might, like picking up "trashy" girls in the past and doing drugs occasionally. i feel like a need an ex heroin addict who likes sex so much you ask her to calm down and cooks only vegetables. haha. or seriously i dont know what i want but im too spontaneious to be guilted by my decisions. i think its gonna suck but might be like dropping a ruby to find a diamond inside myself.
mw- sounds gnarly about the moto experince. human nature is powerfully charged its what can kill andfuckin eat what it kills and fuck and kill some more!
thinking about it i feel like i let her design the relationship structure and shes got her teeth in now any change on my part is a breach of honesty. i didnt put up a fight initially to lay out my ground rules because i wasnt smart enough about female male relationship dynamics. women frame or insecure women frame any unwanted or unecessary change from how you met them as weird or dangerous.
I had a dream today where Aragorn gave me his mighty sword and I defeated an army of bad guys. I got laid last night so maybe it's relevant. Cool story Jeff.
I had a dream today where Aragorn gave me his mighty sword and I defeated an army of bad guys. I got laid last night so maybe it's relevant. Cool story Jeff.
I thought you always got rejected in your dreams, bro. Now you're defeating armies of orcs and getting laid? Fucking sweet!
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
mw from Eli's fuckbuddy thread: "The more emotional control/sway a girl has over you the more she'll sink her hooks in and turn you out. The more control/sway you have the more you can turn the relationship into whatever dynamic you want. You can turn a relationship into anything. Sky's the limit"
Your girl making you feel like an ex-herion addicts happens because a part of you is ashamed of your previous lifestyle.Maybe you fear going back to that lifestyle/previous self. I thought and felt like that for a while as well, I would allow myself to feel shame about my previous alcohol fueled party binges and my gf, and others projected that onto me. Now I've come back full circle and look at those times as a positive time in my past, remember the "good" with the "bad" and even indulge in that behavior from time to time. Shifting towards that view for me takes away some of the neurotisicsm of self-imrpovement and allows me to engage in some rejuvenating debauchery ;)