It's critical to make conscious any anger/resentment you have towards another person. If you do not do so, your entire life gets infected due to the energy you are holding within. It's NOT ok to hold ANY anger or resentment. It's easy and simple to complain and criticize another for their actions, but by doing so you are victimizing yourself and others around you. You can be "mindful" all that you want, but as long as there is anger being held onto, it won't let you out of its grasp, it infects your feelings, thoughts, actions, beliefs etc....
So make it a point to make conscious as much as possible these two energies, because they hold so many of us back and we don't even realize it becasue it's so normal to "talk shit" about another person and complain.
Everything gets so much easier and light and happy when you let it go, even though your ego is going to insist that you don't let it go, because you are "right" and you "have the right to be angry."
No. Anger should NEVER be used AGAINST another. Anger, however, is VERY helpful, when you use that energy to clean up your mind, to say enough is enough and use the power of anger in a constructive way.
Anger is the MOST destructive emotion in the world, and we see it all the time. So it's very well possible that being able to truly forgive those around you, especialy the hardest ones, is perhaps the MOST important important tool any of us can have.
If you can go through your mind and let go of your strongest resentments, maybe someone who wronged you in the past, you immediately become so much lighter and freer. Resentment does nothing but sap your energy. You don't have to do anything but let go of the thoughts (which is true forgiveness). Send Love by genuinely seeing a Positive Outcome for them - if you can get yourself to do this, there's an immediate sense of freedom and opening of your creative energy.
After that, you never even have to look at the thoughts, they obviously hold no benefit so you don't even consider them anymore... plus any sense of anger or resentment is gone.
Awesome post. I have struggled with this, as much as anyone I guess, its always something you have to keep up with. I like the point of letting go of the thoughts AND sending love, even if its just positive thoughts for them.
Anger and resentment are such sticky/strong negative emotions and soak up so much energy, sending love/active forgiveness works great along with meditation/awareness/letting go. So if your holding onto any negativity towards someone, thinking about your own egoic mistakes and relating to their unconciousness - we're all human. Thinking about WHY your forgiving them, even if that is just so you can let go and get on with your life.
The easiest way for me to let go is sending love by visualizing a positive outcomes for them, wishing for them to be happy and getting past their own unconcious behaviors. I've heard of people writing a letter about their anger towards a person, then burning the letter/shoving it up their ass which I'm sure is pretty powerful. Any other ways?
Yo just see a Positive Outcome and move on. It's really tough at first to do this especially towards the resentments you hold the most, but it's totally liberating. Awesome you were able to do it, most people can't or won't haha.
Anyway, once you've done that, just let go of it. Those people hold absolutely no value to you in moving forward in life, so to consider them or put anymore thought into it would be going backwards in life. If the anger and resentment is gone - you're done with it. Good luck & peace the fuck out!
"We have conscious friends and we have unconscious contacts who we choose to never contact."
Just keep doing it until all your resentments are gone. They won't ever come back and you won't create new resentments since you're on the right path. But if they ever do, be grateful and go through this process one more 'gain!
No Thought Stands Still. It either helps or it hurts, there is no gray.
If a thought about anything at all isn't helping you - drop that shit. You might appear to be inconsiderate, but that's other people's problem. You have compassion for people, but you simply don't dwell on the bullshit.. there's absolutely no value in doing so. People have weak mindsets - that's their problem, not ours.
If something doesn't help you to get what you want in life - then it's hurting you. So why keep it?
For a moment, Consider, what life would be like if nothing of unimportance got in your way. Something comes up, you observe and then let it go. Every Single Thought in your head is there to help you.
I've achived this state of mind for over a year now - and life keeps getting better, it's just staggering how amazing this is. Most people won't even know that this is a possibility because they're too caught up in idiot fucking bullshit. Which sucks, but I do what I can to help, and then move on.