11 Basic Tips To Dramatically Improve Your Game
I found this on a facebook group and thought it was worthwhile to share. I can't take credity for any of these except for the fact that I tweaked some of them because some tips were a little too "Mystery Method" lol
There were originally 18 but I shortened it to 11 and kept the shit that would be good for a refresher for some of us and a good baseline for some others. I'm really writing this for myself to remember what I have forgotten or laid dormant.
Cheers amigoss!
Tip #1. Calibrate
If she is a haughty chick with lots of social value and you're coming in fresh off the boat trying to charm her, use High Octane Material. Be more assertive. Do takeaways at emotional spike points. Push and pull more. Qualify her. Get her seeking validation, acceptance and approval from you. This girl will need to see more of you as the prize, she'll need more dominance and sex worthiness out of you.
If she's a bit more of a docile girl, shy type, maybe even a bit cute in her vibe as opposed to an ice queen like described above... Instead, be more playful as opposed to a relentless beast. Show more vulnerability. Make a sincere compliment.
So always calibrate who, what, and where you are picking up. CALIBRATION is the name of the GAME.
Tip #2. Opening
Be a social ninja. If you see a chick by herself or with a group of friends, make a comment or an observation about something they are doing or wearing etc. - Really the most effective way at opening. Don't do it in a rapport seeking way, or make the questions everyday boring ones. Be unique, engaging.
Furthermore, everything out of your mouth should challenge who she thinks she is. This ties in to tip #3.
After you have successfully opened her, you can hook her with stories, teases, etc.. Qualify her. For example, take her answer and just start riffing about it and making slight jokes at it ;)
Tip #3. Be the Prize
Don't play hard to get in order to BE hard to get. Actually be the prize. Just because a woman is showing interest in you doesn't mean you should give her all of your attention always. It's not that or shouldn't be that scarce to you. It gets her chasing and investing into you and the interaction. You convey that you don't want to get into her pants that desparately and that displays massive value to her. And maybe he has other chicks? Ooooo
When you switch the tables on a woman like this, she doesn’t feel guilty about sleeping with you because SHE CHOSE IT. She WANTED you! LMR is a thing of the past.
So be hard to get. Ball bust, qualify her, tease her like you could fuck her brains out but maybe you won't..?. Then screen her and accept her.
Tip #4. Body Language And the Approach
Approach at an angle. Coming full frontal on anyone is threatening and immediately puts people on their guard. When you're approaching come in from the side where its non threatening and easy for them to walk away if they feel like it.
Only close the angle if she earns it by responding to your awesomeness. You don't want to give yourself all the way. If she doesn’t, just tell her to have a nicee night, turn your back to her and just walk away.
Women do this to guys all the time and it makes guys follow and chase them to find out “hey what the hell” what’s wrong with me or did I say something wrong. The same thing will happen when girl or set give you a “I’m not interested” response. Disqualify them and turn your back. Watch the magic happen ;)
Tip #5. Push Pull
Do takeaways at high emotional peak points. If she's engaged, turn your back slightly away from her and break eye contact. She will attempt to re-engage you to chase you because she wants those feelings you gave her. Remember people will chase to re build rapport with you when you attempt to break it. Also, people of higher value break rapport, while those of lower value try to build it. Let it ebb and flow.
Bring her in then push her out. Make it fun and enjoyable. Dance babies.
Tip #6. Escalation
There should be touch throughout. This is essential. I was just talking to Aequitas and he pulled a chick and banged her last night. His verbal game was subpar but he plowed through and remained in physical contact with her, proximity, and touch. It was the physical that got him laid. Smooth words are just that. You need escalation.
Be smooth about it because this is on display to everyone around you. She has to earn it. Your bodies and language gets closer as you progress. Remember, anytime she does something that you do not approve of, re open your body angle, lean away, touch her less. This is seduction.
Tip #8. Speaking
Talk slowly and from your diaphragm. Use deliberate pauses and delays. BREATHE DAMN IT!
Do not say “Right” or “You know” when you speak or "like". Be clear, concise, succint, ridiculous when you have to. Stay in control of yourself.
Tip #9. Vibing/High Value Mannerisms
If a girl asks you a question, do not be too eager to answer it. Shows too much interest.
Just ignore it and she will say “Hey ….did you hear my question” which means she is eager to seek validation from you by you answering or communicating with her. Or interject a funny comment
Her: **Couldn't hear what she said**
Me: I too am a fan of koala bears. So cute but dirty little fuckers aren't they
Don't have an eager facial expression either and if you totally missed what she said, who cares.
You can sometimes smile too much, laugh preemptively at your own jokes or other people's or just give off a weak seeking vibe through your body and how you direct your attention at things with your eyes.
It shows approval seeking, You only need approval from yourself and are there to give people a great time with your presence. That alone is enough.
Tip #10. Wing
Wing with guys who are good, have missing pieces to your game, just overall chill as fuck. They will rub off on you. Find people who know what they are doing. Record and audit your nights out in a journal.
You need to find out what you did wrong and what you did right. Get into the habit of recording your activities. Otherwise you won’t know what to do, or what to change, what works and what doesn’t.
TIp #11. Overall
The first part of the interaction you should be qualifying her: busting on her, breaking rapport with her, and getting her to invest and chase you. Once you have attracted her, you must then screen and accept her.
Then you can go for comfort and rapport. In this stage, turn down the high octane shit with more subtle take-aways. If she busts on you, just go silent and break rapport. Do not go back to the attraction phase. You got this far so keep it at the rapport level.
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Let me know if any of thse are wack or outdated. Maybe even unneccessary? Oh, and this isn't all inclusive. Just stuff I extrapolated from the original post.
Like this list a lot, its almost like a good re-read before going out. To be honest i still struggle with #5 and #9.
For #5 i still struggle with what points to actually do the push and how often it should be utilized before it just comes off as a tactic and not natural. #9 is one that i totally forget about but its such a powerful point. When you are engaged with a hot woman you want to be so engaged with everything she is saying to create the bubble, but that also does not mean you have to hang on her every word. Also, the whole laughing at your own jokes thing, yeah that is a huge tell for your own self comfort. There is actually a great speech David deangelo did way back in the day on this subject where he went on for so long about all of the weird ass shit we laugh about as a space filler because we lack the confidence to just be in the moment without making weird fucking sounds
Idk a lot of this stuff never worked for me, because I really don’t know how to bust on women unless I’m already kind of cool with them. I find that early on busting on them doesn’t work for me.
For me, the approach that always works is being a polite gentleman with an edge. That’s always been my go to. If the girl needs some extra umph I can neg here and there in certain ways but mostly I’m being a nice guy. And it works.
I’m sure some of u guys are cooler than me and thus understand all this high class style of interaction where it’s all advanced and finesse but I’m just some basic ass nigga lol. Fuck it.
Idk a lot of this stuff never worked for me, because I really don’t know how to bust on women unless I’m already kind of cool with them. I find that early on busting on them doesn’t work for me.For me, the approach that always works is being a polite gentleman with an edge. That’s always been my go to. If the girl needs some extra umph I can neg here and there in certain ways but mostly I’m being a nice guy. And it works.
I’m sure some of u guys are cooler than me and thus understand all this high class style of interaction where it’s all advanced and finesse but I’m just some basic ass nigga lol. Fuck it.
But what about the pimp ways?
Idk a lot of this stuff never worked for me, because I really don’t know how to bust on women unless I’m already kind of cool with them. I find that early on busting on them doesn’t work for me.For me, the approach that always works is being a polite gentleman with an edge. That’s always been my go to. If the girl needs some extra umph I can neg here and there in certain ways but mostly I’m being a nice guy. And it works.
I’m sure some of u guys are cooler than me and thus understand all this high class style of interaction where it’s all advanced and finesse but I’m just some basic ass nigga lol. Fuck it.
But what about the pimp ways?
Pimps are not always gorilla 24/7. That comes out in me when:
1) I’m frustrated or feel dissed
or
2) There’s a situation presenting itself where
gorilla worked in the past.
Idk where you guys get from that pimps aren’t nice guys or gentlemen when it suits them lol. I find most girls respond well to a guy who isn’t trying to act overly cool all the time. At least with me. If I act too cool I make them put up walls and obstacles.
Aqueitas you didn’t hear me complimenting women or really how I talk to them after I open, you did the due dillegence and left us alone everytime except at the deli because we were right next to eachother lol. Where that white 6.5 kind of pissed me off lol. I regularly compliment women and am a gentleman. I am a sweet talker if you guys think pimps don’t do that shit too then you guys are misinformed.
My issue is I sweettalk and then go psycho on women. I also tend to come off strong with the other kind of ballsy and cocky pimp shit when I just feel running my mouth.
The less I talk the better and also, the reality is that I wrote hardcore stuff here as how my mind works. That doesn’t mean I regularly walk up to girls like “hey bitch come here get some pimpin in ur life” lol but I’ll definitely be that way sometimes if I feel like yelling a girl down just for kicks or if I don’t know what else to do lol.
Women I’m learning are like cats. Not dogs. You can’t yell down a cat. You gotta be gentle and almost idk...catlike urself.
Pimps are not always gorilla 24/7. That comes out in me when:1) I’m frustrated or feel dissed
or
2) There’s a situation presenting itself where
gorilla worked in the past.
Idk where you guys get from that pimps aren’t nice guys or gentlemen when it suits them lol. I find most girls respond well to a guy who isn’t trying to act overly cool all the time. At least with me. If I act too cool I make them put up walls and obstacles.
Aqueitas you didn’t hear me complimenting women or really how I talk to them after I open, you did the due dillegence and left us alone everytime except at the deli because we were right next to eachother lol. Where that white 6.5 kind of pissed me off lol. I regularly compliment women and am a gentleman. I am a sweet talker if you guys think pimps don’t do that shit too then you guys are misinformed.
My issue is I sweettalk and then go psycho on women. I also tend to come off strong with the other kind of ballsy and cocky pimp shit when I just feel running my mouth.
The less I talk the better and also, the reality is that I wrote hardcore stuff here as how my mind works. That doesn’t mean I regularly walk up to girls like “hey bitch come here get some pimpin in ur life” lol but I’ll definitely be that way sometimes if I feel like yelling a girl down just for kicks or if I don’t know what else to do lol.
Women I’m learning are like cats. Not dogs. You can’t yell down a cat. You gotta be gentle and almost idk...catlike urself.
I was kidding dude lol.
I got a feel more or less how you approach and talk to them tho. Well and you berated that girl outside 1Oak.
Lol yeah my assburgers is showing.
But nah, yeah that was fun lol. I enjoyed that. And as you observed she couldn’t stop looking at me after I dismissed her ass. She wasn’t even mad because she knows she was wrong. Trying to ride coattails lol gtfo.
Imagine brazilian boy got laid that night hahaha. 30 minutes left and he was still gonna pay that bottle service bless his heart
Lol yeah my assburgers is showing.But nah, yeah that was fun lol. I enjoyed that. And as you observed she couldn’t stop looking at me after I dismissed her ass. She wasn’t even mad because she knows she was wrong. Trying to ride coattails lol gtfo.
Imagine brazilian boy got laid that night hahaha. 30 minutes left and he was still gonna pay that bottle service bless his heart
Uhh that’s not what happen AT ALL. You just berated her and felt better about yourself.
I caught her looking many times lol.
But yeah. I was wrong. We should have pulled tbh right then and there.
Yeah, a bit messy list but some great stuff. I'd need sometimes a reminder for sure.
I think the approach angle is a bit overemphasized. I don't pay attention to it at all tbh. I do care about eye contact though, which is barely mentioned.
Looking back at my 'game history' leading/isolating is definitely the extra point should we want to expand this.