A 2-set that made me go "huh?"
This happened a few days ago. I haven't approached a 2-set in night/street game for a while, but I saw one I couldn't refuse. One tall, gorgeous redhead with tattoos and a blue killer dress. Tattoos!! She looked very exotic to me. Her friend, a brunette, short, super shitty. Both Lithuanians.
So I walk up to them, open them up, and immediately the brunette gives me shit. I'm like "yeah, whatever" and continue plowing. They gradually open up, but their shittiness never really goes away. I even call them out on it. It doesn't bother me. I even make plans with them for drinks right then and there when my wing comes in. He gets shit too, but he deflects it with cocky self-deprecation. ...They're good to go. The blue dress has been cycling between bitchyness, curiosity and stand offishness. I think she was more intrigued by how I wasn't shaken by their shit... However, then she gives me the last shit test. She says she's happily in love. The other one is married. I'm like "ok", then leave, and as I do she says "See, all I have to do is say I'm in love and you give up!". I'm like "Dafuq?".
I decided to leave because at some point you just have to wonder if I'm talking to shitty ass women, and in this situation, if she is in love I didn't feel bothered. Especially when I have to work in a few hours. In retrospect, she was probly DTF and I fucked up by letting that shit affect me... I can't shake this gut feeling.
The killer side in me says I should've plowed through that bs "I'm happily in love"-thing with "I don't give a shit. Let's go HERE for drinks" and lead them there. Also to generally have addressed their bs attitude more proactively. I know I could've. Fuck, man! I'm pissed at myself.
The zen part in me says "Mehh, I don't need their shit. Their loss if they can't behave. I don't need to handle their shit". Also, I had to be up in like 3 hours to work.
Also, because of how they challenged me and how tough/new this was for me, I felt this set alone made the whole night. Much learning value.
What's your take on this?
I think the key here is being grounded in what you value and understanding what makes you happy. I'm cutting girls off now where before I would make it mean my game wasn't good enough (aka I wasn't good enough) and I would try to win them over. Now I find myself feeling more and more, fuck I don't like you as a human being that much anymore, I'm not interested in getting to know you anymore and I'm fucking awesome so too bad.
Context is decisive. What's your context?
Yes they were interested but you weren't challenging enough.
"Pff. No one could ever love you."
Just as ONE example.
Now I find myself feeling more and more, fuck I don't like you as a human being that much anymore, I'm not interested in getting to know you anymore and I'm fucking awesome so too bad. Context is decisive. What's your context?
This. Me too! Though, in this case, I wish I'd run one of those "I don't like you at all, but I'm still gonna fuck you" shenanigans on her ass.
Yes they were interested but you weren't challenging enough. "Pff. No one could ever love you." Just as ONE example.
Yeeeeaaah! Dammit, you're right! I even saw her eyes light up like a virgin seeing the penis of her dreams when I challenged her on her shittiness mid-set. I really should've challenged her more. Dammit, I've decided I'll do more 2-sets. Got bitch slapped through my own fault, but loved the interaction nonetheless.
So she basically gave you the "Im taken/I have a boyfriend" line. Something that works well w that is to respond w a confused look and say "What do you mean?..." Let it hang for a sec and ask her "Whats your name?" Then with a smirk say "Hi im x I think we should take things slow" and they usually lol if they were just shit testing. The implication on her end being that YOU were thinking of her in a sexual way (which fuck yeah you were but it always fun to turn it back around on her) and reframe it like its her idea, moving the convo out of that logical headspace and making it more fun.
Remember shit test are a postive; a girl will not shit test you unless you are on some level relevant. So take it all as postive
^ That's another GREAT example. Remember these need to be embedded throughout. Until she stops being a fucking butthole. Lol. Then you can move into other areas ;)
I'm actually writing up a new lay report on how that same dynamic lends itself to hardcore fast sexual escalation.
You already know that you should've endured and pushed. That said, I'll give some examples because is fun.
When she said that she's happily in love:
Already? Damn, I'm good.
Being in love with your 13 cats doesn't count.
I'm happily hungry, let's grab something to eat.
I love the way you lie.
Right... if you only had a soul buddy. (you said she's a redhead)
When she said: "See, all I have to do is say I'm in love and you give up!"
See, all I have to do is pretend I give up and you go bananas... I'm game of thrones with this shit babe/pumpkin head.
13 cats doesn't count!? bahahaha! Stolen.