4 Days/4 Dates/4 Fails
Mon, 06/25/2012 - 04:09
So I went on 4 dates thursday-sunday all ended up in fail,fuck I don't know what I'm doing wrong
Thursday: Jen (okc)
I've been texting for a couple days,went over to her house she's cute looks just like her pics but I can tell she a little shy. We start drinking beer and watch netflix,she puts on some asian horror movie but she won't stop talking and she won't make eye contact so I realize she's a little weird (her netflix que or whatever is full of weird asian movies). Anyway,we talk,drink some more beer things are getting better now she's looking at me more. I got close on the couch,claw her and play with her hair,took her hand and lock fingers,she's cool with it. We makeout for like 15 sec and she pulls back,cool no problem.We continue to talk,5 min later I kiss her again and she pulls back saying "watch the movie" I try a few more times same shit "watch the movie" and I wanna punch a baby,altough I can tell she got a little more comfortable. We finish the beer (12pack) and I leave, she's still text me but idk ,I probably wont see her again.
Friday: Melissa (okc)
I meet her at a mexican place,hug her tell her she looks great.We go in,sit at the bar I can tell she's into me. She tells me she can only have on drink,she's going camping early in the morning. We have great chemistry,I claw here for like a minute,play with her hair(she doesnt like that). 10 min later I claw her again and give her a kiss on the cheek,I think it was akward the way I didt it. We talk some more,I think I said something stupid in the meantime (dont know what) because when I go to claw her again she removes my hand and I can see the "eww" look on her face lmao. We leave,outsides she says "I know you think I'm silly" I'm like "I have my moments, I'm silly too sometimes". She's was buying a kayak and she goes camping every weekend and I guess she thought that I'm not the type that goes camping a lot. Hug,nice to meet you...fuck. Text her the next day,no response.
Saturday: Vanya(okc)
-I decided not to get physical with this girl at all because of the 2 previous fails, and trying something else-
We meet at starbucks,give her a hug,she gets a frappucino and ask me what do I want, I say "a beer,lets go to a bar". We talk at starbucks for 15 min,she tells me she has to go to a party and can only have one drink. We leave to the bar,things are great,she's teasing me because I didnt aswer her questions via text (what do I do etc...) talk more about random shit,she's cool. We leave,hug,and we say "see you " at the same time...so fucking gay. Text her today around 12,no answer.
Sunday: Lydia(okc)
She text me this morning "hey did you find a partner in crime" (rob bank,water pistols line lmfao) I give her the Manwhore line "still taking application,send me your social sec #,scan copy of passport blah blah. She tells me she has movie tickets,I'm like sure meet me at the theater 2 min from my house. We go in,she's a cute asian chick. During the movie I claw her,she said its uncomfortable. Later I hold her hand,lock fingers,put my hand on her leg she's cool with it. The movie is over and I tell her lets go to my place to get a drink,she's like ok but I cant stay long (some bullshit reason) so I'm like its cool I only have 3 beers left anyway. We get to my place,we're smoking outside,I start kissing her neck then I try to make out...no go. I try a few more times she's like I don't really kiss but I'm a good fucker lmfao. Can't tell if shes joking or not,so I say talk is cheap blah blah will see about that lets fuck. I'm sitting on the couch and pull her on top of me , put my hand down her pants on her ass and start fingering her while I'm kissing her neck. I do this for like a min,she's breathing hard and moaning and then I fucking stop to take my dick out (should have kept going). She's looking at my dick and I'm like its not gonna suck itself,she's giggling like a little girl,but she wont do it.I try to take her hand and put it on my dick,shes resisting "no no no" and cant move her hand. I got up and put it in her face,again shes not fucking doing it. I'm thinking fuck this and go outside to smoke,she said she has to go so I tell her to come over next week. She's like "are you gonna do this again?" I say "probably",she smiles and leaves. I text her later "I hope you got home safe,goodnight and don't have kinky dreams about me", she replys "Ha! Goodnight" so who knows..
It was a little crazy for me,this is not something I'm used to,never been on more than one date/week . How can I fix shit if I don't know what I'm doing wrong? I know for a fact that I'm not escalating smooth/proper and trying to fix that. Other things that I can think off...maybe qualifying myself a little too much,maybe eye contact/body language issues...its so hard to remember every little detail,sigh,next time I'm recording myself so I can replay it later. Also,I think I needed more time on all these dates,except Jen,I was at her place for like 3 hrs,but she was weird.
Thursday: Jen (okc)
I've been texting for a couple days,went over to her house she's cute looks just like her pics but I can tell she a little shy. We start drinking beer and watch netflix,she puts on some asian horror movie but she won't stop talking and she won't make eye contact so I realize she's a little weird (her netflix que or whatever is full of weird asian movies). Anyway,we talk,drink some more beer things are getting better now she's looking at me more. I got close on the couch,claw her and play with her hair,took her hand and lock fingers,she's cool with it. We makeout for like 15 sec and she pulls back,cool no problem.We continue to talk,5 min later I kiss her again and she pulls back saying "watch the movie" I try a few more times same shit "watch the movie" and I wanna punch a baby,altough I can tell she got a little more comfortable. We finish the beer (12pack) and I leave, she's still text me but idk ,I probably wont see her again.
Friday: Melissa (okc)
I meet her at a mexican place,hug her tell her she looks great.We go in,sit at the bar I can tell she's into me. She tells me she can only have on drink,she's going camping early in the morning. We have great chemistry,I claw here for like a minute,play with her hair(she doesnt like that). 10 min later I claw her again and give her a kiss on the cheek,I think it was akward the way I didt it. We talk some more,I think I said something stupid in the meantime (dont know what) because when I go to claw her again she removes my hand and I can see the "eww" look on her face lmao. We leave,outsides she says "I know you think I'm silly" I'm like "I have my moments, I'm silly too sometimes". She's was buying a kayak and she goes camping every weekend and I guess she thought that I'm not the type that goes camping a lot. Hug,nice to meet you...fuck. Text her the next day,no response.
Saturday: Vanya(okc)
-I decided not to get physical with this girl at all because of the 2 previous fails, and trying something else-
We meet at starbucks,give her a hug,she gets a frappucino and ask me what do I want, I say "a beer,lets go to a bar". We talk at starbucks for 15 min,she tells me she has to go to a party and can only have one drink. We leave to the bar,things are great,she's teasing me because I didnt aswer her questions via text (what do I do etc...) talk more about random shit,she's cool. We leave,hug,and we say "see you " at the same time...so fucking gay. Text her today around 12,no answer.
Sunday: Lydia(okc)
She text me this morning "hey did you find a partner in crime" (rob bank,water pistols line lmfao) I give her the Manwhore line "still taking application,send me your social sec #,scan copy of passport blah blah. She tells me she has movie tickets,I'm like sure meet me at the theater 2 min from my house. We go in,she's a cute asian chick. During the movie I claw her,she said its uncomfortable. Later I hold her hand,lock fingers,put my hand on her leg she's cool with it. The movie is over and I tell her lets go to my place to get a drink,she's like ok but I cant stay long (some bullshit reason) so I'm like its cool I only have 3 beers left anyway. We get to my place,we're smoking outside,I start kissing her neck then I try to make out...no go. I try a few more times she's like I don't really kiss but I'm a good fucker lmfao. Can't tell if shes joking or not,so I say talk is cheap blah blah will see about that lets fuck. I'm sitting on the couch and pull her on top of me , put my hand down her pants on her ass and start fingering her while I'm kissing her neck. I do this for like a min,she's breathing hard and moaning and then I fucking stop to take my dick out (should have kept going). She's looking at my dick and I'm like its not gonna suck itself,she's giggling like a little girl,but she wont do it.I try to take her hand and put it on my dick,shes resisting "no no no" and cant move her hand. I got up and put it in her face,again shes not fucking doing it. I'm thinking fuck this and go outside to smoke,she said she has to go so I tell her to come over next week. She's like "are you gonna do this again?" I say "probably",she smiles and leaves. I text her later "I hope you got home safe,goodnight and don't have kinky dreams about me", she replys "Ha! Goodnight" so who knows..
It was a little crazy for me,this is not something I'm used to,never been on more than one date/week . How can I fix shit if I don't know what I'm doing wrong? I know for a fact that I'm not escalating smooth/proper and trying to fix that. Other things that I can think off...maybe qualifying myself a little too much,maybe eye contact/body language issues...its so hard to remember every little detail,sigh,next time I'm recording myself so I can replay it later. Also,I think I needed more time on all these dates,except Jen,I was at her place for like 3 hrs,but she was weird.
Mon, 06/25/2012 - 04:29
#1
Re: 4 Days/4 Dates/4 Fails
@Bad_Lieutenant:
Ha!
Just kidding bro let me take a look.
Ha!
Just kidding bro let me take a look.
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Mon, 06/25/2012 - 04:34
#2
Re: 4 Days/4 Dates/4 Fails
@Bad_Lieutenant:
You need to maximize your pwnage. Be talking and commenting on things, OWN your environment and your reality.
I can definitely see that the problem is happening before you escalate or get them alone. You're not taking enough charge and being charismatic enough. When you look at a girl and look in her eyes you need to be like "Ya I own you." When you walk into a starbucks you're like "Ya I own this starbucks." Same thing is coming out in texting as well if you're hesitant to answer questions. Read some lay reports mang.
You need to maximize your pwnage. Be talking and commenting on things, OWN your environment and your reality.
I can definitely see that the problem is happening before you escalate or get them alone. You're not taking enough charge and being charismatic enough. When you look at a girl and look in her eyes you need to be like "Ya I own you." When you walk into a starbucks you're like "Ya I own this starbucks." Same thing is coming out in texting as well if you're hesitant to answer questions. Read some lay reports mang.
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Mon, 06/25/2012 - 04:44
#3
Re: 4 Days/4 Dates/4 Fails
Feel kinda lazy to look at all the details and shit, but for one why are you clawing the girl if shes with you already? Like explain it more because I don't get it. Unless you basically mean you grab her hand to take her with you when you venue change.
Something great that I've done / seen is to set the frame from the start of the date. Like let her see from the start that you can escalate with her at any time but you will do it when you feel like. Its basically just like when approaching, to go physical right on the opener.
Something I read recently from alexander was to get things playful before escalating to sex. Like it is easier to go from being playful to sex than to go from relaxed to sex [not the exact words but if I remember correctly it was something like that :P ] . So he would do shit like have little snacks or something he can throw at her and things like that. Or playfully wrestle her. Things fun and playful.
Also did you try to pass the "shit test" of "watch the movie"? By being like "the movies boring" or anything. Or did you just instantly stop and listen to her request?
edit: Fuck yea! My 2nd paragraph is similar to Manwhore's idea! To let her see that you fucking own her and can do what you want when you want. Starting to think like a Manwhore.
Something great that I've done / seen is to set the frame from the start of the date. Like let her see from the start that you can escalate with her at any time but you will do it when you feel like. Its basically just like when approaching, to go physical right on the opener.
Something I read recently from alexander was to get things playful before escalating to sex. Like it is easier to go from being playful to sex than to go from relaxed to sex [not the exact words but if I remember correctly it was something like that :P ] . So he would do shit like have little snacks or something he can throw at her and things like that. Or playfully wrestle her. Things fun and playful.
Also did you try to pass the "shit test" of "watch the movie"? By being like "the movies boring" or anything. Or did you just instantly stop and listen to her request?
edit: Fuck yea! My 2nd paragraph is similar to Manwhore's idea! To let her see that you fucking own her and can do what you want when you want. Starting to think like a Manwhore.
Tue, 06/26/2012 - 01:23
#4
Re: 4 Days/4 Dates/4 Fails
@Bad_Lieutenant:
Eh I think you're being a little too hard on yourself. 4 dates in 4 days is pretty good lol and you got to finger a chick as well, plus you should have learned a shit load from the mistakes, plus some girls no matter how amazing you are simply won't be into you. Oh well. As for the asian girl, next time when you're fingering her, have her rub your pen0r outside of your pants while you're banging her, just grab her hand and put it on you once she starts moaning. Maybe she'll undo your belt and go pull it out on her own, who knows. I've noticed that chicks will undo my shit while I'm fingering them if I just put their hand on my pants bulge. I haven't tried the whole whip it out thing and shove it in her face though. But I've also 100% never had a girl deny me a handjob when I'm fingering her so it just sounds like you did it awkwardly or too fast imo. I like fingering girls as it really gets them in the mood so nothing wrong with spending 5 minutes or so giving her some. Yea you only spent a minute, I would have waited some more lol like you said. So there! You learned something! Success!!!!
Eh I think you're being a little too hard on yourself. 4 dates in 4 days is pretty good lol and you got to finger a chick as well, plus you should have learned a shit load from the mistakes, plus some girls no matter how amazing you are simply won't be into you. Oh well. As for the asian girl, next time when you're fingering her, have her rub your pen0r outside of your pants while you're banging her, just grab her hand and put it on you once she starts moaning. Maybe she'll undo your belt and go pull it out on her own, who knows. I've noticed that chicks will undo my shit while I'm fingering them if I just put their hand on my pants bulge. I haven't tried the whole whip it out thing and shove it in her face though. But I've also 100% never had a girl deny me a handjob when I'm fingering her so it just sounds like you did it awkwardly or too fast imo. I like fingering girls as it really gets them in the mood so nothing wrong with spending 5 minutes or so giving her some. Yea you only spent a minute, I would have waited some more lol like you said. So there! You learned something! Success!!!!