7 makeouts and a bathroom pull but no sex!?

It's a GLARING, super obvious problem. What do you think it might be. What have you heard about real sexual escalation 

Nope.. What does the real stand for?

Most of my lays have been when the girl has been escalating on me.. which is pretty pathetic being a man.

Right so there you go think of it like that.. how did these girls escalate on you? Break it down 

Well it's pretty easy for them, when i've made out with the girl and she wants it, she'll make it easier for me to isolate her and when we're in isolation, she seems a lot more proactive. kissing leads to her taking my clothes off and i get zero resistense in trying to take their clothes off i often ask them to take it off and they do.. and then they unzip me and it's business as usual. But this only happens about once in 40-50 makeouts which means i'm not getting laid when i want but getting laid when a girl wants.

Here's exactly how it went down with this bathroom pull:

1. I approached her on the dancefloor, opened saying "yo, come over here i wanna talk to you."

2. Took her hand and led her to the smoking area and went straight for the make out.

3. We made out for a bit then i asked "hey it's pretty cozy here, let's go checkout other bars?" she said she cant leave without her friend. 

4. I said lets go find your friend then.. we went back to the dancefloor and made out again, took her back to the smoking area then I sat down in the window with her on my lap and continued making out, put my hands inside her shirt she didnt resist .

5. I told her lets go somewhere quieter and led her through the crowd into mens bath room, fortunately the cublice was open so i shoved her in and made out some more.

6. Her top was pretty tight so it was hard for me to take it off fully i just lifted it and unhooked her bra and sucked her tits gently.

7. Then i tried to unzip her skirt thats when she started backing off so I just sliped my fingers in her vagina and fingered her for a while she was really wet and very tight so i could only slip one finger in.

8. After a few minutes of this she was like "I have to go find my friend"

And started being aloof and disappeared.

What should have i done differently?

Derp. You just said it. What's present in the scenarios where the girl's leading vs... this other nonsense.

Lol i don't know.. maybe more attraction? or they're down to fuck and they'd fuck anything with a penis?

Well you kind of hinted at it there. So what was missing in these escalations that was there when the girl was leading. This is just ONE way of fleshing this out. The answer in and of itself should be VERY obvious. 

Sorry I'm clueless. From what i've observed it usually feels like they've made the decision to sleep with you in the first few minutes of the interaction.. they even buy you drinks.. But i cant seem to put my finger on what causes this and how to make it happen on demand.. it feels like just "getting lucky"

Your DICK. 

Makes sense.

Alright i'm gonna ask you a retarded question: Thing is I didn't even have a hard on when i was fingering this chick which is why i didn't pull it out.. usually it taks a chick to give me head before i can get a hard on.. is it suppost to be that way? Do you ever find it difficult to arouse yourself without the girl having to try and arouse you? or do you just pull it out and go from there?

It's clutter in your brain and not being present that is keeping you from having a boner. So for the time being you will simply take out your flaccid cock and show it to her and tell her she obviously did something wrong because it's not working. 

Lol

Yes! I knew it. Gotta pull that flacid cock out brother

WHIP DAT DICK OUT HOMIE

I know you want di DIIII!!!!