A&A
Just wanted to comment a bit on communication styles.
Correct me if I'm off, but any newbie loser can pull off basic silly & sincere as long as they have their head on straight. Its pretty simple stuff to be able to be authentic about how you're overcoming some dumb ass shit & just blame any shortcomings on the girl (playfully), and keep up good vibes about things.
Arrogant & Aloof on the other hand, is much more in-your-face real, and requires engagement to the point you are DOING things automatically that display self-respect (setting standards for behavior, fulfilling & productive lifestyle, self amusement, ???). If you're faking this in person, you've got some serious psychological shit to deal with, as you don't have much of a life beyond you.
This is why it can be so much more powerful, as it literally leaves women w/ shock & awe that you're the one (lol) who could spice up their life.
You're better than them in ways that only you define, so there is no comparison in her eyes. You can be homeless and broke, but full of reason, purpose, and the simple fact that you have the balls to go out and maintain yourself as an incredible person no matter the circumstances is such a mindfvck to them, that they reveal their true self: women are at their base form, receptive and guiding of your maleness, mild in action until joined with the strength and creativity of a great man.
The basics of Daoism explain this very well fyi.
Arrogant & Aloof lines up with basic principles of success so well. Seems important to have a separate spiritual aspect though, as it doesn't work at all long-term if it is done for simple mental or physical satisfaction.
Just being able to be open & reflecting on how your interactions with women represent you as a human being has been the best mirror for me in this regard. Every interaction is a mutual opportunity to sate your curiosity not only about them, but about who you are in this very moment...
Notice you're emotional? Get to the root of it & be true to it while it runs its course. This is where your mind will come up with some crazy thoughts & you have to totally accept them & go with it. You can be super depressed & have a girl connect with these emotions & ride them out with you. Or Jon's black nimbus, etc.
Mind dump over, just cycling out of a depressive phase myself. Very interesting how many paradigm shifts happen while depression is in effect. Quite useful.
Peace
Very solid descriptive of Arrogant & Aloof. Aside from black and white characterization of it as being "better than them". That's total overcompensation. Not a good leadership quality. And yes great point about there needing to be a spiritual guiding aspect to it. Like all such things in self-actualization, allow it to teach you about that "next level", rather than simply allowing it to become a crutch, a gimmick instead of a true understanding. Otherwise blindspots are created and it can stifle future growth.
Have you actually read Silly & Sincere? Your take on it is a bit off.
Okay, yeah thats some pooah BS still stuck in my head. Fair enough.
Haven't read either, just been learning through application & observation of strong role models.
Interested, though.
How does s&s work out long term as the primary focus? My understanding has been that it depends much more greatly on your interactions with your environment, and you play off that energy by adjusting your own to match... I suppose.
Seems to be very open based on personality.
Actually S&S is still quite cocky. Lol
Month 1 of MW membership there's a text convo with a playboy model that's pure S&S. Not sure which month I released S&S into the membership but it's in there too.