Alex's take on text game
Taken from his blog at alexsocial.com
"Lets go over some basic wisdom on text game.
If you DON’T feel like you are enough, text game fails.
If you don’t screen to find out if the girl is available, text game fails.
If you don’t walk the girl out of the front door of the club text game fails.
If you neglect the girl’s friends, text game fails.
If you interrogate the girl instead of sharing your story with her, text game fails.
Its not like you can advance the interaction once you get to the stage of text game, you keep the interaction at the same level. So don’t try to get clever or fancy with your texts, keep them simple, and follow the principle ‘would James Bond text that?’
Just like in marketing, you need to tell your own story. So talk about what you’re doing.
You always need to text your name to the girl the moment you exchange numbers or facebook right there in the club to add an important memory anchor for the girl.
Another awesome principle we’ve followed when texting girls is – you want to give her a enough time from meeting, to chatting on text, for her to realize that you’re much cooler than other guys she might be meeting, or is getting harassed by.
So in girl time frames – thats about 48 hours or two days.
There is an insane difference between how YOU think about time and how girls think. It takes her weeks to kinda catch up to everyone texting her – so give her time and trust yourself.
One of the first things you want to text the girls is ‘do you have instagram?’ and go form there. Instragram gives you plenty more to talk about, and gives her a chance to stalk out your online profile, and for you to check out hers.
What we’ve found is that it takes a chick about 2 weeks, or more, to actually coordinate to see you. Also, we found that she’s more motivated by you being cooler than other guys she’s meeting, than motivated by going on the date with you to see you.
These things were huge revelations to me, after living a life of constant travel for so long and not playing much text game.
So really, what you do with the number and texting is make contact about 2 days later, exchange instagram as well, and chit chat for days and weeks, not really being too needy about meeting up until she starts to turn the conversation in that direction. But all the while you’re posting your antics to instagram to show that you’ve got plenty going on.
Don’t be lazy at the point of exchange, you need to qualify her, know her friends and walk her out of the front door to ensure the number is solid. From there, keep the thread of conversation going, along with many other text conversations going until you get the meet up happening."
Meh
lol
Yes that's very solid. That being said I wish Alex wouldn't talk in generalities sometimes. He's not leaving space for lots of other potential verticals
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Damn, I didn't thnk it was that great, but fuck I should re-read it.
I particualrly didn't like a lot of the "rules" he had.
Yeah if you know Alex you know where some of that stuff is coming from. I'd be curious to read your thoughts on it Buddha I'm sure you've got some great insights and critiques.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
A couple of great points he made are:
Another awesome principle we’ve followed when texting girls is – you want to give her a enough time from meeting, to chatting on text, for her to realize that you’re much cooler than other guys she might be meeting, or is getting harassed by.
chit chat for days and weeks, not really being too needy about meeting up until she starts to turn the conversation in that direction. But all the while you’re posting your antics to instagram to show that you’ve got plenty going on.
But yes it's also riddled with plenty of "limiting beliefs" type adages.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Wordd
Yeah- you nailed it. It was the limiting belief adages that I saw and kinda just immediately wrote-off a lot of it.
The Instagram thing is a good idea or better yet snapchat. I put my snapchat on my tinder account now too.
''If you interrogate the girl instead of sharing your story with her, text game fails.
Just like in marketing, you need to tell your own story. So talk about what you’re doing.''
Something this simple, yet i keep failing to do this lol
The Instagram thing is a good idea or better yet snapchat. I put my snapchat on my tinder account now too.
My snapchat game is legendary. Also if she isn't that hot, but she goes to school/uni, you can hit on her friends. I've been on a few ''blind'' dates by just asking the girl i knew to ''snap the cute girls in her class'' and if they liked me, i'd ask for their number and text them and eventually get them out (their friend likes you, so they have the thinking done for them).
Gotta make it relateable and friendzone the girl first. I did that before i started cold approaching, solid short-term strategy, but kinda wish i still could be bothered to do this now lol. Social proof man... legit.
What exactly do you do for "snapchat game"?
What exactly do you do for "snapchat game"?
1. Have girls who think you're cool added on Snapchat.
1.1 SUPER IMPORTANT that they think you're awesome.
2. Make them send you pictures of girls they hang out with. (can be a form of a joke, can be blunt, anything)
2.1 A lot of the time they will do it anyway even if you don't request, so just open their snaps.
3. Start joking that one of ther friends is ''perfect'' or say something like ''i like that one!'' or ''more of Amanda!''
3.1 Make sure you send cool shit, also pictures of yourself! (she will show her) As long as it's not ''try-hard'' it will be good.
3.2 Ask for her friends snapchat (you will get it)
3.3 Add her friend. Try to find out what her friend likes (by asking her) then make the snaps more personal in a joking way
(I remember one girl liked horses, so i send pictures when i was cooking food and said everything is horse meat. Just tease in that way, it's good to have one tihng you know about her from the start)
You can send any retarded shit. Just make it funny, not try-hard.
4. Here is the thing. After adding her friend. Alway send the Snaps to BOTH girls. (Make it a threeway thing at first)
^The reason is that it will keep it ''fun'' and the girl won't feel like a slut for... flirting with a guy she doesn't even know over snapchat, who her friend introduced her to.
It will feel like they're both doing it, not just her.
You gotta calibrate here if she likes you and when you think she does, send her snaps that are directed DIRECTLY at her (so she knows only she got it)
If she plays along, that means she likes you and you can just keep going from there. Get her number or whatever and start texting her.
It's pretty cool and if the girl who sends you pics of her freinds thinks that you're cool it's gonna work.
I had two girls that i used for this mostly(both fat) but they had cute friends obv. at school and i'd snap all their friends while at school, the more girls in her class you snap at once (like in point 4) the more soclal proof, the more you get out of it.
Also it's best if you're still in school or doing this to girls who go to school, because then you're the ''guy from other school'' or ''older guy'' that is talking to the different girls at school
I probably missed something important, but it's not that hard. I'd do it, but i feel it's a waste of time compared to cold approach.
What exactly do you do for "snapchat game"?
haven't explored much with direct msg snaps but I just have super funny/crazy/expressive snap chat stories that pretty much show people that I got shit going on and am a good vibe to be around.
What is unbelievable is when a guy like Alex is seen as Major Dating coach, that say a lot about this community.
I remember hearing shit like "You can't game in Paris." "Miami is awful for game." But again incoherence is inherent to natural so..
Worse than saying nonsense is when you mix solid stuff with bullshit.
It's time to put out this text game book and finally to have a baseline for everyone so I don't have to see this type of shit again.
I had a brief look at it and even though there were some points I've never thought about earlier I was like "Mehh...I already know THAT and THEN SOME from my training with MW and the rest of the shit at his site, not to mention his book". I know I'm biased, but FUCK I don't think I'm ever gonna use any other texting advice, it feels so much weaker.
What is unbelievable is when a guy like Alex is seen as Major Dating coach, that say a lot about this community.I remember hearing shit like "You can't game in Paris." "Miami is awful for game." But again incoherence is inherent to natural so..
Worse than saying nonsense is when you mix solid stuff with bullshit.
It's time to put out this text game book and finally to have a baseline for everyone so I don't have to see this type of shit again.
oh shit shots fired..lol
But I agree. For me Alex's stuff is useless but others seem to really like his stuff.
Spagheddy that was a solid post. You've also got a lot of command of "group" dynamics which I find most guys have NO clue about, lol. You can take that same dynamic and start framing threesomes with it.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Lol time to bust out the +1 on posts!
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
So money spagheddy