"Alpha Nice" The Most Powerful AND "Agreeable" Archetype of Man
Thu, 12/20/2012 - 14:25
I've got an old buddy who lives life by a rarely seen but very powerful mindset.
He told me when he walked away from a girl (this guy has no fear of approaching a girl he likes), whether it worked out or not, whether he got a number or not, or would ever see her again, he was content. She'd gotten a compliment out of it, she'd gotten validated, and felt wanted.
I told my buddy, "A lot of guys are put off, myself at one point included, by the idea of giving a girl validation, without getting anything back from her."
He said, "I do not give a shit." (Completely non-needy.) And then offhand, "I get a lot of good energy from it."
He recently bought a scooter just for shits, and was having a hard time getting it into his car. He saw a guy passing by in his BMW and waved at him, the guy turned around and pulled over to help him attempt to lift it into his Del Sol (with the top down). When I heard this first part I was floored, and asked him multiple questions. There was no hidden information. He had flagged a random guy driving by to ask him to help him lift a 525lbs scooter. LOL.
Then when it didn't work, the guy offered to let him use his truck.
It took him 10 minutes to come back with it. But it didn't fit in the truck either. So he offered to let my buddy use one of his AAA tows for a few bucks! Unreal. When my buddy asked him why, bringing up the fact he was a stranger, the guy said, "I can tell you're a good guy, and life has been so good to me, I like to pass it back around."
Now when you think about it.. I believe what you're willing to ask from other people, (e.g. my buddy flagging the guy down in the street) is a direct reflection of the kinds of value you feel you have to offer other people, and what you are willing to give at all times. And like attracts like; he got the attention of someone else who was then willing to give. This is why mindset and inner game is so powerful. It shapes your behavior, and other people's behavior in turn. I am sure there are lots of people in this world who live a life completely untouched by fear and negativity. They don't even experience life on that level. Wonderful and amazing.
He sees tons of value in being nice and freely giving compliments and sincere positive energy. I've seen and heard this archetype many times but hadn't really experienced the root of it articulated so clearly.
He also is the one that got called out by the friend of a girl who he pulled away from the 6'5" guy she was talking to so he could ask her if that was her boyfriend. When confronted, he said "Hey. I can do anything I want, as long as I'm polite." She could only laugh and agree. And it wasn't the girl's boyfriend.
He proceeds to explain to them that he is special, because "I am a white guy that can DANCE." And proceeds to bust out the robot. This isn't dancing monkey, he's completely owning this like a boss. He's SUPER fucking cocky about how awesome he is. But this is because when he wants something he gets it done, and his work ethic is flawless. He takes care of his shit and stays consistent with maintaining the upkeep on everything that's his. He started selling cars on the street 9 years ago when we were both back in college together, (my first introduction to the entrepreneur mindset) and then saved up enough money to start buying property and renting it out to tenants.
This is what Jeffy means when he says, "Pimping is a lifestyle." People don't realize that pimping is management, and that management gives you faith in yourself, and the conviction to take what you want.
He told me when he walked away from a girl (this guy has no fear of approaching a girl he likes), whether it worked out or not, whether he got a number or not, or would ever see her again, he was content. She'd gotten a compliment out of it, she'd gotten validated, and felt wanted.
I told my buddy, "A lot of guys are put off, myself at one point included, by the idea of giving a girl validation, without getting anything back from her."
He said, "I do not give a shit." (Completely non-needy.) And then offhand, "I get a lot of good energy from it."
He recently bought a scooter just for shits, and was having a hard time getting it into his car. He saw a guy passing by in his BMW and waved at him, the guy turned around and pulled over to help him attempt to lift it into his Del Sol (with the top down). When I heard this first part I was floored, and asked him multiple questions. There was no hidden information. He had flagged a random guy driving by to ask him to help him lift a 525lbs scooter. LOL.
Then when it didn't work, the guy offered to let him use his truck.
It took him 10 minutes to come back with it. But it didn't fit in the truck either. So he offered to let my buddy use one of his AAA tows for a few bucks! Unreal. When my buddy asked him why, bringing up the fact he was a stranger, the guy said, "I can tell you're a good guy, and life has been so good to me, I like to pass it back around."
Now when you think about it.. I believe what you're willing to ask from other people, (e.g. my buddy flagging the guy down in the street) is a direct reflection of the kinds of value you feel you have to offer other people, and what you are willing to give at all times. And like attracts like; he got the attention of someone else who was then willing to give. This is why mindset and inner game is so powerful. It shapes your behavior, and other people's behavior in turn. I am sure there are lots of people in this world who live a life completely untouched by fear and negativity. They don't even experience life on that level. Wonderful and amazing.
He sees tons of value in being nice and freely giving compliments and sincere positive energy. I've seen and heard this archetype many times but hadn't really experienced the root of it articulated so clearly.
He also is the one that got called out by the friend of a girl who he pulled away from the 6'5" guy she was talking to so he could ask her if that was her boyfriend. When confronted, he said "Hey. I can do anything I want, as long as I'm polite." She could only laugh and agree. And it wasn't the girl's boyfriend.
He proceeds to explain to them that he is special, because "I am a white guy that can DANCE." And proceeds to bust out the robot. This isn't dancing monkey, he's completely owning this like a boss. He's SUPER fucking cocky about how awesome he is. But this is because when he wants something he gets it done, and his work ethic is flawless. He takes care of his shit and stays consistent with maintaining the upkeep on everything that's his. He started selling cars on the street 9 years ago when we were both back in college together, (my first introduction to the entrepreneur mindset) and then saved up enough money to start buying property and renting it out to tenants.
This is what Jeffy means when he says, "Pimping is a lifestyle." People don't realize that pimping is management, and that management gives you faith in yourself, and the conviction to take what you want.
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Thu, 12/20/2012 - 15:58
#1
interesting
@Manwhore:
Damn, parts of this remind me of maybe a slightly more experience//mature version of myself
But now I'm being more of an asshole... so maybe not ; )
Sounds like a really cool guy.
Damn, parts of this remind me of maybe a slightly more experience//mature version of myself
But now I'm being more of an asshole... so maybe not ; )
Sounds like a really cool guy.
Fri, 12/21/2012 - 00:27
#2
Re: "Alpha Nice" Th" Archetype of Man
@Manwhore:
This is baller.. The what you're willing to ask other people being directly related to value is sooo true. See that in myself and especially in naturals i know all the time.
This is baller.. The what you're willing to ask other people being directly related to value is sooo true. See that in myself and especially in naturals i know all the time.
Fri, 12/21/2012 - 23:53
#3
Pimping is management
Thanks for sharing this. Absolute gold. I don't know why guys like myself aren't more like this guy but it will come.
Pimping is management - excellent excellent analogy. I just blew thru 3 chicks in my rotation a couple of weeks and what I had left - my bottom bitch - just left me this week so I'm now at 0. Definitely mismanagement on my part. If i was hitting on all cylinders in my life this most likely wouldn't have been the case but that's where I have to be intelligent and properly re-diagnose what is most important to me in my life so as I add girls to my rotation again I'll be smarter.
Pimping is management - excellent excellent analogy. I just blew thru 3 chicks in my rotation a couple of weeks and what I had left - my bottom bitch - just left me this week so I'm now at 0. Definitely mismanagement on my part. If i was hitting on all cylinders in my life this most likely wouldn't have been the case but that's where I have to be intelligent and properly re-diagnose what is most important to me in my life so as I add girls to my rotation again I'll be smarter.
Manwhore;2012;5 wrote:
He proceeds to explain to them that he is special, because "I am a white guy that can DANCE." And proceeds to bust out the robot. This isn't dancing monkey, he's completely owning this like a boss. He's SUPER fucking cocky about how awesome he is. But this is because when he wants something he gets it done, and his work ethic is flawless. He takes care of his shit and stays consistent with maintaining the upkeep on everything that's his. He started selling cars on the street 9 years ago when we were both back in college together, (my first introduction to the entrepreneur mindset) and then saved up enough money to start buying property and renting it out to tenants.
This is what Jeffy means when he says, "Pimping is a lifestyle." People don't realize that pimping is management, and that management gives you faith in yourself, and the conviction to take what you want.