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I met this chick on an online dating site about 5 weeks ago we hit it off and started chatting on what's app. The chat was very flirty and got sexual fast but it took quite a bit of chat to get her out to meet me. The initial date was about 2 weeks after we started chatting but I had to cancel due to forgetting I had prior arrangements that night. She was cool with that but due to her busy work schedule (or so she claimed) couldn’t meet for about another 10 days after that. I eventually did meet her and it seemed to go well. We sat had a couple of drinks, chatted, had a laugh and she wasn’t opposed to my kino or anything. Kissed closed before she left and all seemed good.

We went back to the flirty sexual chat on what's app and I tried to arrange another date, she dilly dallied a bit claimed she would have to check her rota at work etc and eventually got back to me and suggest a date over a week in advance. I agreed and we kept chatting on an off, the chat getting very sexual from her not just me. But a couple of days before the date she started claiming to be sick with a cold/flu but waited to the day of the date before cancelling. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and accepted it. This was a week ago and she's still claiming to be ill and off work but getting better. Iv kept up the pressure to arrange another meet up but she said she doesn’t want to make plans with me yet in case her illness doesn’t clear up but she's still keen to keep up the sexy chat and flirting going.

I have feeling when she does get round to arranging another date she will make it 10 days or so away again. I cant seem to get her to jump to my tune as she always has her shift work rota as an excuse and she claims this covers weekends as well. Iv kept the chat cocky/funny and flirty and tried things like so why don’t you just invite me over and prove it when she’s talking dirty etc but she's always got an excuse. I am starting to get the feeling I’m getting strung along! But the signals are very mixed from her like she said when cancelling “I’m going to have to cancel tonight...i am genuinely sorry was looking forward to seeing you again.” which suggests she is really interested.

Normally I wouldn’t even have pursued this long without getting somewhere but she is at least one point higher on the looks scale than I can usually get and a good bit younger than me so seems worth it. Plus I am sarging other women but not had much success with anyone else lately.

I guess what I am asking is if we arrange a date again and she makes it a week or so away in advance how should I handle it? And if she then cancels again what should I do?

Basically I want to tell her to step up and start living up to some of these promises she’s made ( sexual or otherwise) and actually put some effort into taking this further or I’m going to have to cut her loose. But how do I do that without seeming needy and fucking it up?

I’m starting to think she is fading me out tbh The communication does seem to be less than it used to be and I get the feeling if I don’t start the interaction she wont. When we do talk it is still very flirty and the sexual stuff was started by her the last time. Its almost as if she loves the text chat and gets a thrill from it but does not really want to meet and take it forward :roll:

My text game is very sexual and flirty with women also and usually works but I think sometimes it can make them nervous about meeting.

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Holmes the issue here is very

Holmes the issue here is very simple. You had a sexualized text convo beforehand, then settled for a kiss at the end of the date. That's absolute fucking rubbish. I mean.. NO man gets respect for that. Of course she's blowing you off now. Where's your sexual escalation here? A fucking kiss? C'mon dude

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It was'nt quite as simple as

It was'nt quite as simple as that the date was always framed by me as just to touch base and see if we actaully like each other, the next date was supposed to be the one where things got steamy. There was a lot of firty texting back and forth after that date with her messing with me saying she was gonna make me wait 6 dates before sex and all that and me hitting back with we will see, why dont you invite me over see how long you can resist etc... Sex most definalty seemed on the cards she had even suggested I tie her up and do what I wanted including anal it now just seems strange that she is fading me out and putting up obsticales.

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First of all that has

First of all that has absolutely zero to do with it. Whatever the context, but especially with the fact that sex was brought up beforehand, you should have made it happen. You're looking at an incomplete skill set here, held back by whatever this rationale is you're trying to prove. But on top of that come to find out you're framing things wrong lol. Issues, mang.

Upload the text convo I'll take a look and explain. 

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She's went totally cold on me

She's went totally cold on me now but the text convo is really long 4 or 5 weeks worth of chat in it. Are you sure you want to see all of that or only highlights?

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Yes highlights if you want.

Yes highlights if you want. Doesn't matter to me ;) 

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