Any inner resentments and bitterness towards woman that has been holding me back
So in my last session with John, we discovered inner resentments that has been holding me back. I would like to share with all of you what I have learned, hoping that it would be helpful to all of you.
Summary of session:
In this session, we revised the institution of patriarchy and how this has affected society, women, but moreover, me as a man. This was absolutely necessary because of some of my unwholesome actions/thoughts this past week. The patriarchy is an artificial construct that suppresses female sexuality in order to control society. As boys we were timid, weak and born unconscious into this world. The idea of free-flowing female sexual expression is unknown to us and plays right into our fears. Given our tendencies to stay in homeostasis (as opposed to thrive), the misconceptions enforced on us such as labeling female sexuality as bad and sinful, is soothing to us. Controlling woman and “owning" their sexual desires is comforting to us, because we do not need to feel vulnerable around them anymore (e.g. losing them). Girls own me NOTHING, and I have to earn every right to have them and keep hem.
Would love to see where you take this
Mind you this was more a "Coming to Jesus" talk, but it had to be done. This shit is real pervasive, will interfere at almost every level of intimacy with a woman. I'm going to make a vid on it for the membership.
Really like this post man, it also makes a ton of sense. I caught myself running into something similar this weekend. I was having some really good initial approaches but as the night went on I went from playfully busting balls and having good banter with the women.... To basically overusing it which caused their mood to sour really quickly.
I didnt pick pick up on it until reading this. Being new to this though I almost think I am continuing to "neg" too much because I probably still have some deep down resentment / anger / insecurities from the past... So in order to feel good enough I have to bring them down.