Aspiring young actress
met this girl yesterday after sports. She was jumping out of a taxi, I called her over to me. we talked for a minute or two, I think I held her hand for the whole time. She was late for some fashion shoot. Vibe was very good. She told me her name and facebook. I let her a give me her number instead.She called herself from my phone and off she was.
My first text was pretty lame, lol, but couldn't think of anything cool yesterday.
me: hey, Mademoiselle, it was a pleasure (: Chris
today I stalked some actresspage where she is on. she's got an incredible long list of sports and other talents there. So I send her this (which I believe to be way more in the right spirit)
14:36
me: geez, young lady, you seem to be a real jack of all trades.. just stalked your profile on xx and Co :D you're gorgeous!
me: although I sorely miss cooking among your talents ;) How was your shoot?
16:58
her: Indeed I cannot cook :/ It was good thx, for asking.
So how to proceed best?
Was thinking maybe:
me: no worries, as long as your are not a chewer, I might still share my pizza with you ;) (btw the chewing thing I took to be about chewing nails, is it?)
me: just heading out to a dinner at friends, then to the opening of a museum near x platz
me: what are your plans?
me: BTW send me a pic!
The vibe here sounds terrible. Way too approval-seeking. This is a "polite" conversation
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Oh. Woh ya
thats crazy
ow shit.
I would say
I actually just finshed doing a shoot too. How about that? It is like we are the same or something... ;)
Only the haircut line can salvage this
It's cause the leve ofl text game being posted in this forum is so high, that then a dude comes on here with like normal-level text game and instantly everyone is like damnnn
haha
Chris what would Zan say about this
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
hahaha, you guys.. your collected answers answer just made laugh
@PF: indeed, posting my texts on this forum does feel pretty... embarrassing, lol,
besides for the moment trying to unlame my text game makes it even worse,
@MW: "The vibe here sounds terrible. Way too approval-seeking. This is a "polite" conversation"
yeah, I see this when I came back last night and read this again with your comment, I cringed pretty hard. Even my chodey roomy did, when I read it to him. This is probably the limp dick of texting
At that time I had already made it royally worse, though, as I wrote this:
me: didn't actually dare to hope haha hey, but as long as you chew on your nails and laugh at my jokes..
me: just finished last exam ever and heading over to dinner at friend's. Later maybe off to the opening of x museum.
me: what are your plans?
me: * DON'T chew on your nails
No response, and I didn't even expect one, but surprise, surprise today she wrote this:
her: well, unfortunately I do chew on my nails.... hmm. I'm pretty busy the these days, but next weeks looks fine :)
Now here she is just asking for the hair line or somehting similar, isn't she? like daring me to punish her. but I have to do it without taking myself completely out.. maybe indeed.
me: its fine I don't like your hair anyway
me: just kidding
@Manwhore: who Zan? guy from the game? not sure what you mean here.
haha whatttttttt?
DUDE
Why did you punish her after she agreed to get the ball rollin on a meetup- sounds buthurt
Like this was the perfect opportunity to do what I like to call "Chode then Explode"- basically you started off super chode, but she just opened the door for you to explode out of that chodiness, and hold space for both of you.
Also- your in-person game sounded on point. I was about to say that actually. Like your textgame obv needs some work, but from what you wrote about the in-person aspect... solid
No response, and I didn't even expect one, but surprise, surprise today she wrote this:
her: well, unfortunately I do chew on my nails.... hmm. I'm pretty busy the these days, but next weeks looks fine :)
Now here she is just asking for the hair line or somehting similar, isn't she? like daring me to punish her. but I have to do it without taking myself completely out.. maybe indeed.
me: its fine I don't like your hair anyway
me: just kidding
Wtf was that.. you better be kidding lol
What was you trying to accomplish with that line?
Feels like you were trying to get a reaction or something, using as a technique instead of an expression, felt attention seeking.
That was not well placed, but as you make mistakes you will get a feel for that.
That "just kidding" right after without her even responding was also out of place, felt approval seeking.
You could of have gone about her chewing nails because she's anxious to see you again, that she's nervous around you, or that she has anxiety but she don't need to worry because you will protect her from the bullies or boogie monster when you guys are out (you said you held her hand for the hole time, use that in this context too), then do plans for the next week and keep adding some value till the meet up.
haha whatttttttt?DUDE
Why did you punish her after she agreed to get the ball rollin on a meetup- sounds buthurt
Like this was the perfect opportunity to do what I like to call "Chode then Explode"- basically you started off super chode, but she just opened the door for you to explode out of that chodiness, and hold space for both of you.
Also- your in-person game sounded on point. I was about to say that actually. Like your textgame obv needs some work, but from what you wrote about the in-person aspect... solid
hahaha, I didn't write anything yet, as she took a day to respond, I have no hurry. just a first thought that I had, before running off to sport. good thing you tell me its bad call, though, anyway. don't feel butthurt. just can't judge impact of text all. In person I generally know, when I'm off lol
my thinking was here I kind of said that chewing nails is dealbreaker, even if obviously in joking, and now jumping on the invitation, would be chode again. but the hairline would have been definitely overkill in this case.. teasing not punishing
lets see if I can make the chode explode.
I think The King gave me some golden hints there.
Chris wrote:
No response, and I didn't even expect one, but surprise, surprise today she wrote this:
her: well, unfortunately I do chew on my nails.... hmm. I'm pretty busy the these days, but next weeks looks fine :)
Now here she is just asking for the hair line or somehting similar, isn't she? like daring me to punish her. but I have to do it without taking myself completely out.. maybe indeed.
me: its fine I don't like your hair anyway
me: just kidding
Wtf was that.. you better be kidding lol
What was you trying to accomplish with that line?
Feels like you were trying to get a reaction or something, using as a technique instead of an expression, felt attention seeking.
That was not well placed, but as you make mistakes you will get a feel for that.
That "just kidding" right after without her even responding was also out of place, felt approval seeking.
You could of have gone about her chewing nails because she's anxious to see you again, that she's nervous around you, or that she has anxiety but she don't need to worry because you will protect her from the bullies or boogie monster when you guys are out (you said you held her hand for the hole time, use that in this context too), then do plans for the next week and keep adding some value till the meet up.
thx, for your input man, this was incredible helpful. didn't write anything yet. But I really like the anxiety-about-me-theme you brought up. Ha!
will take some and fuckups for me to learn this, still, haha, I'm a slow learner
been juggling with that theme for.. way tooo long to be honest, haha but anyway this what I came up with:
me: nervous?! you're thinking too much about me ;) It'll pass as soon as you can hold my hand again.
me: next week sounds good. mo or tu night 9:30?
then possibly
me: as a word of warning though, I'm like the cookie monster only for icecream, so going out with me does come with a few responsibilities..
if she bites, or not if she bites. to wait or not to wait
me: but mostly its just massaging the back of my neck while keeping the stream of icecream steady
Those are much better
In the first one- take out that second part about holding your hand. The first aprt is good though
Also- if you send it, double text immediately after, with something about like protecting her, or relating to her in some way..... does that make sense?
Oh but if you choose the "relating to her" route- make sure you don't sound like a bitch.
Like craft it such that you're relating to her but like in a humourously cocky way, or you can be a lil self depricating but I kinda like to save that for when she's chasing a lil more
ahhaha, oh man, send the whole thing as three text. then added another one.. on your first suggestion:
me: in return I'm gonna feed you strawberries and keep the bad guys at bay
hit sent, tensed immediately, because of the 'in return', went back here to read this ^^, facepalmed hard
immediately sent another text for damage control,
me: okay, I lied, I'm gonna have the strawberries all for my self ;)
not sure, how sound the the damage control was lol
but whatever happens this has already been hell lot of fun, who'd have thought that.
Lol I like it actually.
looks hawt
ha, nice :D
really appreciated your help!!
will keep you guys updated
me: nervous?! you're thinking too much about me ;) It'll pass as soon as you can hold my hand again.
me: next week sounds good. mo or tu night 9:30?
me: as a word of warning though, I'm like the cookie monster only for icecream, so going out with me does come with a few responsibilities..
me: but mostly its just massaging the back of my neck while keeping the stream of icecream steady
no response yet. probably just to many texts at once. looks like I worked works hard at these, and I did. lol,
anyway, its okay because its for the greater good, me learning this shiat. so given time this will just flow like in real life!
In my current analysis, I shoud have just send the first one i.e." nervous?! ... " , and then give her some room to come back to me. then eventually come up with the cookiemonster line, and the relating stuff.
also, I shoud have put an extra five minutes working on the fluidity of the second texts in german. they didn't read that good in hindsight.
might hit up again tomorrow, with something cocky AND SHORT, I figured
Okay, I'm confused... you sent all 4 of those texts at once??
If so- yeah that's wayy too much, especially the way you formulated the texts... it's too many "word" plus you're asking a question, in the middle
It looks like you're trying hard
I'm a HUGE fan of sending anywhere from 2-4 texts at once, but it had to be done properly
Okay, I'm confused... you sent all 4 of those texts at once??If so- yeah that's wayy too much, especially the way you formulated the texts... it's too many "word" plus you're asking a question, in the middle
It looks like you're trying hard
I'm a HUGE fan of sending anywhere from 2-4 texts at once, but it had to be done properly
hahaha, jeah, I really misunderstood that. Probably wanted to, because I was so in love with my presumed wittyness.
also never seen this here on the forumbefore. matter of fact, I WAS trying too hard.
Good thing is, I'll never do that again!
Easy answer is wait a couple days then just leave her a voicemail. Keep your voice low and smooth, just tell her something funny about your day or something like that, then just tell her you'll talk to her later. Do NOT ask her to call you or text you back, or even hint at you two meeting up.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Easy answer is wait a couple days then just leave her a voicemail. Keep your voice low and smooth, just tell her something funny about your day or something like that, then just tell her you'll talk to her later. Do NOT ask her to call you or text you back, or even hint at you two meeting up.
coool, man, thx! makes a lot of sense to me. will give her two more days, I figured, then leave her that message.
Easy answer is wait a couple days then just leave her a voicemail. Keep your voice low and smooth, just tell her something funny about your day or something like that, then just tell her you'll talk to her later. Do NOT ask her to call you or text you back, or even hint at you two meeting up.
coool, man, thx! makes a lot of sense to me. will give her two more days, I figured, then leave her that message.
Manwhore wrote:
Easy answer is wait a couple days then just leave her a voicemail. Keep your voice low and smooth, just tell her something funny about your day or something like that, then just tell her you'll talk to her later. Do NOT ask her to call you or text you back, or even hint at you two meeting up.coool, man, thx! makes a lot of sense to me. will give her two more days, I figured, then leave her that message.
Well, so I left her that message on tuesday evening. Kept it short. Just told I just had a big bowl of strawberries, with extra cream and sugar... because I can! And it made me think of her, chuckled. also that I'm super sore from training. Talk soon and fine. maybe 30-40 secs.
I think it was okay smooth. I had practiced a little what I wanted to say, because confronted with voicebox, I usually mumble something indiscernible and confused, lol. But now I started to leave voicemails for everyone, when I can't catch them on phone. Better to be spontaneous.
Long stoy short, hit her up with the traffic line on thursday. No response. And I can't really blame her. As the interaction was so short. She must really think, why the hell I put so much effort in to this. It seems disproportional. Especially since I fucked up the light vibe, with the overdone texting. So I'm going to let it breath for a week or two again. try something else, maybe call again.
BTW. I changed up the traffic line a bit.
"I'm so over this whole public transportation thing, soon they gonna built a metro just for me."
seemed fitting because take the metro everyday. You think this still delivers the impact?
As long as she doesn't understand the homosexual implications
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
As long as she doesn't understand the homosexual implications
lol,damn.
so you say using public transportation is gay? Low value? I see how that might be conceived like that, thus my uncertainty probably.
or where else lies my faggotry here?
lol I mean just on a logical level- the text kinda doesn't make sense anymore ya know?
Like the whole point is that you hate public transportation, but theroretically you use it because it's faster than stalling in traffic all day..... so the idea is that they're gonna bulid a highway just for you, so you don't have to use public transit but also don't have to wait in any traffic or anything
Honesly, I feel dumb having to break this down for yall haha
Fuck me derp style
I mean, if Mr. Rogers wrote texts, and liked little boys..
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I'm sick of getting my hands dirty. They're gonna build me my own nail salon so I can get manicures and pedicures any time I want
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I'm sick of these boring, "typical" merry-go-rounds. Soon they'll make me my own with different sized butt plugs to try out. Lions, tigers and bears, oh my
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Lol those are a bit clunky but you catch my drift
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
lol I mean just on a logical level- the text kinda doesn't make sense anymore ya know?Like the whole point is that you hate public transportation, but theroretically you use it because it's faster than stalling in traffic all day..... so the idea is that they're gonna bulid a highway just for you, so you don't have to use public transit but also don't have to wait in any traffic or anything
Honesly, I feel dumb having to break this down for yall haha
Fuck me derp style
haha fuck, if you put it that way...
I was like 'well, everyone hates public transportation, you have to wait all the time, with lots of other stinky assholes, then it you can't sit because of two many other stinky assholes, then you are standing creammed in between too many other stinky assholes, and then then you can't get out because too many stinky assholes want to get before hte others got out'
So it kinda of made sense to me wanting a metro for myself.
But anyway its still kind of ridiculous, because where I'm at right PT is pretty excellent.
DURRR
I'm sick of these boring, "typical" merry-go-rounds. Soon they'll make me my own with different sized butt plugs to try out. Lions, tigers and bears, oh my
Aight! lol I got it
going fully derpstyle