Banging on da side - not cheating is cheating on yourself - damage control

When I was 17 I borrowed my sisters car as usual and hooked up in the back seat. Two days later were driving, she somehow pulls a blonde hair out of thin air and questions who I had in there. Lol she only brought it up cause she knew what was up and wanted to tease me. Moral of the story is I have no idea how she deduced that from a single hair in the backseat that could've been anybodies, girls are the true detective. 

Im wondering this as well, it quickly became the elephant in the room in my last relationship. IMO honesty is the best policy but that doesn't necessarily mean you want to verbalize it or disrespect her. Obviously I'd inquire into any previous history of making out with girls and see if she's bi curious  

I'm in the same situation as you are. I finally find a girl who know:

- How to cook.

- How to fuck.

- Read.

- And fucking sing.

They all think they do but they don't so this one is my numéro uno. Now the first time I meet her I was myself fucking around.

Then I invite her to one of my favorite nightclub, that night I got a girl from Switzerland coming for me, a group of girls from Netherland and a 8 blond in the VIP area I fail to #close.

This girl was feeling devalidated. I was owning it, so I contact her and we meet again, we fuck like monkey & she assume I was that guy. This is not a thing you put on along the way you put the frame from the start.

Also the fact you Patrick doubt it is what will probably fuck it up, because as you know it's the certainty behind your actions that make them work. I assume you doubt but you might not.

I'm very blant about who I am, why hiding ? That is so fucking low value as a men. You don't bend, she did.

This is a tough question and it's honestly gonna be different for every girl. I will write a more detailed post soon but I will say you need to get out in front of these situations before they happen. Whether it be through subcommunication or spoken word, the girl has to have at least some inkling of knowledge that you will hook up with other girls if the situation presents itself. It's super sad to see a guy who is locked down and the girl has literally ZERO fear of losing him because she knows he will never cheat on her. That basically means you have given away your biological feelings as a man. I'm not saying you have to cheat, but she should know that you can if you choose to.

This is a tough question and it's honestly gonna be different for every girl. I will write a more detailed post soon but I will say you need to get out in front of these situations before they happen. Whether it be through subcommunication or spoken word, the girl has to have at least some inkling of knowledge that you will hook up with other girls if the situation presents itself. It's super sad to see a guy who is locked down and the girl has literally ZERO fear of losing him because she knows he will never cheat on her. That basically means you have given away your biological feelings as a man. I'm not saying you have to cheat, but she should know that you can if you choose to.

P.B. it's going to be easy for you to handle because your girl already expects it from you. Maybe you don't remember but it was you that pushed this exclusivity thing onto her. 'Member our convos about this? I was sort of incredulous, derpy derp. 

One time my super fine alpha as fuck girlfriend found a condom in my toilet (DURRRR) and I was like.. oh. That was pretty much the extent of my reaction lol. I said some bullshit she said her piece I let her. She blew off some steam said she was enough woman for any man if she found out I was cheating on her she'd leave, etc. Which is sorta the point- they don't want to deal with the public social repercussions of being found out their man is cheating on them. She didn't really address it pointedly. Then I fucked her and problem solved. She never brought it up again. Women have different sexual needs than men, and the good ones understand we're wired a bit differently, LOL. 

I was dating a girl when one of our mutual friends who'd recently pissed me off when she wouldn't/couldn't admit she'd done something wrong (Vegas bullshit) and I'd ended up dropping her as a friend, subsequently told this girl she'd heard I'd had a threesome and fucked a "black girl" (she literally tried to bring racism into this). Still not sure how this got out? Lol. So at some point she's like.. so and so told me you derpy-derped? I just sort of looked at her like I didn't know what was going on but damn these potatoes taste really good! Done 

The only thing that trips me out about this is the std aspect. You seriously dont wanna give your chick an std. Ive done it before and breaking the news to her was not a fun experience.  Ive become pretty gun shy since then and havnt been sleeping around as much as I could.

To be fair I got the std from fucking around without a condom. Have you guys ever caught anything using a condom?

Yeah if you're messing around you should at least be wearing a condom. That's dbag territory