The best advice I got so far from RSD

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Thu, 08/28/2014 - 10:55

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Hey guys,

I'm Ced from the RSDN forum :)

as requested by Manwhore, I'm reposting this topic here. Hope you like it.

full thread here: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/534705/forum (sorry mods if this ain't OK)

Have all a great week!

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Hey pimps,

I learned a black-hole sized shitload of lifechanging stuff since joining RSDN,

but among all the advice, rules, techniques and mindset I read and heard about, the one that has had the single biggest impact on my relationships and dynamics with chicks is this: Treat every girl as if she was 5 yo, or your baby daughter.

THIS , is fucking magic. The be unreactive, lead, etc, are all pillar advice, but this way of thinking includes and integrates most of PU philosophy in one stroke.

I just had an extensively social weekend, from friday (party/karaoke/date/f-close) to saturday (Birthday Party/karaoke/f-close in karaoke box with sleeping people all around) to Sunday (art event/jam/after-party f-close) and had to cancel dates next week to secure new ones I got over the weekend. Fucking crazy.

All over the weekend, my brain never left game mode, I even woke up in state on sunday... amazing... I woke up from a dream about the party the night before, woke up smiling, talking to myself, gaming my mirror, danced with my punching bag, sang in the shower, and went right on to that art event. I played MC spontaneously for both parties, it went great, and I kept getting spontaneous phone numbers. And all the while, the only thing I focused on was to treat every single girl like a lost 5yo in need of daddy's rescue.

I would see a girl looking this way, extend both hands, and think to myself "are you lost, sweetie? where is your daddy?"

And they would all rush in. And we're talking about a culture who does.not.hug. and has basically very little to zero social physical contact customs. All you need is to have this aura that shows you CARE, and want to bridge the gap. And that's enough to make them come to you. It also works on all ages, and on married chicks too. I gamed the birthday girl, her younger sister, her mom and their gay friend at the same time... it was hilarious, especially when the mom (67???) was the one getting the most excited and not wanting to leave LOL

All weekend, I think I must have opened around 80-85 girls, plus most males there too.

I would pull them close (the girls, mind you.... ), take their chin in my hand, caress their lips, touch their ears, pat their heads, hug them, 2 at a time,

I neck-kissed more chicks in two days than I could ever fuck in a whole month.

I also love to open the staff and the owner... they give you instant social proof, and makes moving around with confidence easier. People can see how the staff relates to you.

Also in both shops, the staff was hotter than the customers and guests... I have a date with on of those, but the other saw me coming... too bad... smoking hot photographer.

this mindset is crazy efficient. Leading is great, being unreactive is great... but when you're dealing with a 5 yo girl, this all becomes matter of fact. In the middle of the second party, some folks brought kids... real kids... an 8 yo boy and a 6yo girl...

the boy stayed as far from me as he could all evening... the girl kept coming back to where I was playing my handpan, and I would treat her exactly like all the adults, except for the neckkiss of course, but beyond that, I talked to her the same way, I looked at her the same way, and it was so funny to switch from a real 6yo to a 26 yo, and watch them behave exactly the same way, entranced.

All of you guys with AA or starting in the game like me, please give it a shot and see what happens.

This is my new default mode. I won't go sexual/aggressive on girls for a while... I want to test this in daygame.

The girls I closed this weekend, from this mindset entry, got so close and so relaxed around me, within minutes, that when I started slipping my hand under their clothes, nobody even realized we had moved to another type of relationship.

fucking magic.

There were a few bitches there too.... and I thought they would just flip me the finger, but they didn't... because I had a whole day of momentum behind me, and basically, it's not about THEM, it's about YOU... so when you look at them from this mindset, they fold in... there is no reason for them to keep playing the bitch, because you're offering salvation...

fuck.ing Magic

Thu, 08/28/2014 - 11:01

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btw

Oh btw,

some background: I'm caucasian, 36, overweight (ie. I do not look fit), my fashion sense sucks, I do not give a fuck about what's fashionable, without of course dressing like a clown. I have a poney tail and a musketeer goatee, not especially wealthy, living in Tokyo and fluent in Japanese. I "date" any age between early twenties to late thirties... and nothing I consider anything less than "pretty". Just saying, this shit works, including on smoking hot european girls in their mid-20s. They don't understand WHY they're attracted, but they are, all the way to the bedroom.

Thu, 08/28/2014 - 11:05

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btw

sorry, posting on the go

Thu, 08/28/2014 - 14:14

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Yo man, this is really cool

Yo man, this is really cool shit. Also read through whole the thread on RSD.

I really dig how your overall attude comes through in your writing, too. very amicable. Kudos to you.

Also made me realize that whenever I do good with chicks I have exactly THAT attitude towards them. And when I suck I don't. Ha!

Probably will pay off big time to remind myself consciously of this! Will let you know.

Thu, 08/28/2014 - 15:55

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Bossssssdadddyyy! ever a

Bossssssdadddyyy!

ever a time where you would want to break that frame throughout the initial interaction/day 2/relationship

Thu, 08/28/2014 - 19:34

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Oh yes child abuse is still

Oh yes child abuse is still alive and well.

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Sun, 08/31/2014 - 03:42

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thx dude :)

@chris,

thx dude :)

Sun, 08/31/2014 - 19:27

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What's great about this is

What's great about this is the loving/endearing frame you're coming from that soothes any sort of nonsense from girls or guys before it even starts. AND.. if it does happen that frame just soothes right over it without feeding it. And yes it can be very sexual

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Tue, 09/02/2014 - 06:01

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agreed. works great with

agreed.

works great with chicks' parents too.

I've also spent the weekend (intensive bootcamp in Holistic Healing) using it on and off with my students... terrible difference between on and off.

On day one I was beat so it didn't hit me to try. I had a bad interaction all day long because they were all stressed out, my boss and I having flown in from Tokyo just to teach them.

On day two I went papabear on them, and as Manwhore put it, it soothes all their issues, and they can relaxed into.. well you. lol

It also allows whatever physicality you want. I treated everyone as if I was supposed to make physical contact all the time, somewhere between an american family skinship level, and what a guy would do in warm approach to convey sexual interest. It worked like a charm all day long, and I even pushed my deep-tissue massage sessions further than usual, coughcough further.

On day three I went off, I'm your instructor, keep up or go go home. Well, not that bad but still no papabear. Huge distance between us. Almost shockingly cold. Of course I had to accept that the difference came directly and completely from me and my attitude. It's surprising.

On day four, yesterday, we only had the morning to work, then headed off to the airport. I went papabear again on them since the moment they got off the car, and it went great all morning long.

Again, I was almost obnoxiously entitled and physical. And we're talking about Japanese from the countryside, in a culture not including skinship and physicality outside of the bedsheets.

Even with their kids they have very little skinship. So it all depends on how YOU project yourself, and how well you are seated within your own paradigm.