The best advice I got so far from RSD
I'm Ced from the RSDN forum :)
as requested by Manwhore, I'm reposting this topic here. Hope you like it.
full thread here: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/534705/forum (sorry mods if this ain't OK)
Have all a great week!
some background: I'm caucasian, 36, overweight (ie. I do not look fit), my fashion sense sucks, I do not give a fuck about what's fashionable, without of course dressing like a clown. I have a poney tail and a musketeer goatee, not especially wealthy, living in Tokyo and fluent in Japanese. I "date" any age between early twenties to late thirties... and nothing I consider anything less than "pretty". Just saying, this shit works, including on smoking hot european girls in their mid-20s. They don't understand WHY they're attracted, but they are, all the way to the bedroom.
sorry, posting on the go
Yo man, this is really cool shit. Also read through whole the thread on RSD.
I really dig how your overall attude comes through in your writing, too. very amicable. Kudos to you.
Also made me realize that whenever I do good with chicks I have exactly THAT attitude towards them. And when I suck I don't. Ha!
Probably will pay off big time to remind myself consciously of this! Will let you know.
ever a time where you would want to break that frame throughout the initial interaction/day 2/relationship
Oh yes child abuse is still alive and well.
thx dude :)
What's great about this is the loving/endearing frame you're coming from that soothes any sort of nonsense from girls or guys before it even starts. AND.. if it does happen that frame just soothes right over it without feeding it. And yes it can be very sexual
works great with chicks' parents too.
I've also spent the weekend (intensive bootcamp in Holistic Healing) using it on and off with my students... terrible difference between on and off.
On day one I was beat so it didn't hit me to try. I had a bad interaction all day long because they were all stressed out, my boss and I having flown in from Tokyo just to teach them.
On day two I went papabear on them, and as Manwhore put it, it soothes all their issues, and they can relaxed into.. well you. lol
It also allows whatever physicality you want. I treated everyone as if I was supposed to make physical contact all the time, somewhere between an american family skinship level, and what a guy would do in warm approach to convey sexual interest. It worked like a charm all day long, and I even pushed my deep-tissue massage sessions further than usual, coughcough further.
On day three I went off, I'm your instructor, keep up or go go home. Well, not that bad but still no papabear. Huge distance between us. Almost shockingly cold. Of course I had to accept that the difference came directly and completely from me and my attitude. It's surprising.
On day four, yesterday, we only had the morning to work, then headed off to the airport. I went papabear again on them since the moment they got off the car, and it went great all morning long.
Again, I was almost obnoxiously entitled and physical. And we're talking about Japanese from the countryside, in a culture not including skinship and physicality outside of the bedsheets.
Even with their kids they have very little skinship. So it all depends on how YOU project yourself, and how well you are seated within your own paradigm.