BF Destroyed? Seems like it.
So, I been going back and forth with this assistant manager from work. Hooked up a couple times and then all of a sudden she drops the "let's just be friends" thing on me again. The first time, I played it off and just gamed as per usual and it did the trick. Although, last night she did it again and I straight up declined the offer to be just friends. Basically said it won't work since I want more than that from her so I won't settle for less.
She basically said her situation is hard cause her bf moved across the country to be with her and they been together for 4 years. Fair enough in my opinion but may the better man win at the end of the day... She's saying she really likes me and would rather be friends than nothing at all since we can't be more. Again, I declined this and wished her the best. Anyway, she decided to clear her mind on it and decide what she wants to do, leave him for me or stick with him. Not a biggie, but she's saying she's not sure where she's happier. I told her I wish her the best and to take it easy and do her own thing while she figures shit out. Clearly, I'm not waiting but I know I haven't heard the last of her or seen it lol. I'm finding it interesting that she chases hard after and fights it when I decline her friendship offers. Seems like she might want to keep me in the wings. Not my style.
I'll probably decline her friend offer if it swings my way today after she's done clearing up her head, cause I honestly don't want that... I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't have an answer though. She seems very confused.
This girl will 100% hit me up today. I'm not sure what my game plan is for it though. What I want is for her to hook up and be with me, but the situation seems tricky. What do you guys suggest doing to swing this in my favor and get her to leave the chump?
All you offer this chick is some d. You're not that good a conversationalist, you're not looking for a relationship, in fact there's a LOT of cons associated with hooking up with you. You've already expressed a lack of discreteness. I'd recommend this girl do the right thing and shine your ass on.
I've definitely picked up with the discreteness. Especially after last time. Definitely helped. I'd be cool with having a relationship with this girl as well, it's just I'm not sure how to approach it. I don't usually go for girls with boyfriends.
Maybe she's picked up on those things you're saying. I do however like this girl, I just don't really want to work myself up over it. I have been trying to just stay busy with other girls in the meantime, trying to keep a clear head. I know where I'd like to take it, just not sure how.