Blueprint for a Structured Approach to Consciously Living Life
What's the one thing in your life right now that's preventing you from giving 100% to your core focus?
Personally, I know what my core goals are in my life right now:
1. Wealth accumulation
2. Job Progression
3. Health
So when I look at what I'm doing on a day-to-day basis, everything I'm doing needs to map to one of those areas.
-Drugs? Nope
-Alcohol? Nope
-Netflix Binging? Nope
-Video Games? Nope
-Eating Junk? Nope
The list goes on but what's helpful for me (maybe not for you but I need to relate my experience and what's successful for ME because that's all I really know) is putting structure into place. I operate extremely well from a place of structure and poorly from a place of lack of structure.
Every couple months I basically do an inventory of where I'm at and purge the areas of my life that aren't contributing to my core drivers and goals. This part is where self honesty comes in heavy.
This is doesn't mean eliminating all sources of fun, relaxation and it doesn't mean eliminating all opportunities to "take a break" every now and then.
What it DOES mean is taking an honest and unfiltered look at where time is being spent and evaluating whether it aligns to those core drivers. Healthy fun and opportunities to take a break are all a part of my health and mental clarity, so as part of an honest assessment that's where those fit in.
Life isn't long and accomplishments aren't easy to come by. Simply floating, directionless, through life will not result in confidence or self esteem because you will continually fall short of your dreams. Taking control of your life and driving it like you would a business, with clarity and a set of core principles will support you in making a best effort to accomplish goals, which naturally leads to self esteem, confidence and an enjoyable existence.
Where are you at? This isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. There’s time in life when what’s needed is to simply float but in my experience, too much floating leads to depression, lack of self esteem, random mood fluctuations, weight gain, loss of money etc.
Find your drivers and create balance with structure - that’s the approach that works for me. This approach has been developed through breaking down my “high periods” and “low periods” and taking a critical look at what was going in my life during these phases. By isolating what I was doing, I’ve been able to see what, for me, amounts to a recipe for success and feeling fucking fantastic on a day-to-day basis and on the flip-side what the recipe is for me to lose this feeling.
When you break your core drivers down, at least what I found, was that there’s a surprising amount of flexibility as far as what actually fits into a model of success for me. Things like hanging out with friends, with no ulterior motive other than enjoying their presence, is critical to my health, so I don’t just tolerate it I make it a core focus of my day-to-day and week-to-week behaviors.
But what if you add in drinking or drugs to hanging out with the buddies? Depends…. I can’t diagnose what your recipe looks like but what I can do is share the structure, setup and approach that works for me and the types of factors that may need to be though through.
Identify what you want to accomplish. Create goals and benchmarks for yourself and then look at your time and activities and see what honestly fits and what needs to be taken out.
This is my blueprint for how to approach the goal of living life consciously and with a purpose.
Really like this post man, very comprehensive and also hits on a few seldom discussed areas in the PUA community. A lot of times i feel like when i am reading posts on various forums its almost as if its coming from a hyper compulsive person who simply replaced binging on call of duty and mt dew with pickup. They still have literally no balance in life for anything else and lack some of the structure and discipline to achieve it. BUT, since they are getting laid, thats good enough. Very short sided, IMO
Two weekends ago i actually sat down and did a very similar inventory of both my time and current focus now that training is over.
-Health / fitness
-Career progression
-Pickup
I realized that lately, i have been super lethargic because I’ve been spending too much time at the gym (6 days), which has been hurting my progression at work and also my results when i go out. So i switched things up, 4 days a week in the gym, 1 day of cardio, 2 off days. Going out 4 nights a week still, but likely with much more energy now. Also, eliminating drinking for a while so that i can still grind away 55-60 hours a week at work. Planning out a schedule helped me a lot to visualize things M: Gym T: Gym W: no gym, going out Th: Gym, go out F: Gym, go out S: cardio, go out Sun: totally off day for whatever i want to do with it, hopefully relax and get in some reading and yoga.
It’s the first time in probably 10 years i have not drank... my energy level is at high score levels and it feels great. Definitely a bit intimidating though being at the club sober, but you realize how much of an advantage it is when you are just swinging your meat hammer around and everyone else is standing at the bar praying that after a few more shots they will be able to go engage the Asian with the huge tits. Not me =D
Yeah, I think experimentation is the right approach. Sometimes it's hard to tell what's causing the lathargy, so just experiment.
For me, removing carbs from my diet has had the most profound impact on my brain and my clarity of anything I've ever done.
But youre also right that this approach is based around balance. I've found that for me, I operate best the more balanced my approach to life is. I've tended in the past to go 300% in one area and then go 300% in a different area but I don't think this is optimal for me.
just figure out what it is you want to achieve and then add in the behaviors that let you succeed at that the most and remove those behaviors that detract from your ability to do that.
I loved when you went 300% with Game, Buddha. ;)
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I loved when you went 300% with Game, Buddha. ;)
yeah that's true so did I :)
Manwhore wrote:
I loved when you went 300% with Game, Buddha. ;)yeah that's true so did I :)
come on bro, you gotta give some context here. What did 300% look like?
^ Lol
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Start posting more of your text convos again and maybe you'll find out, buddy. Why'd you stop?
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Haha well I didn't have a job for one. So I was doing at minimum a session of daygsming from like 2-6 and then also going out at night from like 10-4 and doing this every single day in New York City.
its actually insane how comfortable and at home you get. I was doing some crazy shit in hindsight haha. Like legit just showing up to day parties and making out with random chicks waiting in line literally within 2 minutes of arriving.
I remember i got a job towards the end and was on a sales call outside and literally while I was on the call I got this chicks number who was walking by without saying a word to her. My colleague who was there with me was so fucking confused when this chick gave me her phone and I entered my number and texted myself while still on the sales call lmfao.
Did more than a few double doubles. Picking up a chick, bang then head back and pick up another and fuck her.
All of this sober and for a couple months it was entirely solo until manwhore hooked me up with a great wing who was equally dedicated. It was cool too cause my wing was like super technical about this shit and I was coming from a much more free-flowing style so we were a good team.
Not entirely sustainable but def will always look back on it as one of the most enjoyable and unique periods of my life.
Yeah, fortunately, many stories and learning points are documented. Thanks for that, there are some big lessons in there.
Hell, I even found MW because all you did was gaming and writing it out haha. I'd probably still watch RSD. I wish I could read again the convo that 'opened my eye' with my current knowledge. I'm pretty sure they deleted it.