Buddhagames Field Report Thread

@buddhagames:

lmao, so yeah last night was kinda wild. Like I still can't believe I was sober and alone. I was doing some pretty cool things.

Lol the gf almost giving me her digiits right in front of her bf was kinda interesting... One thing I was doing a LOT was just not giving a fuck if the girl was with any amount of dudes. Like I would just go up and COMPLETELY ignore the guy and just talk to the girl

and yeah, it's so crazy how these kinds of nights follow IMMEDIATELY after your most dead nights, where NOTHING is clicking.

But Like I said in my last post- I think a big part of my progress in this game, will be learning how to sorta bottle up and control this crazy state that I get. Like, for me, it was almost like it was too much. I couldn't focus on one girl, I wasn't running the gameplan, I was sorta just hopping around and approaching EVERYONE.

Now this is cool but I want to be able to fuck and this isn't going to get me the fuck. Now, I wasn't being entertainer man at all (all these approaches were hard, direcft and very solid_ but I just wasn't staying in set long enough.

It was almost like I was drunk again, but more clear and like not acting/talking like a retard. But yeah, I need to learn how to bottle this up and use it to get a fuck, rather than approach every single person in like a 8 block radius lmao.

But on the positive side- I got a fuckton of approaches in and I was absolutely what you would call a, "Approach machine" lol.

@buddhagames:

That's life son.

And I know that feel of feeling like you're on drugs or drunk or something but it is all coming from within, its all from your state.

At that moment, son, you are unstoppable.

@Sick-Cunt:

Yeah dude.. it's awesome.

lmao, and I would agree- in that state, you are unstoppable but the issue is taking that and controlling it and knowing what to do with it so you can get the fuck... But yes, it's VERY easy to properly execute a gameplan when you're in that zone.

@buddhagames:

Haha I know that feel so much.

I need to learn how to control it. In terms of getting it when I want and also using its power for good (lays). Whenever im in that state I'm just going all over the venue interacting with people instead of going for the pull. I just want to amuse myself like that and if things are slowing down (which would be good for pulling) I move to somewhere with more energy.

Its like Hulk trying to control his massive strength so he can use it on the bad guys instead of attacking his allies. A blessing and a curse.

@Sick-Cunt:

Okay, so like I discussed in the other thread. From now on, I will be moving these reports to my blog. If there is a way to move the current ones that I already posted on the main forum, to my blog, I'll do that, but as of now I don't know a way to do that.

Anyway- so last night, I was still sorta "high" when I was writing up my post. Lmao, by that I simply mean that the way I was writing was sort of coming across in the same way that I would have been talking to girls that night.

Anyway- it was a good night but I wanted to touch on a few of the things which I think are learning opportunities.

1. So, I had this really new and kinda exilerating "state" that I was in and it was great becuase I had this feeling like I could approach anyone and it would blast wide open... and-truthfully, for the most part, I would approach and it would blast open (like i said, there were still plenty of sets that didn't opne but it wasn't a big deal.. I just moved on) But my issue was going from there. It was like I would get this massive attraction and, unlike previous nights (where I was getting this), I didn't really know where to go with it. A lot of these interactions took place on the dance floor or like as girls were going to the bathroom and something would get in the way of us having a long conversation, or I would just have ADD and decide to leave to talk to more girls. So like I said, I want to learn to capatilize on this immediate attraction

2. Really got work on my dancing skills.

3. Remainig chill/calm when I get into state

4. Staying in set longer... introducing myself to friends and becoming a "part" of their group.

Hmm, idk, I'm sure I'll think of more but that's it for now.

Lmao! I laughed hard at the "blacking out" due to state shit. I get that sometimes when out an I can't remember shit. It's like I'm possessed by some sorta penis demon just using me to seek out vaginas like a water stick. I get it to when I'm in 100% flow states like when I play sports. I get back on the bench and after the game everyone is like "Mann did you see that pass icewahine? It was perfect and I can't believe that deke!" and I'm like: "Dafaq?" like I don't remember a single thing aside from the major events like a goal or something. But even then I forgot how jr happened I just remembered it happened.

Anyways glad you had a sweet night, not as much value in this fr as the other ones though haha... Sry

I know exactly what you mean too when your soooo in state you don't even really escalate. Like I drop a sweet line or make out with a super attracted girl and then just turn your back and start dancing or open another set. I find the best way to focus that state into getting action is just start raping girls. Manwhore style. Like that one girl you "ditched" was really awesome. But some of the other not so great ones you should've just escalated until blow out or blowjob. It's not the "best overall strategy" but it'll get you some action. even when a girl blows you out it doesn't affect your state and you can just try the next one. Plus it's fun too when the girl is suppeeeerr into you and you try to rape her in the venue an she's her face just looks like "nooo I can't do it I'm not a slut" it's all unspoken but your like "give me a blowjob on the dance floor or you'll never see me again" and they get soo damn conflicted. So most girls won't and that's girl but your bound to find someone down for something and even those girls who won't do anything that night will be thinking the next day - damn that guy is a gangster and really fucking alpha. and then you text her with something simple and straight to the point of an innocent meeetup (icecream and beer) and she'll be soo down its a guaranteed lay if she meets you out. If you cave man the shit outta ppl like that in that state is filters out the girls who aren't dtf so any girl who you try to rape might not let you but it shows she is open and down for it another time

@icewahine:

Commitments for Toinght:

8 Solid approaches
Don't bail on dance floor sets, once they open- use it as an opportunity to get super physical
Move things forward. Escalate/lead
If necessary: Control my state so it doesn't control me.

@buddhagames:

Alright, so I think tonight was #8... cool stuff. There were a lot of positives about tonight, also a lot of things to work on. I mean positives is I got all my approaches in, lol I don't really think this is much of an issue anymore, but I will continue to focus on it just to make sure.

OH and also- HUGE positive... I hooked and got the numba of a girl that in the past, I would NEVER had had the balls to approach. SUPER hottie from Ohio state... ugh, omg... sooooo hot

lmao, I didn't hit my like narcissistic, MEGA state tonight (which I actually think is a GOOD thing) lol I'm not even shitting you guys, when I get in state it's like I'm drunk off my ass or on some kind of drugs and I can't even focus- what I had tonight was still def. state but it was just very sorta chilled out and solid, as opposed to like what I had last night which was just kinda crazy.

Anyway- get to the bar around 1 (on weekends this is totally chill.. Tomorrow I'ma try and get there super early, like GET THERE at 10is and just see what's up) and I get in and for the first time I just don't really have any nerves, like even before approaching. So I get in and approach a table to my left of 4 girls sitting down. I kinda bend down and I'm like, "Hey" and they open up kind of and then I'm like, "Is this a batherlette party?" and they're like, "uhh no.. were just chiln". I was kinda leaning down awkwardly and the table was super low and I'm super tall and so it was just kinda awkward... it was also my first approach of the night, so it was good to get the cobwebs out.

Next approach, I see a girl sitting down who is really fuckin hot and go up and say hey and it opens better than the last one. She's talking a bit and I'm plowing a bit and then I guess for whatever reason I mention that I went on a disney cruise when I was a sophomore in hs and for whatever reason THIS hooked her the hardest out of anything, lmao.. I have no clue. Turns out she models for abercrombie and played snow white in the shows on the cruise line. We talk for a bit logner and then I tell her to come with me to get some water (we'd been talking for prob 10 minutes at this point) and she tells me no and so I go up anyway to get it and I come back and her bf is right next to her.. and I'm like.. okay. The dude is actually pretty chill though and we shoot the shit for a bit but he's got her on LOCK so I head out.

Next approach are some girls to the left of he bar- they don't really open at all... just very dismissive.

Next approach is some girl who has some dudes arm around her and I just walk right up to her, while the dudes arm is around her and I'm like, "You're fucking cute, I wanted to come up and say hey"... the dude tries to talk to me and i just ignore him.. (I think in this situation I actually should have acknowlledged him and befriended him... I mean.. he had his arm around her lmao) anyway we talk for a bit and the dude just gets progressively aggressive and at one point starts to touch me a lot and then tries to grab my necklace and I just shoot my hand up and grab his wrist and I say, "DONT touch me" but in the process, I accidently knock part of their friends drink on her and the group gets upset and I evac... But I was happy because I didn't take shit from this guy. The second he crossed the line I just fucking grabbed his wrist and told him wtf was up. He wasn't going to do shit. If he hadn't been a part of the group, I think that this would have turned out a lot better

So I head outside to get a breath of air- damn, idk I was just really hot. So I cool off for a bit and as I'm walking outside i make eye contact with this SUPER SUPER hottie... Like guys, this girl was my personal 9.5 (10 just doesn't exist)... like she wasn't your typical club slut but she was just so fucking hot to me. Like long blonde hair, hippie little dress thing, like large B cup, skinny as hell but not emaciated... and her face was just NAILS. Like this is the kind of girl I would have NEVER approached in the past. Just straight up, I wouldn't have even approached her. So as I'm walking out I make eye contact with her and then I come back inside, walk upstairs to see if there are any approaches up there to be made (upstairs of this place is a fucking shitshow on the weekends, so I tend to stay away...

Anyway- head back down and I walk straight up to the girl who I had made eye contact wth previously and walk right up to her and I say, "I was walking by earlier and saw you and I just had to come up and tell you that you're hot as fuck"... BAM- blown open. She's with 3 other girls and some dude. One of the friends whose standing next to me starts cracking up and comes back and is like, "OMG I LOVE YOU" and I just kinda look at her and I'm like, "Awesome" lol... and her friend is like, "seriously... most guys just don't have the confidence to do what you just did" and so I'm just like, "Well I just did" and she's lke, "Yeah, and it was awesome" and then she's like, "It was a great pickup line" and I look at her and I'm like, "It wasn't a pickup line, I was just telling her how I felt" and her friends loved it.

So then I turn to my girl and I'm like, "So what's your name" and she opens up completely... we start atlking and we're chattin for maybe 5-10 minutes and I go and grab a stool to bring over because I don't want to be standing the entire time... so I sit down, she is turned away from me and talking to her friends and I just chill for a bit and eventually she takes her stool and repositions it so we are in much better talking situation. So we chat for like another 10 minutes... she's showing me tons of pictures of her dog lmfao and then at one point she takes out her phone and is using it and I grab it and she's like, "Garrett.. give me back my phone. I promise I won't use it" so I give it back and she puts it away immediately. We keep talking... at one point a different friend pipes in and is just like, "You have an absolutely amazing smile" and I'm like, "Thanks. That's nice of you to say" and then she looks at her friend is like, "He's awesome. He's totally cool in my book" and so me and the gal keep talking. She brings out her phone again and this time, in a totally chill voice I just say, "Put it away" and she apologizes and puts it away. I grab her number in the middle of the convo...

Okay so then I figure out where she lives... dude, guys- this girl literally lives 3 blocks and 1 avenue away from me LMFAO (the worst part is that I still didn't pull)... anyway- we keep talking and she's starting to like touch me and like playfully hit me and stuff whenever I say anything funny and I'm goofin off with her and it's going well... very similar interaction to the girl from paris. Just like me being the kind of dude that can hold a normal conversation and be chill and pretty funny and just... solid...

Anyway- after another like 10 minutes or so, all her friends are gone and she's like, "We're going to go upstiars, do you want to come" and I tell her, "Let's stay down here at the bar for like another 10 minutes, talk and then go upstiars" .. then she's like, "My friend just got here, I'm going to say Hi to her" and I'm just like, "Okay, I'll cruise with you" (Okay, like I know that this was my first MAJOR fuck up... but I also don't know exactly why it was... or what I should have done instead.. I just know, intuitively, that this was my first major fuck up... I really just didn't know what other option I had- maybe just be like, "Okay cool, I'll meet up with you later" and let her do her own thing with her friends and then like 30 minites or 45 mintues later meet up with her again... yeah... idk if that is optimal but it certailny would have been better than what I did

Anyway- as soon as this happens, we head over to her other friends and she starts ignoring me. Like it was SUCH a shift because we had just talked for like close to 40 minutes together and she was laughing hysterically and like hitting me and I was putting my arm around her and she was receptive and like she drank outta my straw (dude, her being willing to drink out of my straw- SUCH an ioi lmfao... but seriously)... but yeah, so now she's just kinda ignoring me and I am just following her and eventually, I fucking get the picture and I grab her and I'm like, "Hey xx I'm gonna head out for a bit- I'll meet you later" and she's like, "okay"... you see it was weird because there was no other dude in the picture, I knew her friends LOVED me... we had chilled for like 40 minutes.. it seemed so solid, it seemed like all I had to do was coast..

Oh also at one point I was like, "I promise I won't kidnap you" and then I was like, "Although, even if I did you would be super close to your apartment so it'd be cool" and she was like, "hahaha yeah, actually, you're totally right, it would be a free cab ride"... and then at other points she was mentioning, off-handidly, how we could share a cab or wtvr... but that was all before she started ignoring me...

So I leave for a while and then come back in and see one of her friends and we shoot the shit for like 15 minutes and then xx girl comes back and I don't go up and tlak to her and she doesn't come up and talk to me... so then a lil later I go up and tell her, "Hey I'm gonna leave" and she's like, "okay" and I'm like, "I'll text you and we should chill" and she's like, "Yeah.. I mean, we live so close together we might as well" and then I give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and head out.

So I would LOVE LOVE LOVE critique on this set. Just cause it was a weird one, in that it seemed to be going so well... and then... POOF

But god damnit guys, I can hold my head fucking HIGH tonight. I know for a FACT that there was never a point before tonight where I would have EVER approached this girl... let alone, hook her HARD and stay in a 40 minute conversation with her and get her #... so yeah, I'm proud of myself tonight, gentleman. Yeah, I didn't fuck her. Sure, I didn't make out with her and yeah, I fucked up and she may not even respond to my texts... But you know what, I did my best and when I saw, for all intensive purposes, my "10" ... I went in HARD and fucking knocked her socks off. Gentleman... THIS is progress. THIS I am happy about.

Also- I am just approaching MUCH HOTTER girls in general.

Okay so I leave and walk around for a bit, just chiln (I really just didn't have any nerves today... not even before my first approach and not really ever throughout the entire night... I was just calm and havin a good time)

So I head to some other bars and do some approaches, none of which really hook.

Oh Oh OH- TOO FUNNY

So I approach this one street set of like 5 or 6 girls and I go up and talk to one of them and she goes, "I know you" and in my head I'm like, "The fuck you do" and she's like, "No, really, I do"... then she's like, "You texted me and invited me to pianos and then when I got there you were totally hitting on another girl... I was like.. no way... (but couldn't be sure) and then she told me her name and I was just like, "OH MY FUCKING GOD... it was true... I had totally bailed on this girl a couple months ago...lmfao!!!) so she calls me a douchebag and leaves

Okay- so then I head to another bar and I'm just chiln out, enjoying the environment and I go up to this one girl and give her the "hey".. she is initially sorta dismissive and just being like off-putting, so I decide to plow in a way that I had never plowed before and it worked AMAZING

I just look at her and I go, "Look I'm not trying to creep you out or anything" and kinda lean back a little... she instantly chagnes her tune and laughs and is like, "No... you're not creeping me out.. what's your name"... I tell her my name and we're off to the races boys. We talk for a bit and she's laughing and like hitting me and stuff- all good signs an we keep talking and talking and then at one point i go to grab her hand and she doesn't let me... I keep talking to her but then her friends are like, "We're going inside" (To the dancefloor) and she decides to leave with them... Ugh, kinda annoying... cause i know if I had more time, I coulda hooked her.

But I'm really happy with this new plowing technique I found... it's really just being able to understand that you're making her feel slightly at ease and letting her know that you know and that you're just a chill dude, nothin to worry about. Like i can't tell you how much of a 180 flip this made. But she still left, so wtvr

Once again- I just want to say that all the girls I'm approaching are like SIGNIFICANTLY hotter than any girls I used to approach... so this is all really good and they are starting to open more and more and even hook more and more. This is all positive.

So anyway- would love some feedback on those certain parts, specifically, but just overall would be great.

I'm pretty stoked on having that one blondies number- omg she is so hot... and despite everything that happened, I'm pretty optimistic about being able to get her on a date.

Anyway- much more productive night than last night. And I'm in a normal headspace while writing this lol!

@buddhagames:

Didn't read the follow up posts yet, just the first one. Here's something you might find interesting regarding state.

I watched this FASCINATING presentation from Steven Kotler ( http://www.flowgenomeproject.com/ )about "Hacking The Flow State". That would be the scientific term for it... and as he was talking I instantly drew the connection to pickup etc.

One thing he talked about is that the reason it feels like you're on drugs is because YOU ARE. When you look at what happens in the brain during flow state, the chemicals released from the brain during this state -- each of those chemicals have a drug counterpart. Take the active chemicals in... cocaine, LSD, ecstasy, marijuana, morphine etc... that is EXACTLY what happens in flow state. If you get these drugs on the street and cocktail them together, you'd probably end up dead or in a coma. But during flow state, your brain does this NATURALLY and mixes them perfectly... so you only get the good stuff with no side effects.

Another thing which definitely has practical application is the idea that "the more flow you have... the more flow you have". The best in the world at hacking flow state are extreme sport/action/adventure sport athletes. Surfers, skiers, snowboarders, mountain bikers, skydivers, race car drivers, etc... And they spend all their time optimizing their life for flow.

They go into flow because they have to in order to survive during those extreme conditions. Good luck "being in your head" while trying to catch a 50ft wave.

But the more flow you have, the more flow you have... so what they do in their free time is also things that will put them into flow state. And it can be anything that you can "lose yourself" into. I know this very well from writing, for example. Starting something at around midnight, just writing until you snap out of it and can't believe that it's 5 am already. Writing, playing a musical instrument, even stuff like video games will produce a low-grade flow state.

This is just scratching the surface of all the things he talked about. Utterly fascinating stuff. Just came to think of it when you talked about your incredible state.

@linus:

Word dude. Yeah, I can say that I was def. not in my head when this was happening lmao.

But yeah, I just don't know how to handle it. FOr the time being, I think I'm much better off being in state but not like UBER state. Like I tend to operate better in a more chilled out, solid type of "state".

I'll check out the article for sure.

@buddhagames:

O O O... So the dude in that set that hooked really well was kinda cool with me but also kept trying to tool me by making fun of this bracelet that I wear...

Now mind you, I don't do ANYTHING to peacock or anything like that, I think it's a really gay concept and something I would absolutely never do. So everything I wear absolutely has a purpose and a reason.

Anyway- so he's ripping on my bracelet and I literally just tell him the truth and I go, "Actually man, I'm wearing this bracelet out of support for one of my best friends who got paralyzed playing rugby.. we sold these to help mitigate the costs of his therapy"

And the dude fucking get's sooooo apologetic... I almost felt awkward he was apologizing so much.. and then he kept trying to get rapport with me.

The thing was when I said this I didn't say it in like a buthurt or angry way... I was just telling him the facts.

@buddhagames:

Wow, you know what it was with this girl?

Okay- think about it like this...

So I go in super hard on my approach- awesome... as her friends flat out said, "Very few guys would ever have the confidence to do that".. cool. awesome +1 for buddhagames... I am the kind of guy who goes for what he wants and goes in HARD and doesn't fucking flinch for a second (from their perspective).. this is all great

Okay so step 2: We have a very chil conversation. I'm funny. I'm very relaxed. I'm nice but also firm (telling her to put the phone away)... she's laughing and enjoying herself... okay great, awesome... +1 for BG... I'm the kind of guy who can have a chill conversation and be normal and "cool"

Okay so step 3: She tells me she's living, I ask her to stay, she says no, I say okay, I'm coming: LMFAO, okay, not great, not awesome. I'm the kind of guy that will supplicate himself to the girl just so that he can stay with her.. "woh woh woh, what's going on- he seemed to have all the pieces of the kind of guy who would have a dick I'd like to sit on" (From her perspective) but then this step was like a big red flag.. like somethings not right... guys who do all the things he's done so far, don't supplicate like that... blehh

Lesson learned

But also- this didn't KILL the interaction. I very much feel she will respond to my texts and I'm oppitmistic about getting the meetup... but it DID set the conversation back a little. and is probably the reason she started ignoring me.

@buddhagames:

Oh okay- one more thing that happened during our conversation that I thought was noteworthy...

So after she shows me all the pictures of her dogs, I'm like, "Hey, I'ma tell you a kinda fucked up story" and she's like, "okay.." and then I'm like, "Honestly when I was like 12 years old this kinda fucked me with a lot" and then I told her this absolutely true story about how I fucking blinded my chocolate lab... (seriously though, this shit hurt me a LOT when I was super little)... like it was totally and completely accidental but like yeah.. so I tell her this story and THEN what happened next was the noteworthy part

She goes, "Okay I'm going to tell you a story... and I haven't told this to ANYONE. Like none of these people I'm with today know about this. The only people that know are my parents and my best friend from back home" and then she proceeds to tell me this story about how she ran over her dog...

But like this is one quality that I think is really great about myself. I am a VERY VERY open person. As a result of this, I think a lot of times, both girls and dudes tend to feel a REAL sense of connection to me. And this isn't like some pickup tactic or some shit.. it's just me. But like within literally 5 minutes of talkign to me, she was telling me some story that she hadn't even told her friends.

Oh and ALSO- She was literally saying things like, "I'm excited to meet your roommates and see if I know any of them" (Cause she is from the same hometown as my roommates)

so like- it REALLY seemed like she was diggidy diggidy down for a bit... but then she just started to TOTALLY ignore me as soon as we went over to chill with the group...

@buddhagames:

haha well shit, from juliens new article, "“It’s weird because even though we know nothing about each other, I really like you. And I’ve never actually told this to anyone before because it’s kind of personal but…”

Sooo I was kinda playin a poor man's emotional drama game last night, I guess, a little bit lmao...

Wait.. except, that's what she said to ME... what if she reads rsd?

@buddhagames:
Maybe the friend that just came is like her exboyfriends sister or even just not her close friends so she doesn't want to introduce you to them as some guy she just met (since they didn't see you being a champ earlier). Girls are weird like that. But I'm really pumped you approached that hoe. Pumped to see how it turns out too

@icewahine:

Okay so mini field report:

Went to some high end hotel for a day party/brunch thing they have on sundays. I went with friends, but will be going out alone tonight, so it's all good. I am absolutely still on track with my challenge, because I considered what I did this afternoon, bonus.

lmao so he tells me the name of the hotel and there are TWO of them and I go to the one they AREN'T at but I actually end up getting 2 girls' numbers but one of them is like swiss so she calls me but I can't call her back or text her back cause I don't want to pay out the ass.

The other # is a little more solid. But I actually saw her friends but NOT her at the OTHER hotel that I eventually got to, after spending like 40 minutes at the first hotel, before my buddy called me and was like, "Where the fuck are you" ... texted her to come but she didn't respond... but I still think it's a solid #... we'll see

So get to the other hotel and I'm fucking just in party mode central. My buddy roles down and gets me in (I was rejected at first) and we get to the top and we're just completely goofing off and tooling on all the dudes there (it's a gay party.... but don't let that fool you- there are TONS I mean TONS of hot girls at these things)... so then at one point we see that NOBODY at the party is in the pool and we're just like, "FUCK IT" and we strip down to our boxers and go around getting people amped up and basically the ENTIRE party is watching us as I do a MASSIVE cannon ball into the pool and get one of the bottle service tables SOAKED lolll but they didn't care and I went and did a lil damage control...

After that, we just walked around the party for the rest of the time we were there in our boxers haha it was pretty fucking awesome. We were talking to everyone... I got 2 more numbers but I don't think they are very solid. One girl just like couldn't comprehend how awesome we were... hse just kept saying, "I'm SO confused... like you guys AREN'T gay?.. wait, I don't get it" lmao.

I was sorta in that mega state mode but it was fun cause this time I was with my buddy and we were just fucking around and having a blast. Plus, I wanted to really just spend time with him and save my actual serious gaming for tonight when I'm alone, just cause now that I'm going out alone, I try and spend as much time with my buds during the day as I can.

So we both basically just take over the venue. Like literally. We chatted up the waitresses but we didn't go for #'s (my buddy was SUPER drunk so I was kinda taking care of him and making sure he didn't get kicked out)

haha at one point, this one super rich gay dude like went up to the security guard who was kinda giving us a hard time and was like, "I PAID A FUCKTON OF MONEY TO BE HERE, THEY CAN DO WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT" and the security guard was just like... ugh... wtvr haha

Then, this girl who I had given my phone and wallet to like bounced to the bathroom and I had to like chase after her to get my shit back but I think she was taking a dump, so I just waited outside and was talking to people

I totally was fucking with my friend, it was HILARIOUS... I would go up to gay dudes and be like, "My friends a model" and this one group of gay dudes were like, "OMG REALLY?" and I'm like, "Yeah..." and they go over to talk to him and as they are, I hear one of them telling his friend, "okay, jose, just go in HARD" hahahahahahaha I almost died....

I look over and my buddy has like 7 gay dudes surrounding him, buying him drinks and I just sit back and laugh as I revel in what I had accomplished.

So yeah, it wasn't much for gaming... like 4 #'s but really only like 1 of them is solid. But it was so fucking fun lmao... we just had a blast so that was cool. And like it was at a SUPER snobby venue that I would have been super stifled at before I started doing this challenge, so I'm pretty pumped that I was able to just be myself and fuck around.

@buddhagames:

Eh, so tonight was okay... I was just so fucking tired lmao... going out hard during the day like that took a lot more out of me than I thought. I didn't realize how much energy it actually takes to go in with hard approaches and hold that laser eye contact. Like i found myself just getting lazy and doing silly approaches just to get them out of the way and like not pushing sets because I just was too tired to do shit about it.

On the positive side- no anxiety at all. The past two nights, I've pretty much been able to approach any girl in most situations, without having any anxiety. So I'm starting to see progress in that small area.

All that being said, it is becoming VERY VERY clear to me what I have to work on. I need to work on physically escalating. Tonight is a bad example because the whole night was sorta just "bleh".. like I got my approaches in and did some cool shit actually but I personally just wasn't feeling it.

Started off at my usual location (there's about 3-4 SOLID bars in one spot)... it's completely a ghost town. I approach all but like 2 girls in the first bar. One of the sets hooks kind of but they go out to smoke weed and I don't feel like plowing.

After that, I head outside and it's just dead so I'm like, "fuck, what should i do" ... so I end up taking a cab over to a totally different area... this area is like pretty much just entirely clubs and that sorta thing.

I head over to this one really cool rooftop bar that's pretty exclusive and as I'm walking up to the line I see three girls waiting in line and I go up and I point at them and walk in line with them and instantly they open up hard and I have my arm around one of them and we're talking about how we've known eachother forever and how we made out under the slide in kindergarden and she's dieing of laughter and so Im thinking, "aww shiat... this was smooth. I'm gonna get in because of this" ... fucker doesn't let us in lmao...

So I cruise off with these girls and I end up gettin in a cab with them and heading over to another bar that's supposed to have an AWESOME Sunday scene... which it does. Get in and the place is packed, but it's SUPER small, so kinda a weird venue. Anyway- head in with these girls and I hit up some blondie and it opens nad we're talkin but like just no sexual tension at all (that's sorta a trend with my shit) like it's obvious I don't want to be friends, but I'm not physically escalating so there isn't a lot of sexual tension... it's way too like chill and laid back. I want to be more aggressive and with my physical escalation. Like I want to start going in for makeouts within minutes just as a way of getting shit going... but first things first, gottta keep focusing on my approaches and getting shit hooked

Anyway- she gets disinterested after like a little bit, so I go back to chiln with the girls I came with and then I turn back and hit up another hot blonde waiting in line for the bathroom and she's on her phone and I'm like, "How's the phone" and she's like, "Good" and I'm like, "Talk to me and not the phone" and she smiles and puts it away and starts talkin to me. And she seemed interested or wtvr but ends up going to the bathroom and when she comes out she's like, "well it was nice talking to you" and heads off..

I really think I was just letting my sleepiness get to me.

Do a few more approaches but nothing of note really. Those girls head off and I go back home.

It was just a bleh night... I totally let my mood get the better of me...Just so fucking tired. I've been going out pretty hard now for a little more than a week and I'm getting back every morning at like 4-5 am... I need to figure out a way to not be tired at night.

I'm eating healthy, meditating, working out... Suggestions are welcome.

But hey- the daytime pool shit was fun and it's cool to know that I can go to these exclusive venues and do pretty much the same shit I'm doing at bars... I feel like I'm really starting to develop some core confidence, at least around the approach aspect of this. And I'm approaching the hottest girls I can find at each venue... so this may make my shortterm results less, but in the longrun this is going to be what allows me to fuck the girls I wanna fuck, without having to drink.

@buddhagames:

lol the set i hooked the hardest at the first bar literally asked me if I was rolling on E... they just said my eyes were SUPER big... lmao.. I totally take this as a compliment btw- cause like when you rolll you're just super relaxed and in your own world...

So no... I was not on ecstasy... just sober and alone : )

@buddhagames:

Texted blondie a little... At first she didn't seem that interested but we'll see...

Me: So you DO realize that between us, we are like completely incapable of owning pets
Girl - 3 hrs 35 mins later: Haha it would appear as such
Me - 4 hrs 55 mins later: Its cool, there's no cars in the city- so looks like were both in the clear :b
Girl - 13 hrs 58 mins later: So do you and the roomies ever go out during the week?

@buddhagames:

ha, so tonight was decent, just like SUPER SUPER slow, even slower than last night, cause at least last night I was able to find a sick bar to go to. Tonight, like everything was dead, and I tried A TON of places. I literally started off at my usual spot and did shit there for a while.

Walked upstairs and saw some girl dancing like crazy and when she got off the dancefloor I went up and grabbed her hand and pulled her in close (she had a drink in the other so I couldn't do the double hand grab) and I pull her in and am just giving her REDICULOUS eye contact and she is like doing one of those, "Blushing laughs" cause she can't handle my eye contact. We talk for a bit and I'm pulling her in closer and getting physical and then she asks how old I am and I just stand there, give her hard core eye contact and say, "23" and she is like, "Ooo that's al ittle young to date" and I'm just like, "The fuck?" and outloud I'm like, "Woh woh hold on, don't get ahead of yourself there" and she's just like, "I can't date you" and this whole time I'm thinking, "WHO THE FUCK SAID ANYTHING ABOUT DATING... i just met you like 30 seconds ago)... so I'm like, "You don't talk to guys that you don't want to fuck?" and she says something again about not being able to date me and then I look at her and I'm like, "I don't want to fuck you or date you but I do want to talk to you" and she goes, "Look hon, I'm looking for a husband and you can't provide for me for a long time" heh, she was like 26 (not that old at all) ... it was just confusing cause she basically went on for like 10 minutes about how she can't DATE me... and I'm literally in my head just massively confused... like wtf? Can't we just have a conversation and possibly have some unattached sex after... like seriously bitch, wtf?

So eventually I just leave cause I'm like, "This woman is weird as shit" well that and she told me to leave cause she can't date me... but seriously, isn't that weird? like she WOULD NOT drop the whole "dating" thing...

Anyway- head downstairs and grab a wtaer and talk to some dude at the bar who is super into internet marketing, ask if he's heard of rsd (figured he might be a fellow soldier) and he says he's heard of it but isn't that into it (just says they ahve really good internet marketing)

So we chat for a bit (cool dude) and then I head to a table where there were 2 girls but 1 of them had gone to the bathroom. The girl is on her phone and I just introduce myself and she's super receptive... I sit down and we start talking... it's weird cause like she was sitting down and I just don't know how to escalate when the girl is sittign down in a booth like this... End up having like a 40 minute+ convo with these 2 girls and getting the one girl's number and then invite them out to another bar and they are seriously debating it but they are like, "Noo we can't, we promised our friend we'd go get drinks at his place"... wtvr.. The conversation was just very chill... I didn't escalate though and the whole time i was thinking, "How am I supposed to escalate here..." cause i really just didn't know what I was supposed to do when she's sitting down like that.. maybe pull her up as part of my approach...? Just not sure.. Thought I might be able to bounce them to another bar but that didn't work out... but the good news is that I stayed in set until the very bitter end when they were walking out...


So then I went to a club down the street (closed) the bar across (closed) the other club around the corner (closed)... well fuck... cab it to midtown to hit up a sick little bar that usually is poppin- even has 1$ beer wednesdays, which I'm going to hit up this wednesday FOR SURE (closed).. okay at this point I'm just like... really? So I just start walking down the street, literally looking for ANYTHING. Stumble in on 2 irish bars (like hardcore local shit). To my surprise, the first one has a group of 3 HOTTIES.. like idk, I would personally consider them stunners, but maybe I use that term too loosely... like for me, at a certain point they all are sorta the same..

Anyway- They are paying their tab and leaving (it's one of the gal's birthdays) and I go up and I'm like, "Hey, just moved here, where you guys heading, I'm looking for cool spots" and the birthday girl like rudely dismisses me and is like, "I only talk to my friends' and I just look her in the eyes and I go, "okay" and then she like KEEPS trying to give me shit haha and I just go, "Okay"... like it literally got to the point where one of the other friends she was with came up and was like apologizing for her... she goes, "I'm sorry, my friends really drunk, we just have to get her home.. it's her birthday" and I'm like, "ooo okay, well happy birthday" and give the birthday girl a highfive and they leave.

That was the only group of girls in the bar so I leave too.

Head to the other irish pub next door... a group of like 6 ugos... fuck it- I approach anyway... it's lukewarm and I chat a bit but like it's really hard to get that intense eye contact and passion when the girls just are totally lacking but hell, I did the approach and chatted with em for a bit. lol, it's funny- Idk if they even hooked lmao

As I'm walking out, these two married chicks are taking a photo and I accidently walk through it and they both are like, "HEY, COME HERE" and they are drunk and they're like, "You ruined our picture" and I'm laughing and just like, "Oh I'm sorry" and they are like, "Okay you have to kiss each of us" so I go, "Okay, let's do this" and kiss both of them lmao, they were SOOOOOO OLD like literally maybe 50/60.. I just thought it was kinda funny.

So then I head across the street and walk into this other bar and as soon as I walk in the door, some ugo are giving me shit and I'm just like, "I don't want to fucking deal with this" and leave immediately.

So then I start asking around for more bars, and it turns out I've hit every bar in the area... so I grab another taxi and head down to that same club district I was at last night and a lot of spots are closed except for super high-end clubs but I'm in sandles and a flannal, lmao so I'm kinda outta luck... But I still TRY and get into a couple of them haha.. like why not?

End up chattin with a few different doormen, tryna start planting seeds for the future when I'm gonna want to be coming to these places full time because this is where the true like straight 10 stunners go and eventually, that's all I'm going to want to deal with. Shoot the shit with some doormen, they are cool guys.

Walking down the street past a beergarden that was closed, there are a bunch of people standing outside and I look at this one chick and she gives me eye contact and I yell, "HEY" and she yells back, "HEY" and I go up and put my arm around her and she seems super into it, so I'm doing the hip-hip thing hahhaha and she starts asking me, "We should get a room" and in my head, innocent ol' buddhagames is like, "FUCK YEAH" and so I keep giving her eye contact and I'm like, "Fuck yeah, let's do it" and the nI go in for the instant makeout and her and her friends start laughing and they are like, "That's going to cost you" and then I'm like... "OH DAMN" haha I actually said this out loud because i realizerd they were hookers lolllll fucking funny. I knew it seemed too easy. Dude, hookers have a really good way of making you feel at ease, like they are SO COMFORTABLE with their sexuality... I bet theres a TON to learn from them, if you could ever just sit down and talk for a bit.

So I walk past another high-end club with a bunch of hotties outside and I approach one and she is creeped out (it's weird, cause I actually don't get this a lot... so when I do it's almost kinda a shock heh)... I approached her by just yelling, "HEY" in super rapport breaking tonality and then walking closer and being like, "What's up" in a soft, neutral tone. I actually thought it was a REALLY GOOD approach... apparently not lol : /

So everything else was kinda dead, I walked the streets for prob 15 minutes and didn't see a single girl

Oh- approached another group of hotties just to ask for directions and they were like overly receptive to my question and I kinda regret not going further with it... like they were super smiley and shit (damn dude, all of this is SO new to me... like getting these kinds of reactions from girls that are legit just SMOKING HOT) bleh anyway, didn't go any further

@buddhagames:

Day #11

Okay, so tonight was an interesting night for sure. TONS and TONS to learn from tonight.

So throughout the day I had been texting a few girls. The girl from paris responded and we are on for Sunday to do movie and ice cream and sex at my place. The blondie from the other night with the instructor hadn't returned my text in like 2 days, so I dropped her a voicemail before I left my house and by the time I got to my first venue, she had texted me and commented on the voicemail.

Then, the stunner blondie from the other night hit me up and asked me what me and my friends were doing. I told her htey were gone but I was heading downtown and she invited me to go to a bar she was at with some friends. I was down

But first- I hit up my usual venue and at this point, when the line is SUPER long, the bouncer personally comes and gets me and lets me in the front. So I get in and I do a couple approaches but they don't fly. Then I sit down and at this point I had gotten the text from both blondies and i was kinda trippin out (in a good way) cuase like never before in my life, have I had 2 girls, that were as hot as these girls, texting me at the same time. Let alone, have I ever had any girl of the caliber of this stunner blondie actually invite me to meet up with her. So I sit down next to this one chick and when she was sitting down, she looked super hot but then she stood up and she was WAY TOO TALL... like even for me, and I'm like 6'3.. she must have been 6'5... I was like shitttt

But wtvr, I open her and it's so on, and I chat a bit and wtvr and then I am like, "OKAY BABE IM TAKING YOU TO THE BAR" in kinda a super enthusiastic but also demanding voice and she obliges. So we cruise to the other room and sit at the bar and we're talking and she busts out her phone and starts texting... I let it slide... we keep talking for another 5-10 minutes and she does it again. I literally don't say anything to her, get up, leave and go upstairs. I didn't want or need to put up with that so I just fucking ditched her ass... DEUCES BITCH

Head upstairs and it's a shitshow so I walk downstairs, just to kinda see what she was doing... wow... I kinda felt bad... she had left the entire venue- I really actually felt bad, even though I know I shouldn't... It just kinda reminded me that people do get hurt in this... like it was pretty brutal what I did lmao, I literally didn't even say anything. Just flat out left without saying a word. So anyway, she isn't in the venue at all (and i really searched, just cause I was curious)

So then I see a pretty hot (hb 8) girl walking up the stairs and she gives me a double take so I grab her hand and I say, "Hey, you're really fucking cute" and she's like, "what's upstairs" and I'm like, "Dancefloor and a bar" and she's like, "Let's go upstairs" and I'm like, "Nah, let's talk down here" and she's like, "Come on, let's go upstairs" and I look her in the eyes again and I'm just like, "You're really fucking cute, let's talk down here" and I grab her hand again and she follows me down. We talk for like 10-15 minutes and she's hitting me and flirting with me HARD but I have to go because I'm meeting up with stunner blondie uptown so I just end our conversation and I'm like, "Yo, I gotta go, but let me get your # and we should hang out" and she goes, "no, sorry" and I'm kinda in shellshock, cause i knew she was CLEARLY and I mean CLEARLY into me and then she's like, "You should have stuck around, I just really wanted a fun night"... and in my head I'm like, "FUCK... I'm giving up a CLEAR fuck for this stunner"... but I mean that's the price we pay in the game, I guess. Logistics were fucking amazing too, she said she lived 3 blocks away, by herself... she just really wanted to fuck that night. Oh well.

So I head out and get in a cab and cruise up to stunner blondie... Now THIS is where all the lessons are.

So I get there and I head in and I'm in a super good state, real relaxed and having fun and I walk to the back and she's at a table with a BUNCH of people (none of the same people who had met me the day before) So I sit down and immediately she is giving me lots of physicality- grabbing my hand, my arm- the works. So I just start talking with her and I introduce myself to the group.. she ignores me at points but whenever she did, I just made a point to strike up a conversation with the dude who was sitting to my left...

Earlier today I had my first training session with manwhore and we went over some physical escalation stuff and I literally did EVERY SINGLE THING we talked about... I won't mention them because, well, I'm paying good money for this shit... but yeah, I did every escalation move that we talked about and she was into it. There was one move in particular that had a pretty funny name that I did to her and she started CRACKING UP.

So then at one point, an awesome song comes on and I get up and start dancing and I grab her hands and try to get her to get up but it needed compliance and it just wasn't there... she kept saying, I don't dance"... "I don't dance" etc.... And I'm just like, "I'm not going to make you dance, just stand up" and I say this a couple times and finally she stands up and I grab her hand and I"m like, "I'm going to get a drink, let's go to the bar" and she follows me... I give her a hug and say, "Yeah, I'm kidnapping you from all your friends... I'm a horrible person"...

So we get to the bar and sit down and I'm still doing a lot of slight physical escalation. Nothing MAJOR.. just small things here and there and she's completely receptive... I grab her hands and she is down, so we're holding hands and I'm just like, "I'm thinking of something to say" and I look at her with eye contact and bring her in for the makeout but she resists and literally goes, "No. No. No" and i'm super confused, cause it's like, she's CLEARLY into me... like giving me tons of physical shit, holding my hands, allowing me to isolate her away from all her friends so just us can talk and I look at her kinda confused and she's like, "What were you going to do" and I'm like, "I was going to do this" and try to pull her in for a makeout again but AGAIN she does the same thing, "no. no. no" and I'm really confsued and then she's like, "You can't just kiss me like this, in the middle of the bar, in front of all my friends. I don't even really know them, they are ALL my coworkers and we just all met eachother" and then she says how I embarrased her yesterday with my approach and how all her friends were giving her shit because of my approach... but like... she clearly loved it... but anyway, I just say, "Okay, I respect that" and didn't go in for the makeout again.

Then like I go downstairs to get money from the ATM and I get back up and some dude is sitting in my chair and i tell him to get up because it's my seat and he gets up... He kinda lingers and my gal starts talking to him, so I'm like, "okay, I guess I have to acknowledge him now" so I introduce myself and I talk to him... His friend leaves though and so it's just him and I look at him and I'm like, "Is that your friend over there?" and he's like, "Yeah" and I'm like, "You should probably go talk to him, he's all alone"...

But then my girl is all, "invite him over" so the dude brings his friend back, so again, I have to acknowledge him and say hi and talk to both of them and she's like clearly trying to flirt with them, like touching them and shit (but I know she's not into them- it was just annoying because it was obvious she was doing it to get some kind of reaction out of me) and the worst part is that SHE DID... my state dropped. I didn't say anything wrong or actively do anything that indicated I was kinda pissed but girls ahve that 6th sense, and my state had completely crashed... she obviously knew it had got to me...

Anyway- I hold my own and eventually the dudes leave... but like I can't help but think, "If these guys had sicker game, they totally could have worked this" like my girl was giving them complete attention.. I didn't know why, or what I should do... All i could think of was to engage them in more conversation than she was and to dominate the conversation... which is what I did..

So anyway- they leave and then her friends come down and are like, "okay we're leaving" and she's like, "I'm gonna stay" and then her friend is like, "I can stay too if you want" and my girl is like, "yeah, do you want to stay" and her friend is like, "yeah, I mean, I don't have work tomorrow, I'm down to party" so the friend stays and then I'm like, "We should walk home tonight, cause it's nice out" and then my girl is like, "yeah, we can all walk back together" and I'm just like, "WTF WTF WTF.. why is she doing this"... ugh, i know why she was doing it... 1) because she knew she could get a reaction out of me and 2) because she was so fucking scared of her reputation in front of her new coworkers (her friend is her roommate who she just met like a couple days ago through her work)... I legit think she was just petrified of her coworkers thinking she's a slut or something.. (she also was super drunk, which was really annoying... idk why she got so drunk).. like she was way easier to talk to yesterday when she wasn't this hammered... like she actually just got kinda annoying when she was THIS drunk... wtvr

So then we all walk back and I don't really say anything on the walk back and I give her her space... like at first, instead of walking next to me, she speeds up and walks next to her friend... but I don't speed up. I keep walking at my own pace and allow her to have her space... then we get to a crosswalk and I'm not even really looking at her, not trying to catch up to her or anything and when we get to the crosswalk, she wraps her arm around my arm and then I grab her hand, so we're holding hands as we walk back...

Then she lets go and runs up to her friend at one point and I don't run after her... I just keep walking at my own pace, I'm not saying anything at all, really... just walking at my own pace and not even really looking at her... she eventually grabs my arm again...

Anyway- eventually we get back to her place and it's obvious she is going to go inside with her roommate... so I say goodbye and go for the makeout and it's on so I kiss her a bit and then I start to get more into it and grab her ass and shit and she's like, "noo... just a little smooch" and then I finish kissing her, pull away and say goodbye...


SO yeah, I just don't know what I should have done here. I don't think I fucked anything up, I just don't know what I should have done to go for the fuck, or even just more of whatever we were already doing... Like, I know she's into me, cause her physical shit indicated that... but like she also was just playing more of those, "ignoring games" (which I think I did a MUCH BETTER job of dealing with this time around) and also like not wanting to go for the makeout and hten at the end saying, "no no just a little smooch" I just don't know what she's tryna do or why she's tryna do it... help would be appreciated.

I legit have never kissed a girl of this caliber before (okay, I have hooked up with TWO girls of this caliber in my entire life and they were both a very long time ago)..

Oh this girl also kept talking about how she wants to meet my roommates and how she wants to set her friend up with one of my roomies... Idk man, maybe she just wants to date me and doesn't want to get burned... I really don't know... cause it's just TOTAL mixed signals... wtvr, I'm gonna lay low on her for a couple days and just see what happens.

I think a LOT of it was also cause she was drunk. So next time we hang out, I'm going to make sure it's in the daytime and I'll ahve her come over for a movie and ice cream.. she'll be down.

But yeah- anyone who has ANY experience with STUNNERS and has experienced this kind of gamey shit from them... how do you deal with it?

Would absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE critique/advice/commentary on what just went down.

Thanks guys.

@buddhagames:

Fuck me! I gotta shave my balls. On the real... Okay Im leaving this chick apartment, getting scissors, shaving my balls, beating, then coming back to her place after i beast and fucking her.


She's really into me. No resistance... Just wanna shave my balls : /

@buddhagames:

beasting*

When I first read it I thought you meant "shaving my balls, jerking off then going back to her place"

@Sick-Cunt:

Fuck, I had an entire report written out and accidently hit the "back" button...

Wtvr okay

So in the morning I try and run a blitz play on stunner blondie, but turns out she’s not at home, so I drop back and play the pass rush
It’s cool though, cause the blondie from the other night with the instructor hits me up and invites me to watch fireworks on her roof (one of the best roofs in the city.. like the address is kinda famous) and so I head over there

Get there and instantly I go physical.. little things that don’t require compliance… just like pinching her hip bone and putting my arm around her waist and stuff like that.. eventually she’s like leaning into my arm and I’m like grabbing her around the stomach from behind- she’s into it
Her friends tell me to go upstairs with her (cause they just know wtf is going on between us… like it’s unspoken but just known)
So we head up and she’s getting more and more physical with me…

Oh also- HUGE.. she was doing the exact same shit that stunner girl was doing (this girl isn’t a stunner… but is def. like just ONE knotch below stunner level)… AWESOME body.. it’s just her face is SLIGHTLY off… but still fuckin hot as shit… but I just didn’t care about the ignoring stuff… like I would just talk with other people or even just go off and chill by myself and check out the view but I would give her her space and I didn’t lose any state…

Then when MY friend (I didn’t plan this but he lives in the same building so he ended up there as well)

Oh also- this girl was actually pretty cool… like SUPER SUPER confident. She had NO issue telling her friends exactly how we met, “So yeah, we met like 3 days ago at a bar and him and his friend played rock paper scissors right in front of me to see who would get me)- true story, we played rock paper scissors lmao… but wtvr, there’s something about competition that brings out the beast in me… like this instructor guy was running some weird rapport game with her friends while I was just stuntin on his face doin some hardcore drama game and getting MAD physical on her ass… he didn’t even get her #
Also- it’s almost creepy how nice she was being to me, like just letting me do wtvr I wanted, like at one point after we went downstairs and hooked up in her bedroom, I’m walking out and I’m like, “Okay, after the fireworks, I gotta go out tonight but I can come back later” and she’s like, “Yeah, you can do whatever you want”..
So we chill for a bit longer and then one of her gay friends gives me this massive shittest and is like trying to get a reaction out of me and I’m just like, “okay, that’s cool man” and then later on he apologizes and is like, “I was actually really impressed with how you handled that”.. lmao, all these people are like a decade older than me, so there were points where they thought they could stunt on me, but I just wasn’t having it
Lol, when I first met this girl she was like, “You’re way too young for me”… apparently that changed ; )

Okay, so my friend comes up to the roof and I introduce them and she’s flirting with him (He’s a MASSIVE pimp) but I don’t care and just talk to my other friend and would like occasionally just like pinch her but or some random shit like that while she’s talking to my friend… Then when she was done talking directly to him I like took her head and gave her a little nugie, just kinda like, ‘Yeah girl, I OWN your ass”
So then I tell her I gotta go and she’s like, “okay” and kisses me goodbye
I head out but like seriously guys, I was sweating my ASS OFF, more tired than I had EVER been before on ANY night that I’ve gone out (Like literally, I fell asleep on the subway) and I smelled like shit cause I was sweating so much…

On top of that- it was kinda dead, so I literally did like one approach, got blown out and was like, “Fuck this”… I couldn’t stay awake, I could hardly walk.. it was ridiculous. So yeah, I kinda bitched out and that’s not cool but tonight I’m gonna hit it DOUBLE HARD
I need to like either go out at night and NOT do anything during the day OR do something during the day and NOT go out… cause this shit really takes a lot of energy out of me, cause I’m constantly being mindful of what I’m doing and that can take a lot of energy
So yeah… gonna meet up with her again Friday night at her place and it’s obvious we’re gonna fuck. Like I could have gotten it tonight, but I told her I was WAY too tired to come over.. she’s gonna be a freak though, like serious freak… she’s gonna let me take naked pics and maybe even a video (She doesn’t know this yet, but I can just tell she’s a little kinky slut)

@buddhagames:

Yo, i love the schoolyard flirting you done with this chick. It reminds me how methodical i can get in the field, like i 'beast' (claw, grab, grind) but forget to 'flirt' like how you would in High school. That shit feels so much better, cranks up the sexual tension, and feels...umm familiar if you get what i'm saying? It's like, this is how all the male authority figures would've treated her in the past, just fucking with her but not showing too much neediness with their touch.

I really like the pinching, it's cute.

Yeah, okay- I feel myself drifting away from the process a little and getting carried away because I got, what, like two girls hittin me up lmao...

Back to basics. Tonight is going to be a night of focusing on my approaches and going in HARD and allowing myself to get blown out. Fundamentals, that's what gets you laid.

HARD approaches, no hesitation, eye contact. Time to do my manwhore training excersies, meditate and get back to the basics. I'm just trying to be very vigilient of the ego, I feel like, for me, that's going to be my biggest enemy on this shit. It's just so easy to be like, "Damn... all this new cool stuff is happening... man... I must be sooo cool now" but like not really believe it at the core.

Even though I was tired etc.. last night was bullshit. I did one fucking approach. That's unnaceptable. No way I'm going to go back to where I was. Tonight is approach night. If I get longer sets or sets that hook, that's cool too but that's not my criteria for success for tonight

For tonight- As long as I show up and make hard approaches, and have rock solid eye contact... I will consider that a sucess.

I also feel like this report was me just bragging and not trying to learn the lessons. When I reread it, I didn't like the way I wrote it out. I wasn't focusing on the things taht I need to focus on and was more concerned with sounding cool.

Like even on the roof, when I met up with my buddy, I was like approaching girls in front of him cause I wanted to like, "Show him" my new "superpowers" LMFAO... needless to say, nothin really hooked.

So yeah, this is just me calling myself out.

@gogo

Yeah man, I didn't think of it like that, but I guess it IS kinda like "Schoolyard flirting"... It's just sorta what felt natural to me. Also- if you're just constantly doing these small things, that don't really require compliance, it's like it sorta builds up and then over a little bit of time, she's super down for the bigger physical escalation moves (makeout, claw, hand holding etc. )

But yeah, didn't think of it like that.

Another thing that I thought was kinda interesting was when she told me, "You just say the most rediculous things. Like I totally thought you were HAMMERED when we first met cause you were saying the craziest shit" and I was just like, "Yeah, I don't take myself too seriously, but I just say what's on my mind" and she's like, "Yeah.. it's part of your charm"

The thing is I didn't even really think that I was saying anything too crazy

@buddhagames:

yh dude, the threshold for what counts as 'crazy shit' is thin, like stick thin. My friend was speaking to some chick and she was saying i tell her fucked up shit like i told her months ago "oh i gotta cold cause i was makin out with some chick at the club, she had her chewing gum and put it in my mouth. I think i caught it from her", on the surface this didn't sound ridiculous at ALL but i forget how affected people are by the shit you say and take it dead seriously. uhh reminds me why empathy is so important. Like, us RSD guys usually say our shit with no ego attached to it, like it's a live feed into our stream of consciousness - imagine how trippy that is for a girl or anyone, you've got situations where you badly want to know what someone is thinking cause they're so guarded and then BOOM an RSD dude comes along, doesn't give a fuck about his self image and says whatever. Pretty trippy..

the schoolyard flirting is kinda kewl, it's like playing thumb wars, mercy, pinching and shit like that. I've tried some of that shit before in cold approach, it's fun for a bit then you get bored and tell yourself to go super physical.

@Gogo:

haha yeah man, that line is SUPER thin, but like I think that if you're just a relatively normal guy, that THEN learns about just saying what's on your mind, that line sorta comes naturally... yeah, I don't think that makeout stuff is too crazy either

And yeah man, I odn't have much experience so I can't really touch much on which works better or whatnot... but I liked doing the playful physical shit that I was doing yesterday... felt natural.

You know what's weird, is that this chick initially was like, "You're WAY too young for me" ... but now, I think part of the reason she actually likes me is becuase I'm young... like I think she kinda enjoys being with a "kid"... like on some weird level I think she wants to take care of me but is also like sexually attracted to me... it's a little weird

@buddhagames:
Her being older and thinking your a kid is awesome! I've nailed a chick whose husband left her and is 12 years older than me. Instead of trying to fix her shit like a normal guy would (and which she doesnt want because she just got fucked over by a guy she trusted and is old enough to be independent) I just gave her an escape - I was an immature little boy running around without a care in the world and who was amazed at seeing boobies for the first time.. Which I was really amazed when we got physical, just because she was so much older than me, it was beyond my reality. Sounds like what you got going on, be the little boy... Who escalates like a mother fucker.

Also what Gogo (was it him??) posted opened my eyes... Never thought of that.. How the girl can be overwhelmed by us because of how little of a shit we give. Interesting... Going to ponder over this for a while.

I LOVED Gogo's post

Fuck me now bro

@Sick-Cunt:

Wow so tonight was great. Not for any of the reasons I thought it would be great, but because I pushed through a shitty night and ultimately actually made it pretty decent, completely from within, through sheer determination.

Like these are the nights that test you, that test your commitment to getting good at this and test your committment to getting your approaches in and going through the process.

So the night started out looking positive. Blondie stunner had texted me that she wanted to meet up later after she had gone out with her friends. She wanted me to have a friend for her friend and I hit up Katalyst- and like a true champ he had promised me that he would meet me wherever she was, to wing me. SO I wanted to give a shoutout to katalyst for being so willing to help me out. Unfortunately, it's 3am and looks like she bailed.. oh well, that's the game and that's life.

SO I'm not gonna lie- this gir has really been throwing me through a loop the past couple days, I've just been off and on top of that- i've been too busy thinking about how awesome I am for rockin out with these chicks and lost focus on my approaches and going through the process. So I get downtown and I'm feelin kinda calm but also just kinda weird... I think the fact that this girl hadn't texted me back yet to tell me what time they were gonna be meeting us was getting to me.

So I get into my usual spot and it's all good. I do a few approaches nad NOTHING is hooking... I don't know what it was but whatever it was I just didn't have "IT" tonight. I would open girls and there just wouldn't be that "pop" that I've been getting in the past. It was all super lukewarm and just kinda stalling out. I plowed a lot which was super awesome, like i stayed in sets FAR longer than a sane man should have lmao... but nothing was going anywhere.. it was a bloodbath on the streets today gentlemen. Flat out bloodbath!

So I get just in a weird mood cause I'm just like, "wtf is going on... why isn't anything opening.." I wasn't even only opening hotties- it was just like NOTHING was opening... hotties, fatties, anything

But I just committed to getting my licks in.. almost like, "Okay, if tonight is gonna be shitty- let's make it SUPER shitty and get as many rejections as possible"... but even with that mentality, I still go into every set as if it's going to blast open, which is kinda why each time it doesn't I'm like re-confused lol.

Open one girl and kinda got that "pop" finally... but then it just stailed out for some reason. Also- I REALLY REALLY have to work on my dance-floor approaches.

My issue is that my vibe is VERY VERY VERY chilllllll... so like, I go on the dancefloor and some girl is goin crazy- I can't come in at my normal energy level, cause it's way too chill... So I have to learn to switch hit a little on this one and change it up for the higher energy areas of the venue.

Also- I wasn't going in as HARD as I usually do... Like I can't really articulate what was different, but I could just feel it. I was going in lukewarm and giving like this weird rapport seeking smile.. idk man, it's a process and nights like this are absolutely a part of that process, so it's all good.

So I do a few more approaches at my usual spot and I hit up all the other areas that are close by and nothing is open... so I'm like, "FUCK... like this bitch isn't responding and I'm having ZERO luck at my usual spot.. wtf am I going to do"

I contemplate going home but I just couldn't live with myself if I went home and didn't do more approaches (I had done 5 approaches at this first place).. So I decide to hit up turtle bay (called them this time to make sure they were open)

So I get there and I walk in and head upstairs... There's a fuckton of fresh girls, just waiting to be approached- good times!

Oh wait- get in 3 more approaches (all blowouts)... FUCK.. what's going on? (lol I'm kinda writing this from my mindset at the time)... like i was legit confused, but I knew it at least had SOMETHING to do with my vibe... I was relaxed and didn't have anxiety but I was just slightly, sorta just "down"

So what happens next I am VERY VERY VERY VERY fucking PROUD of... I just make a conscious decision to get myself out of this state. So I walk to the dancefloor, forget about approaching, forgot about my ego, forget about any results I've been getting and literally just made the decision to get my state up and have that be my only goal for the rest of the night.

So I start just jumping up and down, up and down, up and down, up and down, up and down... Literally just JUMPING up and down for like 5-6 minutes, putting my hands in the air and waving them around and shouting the lyrics to the song and just yelling in the air, clapping, jumping around (I prob. looked totally fucked up)... I just decided I was gonna keep doing this until I snapped out of it.

So whiel I'm doing this, I claw one girl and she's not into it- okay, that's cool... Keep jumping, keep clapping, keep going crazy... I AM GOING TO BRING MY STATE UP... this is MY decision and I'm going to take action and make this happen... It was the only thing I wanted to do at that moment. So I keep going and keep going and keep going until eventually, I start to feel better... I start to actually get into it, I start jumping up and down not becuase I'm trying to get myself to feel better but because I already feel better and I'm enjoying it.

Go up and make another approach- still not on.. but that's okay because I'm feeling better... I'm walking with that confident "swag" that you walk with when you're just really enjoying yourself...

Head back to the dancefloor and see a group of 3 chicks... one of em is a blondie (Anyone see a trend here??), she's pretty tall but just not that attractive.. a little heavy for my taste (6) probably... but I say, "FUCK IT"... so I go in and it's still kinda a weak opener but for her, it was enough... I had "okay" eye contact... that was the other thing.... my eye contact was just off tonight... can't hook sets without eye contact, that's just a fact... that's called, "Fundamentals" gentlemen.

So it's going aight and then her friends say she's gonna leave and she starts talking to me about what she should do... I tell her to stay but her friends are pulling hard for her to go so I'm like, "FUCK IT" and I'm like, "YEAH LETS ALL GOOOO"... so now I'm just feeling really good... I'm dancing, I'm clapping and really , I obviously don't care about this ugo blondie but the group is fun and I just want to get in that fun, positive, relaxed, enjoying myself zone that I work best from... so I just start physically escalating with her, doing little things like poking her etc...

Anyway- we head to the lobby and she's like, "OMG WHERE'S MEGAN" lmao... so she goes back to look for her other friend and I'm just out front with her friends and I'm fucking around, taking rediculous pictures and just now in a really good state...

So we head downstiars eventually and I'm chiln with their whole group and this shot girl comes up to me and asks if I want a shot- I tell her I don't drink and she tries to sell me more shots... and I'm like, "No.. really... I don't drink" and then I explain to her that I practice buddhism and meditate and that drinking fucks with that- she's diggin it.

So like a bunch of dudes come up and are buying shots but she's just like chiln with me and we're talkin and then the blondie grabs me and says they are leaving, so I tell her to go away and I look at the shotgirl and I'm like, "Hey, I gotta go but let me grab your #" and she's like, "Actually, I can't give out my #- it's the policy.. but I can take yours" so she takes out her phone and I give her my # and she calls my phone... totally thought she was trying to bail out but she called my phone- so she was being legit..

So then I leave and when I'm outside I check the number and it has my hometown's area code and I'm just like, "wtf??" ... so we hit the streets for a while but then we all head back to turtle bay and I'm chiln with them and see the shot girl and go up and I'm like, "Are you xxxareacode?" and she's like, "Yeah!" and I'm like, "Where are you from.. cause I'm xxxareacode" but she's like, "Wait where are you from" so I tell her and she's like, "OMG, IM FROM XXX!!" (Mind you, this is a SUPER SMALL town in the middle of a much bigger city... so like the odds of this being legit are soo small) but she's like yeah, "I went to xxxtown high" and I'm just like, "Are you fucking shittting me" so she's like, "Wait who do you know from there" so I start listing off a bunch of people and then she like finishes the list for me (like the rest of that whole crew of guys) and I'm just like... holy shit.. you really are from xxxtown".. so we talk about that for a while and she's like, "I'm totally gonna call so and so and tell him I met you"... so yeah, we have that and then I'm like, "Okay, I'm gonna head out.. I'll text you" and this time we hug and she gives me the little cheek kiss

She was hooked pretty well too, I have a feeling this # will be solid. Especially after our hometown connection. She like stopped selling shots to just chil with me for a while, so that was pretty cool. And also, like whenever other dudes would come up to hit on her she would sorta like pat them on the shoulder or do other sorta just like patrinizing shit but with me, she was just staring into my eyes and totally engaged. I was physically escalating and it was solid and like I gave her a highfive and she linked fingers with me and didn't let go until I did.

So yeah- I was VERY VERY VERY VERY happy with how the night turned out. Mostly just because I was having a shitty tonight and turned that around by simply taking action and deciding to turn it around. Got the # of a shotgirl which was something I'd never done before..

But damn, I really gotta focus on my fundamentals... Tomrrow night I think I'm actually going to go and fuck the other blondie but saturday night I'm for sure going to just focus on fudamentals... It's interesting cause when you're going out every night, reality has a way of just always keeping your ego in check... Like I was getting a bit of an ego cause I was having some small success and then I go out and have a night like this and it's just like... YUP... You are NOT above the process... You are PART of the process and that's it... the process is what will get me laid now and in the future and nights like these are just part of that process- part of being a part of reality and keeping shit in check. It's lifes way of saying, "Hold your briches there cowboy... you're not all that"

So yeah, tonight wasn't a great night, in the sense that for the most part shit wasn't hooking but you know what, I changed my state by myself, while being out alone and sober and then ended up with the # of a pretty hot chick, so wtvr, for me, for where I'm at... that's success- simply being able to singlehandidly change my state like that, while out alone- THAT is the true success. THAT is the true lesson and THAT is what will make me better in the future

I'm just going through the process fellas and doin what I can in the meantime to get my licks in and figure this shit out... Shoutout to everyone else on here doin the same thing. My heart and soul is with you guys...This game is rough but we do it because we want to be great and the only way to do that is to get your licks in and take your punches with a smile... So that's what I'm doing. Nothing more, nothing less.

@buddhagames:
Night 14

Started off by meeting up with blondie at her place for a lil date- she's way into me but for wtvr reason didn't want to fuck... I'm pretty sure she wants me to be her bf.. but the fuck is inevitable.. I just gotta have patience with this one... Then after I left her place, I went STRAIGHT downtown to beast.

Anyway,Hmm so tonight was interesting. Again, the REAL HOTTIES weren't hooking at all... But AGAIN, I plowed like a fucking madmen... and for the first time, I actually broke through with my plowing efforts... It was interesting.

I approached these two girls sitting down and like they were just super dissmissive but I basically just stood there- I wasn't upset, annoyed, I really just wasn't feeling anything- kinda weird...

Anyway- I basically just stood there and would talk to them a little- joked around a little cause they were giving me weird hand signals and I just gave them weirder hand signals back... then like one of the girls just gets up and goes to the bar, I sit down and BAM the girl sittng down starts engaging me and being super receptive (turns out they are ACTUAL lesbians who are super hot... like I saw them the rest of the night holding hands and kissing)

Anyway- One thing I really wanted to focus on for tonight was the feeling I had inside of me. It was just a total feeling of calm but not the kinda calm I'm used to... It was like a feeling of calm with no desire to go through the effort of leading, escalating, even talking...

Like I would do my approach, sit down, and just like sit and not talk at all haha... it was kinda weird but like at the same time, a lot of these girls just rolled with it. They didn't ask me to leave, they didn't even give me weird looks, it was like I just seamlessly entered their little bubble and then would just like randomly say something and they'd kinda chuckle and then I'd like poke em in the rib and they'd giggle... But I wasn't really smiling (I wasn't like mad or upset... I just didn't feel... fullfilled?)

I guess that was the thought that kept coming up as I left the venue tonight: "This stuff just isn't fulfilling..." like I felt as if I was just going through the motions but it wasn't exciting, it wasn't nerve racking, it wasn't "special"...I guess I just sorta felt disconnected from everyone around me- like I wasn't nervous.. I just felt like.. disconnected. I didn't want to put in the effort to talk, escalate, lead, really do anything beyond a very simple approach. Rejection didn't hurt, success didn't feel good- it was all sorta the same, no emotional change... just a flatline

I think part of it is that I'm tired, but idk...This just has to be part of the process, so it's cool.

Lmao- the funny part is that I was actually in set for like 80% of the night with the same girl and then ended up pulling her (My first pull... YAY!)

She wasn't the caliber of girl that I'm like OVERLY proud of... but she is CERTAINLY nothing to be ashamed of. She was cute... sorta just like normal cute...

I was in set with this chick for most of the night. Went up and approached her and was like, "You're really cute" and she was only like semi-hooked... but then I just like chilled out... like MASSIVELY chilled out- like way too chill I actually think. Like i just didn't even talk for a lot of the time and not because of anything on purpose... just because like I felt too lazy to talk...

So yeah- THIS is a sticking point for me... Like getting my energy levels up- kinda like what I did last night... but tonight I was just like... ughh

So we talk for a bit and she's like, "I'm going upstairs, you can come if you want" and I don't even follow her cause I'm too lazy to walk up the stairs.. I'm just like, "Okay, I'll come up later" and then I walk around and approach two more girls who are seated down... they are like hooked, but in a weird way... like they didn't want me to leave but I also am not quite sure if they wanted me to stay. Idk, tonight is kinda a blurr- I'm tired as fuck.

Anyway- eventually I head upstairs, see my girl but don't say hi. I walk past her, some girl opens me and I start dancing with her. While I'm dancing with her I pull in another girl and start making out with her instantly (First instant makeout!)... she's into me so I just go straight for the pull... I just grab her and I'm like, "We're going" so she walks with me a little ways but when we get to the stairs she's like, "I'm not going downstairs.. and I'm like.. okay.. wtvr" and then head down without her

The girl I got the makeout with was cute but like she was way too sweaty and a horrible kisser and kept asking for more when I just didn't want to make out with her anymore. I just wanted to fuck her.

So I head back downstairs and chil for a while again. O- I walked outside and got a cig from this one chick and then we walked inside together, chilled a bit and I got her # (not solid at all) and she goes upstairs... I wait like 30 seconds and then go upstairs, see my girl like right in front of me, heading downstairs and she's like, "Oh you finally made it upstairs" and I'm like, "yeah, let's go back down" and she's like, "Okay"...

But we end up chiln right by the stairs for super long and I'm just being playfully physical, pinching her hips/but/arms and like hodling her waist. Then I start to makeout with her and it's on..

We go downstairs and now she's just like super into me... like resting her head on my chest and shit and like holding my hand and that kinda stuff... I didn't really talk that much is the thing...

Like she actually was super interesting and I commented on some stuff but I was just too lazy to talk for most of the time

Anyway- eventually it gets time to pull and I go, "where do you live" and she goes, "I'm not going home with you" and I go, "Wtvr" (LMFAO- I literally said this in THE MOST not caring way possible... like I was WAY TOO lazy to care tonight) Like it was almost a breaking rapport style, "wtvr" but without sounding buthurt... it was like i just didn't care and wanted her to shut up.

Then she's like, "Well maybe I could go back to your place.. .I just have my roommates keys" and I'm like, "Okay, give the keys to her and then I'll take you to my place" and she's like, "Yeah that might work" and in my head I'm like, "Uhh... THAT was the problem??"

So we chill for a bit longer, she randomly gives me resistence about going home with me, but I just don't care at all (I can't stress enough how much this was NOT a conscious effort on my part not to care- but actually a byproduct of just the way I felt... I actually don't think this feeling is very productive for pickup but for wtvr reason, it was kinda working tonight.. I just felt SUPER SUPER like lazy and tired and just like not caring at all)

Anyway- eventually I just grab her hands and lift her up from where she's sitting and I walk outside with her and she's like, "Oh you're taking me outside now" and I just don't say shit and keep walking outside... I just didn't want to bother saying anything... idk what it was guys, I was just sooo fucking lazy tonight.

SO then we get outside and she's holding my hand and I just keep fucking walking lmao... we walk an avenue over, then just start walking down blocks and in my head I'm like, "I have NO clue where the fuck I'm going" and we weren't even talking, we were just like holding hands and walking and she would kidna like rest her head on my shoulder ... idk wtf was going on tonight with the way I felt

Oh at one point she goes, "You're not very good at this" as I was pulling her from the venue and I didn't say anything back but I DID find that to be a really funny quote that she said, given the circumstances..

So we just keep walking and then I remember, "Oh shit, I don't have sheets on my bed" (Okay, don't judge me, I just moved in and don't have all my stuff) So I go on my phone and I'm looking up places to buy sheets at 330 in the morning and I can't find any.. .so I call my buddy and ask if he's home and he's not so I can't go there and so I turn to her and I'm like, "Uhhh I don't ahve sheets" and she's like, "WHAAAAA" and I'm like... yeah...

And she's like, "Can you buy them" and I'm like, "Nothings open right now" and she's like, "Fuck... okay, well I'll give you my number and call me tomorrow when you buy them" and I'm like... "uhh okay" so she gives me her # and makes sure I text her and I'm pretty sure I'm gonna fuck her today... but looking back I have no clue why I told her I don't have sheets.. Like I coulda just acted all surprised when we got back to my place and been like... well... woopsies

SO I think part of the reason I felt all lazy is cause I feel kinda weird like going on a date with a chick and then going out and beasting like DIRECTLY afterwards... Especially cause the girl I went on the date with is SUPER into me... she wants to be my gf and I'm kinda like... nah...

Anyway- yeah, as you can tell, I'm still sorta feeling lazy and don't wanna write out like every detail... but mainly that's cuase I didn't talk much and the most important stuff was just how I was feeling.. cause it was weird... I've never like not cared as much as I didn't care tonight.

@buddhagames: uh you shouldve just not even have said anything about the sheets. Once she was there it wouldnt be a deal breaker

@Aequitas:

yeah... I know... : /

@buddhagames:

i'm no expert on dancefloor game, but maybe you should find the most bubbliest set on the dancefloor (usually b'day girls), claw some of them in and party it up. Zone in on the one you want, and just take it from there.

And just get more aggressive in general when on the dancefloor, i.e. without hesitation just take the girl's arm and wrap it around your neck, all the while holding strong EC.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=grPfVlj7Go4

So tonight was an interesting night. It's funny, even on these nights where nothing really happens and nothing opens... there's always a lesson, always something to take from the night.

Anyway- tonight's report will be short becuase it was probably the most INSTANT blowouts I've gotten to date.

So I got out REALLY late cuase I was taking care of something for a buddy and then I still had to meditate/shower so I ended up getting downtown at like 230...

Head to the first bar and it's actually my buddies bday party and I had promised him I'd stop by, so I make a quick stop there and say Hi and it's cool. Nobody was really there anymore, except my buddy and a few stragglers.

Then I head to my usual spot and it's pretty dead.

See a group of 3 girls out front and approach with my usual, direct approach.. they start laughing.. The main girl is semi-hooked... but one thing I noticed is that sometimes a direct approach like this is almost TOO STRONG for a certain caliber of girl.. anyway- her firneds are like, "Do you wanna walk with us" and I'm like, "uhh okay" and there like, "Were going to xxclub" and I"m like, "K, let's go" and then one of them pipes up and is like, "You can walk with us but you can't come in with us" and I'm just like... uh.. okay and peace out. I'm not sure how to handle bitchy comments like this- Like i really want to just shit on her and put it to her when a random girl in the group says this... she was like the unnatractive one of the group and clearly was, on some level, just jealous of the attention her friend was getting... After that though, her friend didn't want me around. wtvr

So I walk into my main place and I do 8 approaches... EVERY SINGLE ONE.... INSTANT BLOWOUT.. wtf

The weirdest part about it was that i felt likke i was TOTALLY in state... like I felt AMAZING... it was like I was on E again. But, unlike last time, NOTHING was opening...

I think what happened was that I was literally feelign so good that I just kinda said, "Fuck fundamentals" and started doing really weak approaches that I just ASSUMED would open because I was feeling so good. Like seriously, I was feeling like a fucking champ

I walked into the bar and immediately was like yelling at the top of my lungs and clapping my hands... just cause I felt so god damn good... but I wasn't sticking to the fundamentals... I was opening weak, not becuase I aws nervous but more becuase I felt so good that I just was being sloppy...

Lesson Learned.

So I leave my main spot and walk around a bit and I'm approaching street sets- like 4 instant blowouts...

Head to another bar- 1 instant blowout

Head to a pizza place to grab cash (not to eat)- see a table of 3 hotties- instant blowout

LMFAO- see most nights I would care, most nights I'd be saying some shit about how these are the nights that put hair on your chest but I literally felt and still feel so good and amped up that I just don't care.... But it IS confusing... like how the fuck could i get these many blowouts, feeling this good... I don't know lmao...

Anyway- I'm gonna pin it on not sticking to the fundamentals and thinking that my state would take care of everything for me. Lesson learned.

Also- going out at 230/3 doesn't help at all.

@buddhagames:

Oh and I JUST had sex for the first time since my challenge started... WOOT

@buddhagames:

Night 16

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuyEgvCVYd8 (lmao! this is NOT how I feel right now.. I just think it's actually kinda a funny song. Mainly because, looking back on my life- like 6 years ago I literally was trapped in the world he's talking about.. and now, well... I'm here)

Okay, so tonight I had to take care of some stuff with my parents. They called to talk to me about a situation that occurred at my sister's wedding... Handled that situation

Head out and it's late so i decide to just get in a quick night and head to some local bars... Walk in and there is only 1 group of people... so I'm like, "Okay, let's make the best of this"- chat up one of the girls in the group (apparently she recognizes me)..

And then OMG- ABSOLUTE STUNNER ALERT

Like dudessss this other girl, sitting down, was so fucking hot. AMAZING face and just like lucious tits that you just want to put your entire face in and fall asleep. So I head over next to where she's seated and introduce myself (this is sorta a social circle intro because I guess I kinda knew the other girl) so I go in just casual and cool and pretty much keep it that way the entire conversation... Just talking about things that i fucking love and that I'm excited about- but in a VERY relaxed and chilled out way..

Logistics are FUCKED though... like I was SOOOO PISSSED... cause honestly, I knew this girl was hooked and like she wasn't being super animated or touching me but it was just cause I was being so chill..

She's visiting from australia and is leaving in 2 days. We chat it up for like 20 minutes and I tell her that I'll take her and her friend out tomorrow night with a buddy of mine (hit me up if you wanna wing this with me... seriously.. the friend is pretty cute and if we're there together.. it could actually turn into a REAL EASY pull)

Anyway- I get the feeling she's into me- even though she's being chill... like literally, she was being hcill because I was being chill (she was in my world)- that's another thing... when girls start to get super relaxed and chill and using like a quieter voice... I ALWAYS take that as a good sign becuase it just means they are getting sucked into my world (and yeah, it's a pretty decent place to be)..

At one point she yells over to her friend to come meet me and we chat but then her friend leaves (another good sign) and lets us continue talking..

But yeah- I tell her I'll take her out tomorrow night and grab the #... she was pretty quick to give it to me. I'll hit them up tomorrow and see what's goin on... she is SO FUCKING HOT... I'ma really gonna push for the meet tomorrow and just go SUPER SUPER PHYSICAL on her... she already knows I'm cool as shit. So at this point, it's just a matter of running some standard text game, getting the meet and escalating (lmao... pretty hard stuff... but I can do it)

SO yeah- that was my night.. head home after that...

It wasn't too bad. The logistics may just not be there yet but we'll see.. could actually turn out to be AMAZING logistics for a 1 night stand.

@buddhagames:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8EH1_jZBl4&feature=relatedjeeeesusss... tonight was interesting... I feel, idk... very calm.. very much at peace...

But at the same time, I have some serious decision to be made. I have good problems... I'm just feeling a lot of gratitude right now.

I didn't even get laid tonight... but it's just like... idk

Anyway- ended up bailing on the ausi girl cause she wanted to meet up in the meatpacking and stunner girl was real on top of her shit, in terms of texting me back for the meet, so I figured it was for sure on.

So we text back and forth and the date is set... She texts me, "Ok, ready when you are" and I tell her i gotta meditate and shower.. she tells me to skip meditation and come get her.. I tell her meditation is like the one thing I can't skip...

Jesus guys, I literally just feel so fucking at peace right now... it's a feeling of like, "Yeah, I'm not where I want to be but I'm on the path and I'm 100% content with where I am" it just feels so peaceful, like I'm in a little buble of calm.

Anyway- we meet up and I give her a massive hug to start things off and immediately start getting physical with her.. doing lots of playful, small touching. She's sober tonight and I can tell she's REALLY into me. Like just the way she smiled upon seeing me, the way she would laugh at all my stupid jokes, the way she would playfully hit me whenever I would tease her, while giving her that smile that says, "Babe... you know I got your back"... I know, it sounds as if I like this girl.. but that's the fucked up part- I don't want to date her at all... Like I have absolutely no emotional attachment to this girl except that I would love to be fuck buddies with her for the entire month she's here

But it's fucked up because I still am capable of feeling all of those feelings that people get when they DO like someone... it's like, I recognize all the amazing qualities that she has, I love her quirks, I love the fact that, while, to me, she looks like a total stunner, after getting to know her- I recognized that she's actually just a TOTAL NERD who happens to casually know the name, off the top of her head, of the big mystical flying animal in, "The Never Ending Story"... but like, tomorrow I'm going to be out beasting and I'll probably feel this way about one of the girls that I meet then...

It's like... idk... when you're able to really get in the moment, you have all these feelings, and love all these things about these girls and yet, there's no attachment, I can't help it- I just don't want to date her... at all... like zero.

But it's fucked up because when we're together, I know i give her the impression that we're going to go out. I can't help that- I love her, in the same way I love myself, in the same way that I love the girl I fucked two days ago... it's all the same...

Anyway- We're walking and we're in my old school's neighborhood, so she's like, "Can you show me around your old school... I really want to see it" So I take her around and show her all my old stomping grounds and I'm being playfully physical the whole time... joking with her... then we start holding hands

Take her to a bar, but last-call has already been made, so we head to another bar...

We sit down and we're across from eachother.. but I want to be physical with her, so I literally tell her we're going to move to the booth... and she goes, "Why?" and i go, "Because I want to sit next to you"... We sit down and I'm being physical and like leaning into her and putting my arm onto her leg...

At one point she actually goes, "You're really close... like you're really physical... I'm just not that kind of girl"... so I back off a little and just keep talking (lmao- just goes to show the mindset I'm in... Like, this was by NO MEANS a perfect date... I just don't care.. I feel very calm. Very much at peace)... keep talking and we start joking around again... and now SHE starts getting physical with ME

So I just start doing the same shit I was doing before, slightly less, but still doing most of it- and she doesn't say anything... she's into it now... it wasn't a shittest... I just geninely crossed a boundary but I didn't react, I respected her space and then paid attnetion to how she was feeling and regrouped based on how SHE was feeling... not based on my own needs

So we head out and she wants to go back to her place...

Oh- so some interesting things... she kept doing this like "projection" stuff... she'd be like, "OMG I can't wait to meet your roomates" or at one point i was like, "Yeah, I haven't gone to the empire state building, I can't wait to go" and she'd be like, "Sammee!!! I'll go with you"... or like talking about how she didn't want to stay in new york for that long but now she doesn't want to leave in a month (it was very obvious she was hinting at us)... she was asking me "bf screening" questions... it was just really obvious...

So we hold hands the way back and we get to her door and we make out a bunch and this time she's much more receptive and I tell her, "Okay, I'm gonna find the never ending story on dvd and next time we'll watch it at my place" and she goes, "OK!!" like all excited... idk, hard to describe the vibe... but I know she wants to be my gf but like I don't want that at all...

It's the same thing with the other blondie...

It's a great problem to have... but at the same time, I'm not getting laid because these girs want to be my bf and want to wait like 3-4 dates... but I can be patient, I don't really care... I guess that's the thing, I can kinda just handle it all... like I'm going to continue to beast and in the meantime, just do my thing with these gals and go with the flow and see what happens. They are going to both fuck me soon...

one thing I did notice with this girl though, is that I didn't have anything even CLOSE to the sexual tension that i had with the other girl... it's the reason the fuck didn't go down... like with the other girl I just felt completely DOMINATE and VERY sexual... with this girl I did not have that same feeling... it's why these girls want to be my gf and the other girl fucked me (prob still wants to date me... to be honest)

I think the reason for this, is that, despite being very calm and relaxed... on SOME level, I am looking for validation from these girls... I mean, it's why I feel so good, despite not getting laid... it's because, for the first time in my life, I'm getting validation from girls of this caliber and it feels good... I mean, yeah, it's not where I want to be longterm- but maybe I just have to get used to this before I can move forward and ASSUME the entitlement and get to a point where I can become sexual and give these girls what they want... rather than just letting myself feel good because of some validation...

But hell, I am where I am and, you know what? It feels damn good, so wtvr.

Even just this stuff... it's crazier than I ever could have expected just 2 weeks ago... like literally, insane, for me, to even be getting validation from girls of this caliber- which is ALSO the reason why I'm not getting laid from them right now... But eventually I'll be used to it and the sex will come... It's just the process folks.

Yo man, I have a couple questions for you if you don't mind.

Do you just do the standard meditation Tyler talks about where you just sit up straight, focus on your breathing and try not to think? or do you do something different?

and what are the main benefits you've gotten out of it?

@RezznT:

Nothing against Tyler, but I've been doing meditation WAY BEFORE he had ever sucked Tolle's cock :b

Started meditating 6 years ago and have been doing it since, off and on.

In terms of what I do when I meditate- I have a a lot of different things that I have done over the years. For pickup though- I think there are two really solid things you can do.

1. Simple mindfullness meditation with your eyes open.

2. Visualisation of the feeling of being enough.

Benefits I've gotten from it?

Heh...

It's changed everything in my life. Like literally, my life is the opposite of what it was before I started meditating. It keeps me sane, it allows me to take life in stride and with a smile. It allows me to take the haters and literally feel as if they are on my team, shittests- just don't matter... you become icy as fuck dude.

@buddhagames:

Man, okay...

So tonight was good because I got out and I did do my approaches...

But I have to say- I was just texting falc about this and what really gets to me is like this feeling I have tonight where I get home and I don't feel like I stepped up to every stunner I saw and the ones I did step up to, I didn't go as hard as I could have.. I'm probably just being too hard on myself, but I can't deny that it does bug me.

It's like, I don't care if they open, but I want to be able to tell myself, at the end of the night that I approached every hottie I saw and did it with my FULL effort... and when I can't say this to myself at the end of the night, I do feel a little bummed... Like, yeah, I'm not crying myself to sleep- but it's just a slight feeling of regret and I don't like it at all.

That being said- I have the BIG picture in mind, and I recognize that no individual night matters, in the sense that as long as I'm going through the process and continually trying to go harder, I'll get there. I just have to really focus next time I'm out to just fucking GO FOR IT.

I noticed tonight that it was almost as if I was going into stunner sets as if I knew i was going to get blown out... doing weak shit..

Like this one hottie- I stepped up and did well with my opener, "I think your cute and wanted to say hi" full eye contact- she started BEAMING.. it was good.... but then I pulled some seriousyl weak shit out of my ass and the very next words that came out of my mouth were, "Do you wanna go grab a drink downstairs"... It doesn't sound weak, but it just wasn't the right time, I should have stuck in longer- chatted her up and gone for it a bit later on.

Another girl I saw waiting in the bathroom (NOTE TO SELF: DO NOT APPROACH GIRLS WHO ARE WAITING IN LINE FOR THE BATHROOM) I went up and was like, "I know you're waiting in the bathroom" and then she just left to go to the bathroom- but what bugs me is that I didn't go in hard and just do my fucking approach... I went in with some weak qualification shit... like, "I know I'm about to bother you but..."... like really?

Anyway- got in a bunch of approaches and hooked one pretty solid set.

It was actually pretty funny cause she was saying how she gave her # to some dude a couple nights ago and never texted him back after he texted her and then she's like, "Yeah... and after I didn't respond he texted me, 'I hope you die of cancer and kill yourself;"

LMFAO- I was like... OMG I PROBABLY KNOW HIM... what's his name?! lol she had forgotten his name.. but if you're reading this and it was you- hilarious bro... and you set me up real good... hard to look bad following THAT up ; )

One area I see myself improving on with my #'s is setting SOLID plans to actually DO SOMETHING... like instead of just getting the #- I always have some sort of plan that I talk about with her first... like tonight I set it up for us to go to turtle bay tomorrow together for $1 beers... and it seemed solid- we'll see...

But yeah- mainly tonight, I'm just reflecting on a lot of the missed sets...

Like the hotties who, after scanning the venue, I went to go approach and then saw that they were with some dude and then I was just like- nahhhh

Or some girl I saw standing around and I wasn't QUITE SURE if she was with a dude, so I just decided not to do it...

This kind of thing... Tomorrow night I'm going to go hard and just fucking do all the approaches I want and do them in the way I want.

I'm not super upset with myself, I just recognize that I didn't give it my full effort tonight. But it's okay, EVEN THIS is part of the process and I'm learning from it and am goign to go out tomorrow even harder.

@buddhagames:

Hey guys, I'll answer questions/replys in a bit...

Just got back from some daygame and it was a fucking AWESOME AWESOME session- I gave it ONE HUNDRED AND FIFTY FUCKING PERCENT... PUSHED SOOO FUCKING HARD

Went out with red100 and another dude (don't know his tagname)... Red100 is cool as shit, and has some sick game, he said he was a little off today but he had a few solid sets.

hahaha man, I can't deny it- going out with wings is just like HEAVEN after going out alone.... gotta write this up, hit up an hour power nap and head out to my Wednesday spot... Basically gonna be 12 hours of straight gaming... FUCKING AWESOME

So yeah, I'm really happy because I bounced back from last night like a fucking CHAMP.... I was literally chasing girls down... Like if I ever saw a hottie and didn't approach immediately I would just be like, "Fuck, BG... now you HAVE to run up to her" and I woul run up and approach.... Some of these were actually my best sets.

I hooked more sets than I can count... it was great. I was getting that "Pop" that I was getting before and I was going in strong, with GREAT eye contact. I was really really really focusing on fundamentals...

O- and I was TOTALLLY FUCKING UNSTIFLED... like just COMPLETELY unstifled..

I was screaming shit in the middle of grand central... like there were these pigeons that were flying near the ceiling and I screamed at the top of my lungs, "LOOK AT THE FUCKING PIGEONS!!" haha... even my wings were just like, "DAMN dude, you are rediculously unstifled"... had zero approach anxiety

God damn, feels good to come back stronger than ever.

I had a few sets, that for me, were notable...

The first one was this 2 set that was seated at an outdoor restaurant... lmfao- like they were literally eating dinner and I walked up beside their table and I was like, "Hey, you are really cute and I wanted to say hi" and then they start laughing and one of them just goes, "WOW... we were just talking about how UNBELIEVABLY SINGLE we are"... chatted for a bit and then (I was behind this wall thing actually... kinda hard to describe) so then I was like, "I'm gonna come and sit down with you guys" and they were like, "Okay"... so I head over and grab a seat and they're like, "Yeah, grab a chair and coem sit with us' so I sit down and we chat for like 15 minutes or so, grab the # and she keeps telling me to call her... we'll see... I texted her and she hasn't responded yet but I'm not too worried... I have a strong feeling it's a solid #

Another notable set was this real cute blondie that I approached in grand central station as she was boarding the train- got her # in like literally 1 minute and I texted her later and she responded, so it's looking solid...

Another one was this girl I approached at the very end of the day, when I was tired as shit... went in VERY casual but she hooked just sooo smoothly... didn't even ask her for HER number... I was like, "Okay, YOU take my number and text me"... we'll see... I could have gotten it, but I just wanted to screen and so I know if she texts me, she's interested.

I was also just doing a lot of really FUN FUN FUN stuff...

For the first time- I was TOTALLY unstifled and at one point, was just spitting REDICULOUS verbals at this one set and they were just DIEING of laughter cause I was like totally dead pan but saying some pretty crazy stuff, for day game... I was like, "So you guys like dick right" and they're just like, "Whaaaa" and I'm like, "Well, you're not lesbians are you?" and they're like, "NOOO!!!!" and started giggling and I was like, "Oh okay, so you guys must love dick" and they're like, "Yeah, we like guys" and were like laughing and shit.... they had just seen me do a pretty crazy approach of this one chick who was driving one of those like bicycle taxis... haha I literally stopped this girl as she was riding her little taxi and got her to stop working for like 5 minutes as I just spat random verbals at her (didn't get the # but it was realllllly fun)

Approached a ton of girls that didn't open or blew me out... but I was just pushing pushing pushing and didn't miss a single girl (at least not that I remember)... it was so great

God damn, having wings is amazing... it's just SO MUCH FUN

Ended the session iwth 3 solid #'s and 1 more that I gave her, instead of taking hers, which she would have given me...It was awesome.

I think, as I get better at this- I can really aim for 10 #'s a day. That's the goal.

Anyway- so happy that I gave it a 100%... lmao, I got back to my room and literally I'm kinda delerious right now... just SO FUCKING TIRED... but gotta hit it for at least an hour tonight... this spot is POPPING on Wednesdays and I have a TON of momentum...

Gotta ride the wave folks, get unstifled and just beast like a motherfuckin NUT...

This blonde stunner that you went on a date with.. was she the one you called your personal 10? And the other one that you went to her house before going out to beast- where did you meet her again? The girl that fucked you was the french girl right.... Lol I kind of got confused on who was who.

Great job on leaving it to the process & evaluating this shit hardcore. Your daygame session sounded awesome.

@buddhagames:

kudos on the awesome daygame session, i had such a hard day yesterday doing it solo.

So did you just naturally click into being loud as fuck and dominating when you stepped up to these girls? I think i was too inward speaking, most of the time i couldn't get the girls to stop walking and when i said ANYTHING it came across a bit odd.

@Gogo:

Yes.. that's EXACTLY what I did...

I was just being loud as fuck, relaxed, funny, chill, confident... Like I was just SUPER SUPER unstifled man...

I was literally in the middle of grand central screaming AT THE TOP OF MY LUNGS, "LOOK AT THE FUCKING PIGEONS... SERIOUSLY GUYS, LOOK AT THE FUCKING PIGEONS"... like the entire concourse heard me lmao

Then like we were walking outside and this group of girls walked past a dead bird and I was like, "OMG DID YOU FUCKING KILL THAT BIRD??!! THAT'S SO FUCKED UP! HOW COULD YOU DO THAT?!" and then they like looked back and smiled and laughed and I was like, "HAHHA I'M JUST KIDDING.. I LOVE YOU... SMOOCHES"

It was like, i just felt... idk... completely AT HOME in the middle of times square- it was like it was my playground and I could do whatever the fuck I wanted.

I was talking to whoever I wanted, wherever I wanted, whenever I wanted...

It's just like this feeling of... "Being free to be you in this world"... like COMPLETELY FREE TO BE YOU... without holding back at all... without feeling guilt or ashamed... just completely free to be me and to enjoy being me and to be able to share that with others.

I was seriously having a FUCKING BLAST man... just literally for the first time, having so much fucking fun...

It's like I was outside of the world that everyone was walking around in... but still very much a part of it... Like, towards the end, I actually had some anxiety about how fucking ON I was... like it almost felt creepy... but then I was like, "Nah, man... you totally deserve this"

Like man, when you feel like this it's just incredible... becuase it's seriously like the world is just there for you and you can do whatever you want and have fun however you want and just like fuck around and do crazy weird shit that's just... fun...

And nobody can pull you down becuase it's imposible for others to not get sucked into it... because it's authentic and when it's authentic... everyone else around you feels awesome- so they can try and fight it... but eventually, even the haters among you, are like... yeah man... thanks for making me feel awesome...

And I'm just like- well, I wasn't TRYING to do that... but I'm SUPER SUPER glad you can have a taste of it... because it's absolute HEAVEN where I'm at right now...

@buddhagames:

That's bad ass dude. Know exactly what you mean being in that zone. Being free to be you, and all that.

Think I needed this bit of inspiration right now. We've been out trying to record infield video for two days now and it's made us outcome dependent somehow and the added pressure is fucking it up on like an unconscious level... it's weird.

Anyway, yeah. Definitely need to get some momentum like this going. This thread is awesome. *tips imaginary hat*

@linus:

http://vocaroo.com/i/s06cshQ6706T

Talked out my field report tonight... didn't feel like writing it out : /

@buddhagames:

You sound like SUCH a Cali dude!