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Calling/Voicemail vs Reenagement text for someone who is ignoring you

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Just trying to see what works best. So I met this girl from Tinder, got her number after like 4-5 messages. Send her an opener with no reply, wait a few days and send a funny value text. She responds, and since then for about a month we've been texting, snapping, and talking on the phone. Thing is, she left town to visit family for a bit but will return soon since she has an apartment here. So we actually haven't met up yet. Things have been going smoothly, and I'm not actually looking to try to hookup with her, but see if there's something long-term there since she's quite ambitious, intelligent, and we have similar humor. 

Not sure what happened though. Her timing on texts were kind of weird, but we were always snapping / having 2 different convos. I think I failed to create attraction and kind of messed around too much with banter. I gotta work on this lol. 

Some other relevant info: She just broke up with her boyfriend of several years just a few months ago. Describes herself as the type of girl that is committed to something long-term (something I'm looking for atm right now, but still gaming other chicks in the meantime). I called her up last week, she wanted to take me out to get boba, I say I'll pass because I don't like it (in a semi-joking manner). She gets mildly irritated and says "Did you just say no to me? I don't get told no very often." I held my ground a little, but eventually caved and agreed. 

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Edit: Not sure why it ain't working, so I just posted individual links of the convo. It's in order. 

http://imgur.com/OzDMq77

http://imgur.com/jMBlMls

http://imgur.com/zbmq1AO

http://imgur.com/hvyCGVz

http://imgur.com/mxGz0ZV

http://imgur.com/ytASijx

I sent a followup text and a few snaps after that last txt I sent and no response. 

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Reupload the images mang

Reupload the images mang they're not showing up

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I will say that first and

I will say that first and foremost.. you're not seeing "romance" correctly. You're not interested in "hooking up" with her so you're handling it how exactly? Like a faggot? If you like a girl like that, you should be on your A game. Not chilling back to "see if there's something long-term." That is a HUGE fallacy I see over and over again in mainstream sociology. That mormon shit is getting in your head dude. Or something worse. Like chodism. ;) Ha!

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Manwhore wrote:I will say

Manwhore wrote:
I will say that first and foremost.. you're not seeing "romance" correctly. You're not interested in "hooking up" with her so you're handling it how exactly? Like a faggot? If you like a girl like that, you should be on your A game. Not chilling back to "see if there's something long-term." That is a HUGE fallacy I see over and over again in mainstream sociology. That mormon shit is getting in your head dude. Or something worse. Like chodism. ;) Ha!

Yeah yer right, I kind of fell into her own frameset when she describes that she's not interested in hooking up. Yeah true man, I have a degree in sociology, in fact the last class I needed to get my degree was "Sociology: The Family (marriages, relationships, etc)"

I think I'm coming from the mindset that I haven't had any type of committed relationship yet, and kind of want to explore that. I don't think I have grown as an individual from all the short-term lays and dates that don't help me achieve my long-term ambitions and goals. Maybe I'm turning into a chode, but there's gotta be another way possibly. Also, I need to be keeping a very low profile nowadays so that kind of conflicts with my newly adopted mentality. 

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There's got to be another

There's got to be another way? Dude it's your failure when you can't turn any of these "short-term" lays and dates into something that lasts longer! Lol. The biology is sound, buddy. You got some 'splainin' to do 

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Yeah. I got no explanation.

Yeah. I got no explanation. You're right this is my own failure. I just thought I was being picky/discarding whoever until I found someone I clicked with. Gay as fuck. I should have been shaping them into what   I wanted.

I'm going to sb for orientation tmr so Ill be gaming some new chicks who I'll be going to school with in the fall. What do I say or do for this chick though?

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Bruh stop fucking with this

Bruh stop fucking with this girl's emotions and hiiiiiiit it. She wants it bad she's just gonna get resentful now and/or think you've got genital warthogs.

Dude that "chemical equation for latina orgasm" is GENIUS. Fucking stolen 

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So what is your excuse for

So what is your excuse for not having hung out with her yet? You didn't like her boba idea so decided not to show up to her askingYOU out? Haha

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She's like 2-3 hours away

She's like 2-3 hours away when we made these 'plans'. She has an apartment here and will return later this month. But she's ghosting me over some weird shit. 

Was that spank thing that gay or what

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You said no to boba before or

You said no to boba before or after the text convo you posted? 

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Way before this. But I

Way before this. But I eventually agreed to go

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And you went? 

And you went? 

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ha no sorry I should have

ha no sorry I should have articulated it better.

When we talked over the phone she said once she returns she will take me out. I agreed to that. (She's out of town about 3 hours away)

This is a convo we had after the phone call (before she started ignoring me). 

she sends me a snap of her wearing glasses

Me: You better wear those glasses when we meet up ;)

Her: hahah I'm always wearing my glasses. Can't legally drive w/o them :(

Me: See now I'm excited to get boban or w/e the fuck it's called

Her: Haha boba, I hope you like it...but I have faith

Me: Let's just find a highly reviewed boban place and ruin their reputation

Her: I'm not picky with my boba so I'll love it no matter what ;). and if you don't like yours then I get it mwhaha

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That's the last message that

That's the last message that you received from her? 

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Nah the last messae was in

Nah the last messae was in that imgur link I sent. "Not cooler. Sorry not sory"

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Dude I still can't figure out

Dude I still can't figure out when what happened when or what sort of timeline we're looking at. I thought you went to college. If you can't communicate you don't deserve to procreate. I'm done here

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Sorry. I'm a dipshit let me

Sorry. I thought I was making sense when I was typing this, obviously it did not so I'm a dipshit. Let me explain this in chronological order without it being a clusterfuck. Would still LOVE your advice man.

1. I call her on the phone. During this conversation, she says she wants to take me out for boba. I said no at first, but eventually agreed to go with her once she returned from out of town.

2. After the phone conversation we have this text interaction a few days later. It shows that she was still interested and game for a meetup. Here is the following conversation: 

Me: You better wear those glasses when we meet up ;)

Her: Haha I'm always wearing my glasses. Can't legally drive without them :(

Me: See now I'm excited to get boban or whatever the fuck it's called

Her: Haha *boba, and you'll like it. I have faith.

Me: Let's just find a highly reviewed boban place and ruin their rep :)

Her: I'm not picky with my boba so I'll love it no matter what ;). And if you don't like yours then I get it mwahah

3. We have still not met up yet, she is out of town. Then after the above conversation, is when this happened:

Me: I found the chemical compound for latina orgasm

Me: (Picture)

Her: Hahahah where do you get this stuff?

Me: Reddit, it's how I waste my time. Way cooler than tumblr

Her: Not cooler, sorry not sorry

Me: Yeah I'm gonna spank you for saying that

My last text of "Yeah I'm gonna spank you for saying that" gets ignored. My snaps get ignored. My reenagement texts and snaps get ignored.