Caught with my pants down (Metaphorically speaking)

What were the circumstances of how she found it? What exactly did she see? Didn't you just tell her to stop looking at your shit? Seems like an invasion of your privacy here dude.

I accidentally left it open on my desk. She saw "Sexualized Texting" and just some steps to do it and these same steps I used on her the next night (I didn't know she knew at that point) I would, but almost everyone saw it. I didn't even know any of this happened until my boss called me downstairs and said "A feels uncomfortable about your texting and wants you to stop messaging her" At this point i've said maybe 5 things to her, none can be misconstrued sexually at all

Now I'm like some kind of deviant around my workplace. Its kinda disappointing b/c the one guy at my work called it "weird" and I figured he'd understand that its just another aspect of life to improve on, no different than leaving a list of soccer tips to improve dribbling and ball handling

I only work with 2 girls and 1 guy right now since our place just opened so its delicate, I already talked to the guy and he's like "yeah we aren't gonna be friends outside of work, and don't try to small talk me" In my head im thinking... oh shucks ill definitely miss you, not.

So far I'm just keeping it totally cool, I talked to the girl I was flirting with, kinda lied and told her it was for a Korean girl I was dating (partially true) but I don't think she bought it
My frame remains pretty solid as I can make friends pretty damn easily, but I'd still like more harmony in the workforce as I'm here for a year

Ok mang this is where I would be snappy and almost sinister and mean in how I deal with these people. Fuck some little fagboy telling me something like that. I would make him feel pain if he tried to come at me like that. But it's obvious you don't have the vocal persona to do it. I don't know how you come across in person but it's obvious people think they can address you like that. That's your issue

I seriously fell off my chair. I would've laughed so hard in his face he would've looked stupid.

Hahaha. Yeah totally.

Also- who are these guys? They sound like total faggots.. ugh... I literally would not hang out with them. You sound like a total follower and you probably give off that vibe.. A little harsh but still - take a look at yourself and what you're projecting out there... you're weak man.

It's like if a chode goes up and goes direct on a girl, she gets super creeped out... but if I go direct on a girl she gets super turned on.

I literally can do ANYTHING and the people around me will either laugh about it, think it's cool or just not care... it's cause I'm awesome

I mean, I don't tell a lot of my friends about "game" but they all know about it.

If one of them saw that stuff, they'd probably be interested, more than anything...

If any of my girls saw that- they'd prob just give me feedback on it lmao

totally agree with most of the stuff you guys said, im not really a follower, and i know these people are faggots but i still need to have a workplace chemistry going on. I was thinking the same thing when he told me but ive never dealt with this shit before i was a total pimp at my old job and everyone loved me.

Its fair what u guys said been acting beta lately in this new place

I just need some advice on what to do to get my frame back

So far i think ive been approaching it good, not giving a fuck, still teasing the girls, still trying to amog this one guy. I dont like my co workers but i still wanna get along with em for work sake

Im sitting next to the guy right now and i wanna say "hey listen dude ill fucking hit on whoever i want, and youre not gonna come at me with that bullshit." Is that what you mean by mean and direct, manwhore?

Naw hold up. We'll discuss in more detail in a bit. But you need a serious setup for this so give it a bit till I can spend some more time here.

Haha, dude wait till you literally get caught with your pants down the first time. Funny times..

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So update, I met some cool people on a trip and starting to establish a new social connection with people outside my work. Would still like a fix to the problem of me losing my frame at work though, I don't wanna come off as a try hard, but I also don't wanna get beta'd every chance they get

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MW,
Can you talk / direct to any sources about how to lay down those kinds of boundaries, so that others do not think that they can talk to you in the way his coworker's have been talking to him?
Thanks.