College game

@durrcity:
mah bro. You're worrying about shit that doesn't matter. Let her meet your friends and get the attention, relax, they're not going to fuck her. Than every now and than you swoop in and dominate but relax and than eventually get lovey dovey with your chick and your friends should realize to gtfo so you can handle business if their not retarded. If they are give them a push like go get food.

You basically come in hot at times but realize it's college a bunch of guys are going to hit on your girl at a party if she's hot. You don't need constant attention from the girl. I see it all the time, the guys fucking her don't worry about it. They hang out with their boys, talk to other girls, but when their with their chick their like in the little love bubble for a while. Than they go back to doing whatever, do it again and eventually leave.

Like for example.

A girl from home came up to visit my friend. Me and a bunch of other bros where in his room chilling. Me and her started flirting hard, she's straddling me while I sit in the chair, being extremely physical with me grabbing my face etc. Now I wasn't going to hook up with my boys chick, he's my boy. He knows that so he relaxed and let it happened and after it goes down with me for a while, he eventually grabs her and tosses her on the bed, they start to get in the love bubble and the rest of us realize to gtfo and they end up banging.

Either your game isnt tight enough or you lack the confidence, which in turn stifles your game. Bottom line is these people shoupdnt be an issue. Look honestly at yourself and figure out whats going on. Elaborate on situations so we can provide advice accordingly

Love you guys for all the awsome advice! relly appreciate it.
I completly understand what both of u are saying.
Now that im sober and reflecting on the night, i was doing a very good job of staying positive and just chillin back when other dudes hit on her.
In fact i didn't even do much talking.
And i did that point that you mentioned about being in yer own little love bubble.
Definatly makes sense cause when i think about it, i was like" yo lets go drink in yer room" right after she was flirtin hard with this dude, then we went back to her room so yea all those other dudes dont mean shit.
I guess i was just drunk last night and being super hard on myself cause im used to like 7's being all over me and gettin better with these hotter girls that are inevitably gunna have a ton of dudes around them.
Thanks broskies

@durrcity: Dope. To elaborate on my previous point, you can't completely ignore shit. Like gauge situations for what they are. Like if shes into the dude, but also into you, recognize it. Dont be afraid of the competition - it only brings you an opportunity to get your game tighter. Get used to hunting for your food haha.

If you can bring a girl into your room and still be having dudes mack on her your fundamentals are very obviously lacking.

@durrcity:
They weren't really macking on her it was mostly like chode, give me 20 hi fives in a night flirting. Believe me if i saw him all in her face i would turn her around, pick her up, and carry her up to her room before he gets the chance to even try anything.

@durrcity:
Also it wasn't like come to my room n fuck, it was like come say hi were pregaming. Forgot to mention that my b homie.

@durrcity:
Well if that's the case why you shouldn't be worried then because you not closing definitely has nothing to do with these guys.

@Manwhore:

yeah, college game is fun.

Get drunk, go to a local bar, claw a girl in, talk to her for 5 minutes, go get pizza, go back to her/your place and fuck.

Also- join a frat dude If you can't get into a sick frat, then make your frat the best (I joined one of the worst frats on campus and literally MADE it into the sickest frat at our school, hands down... it's not even a debate anymore lol) Me and a couple other core guys.

Nah but seriously, just be chill- college is ALL about social circle and who you know... rep is obviously important (anyone says it's not in college is dumb and either didn't get laid or didn't go to college) but to get a good rep, you just gotta not be a total fuckin dick to chicks.

Don't get blackout (I made that mistake one too many times)- but yeah... just flirt dude. College game is retarded easy. I go back their sometimes just to get an easy fuck.

@Manwhore:
Daaammnnnnnn hatin on me hard MANWHORE! I said i took her back to her room ;).
JK i love the harsh feedback. Yea just ignore this post i was drunk and it was some angry drunk nonsense.
This girl definatly likes me so im not worried bout anythin.
Either way its fine cause it's not like she's the only one it's goin awsome with.
Id write down the text conversations but im too lazy right now haha.
Yea whenever you feel im being a pussy or just saying some bullshit please feel free to let me have it so i can get back on track.
90% of the time im solid and the pimpness is flowin, then i get these random days where some stupid shit goes through my head.
Luckily i can cut that shit out by visiting RSD and talkin to people on this forum and hopefully pretty soon gettin torn apart by some harsh feedbck haha.

@Buddahgames
Yes dude very true!
I feel like much of it is long term game, which is fine with me now since im used to it.
Im not gunna lie the first week i was goin around during the day n bein like, "yer cute what's yer number".
Which definatly helped me gain some abundance right off the bat.
Now i just rely on meeting girls through friends or my winggirls which works alot better.
I feel like it's very easy to get them attracted when yer bein a genuine guy and know game pretty well.
They only next step is to meet up and not say anythin too stupid through texting which ive also gotten better at as result.
But yes once you get that reputation and abundance goin, the wheels start rollin very fast haha.
Matter of fact tonight i ran into three girls ive been talkin to that it's been goin pretty well with on the bus ride.
Im literally tryin to talk to one and another is like, "come sit over here n talk to me".
Felt like a kid in candyshop hahaha.
In the beggining once i relized i needed to cool it with tryin to get numbers and just let the meet ups and phone exchanges happen organically, it was pretty slow.
However the ball is definatly rollin for me now.
It's also much easier to tell when they want it because they start chasing back when they see me interacting with these other girls so going for it is getting lot clearer.
As for the fraternity thing, i was givin a bid to the frat i wanted to join but im on financial aid and i just cant afford it.
Luckily my college is huge and i dont need greek life to find parties so it's all good.
I feel like you know exactly where im comin from with this college game stuff and that i can learn alot from yer experiences
at least the ones that you can remember ;).
Any of your college wisdom is very much appreciated homie

@durrcity:
Sorry man not trying to be harsh at all just pointing things out.

@Manwhore:
No it's all good your advice was spot on, i just need to put down more info in my posts.

@buddhagames: thats funny. Similar situation when i fratted in college. Near bottom house, wouldnt say were the best but arguably top3 now. Frats arent expensive durrcity. I think i grew more from joining a mediocre house and being part of that core group who caused massive change. Dude i was on fin aid, its doable. The amount of exposure you get from being in a frat will help shave off so much time. Get a job and pay for it. Trust me, its worth it.

@Aequitas:

frats are expensive at some schools though, that's actually legit. I heard about some costing like 1000 bucks a semester? Fuck that shit..

But yo- I bet if you joined one and showed that you were bringing the awesome, they would find a way to support you....

Basically- whenever there are issues like that- go as far as you can go and if the issue actually materializes into something tangible, then you can back out... but make sure you aren't making problems up in your head.

@buddhagames: ya at usc its 1,000 a semester. But fuck they frat hard. Lol. Works out to $250/month. Twice my dues. We did some badass shit to. Rented out entire hotels and got a mechanical bull next to the jacuzzi. Imho its worth it even at 1k. I think this year theyre gonna put a bouncer slide at the pool. Legit as fuck.

Ya frats tend to have rainy day funds for guys they really like. My frat overlooked a lot of my shit. But i put in maaaaad work.

@Aequitas:

Yeah- USC frats are like another level...

You could throw julien into that mix and he woulnd't get laid more than some of the more highprofile members of the top frats there... it's just another world.

I went to usc and hit up some shit a year or so ago with a buddy of mine- shit was really fucking dope.

Legit police helicopters came to break up the party we were at lmfao! it was orientation week and all the frats were throwing their major shit...

I was at Pike, I think- it was unreal... lol my buddy goes there so I just lied and said I was in pike and it worked out pretty well ; )

Buddah i love you but that's an absolute absolute limiting belief.

@ Durrcity - If you want to join a frat cool. But god damn - NO ONE needs to join a frat to get laid a lot. I don't know what your overall goals are in game, but I personally strive to achieve core confidence. Being able to go into any situation anywhere in the world and JUST kill it. I have a lot of friends in college who joined frats and although i'm not anywhere close to achieving my potential, im running straight up laps around 'em while back in the day they would always steal girls off me.

Honestly mann - you really don't need to join shit to get laid. first and foremost, BE CHILL, BE SHAMELESS BUT BE SMART. College chicks are chodettes so use your head and outsmart them. Just do your own thing, once again BE CHILL, go on dates, there's always day game, those "off-kilter" house parties, and there's always the world outside your college. Throw your own parties, and when you're having your own parties, DOMINATE THAT SHIT. . build your own social circle. Find your niche and build it. Just own who you are, at least 20 cute bitches on your campus will fuckin love you for it. Seriously.

Be charismatic in your classes, everywhere you go - just little simple shit. If you start doing your own thing in college, you'll come out into the real world so much more grounded in your reality than the average frat dude.

My dad always used to ask me from the age of 8 whenever i had to make a tough decision in life :

"Say you're a young hot-shot player out of school. You can have any team of your choosing. Would you rather be an average player/bench-warmer on a championship-caliber team who doesn't get as much playing time and has access to average resources your first few years in the league OR would you rather be the star player on an average team, and have the team grow and be built around you for the first few years of your career?"

Kind of a simplified analogy but the concept applies. I personally think the wisest thing to do for any youngin' is to forge their own path. Some may disagree - just my opinion.

@Katalyst:

Your Mom's a limiting belief

Katalyst = geed

@durrcity:


In Canada we don't have much of a frat scene. The drinking age is 19 so a lot of parties are at dorms.

In my dorms I'm the shit.

I know a ton of people. Every single floor people know me. Hot girls whose name I don't know know my name.

But I"m a fucking pussy.

I don't know why.

I'm a virgin, maybe thats why. I'm decent looking and I"m crazy social. I know tons of girls.

I just don't escalate nearly as much as I should.

When I"m at a place where I know less people I'm actually more comfortable escalating. Like last weekend. I feel I can be aggresive without worrying about repurcussions.

I know this is bullshit but the fact that my RSD buddy who is more aggressive has a lot more haters. Like a girl cockblocked him from banging her roomate cause other people told her hes kind of a jerk. She told me that because I"m cool with her. But he's actually gotten laid and a bj from another girl. All ive done is a couple of makeouts and fingered one girl.

But Idk, Unless I"m actually highly drunk I don't do shit. Unless I'm at a kegger or something. Then I feel free to escalate on girls, try to make out with them.

But in my dorm all the girls are in groups of twos or threes. And I just don't feel comfortable clawing them in and escalating unless I'm drunk.

I don't know whats going on. I feel like the effect end of things instead of the cause end.

Fuck this weekend. I'm just being a fucking pussy. I have more balls when I"m sober cold approaching and letting my intent be known.

I feel like shit. How the fuck am I not getting laid when I know every person on rez and have crazy social proof.

Yea im at a really good place, i have good abundance that keeps growing steadily even though i stopped walking around and cold approaching like i did the first week lmao.
So i have nothing against frats i just dont feel like cutting into my studying/workout/pimpin time to kiss some dudes asses and read from a fraternity book, and random ass good frats that are like 1st or 2nd best keep getting kicked off campus for stupid shit so i prefer to run from the police on my own then with a bunch of dudes that are my "brothers" that i have to worry bout.
Also one of my best friends is in a good one so ill just hitup his punkass when i wanna pay 10$ for a cup.
Yes they always have plans set but sometimes when i walk into some frat parties it's a dissapointment.
For example the last two frat parties i went to, i brought in the hottest two girls there.
And it's not like it's harder for me to get at sorority girls cause one of my really good winggirls is in one so she hooks me up.

@tastycurry
Dude don't be so hard on yourself.
Id say yer better off in the long run then yer aggressive friend.
Unless you failed to fuck a girl who wanted it last weekend you shouldn't be calling yourself a pussy.
But if you did then yea beat yourself up hard lol, that's what i do.
Were pretty much in the same boat kindof.
Only difference is im a little past worrying about getting sexual but it still gets me sometimes.

Not everytime you talk to a girl has to end with fucking (but do it if you can haha) so even if yer having little chit chats with girls its all good.
The more yer around them bein a cool the more they'll be attracted, like what Alex on RSD says haha.
Just make sure yer not afraid to talk about sexual topics.
like i make fun of girls who tell me thay havent fucked in a long time which i also take as an invitation haha.
I think yer fine with that shit though since yer social and most people know u in the dorm.
Maybe yer only tweaking cause you feel like if you make a move that if the girl says no all yer social power is gone and no one will want to talk to u.
Thats pretty irrational but if thats whats scaring you, then you just have to be more playful and carefree with how you go about it.
You don't need to always be clawing girls in it's not always necessary, believe me i thought it was too.
First week i hitup the bars, clawed some girl in away from her friends, blew one friend off, then went in for the kiss way to early and got a hand to the mouth lmao.
But that shit still wasn't over untill her friend dragged her away from me.
So don't think rejection is that serious, i mean this girl had a hand on my mouth while im clawing her and im still havin fun and mumbling shit through her hand.
The funny part was that she would lean me in to her ear to hear what i was saying through her hand which probably looked retarted to whoever was watching lmao.
Alright got way off track, but yea u dont need to claw, a good way to do it is to tease a girl then she'll start gettin up in yer face, all u need to do is make it playful and just feminize the shit out of her. If she starts hittin u be like yer little girl hands cant hurt me, and if she gets more physically playfull then just overpower her and grab her hands or something to show her whos the man.
Obviously dont do like a step by step of what i explained but u know what im tryin to say.
Make it playfull, let her get up in yer face and just mess with her.
Usually around this time u can go for a kiss or somethin then from there just act like nothing extraordinary happened and talk to her like a normal human being cause from there all u need is to be comfortable around each other for it to go to sex.
You said you've been gettin makeouts, but maybe how yer acting after the makeout is what's fuckin u up.
Then again im not really sure whats goin on yo kinda were just callin yerself a pussy haha.

Either way i feel like we can learn alot from each other considering yer the first person around my age that ive talked to about game EVER.
So im pretty pumped, message me or somethin we can figure shit out homie

Durrcity

Youre going against the grain living the life of a geed in college, but its doable. Frats have frat stars who pull, and if you can chill with them or naturals who can pull than you can shave a fuck ton off the learning curve hanging out with these dudes. Easily the biggest contributing factors to my game gettimg better: gym and hanging with dudes whose chill to pull ratio were high as fuck.

@durrcity:

I had a very high chill to pull ratio... almost as high as McCoy's

The frats in Canada suck haha.

They are pretty much a nonexistent factor since the drinking age is 19.

There are some hot sorority chicks for sure though, but way more hot GDI chicks.

I'm still considering joining one eventually.

@durrcity:
McccCCCooooyyyyyyyy!!!!

Oh i didnt know you were canadian. No clue on frat life there. That might be a game changer. Lol.

Were a non hazing fraternity.....

TIME TO GET HAZED PUSSIES!

@Buddhagames: 5:5 ?!

Yeah it is a game changer lol. Right now i"m like a frat boy who's cool but doesn't pull a lot. I'm sure pussy will land in my lap eventually but I don't want to rely on girls throwing themselves at me to get laid. With some work I can be the PIMPSTAR.
I got my rez on lockdown(around 450 kids) in terms of being cool with people and knowing them. I gotta the next rez on lockdown so I hang with the hottest girls from that residence too.

Fuck being cool. Being cool doesnt mean youll pull shit. Take that with a grain of salt and throw a little fuck it into your repertoire. Youll be surprised at how easily your rep can change and how much you can actually get away in relation to having fear to do x y z.

Agreed dude. I def got throw a bit more of "fuck it" and thats my sticking point man.

@tastycurry:

Dude fuck being that social tho. you already know a shit ton of people knowing more wont help you fuck the hotter girls.
Shit just fuck an ugly hoe so you gain the reference experience at least.
Idk how big yer college is, but to get noticed you dont have to meet everyone and be cool with them.(mines like 30,000)
Shit im a freshman but people come up to me and their like, hey yer that dude who was doin so and so.
They'll still talk about you but you wont know it cause you dont talk to them.
For example: I pulled this cute half asian girl out of a house party and were just walkin arm and arm.
Then she's like i started taking birthcontrol so now i have D's instead of C's
Im like, "I do not believe you at all".
She puts my hand on her tit then im like playin with them as were walkin down the street and dudes are like, who the fuck is this guy lol.
Then few days after some dudes come up to me and their like hey yer that guy who's feelin titties on the street haha.
And thats just an example of when i was doin well.
I still get shit like, yer that dude who grabed a girls ass and she got mad.
But i think it's funny and i stay positive because i know i can reengage that girl whenever i want and I frame it how i want it.

I think yer idea of social proof is a little messed up.
Yea it's nice to know people but what gives u socialproof is walkin to a party with some fine girls, or people knowing you and a hot girl fucked.
It's cool to know a ton of dudes and be like, yo homie whats up to 30 kids in a party but that doesn't really get you anywhere.

Just go for the fuck, if you get rejected, stay positive, make it funny and not a big deal cause yer gunna see her again and probably get another chance when things are set right.
Just cause she wont fuck then wont mean she wont fuck later.

If you dont know what the fuck to do just try it out on a girl you dont feel intimidated by and just blame it on the alcohol the next day and make it a funny story.

@durrcity:

Yeah, that's the whole getting drunk part.

Yeah I agree. I gotta just go and be more aggresive. I don't want to be their gay friends.

I'm not fucking an ugly chick, Im too awesome for them. Fuck that, I'm not desperate. I haven't jacked off in like 13 days but I still refuse to fuck a girl who's not 7+.

@durrcity:

Also I"m caring too much about perceptions.

Knowing Canadians I have a bunch of haters who dislike me but are polite to my face. Unlike Americans they'll talk shit behind your back while with Americans they will straight up let it be known they don't like you. Also they are more prone to player-haterism.

I probably have a bunch of haters so why the fuck should I care. I should do what I want instead of being a little permission boy. I'd rather get pussy than have everyone love me.

Funny that I was talking biz with a friend and this realization came to me... haha.