creepy?

@JUSTDOIT:

yeah dude i think girls use that shit on guys who they sense have a lot of confidence or something and they want to bash em somehow

lastnight this girl called me creepy but SHEs the one who initiated the interaction by pointing at me, i stuck out my hand like wassup and she was like "ewww im not shaking ur hand ur creepy!" i hadnt even made eyecontact w her.

Id be interested to see what MW has to say about this tho

if you arent looking at her in the eyes and stick your arm out... that IS creepy

To some degree youre right and wrong. Being unable to read the situation and blindly plowing well past any feint no's is creepy. Being unable to read and react to situations typically leads to being called creepy. Too much intent w/o being chill about it all. But sometimes i feel like girls just throw it out to try to throw you off track. Those i feel like are just way out of place in the convo, and obvious in their intentions. Girl gauging for reaction. Just subtle little shit that shows you socially dont 'get it' usually leads to being called creepy. Its inevitable that youll be called creepy at some point or another. More often at the beginning of getting into this. The term creepy also depends on every girls boundaries, which is why its inevitable that youll end up being called creepy at some point or another with girls, even when youre solid. Just recognize how youre making her react when youre 'creeping' her out and adjust accordingly, while still doing you.

^ Correct

@Manwhore:

Yeah, it's actually weird because as I get more and more into this I notice girls constantly calling me names such as, "Weird", "Different", "Rediculous", "Over The Top".. etc..

But, "Creepy" in particular is never one that I seem to get.

And, to be honest, most of the time when girls are calling me these things they are laughing and still kinda all over me or allowing me to be all over them. That being said, I've had plenty of girls say these things and just be like, "I can't handle you" or something even more just flat out rude about me...

Don't take it personally, bro.

If you're doing this right- you AREN'T going to be like everybody else and it is one of the biggest compliments you can get when someone notices that about you.

@buddhagames - Great way to reframe 'creepy'.

@Aequitas:

haha so many people tell me that kinda shit... like... yo buddhagames, "That's a great reframe of xxx" and I'm like... "Reframe?" It's not a reframe... it's just how I think about it, naturally.

Also- What was said about "creepy" in the prior post... how if you're getting called "creepy" it's cause your ignoring "social cues"- that's dead on...

BUT- what you will notice as you get more into this is that you start to develop a way of basically "Ignoring social cues" but it's not creepy because you are just SO FUCKING CONFIDENT about it

haha I actually had a girl LITERALLY tell me, "Buddhagames... you are so creepy... but you're cute so it's okay".... that's the kinda shit I get a lot. It's just cause I'm NOT like most guys you meet. I don't know what it is yet but I got SOMETHING and it's just "different"... but hey... I'm cute, so it's okay ; )

@buddhagames: hahahahaha verbatim girls have told me that too. " youre so creepy .... " and ill smirk and hold the tension and she'll say " youre just lucky youre cute ". I agree with you on being able to blow past creepiness. But on the flip side like you cant get away with EVERYTHING. Like imo there are just some things that are just universally creepy. Like these are obvious things that are just universally unacceptable behaviors. Honestly im at a point where i just dial it back, let the set breathe, and let her know that i know how im making her feel and that its chill. And ill do that via subcoms or ill vocalize whats going on. Like some of these girls just seem so set in their rules of like not doing this or that. I do notice with girls i feel im out of their league like its not even an issue. Like any rules this girl could possibly have is seriously just blown away by the certainty in myself, and this is what youre getting at, i think. Like I'm trying to adopt that mentality to all women, but man its tough. But im working on myself to gain entitlement. To give you an idea of where im at, 5 through high 7s are what i swing. 5 being avg, and high 7s are really cute, on the cusp of being a stunner. Stunners def elude me.

@JUSTDOIT:

Usually, I took those comments as compliments. But I say that creepy or not totally depends what state you're in. If i'm in a low state of mind, my actions and thoughts aren't very clear and fun. As the results, people think that i'm a weirdo, even I think myself like that, even though my behaviors are pretty constant.
Especially, I was in that state for a long time and kept receiving negative feedbacks.

But throughout these experiences, you will learn to believe in yourself, and how to recognize and get out that low state of mind quicker. And you will actually know helpful and enjoyable being in the present is.