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I think i know what happen with this chick, but i want some second opinions. My bud who ive known 15+ yrs hits me up and essentially set me up with this chick. His gfs cousin. I was supposed to meet up with them for her bday, but i was tired and i had work. My buds gf calls me asks why i didnt come. So we arrange to kick it this past sat. My bud rents a hotel. Mind you ive never met the chick lol. Shes recently single again and her bf is clearly isnt a winner. So we go out and its pretty on. Hand holding, dancing, good vibe. Piggybacking her and just making fun of dudes who would creep while i would go away to grab a drink/piss or whatever. Anyway the vibe is there but she wont give me a green light to makeout. At first i was patient, thinking she just needed to warm up to the idea - she did just meet me like an hour before, but after a while i yoloed it and just tried to go in for it. No dice. Didnt kill vibe, she just wouldnt kiss lol. Rests her head on lap cuz shes tired, holding hands - gayyyyyyyyy.
Her: " you know we arent gonna do anything at the hotel "
Me: Hah, who said anything about that.
Snip to a new convo since that's irrelevant.
She suggests i sleep on the couch a couplw times which i promptly responded witg "get real, not sleeping on couch "
In bed, no dice. No point in even trying at that point - she seemed pretty stern on not hooking up.
She thinks im good looking and my bud did a great job selling me.
His gf at one point said " i want cousin and aequitas to fuck tonight! "
She for sure has never been with/dated a guy like me. Shes young - freshly minted 21 yr old. Also, turns out ex bf is still in the mix. Now what could i have done better? Was she viewing me as a longterm mate so she held back? Once the law school card got dropped i was quick to mention that im leaving for east coast. Vibe i projected was more fun fun fun versus serious. lot of leading her around the venue. Its funny how girls jock harder when youre with a cute chick. I saw girls eyeing me hard. At one point i caught this cute girl looking at me so many times that i just blew a kiss at her when she was looking at me lol( while dancing with my girl. My girl didnt notice ) other girl laughed.
It just sounds like you banked too hard on the "accomplishment intro" and her gf saying she was cool with it, but you didn't run the necessary game/logistics to make it happen. There's a LOT that didn't happen here to make things go down properly. One example is your response to her shit test. WAY too casual mang. Not going to fly. You got to address that better next time
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It's ok to go for the kiss and get rejected once or even a few times. It makes her start thinking about it. Given enough time, her brain is gonna justify doing it. Just don't take offense or feel rejected.
I had a girl that was doing almost the same exact thing you're talking about here, turning her head and shit. Eventually, I got a bit frustrated and I just ended up asking for it, "Can I kiss you now?" She got all girly looking and pressed up on me and we made out.
I think it's funny how she practically told you exactly what she wanted to happen :)
Ya iono my spidey senses were telling me not to push the envelope. I shouldve tried to get to know her. I legit thought that i was above the process with this one. Lol. I think had i showed a genuine interest in her, apart from her body - this would've been a different ball game. How should a shit test like that be addressed in this context? Im so used to just being like "ok, ya sure." Whenever they say stuff like oh nothing is going to happen all the while leading them to my pad. The reason why i felt like i fucked myself was because she dropped stuff like " oh youre gonna make a lot of money in a couple years. " got too shitfaced so i dont even remember the context too much for when she said that. I also DEF shouldve kept trying to mack on her. I mean everyone was rooting for me i dunno why i thought it wouldve ruined the vibe. So lame on my part lol.
Do you think that there is a possibility you had some tunnel vision and were too concerned about the end result here?
Sounds like you needed to genuinely invest more and get to know her. This sounds gay as fuck according to community BS, but the stakes are a little higher when you're being set up by people you know well. There's nothing wrong with slow playing these situations because you'll most likely see this girl again, not to mention the person who set you up.
@g money ok ya i was operating under that mindset of slowplaying this as the night progressed. I think before we met up i was fixated on slamming but then once we were chilling it was strictly fun fun fun. Too much. Like you and i said - had i taken a chance to get to know her i think this wouldve been different. There is a huge value disparity between her and i, she just broke up with her bf. I'm not trying to sound arrogant either - this is just how it was and i could see that is how it was perceived. The hotel imo didnt do shit and was pointless lol.