Critique me/ how to proceed
Hey guys, I've been working on my text game the past two weeks and it's slightly improving. I still have a hard time gauging how to control value in a text convo, small variables such as when to text, how often, and how much I should write. I've had several situations where the interaction starts off very positive but then tapers off due to me not being able to arrange the meet up (or rather not knowing how). However the chode will keep trudging along until he stumbles into a wet hole.
I just need advice on how to proceed here. Also as before if you guys notice any overlying issues with anything such as my inner-game be as ruthless as you want in notifying me about it ;)
Got this number off POF.
Me: Hi honey, it's your in need of counselling/newly rehabilitated hubby. Just wanted you to have my number.
Her: Hey husband :) glad your a new born man.
Me: My memory is fuzzy because of the alcohol detox, you're going to have to fill me in on some details.
Me: What's your name? WHere are you from? red or white wine?
Her: I'm __ :) from ___ and red! White wine is way too sweet :) I Guess this is our way of going, let's pretend like we've never met and rekindle our romance :)
Me: Ahhhh yes rekindle the embers that once burned so brightly (I always was the poetic one) is english you first language?
(goes on for abit we talk about nationality and I send the last text, it's a statement, no response)
Next day:
Me: Hey beb, how was your morning? that Yoga instructor of yours better be treating you well
Her: Haha my husband is so ethnic. I gave Ricardo the boot. He's too young for me and inexperienced. I mean he's 18 for crying out loud. Need a man like you. How are you this morning?
Her: Since you have a european lifestyle, I should remind you about that really nice Hermes bag you promised me
Her: ;)
Me: Funny I'm actually bringing home the bacon now. You're going to have to work just as hard for that bag though ;)
Me: What's your schedule like this week? I want to see your face in person
She replies 5 hours later with: Again with your "you have to work just as hard" we know what that means ;) I've got exams next week but I'll be done by friday :)
Next Day:
Me: Wow, last night was CRAZY!
Me: I told Stacy we decided to work it out and she flipped. Keyed the car up then rang the doorbell and ran!
Me: remind me beb, what do you study and where?
Her: I can't believe you let that lunatic around our kids! I'm studying at ___ for ___ :) What do you do fir a living? just to remind you, you have a young wife :) how old are you honey?
Me: Believe me I know, I just found a ransom note saying she kindnapped the salt shaker -_-
Me: I'm 21, we both know I have a depth of experience so lets say I'm an old soul. Hmmm...you are youn, question is are you youthful?
Her: Youthful in apperance and old at heart :) what's you job?
Her: Or what are you studying?
(this arang goldigger alarms for me, but then again I don't know what I'm doing)
Me: Haha girl, persistence is a good quality that will get you in trouble one day ;)
Me: all you need to know for now...is that I'm a starving artist with a degree in psychology.
(No reply for 2 hours)
Me: Listen hon, I have an offer you won't want to refuse ( go ahead as me) :)
Her: What offer?
Me: do you have a bedtime or do you stay up late? How about we test your phone skill
Her: Hey, I'm a grown woman :) I'm up for a hpone call. let me finish up an assignment first. What time are you up till?
Me: oooh, I like the intensity. Just at the gym now, how's around 11?
Her: 11:30? Need to shower after too.
Me: Me after I get sweaty working out? or you after you get sweaty writing your assignment? ;)) 11:30 deal
Her: Touche. Deal.
11:39 I sent, Ok ready? ten minutes later I called no response and texted "Well that was a fail :/ you never were good at using phones :P
Two Days later around 10PM I sent, "hey beb, you'll be glad to know I got the car repainted and the salt shaker back from Stacy. How was your day?" No reply
then the next morning I text her the it's me your cellphone wanting to get out of your pocket line. No Reply
I haven't texted her in a day and her exams are done tomorrow so I was thinking I'll go for a meet up.
Again guys I really appreciate anyone who actually takes the time to wade through this wall of text, thanks in advance!
You're being way too "introductory" with your texting here 'n there. Do NOT do that. You can be just as fun and snazzy without that. Other than that it doesn't look like you're crafting your meetup attempts very well.
Can you explain what you mean by "introductory" texts? Less questions and more statements?
E.g. you are making a huge deal out of the whole "introduction" process of meeting a new person. You're being too formal about it you're starting things off behind the starting line. If you read all my text convos I'm super comfortable and chummy. You are making a point of saying "Hi you're a new person we need to get comfortable with each other first", it's completely amateur and screams you don't get a lot of pussy.
Ok more assumed familiarity. Thanks for the feedback ManWhore, insightful as always!