Recently I've lost a couple of girls who I had great potential with due to my fear of dancing. I totally lock up and get pretty self concious when dancing in a club with chicks, unless the girl is super obviously into me. Faggy, I know. It stems from multiple occasions of people commenting on my dancing in a negative way or laughing at it in the past. So im determined to fix it. Firstly by just pushing myself into the situations regardless and owning it, but also by taking a couple of dance classes.
Has anyone here done some dance lessons? What style would you recommend for just getting more comfortable dancing in the club and learning a few more useable moves etc.
I remember you were learning hip hop Jon, how'd you find that?
Yep been taking hip hop classes for well over a year now even had a few private lessons. It's changed a lot for me. You want to see what the dance schools are in your area and see what kind of beginner classes there are. You will suck at first, it's ok. Every dude just starting out blows carrots
In only a few classes you'll get basic rhythm down and will be better than 80% of the people out there. It's just basic body syncing
if, like me, you can't find a class that fits into your schedule, you can try this guy who has dvds to do at home.
Being in a class would be a way more enjoyable experience though, plus they're full of wimminz.
Lol I met ^ that guy at a conference a few years back
Ok sweet. Cheers for the replies. Defintely going to check Hip Hop out and look like a retard for a few weeks ;) But it'll be totally worth it!
Ha! I watched a few of his basic vids on Youtube several years ago prior to hitting up the club.
They a great start, as well as watching those who are actually REALLY good at it on the dance floor.
Bunch of dudes in Sacramento/bay area in general know how to get down which is how i learned.
Other than having a few basic moves, i SUCKED at first lol.
MW do you practice the dances on the regular? I feel like it's one of those things you want to practice here and there.
I've been spending more time at the bar these past couple of months, and I feel like i have regressed lol
I haven't hung my mirrors yet in my new spot. But naw don't feel like I've lost anything yet ;)
Man dancing is the shit really. A couple weeks ago in a hip hop club i got like 5 girls sexually harassing me because i was the only guy in the club with MOVES.
If youre really in the zone and dance not to impress, while still having sick moves and girls notice you, you can easily do some crazy shit with them and they will LOVE it cuz it's all fun while turning her on aswell.
And even if you suck, its alot more about feeling the rhythm, vibe and enjoying it rather than trying to do fancy moves.
Aw man dude, dancing is the shit. I'm actually an entertainer for a big events company, and I come from the scene of dancers and stuff. I can assure you dancing is effective as fuck as a tool when you wanna attract a shitload of women at the same time and . Whenever me and friends go out it's simply a matter of us dancing (as a form of self-expression, not as a crutch for validation), and it'll turn into a feeding frenzy on the dancefloor. Girls will literally come up to you and be like "omg you're so fucking hot" etc etc. This is the easiest way IMO to stand out and actually elevate yourself over the snobby hot chicks in clubs where women are higher quality. It makes you 'cooler than them' since you become the center of attention (as superficial as this all sounds). After that, just pick the girl you like and game like usual, isolate, normal protocol.
I would suggest learning not only hip hop, but learn house dancing as well. House dancing (not the bullshit shuffling that ppl do at edm shows), works really well for clubs that play lots of edm (and you'll shit on the people who only know how to shuffle).
And if you can, start learning how to dance to reggae music (in the sense of having that hip movement). It makes a huge difference when you're grinding with a girl and can actually move with her. Usually they'll get so turned on they escalate on you at times. That shit gets girls wet bro.
To learn house dancing I would recommend Jardy Santiago's house dancing tutorials on YouTube. For hip hop, I would recommend a dance class like manwhore said, but ALSO be watching dance battles on YouTube as well (both for house and hip hop). Practice practice practice, emulate, and after a while you'll start getting creative with shit.
Dancing is a tool like anything else. It is NOT, I repeat NOT a substitute for game and I'm not implying that in the least. But it can do well as an equalizer in places where girls are snobbier and think they're cooler than you. I know this guy at one of the local bars by me, dude is like 43 years old, always dancing by himself and ALWAYS gets a shitload of cuties flocking around him whenever he's doing his thing. He just has no game and never really capitalizes on anything.
Last thing I would say OP, is although dancing can be great for initial attraction, don't become a dancing monkey with it, and don't get carried away dancing all night. I only say that cause I've done both and missed tons of opportunities cause of it. It's a super quick way to get out of your head and into a present state. Treat it like a tool in your batman utility belt.
Hope I helped out a bit. This was my first post evarrrr, lol.