Dating multiple girls question

I think you should give some actual examples of what's happened, so the guys have an actual real idea of what's going down.

The answer to your question below always comes down to the answer to this question:  What do you want to happen?

If you want to keep these girls as "friends" then don't escalate.  If you wan to fuck them, then do.  Its really that simple.  You can apply this question at the micro-level too with in individual situations.  You decide on the outcome that you want and you lead the girl(s) to it.  If they're not onboard, then oh well try again and learn from it.

Your way too scientific with this shit dood.

You have a group of girlfriends who know your girlfriend and you want to bang a few of them, but you dont want your girfriend to find out your banging them?? You think girls dont talk to each other? Im having trouble understanding your logic. Your putting up illusory barriers for yourself. This is one of those situations where if you wanna bang other girls be like nike and just do it. Sounds like you should break up with your girlfriend and bang everything that walks. Or keep the girlfriend and bang everything that walks. Do whatever you want baby. Its a free world. There are no limitations on this shit.

You said you are scared that a new girl will think you have misled her and think your a dick after she finds out you have a gf. Just dont mention that you have a girlfriend and there will be no misleading. Girls know I see other girls without even asking just because of my personality and they dont care. Every once in awhile a girl will say to me, "are you seeing other girls" which I reply, "yes". No misleading going on there and they are completely fine with it. I dont hold there hand walking down the street, unless im trying to pull them, I dont tell them they are the one, I dont tell them I love them, I dont say wow ive never met a girl like you before or any of that hollywood bullshit. I dont mislead them.

Some quick advise if you want the relationship to last dont bang her friends. Bang girls she does not know. If your out with your girlfriend and you see a girl you had sex with recently come up to you or something just play it cool and pretend she is just a friend. Then after the interaction say to your gf, "I think that girl likes me".

My question is, these girls: now that I have them in a 'friends' frame, is it worth it to start leading/escalating them towards sex at this point?

Dood any time is a good time to start escalating them towards sex if that is what you want right? The alpha male makes up his own rules. RIght? In short, if you want the relationship to last dont bang. If you do not want the relationship to last then bang.

Does this make sense? Im trying to make this as simple as possible.

Alright. If your girlfriend is cool with you seeing other girls your just not being proactive. Your, in fact, being a pussy. You need to nail these girls.

But in the case of your social circle of girls that know your girlfriend......you need to fuck the hell out of those girls too. You need to fuck them and while your fucking them role play like your the customer at mcdonalds and she is the cashier and she fucked up your number 3 on the menu and your making her pay for it.

^ Oh shit.. make her pay for that 

Tell her next time you'll order the Asperger quarter pounder with cheese maybe she'll understand better

Yo dude. I love that your going for relationships. It's my personal favorite part of the game. Your all messed up because your conflicted. As a man you can't be conflicted for very long or it will destroy you. I've been conflicted countless times in life and I find more and more that it's resolved by making a decision and going for it.

If you want to have sex with other girls and your gf is cool with it, it's just a matter of figuring out how cool she is with it. The most common girl is the girl that does not want to hear about when you do other things. ie. don't bring up your on a date with another girl if she texts you.

Other girls I've dated actually WANT to hear about other girls I've banged. I dated a girl for a year that respected and wanted to hear about what I got from other girls. This is likely because her ex cheated on her and she just wanted a full honest relationship at that time.

Keep in mind these rules don't just apply to your gf. They apply to any other girl you bang that you would want to have a relationship with at the same time.

Let me give you a practical example. I banged a Latina girl last week on an epic romp. I hint at seeing her again and he said "this is the quickest I've ever had sex and I still consider you a stranger."

I really like this girl, the sex was great, and I want to see her again. So..knowing this I say "What do you want to know that would not make me a stranger." She asks me two questions:

-Do you have a girlfriend/wife
-Are you in love

I respond to the first question and say "Yes, but we both agreed that it was an open relationship." To the next question..."Yes" because I flat out am in love with the one girl. These really weren't that easy to answer in the moment.

Guess who's coming to cook dinner tonight at my place? The Latina girl. Why? Authenticity / honesty. Whatever you want to call it. She saw that I'm a full on honest person and can't help but feel like she can trust me.

This wasn't the only thing I did but it was probably one of the biggest.

I wrote a huge article on this stuff awhile ago that goes into more detail. You may be able to dig it up.

Lastly for banging the "friends." If they know her that's kind of fucked up in my opinion unless she's super open. I've never done that so really can't speak on it. If they don't know her then just escalate at a good time and see how they respond. If they freak the fuck out just apologize.

I didn't really lay out the op in the clearest possible way but I worked this out and the comments definitely helped.  It was mind-blowing to realize to what extent I was sabotaging myself and in my own way. My girl had no problem with me and these girls, these girls had no problem with my girl. I had been projecting the issue the whole time. Since I rearranged this its been a whole new story. Threesomes. I escalated on one of my girls bffs in my boat the other day, pulling her tits out right in front of my girl. We seduced another girl from the social circle this week and have been spending lots of time with her. It looks as though she's turning into a regular gf of my girl and I (their periods have already sync'd up, lol). The three of us hang out, touch each other, get sexual, one-on-one or all together. Its no big deal to me so its no big deal to them either. When I'm out I intend to keep approaching and meeting new girls and potentially having more girlfriends. I have been working to adopt comfort with this mindset for awhile now, it finally clicked into place. Amazing how our realities are bound by our own minds.

FUCK YES!

Dude that's hilarious. LOL 

I know I'm not going on any boat rides with A.j. Ruby! 

Dude that is exactly the boat you want to be on this summer lol!