Day 2 I just had
Jan 24
Thanks Manwhore, G-Money, and Jack.Ruby.
She ended up meeting me at the bar I went to. She called me and I went outside to find her, hugged her.
To be honest I was definitely happy with how the date went. It's not like she was dripping wet ready to get on her knees, but I had her laughing almost the whole time, being silly, I think I had a really nice amount of push/pull teasing her, and physical rapport. I went in for the kiss at one point and got the cheek but she was happy that I did. When we were close to finishing our drinks I paid and had them comp hers since there was a fly in it.
I told her let's go to my place for a little to hang and she said maybe before she went to the bathroom. When she came back and we went outside I asked her again as I put my arm around her and she said yes. We got my car from the valet and went to my place. On the walk to my room i push her against the wall and kiss her. We go into my apt and into my room, and I put on a movie. Like 2 minutes into the movie we agree that we can barely hear it (its streaming) and we're over it. I get on top of her and we start making out. I pull her shirt up and try to undo her bra. I've got all the hooks undone except one and she's like "dont you know its connected to the shirt?" Im like "I thought you just unhook it" and she clowns on me for never having seen a bra before...
Did I miss something cuz I never heard of that shit connecting to the shirt. Either way it was definitely not smooth I need to do my research apparently
(Going to go a little in depth here cuz I feel like this is a sticking point)
We keep making out and messing around and I try undoing her pants button twice. Both times she says no. (later on she says not on the first date but another time)
This continues a couple of minutes and then I lose my boner and I'm not into it anymore.... I don't know about you guys but just making out with a girl, even playing with her tits doesn't do much for me. Maybe I just need to visualize other shit. I think it's also that I really don't know how to MAKE a girl turn me on, and I'm inexperienced with bossing chicks around in the bedroom. I guess that shit comes with time
Maybe I also watch too much porn. Whatever it is, it was like I had this feeling of being completely not into it anymore
It got super awkward here since she sensed that something was off, and asks whats wrong. I say nothing and then kind of lean back and just look at her. I don't know what to say and just sit back looking at her until she asks me If I'm okay and then she's like "Okay I should leave"
She says that was weird and I tell her it doesnt have to be and I dont think so. Even though it was lol.
Things feel kind of off after this even though I do my best to blow it over and I tell her I just had a really big boner, going along with her theory that I expected sex. The last thing I want is for her to think she turned me off, and regret having come over
I take her back to her car even though she says she can get a ride. On the way she thanks me for inviting her out and says she had a good time. After the last part of it I'm not sure how much of that was true. Like I said the first part of the date was actually really fun, but I could tell she felt uncomfortable after what I just described
She tells me about a coupon for some app shes going to text me
When we get to her car I kiss her bye but its a shitty kiss lol
She still says bye with enthusiasm, I tell her to text me the coupon, which she hasn't
Rough finish to a good night. Don't worry about being smooth, it can be awkward as fuck and as long as you're not reactive everything's fine. I sucked tonight too. Shake it off bro
Was it doing the backstroke? You got extra points for being "fly"
Ok back to reading
This is what's wrong with America. A girl acts dumb and the guy thinks it's his fault
And don't get me started on Canada
That being said your sexual escalation was terrible.
Be PRESENT to it. If her shirts' being an asshole then SAY something about it rather than clamming up about it and retreating into your head like mommy's going to come rescue you because you don't know what to do.
"Yo I'm trying to rape you right now what's going on. Is this shirt rape proof what the fuck is that that's not fair!"
You should download some e-books on sex. Sex God Method and Way of the Superior Man are good places to start. In short, focus on all the little details going on with her. This will keep you present. Her body, movements, breathing, shaking, quivering, etc. Her feminine energy alone should get you rock hard but you must practice. Also, just fucking BREATHE. as stupid as this sounds many guys bust a nut a in 30 seconds because they're just too tense. Sex is fun.
Good advice by MW too. Inexperience is only a bad thing if you make it a bad thing. PERCEPTION IS REALITY.