Dealing with Potential Roommate Situation- Disastrously dirty house
So I'm moving in tomorrow to my new place, where I have 3 roommates.
And the common kitchen area is dirty as FUCK. The floor is horribly dirty(cause each person leaves their shoes outside their own room, so they walk on the floor with dirty as fuck shoes with salt and snow. Kitchen sink is dirty as fuck.
Fuck that. I'm not down to live like a pig. On a scale of 1 being super clean and 10 being a complete disaster, its a 7.5. Pretty dirty and filthy and not good for productivity.
Anyways, the reason Im' moving in there is becuase my buddy lives there. He's pretty bad with cleanliness, his room is dirty, but in terms of the common area he's pretty decent with getting his dishes cleaned up and washed. I've seen him make his green smoothies and he cleans up after himself.
So he tells me the main person really messing up the place and not cleaning up is our third roommate, an 18 year old Asian chick(I know right).
The other roommate is a guy who's pretty chill, I've talked to him before, and my roommate says he wants the place cleaner too. Only thing really holding them back is a lack of leadership(my buddy doesn't give that much of a fuck about cleanliness so he's not going to put in extra effort to keep the girl in line), and the Asian chick who apparently is really bad at cleaning up after herself, and also taking others stuff.
How do I deal with this? I've already talked to my buddy and he's down to keep the whole place a bit cleaner, The guy roommate I"m pretty sure will be on board. What about the girl? I already get the feeling that the guy roommate and my buddy resent her a bit, so I don't want to poison any relationships. But she has to get on board, and clean up. I'm down to take leadership in this situation even though I'm just moving, because my buddy doesn't care enough, and the other guy has too way weak of a frame for him to get shit done.
I'm thnking of just talking privately to the guy roommate and my buddy, and then just setting up a roomate meeting where we vote on the situation. My concern is when do set the rules and someone breaks them.
Bro you are over thinking it, you havent even moved in yet. Everyone likes a clean house, once you get unpacked there just keep your shit tidy and express your concerns to your bros about it.
And don't trip about 18 year old asian 9(lol) if anything she can become your most valuable cleaning resource. Asian girls are super loyal and responsible once they make a descision to do so.
And then just buy a whiteboard that is big and everyone can write shit on and make dope comments.
Yall should have "cleaning weeks", so that one person is responsible for the cleaning one entire week, then another person the next week etc.
Of course everybody takes care of their own dishes etc. Also, create a facebook group so that everybody can get notified quick about any concerns
i just moved into a student dorm and was hoping there would be alotta girls and naturals who would bring female friends for parties lol, but there are moslty guys and although they're cool and like to go out they're not pulling any girls. im gonna have to change that.
This girl is literally stonewalling us.
Last weekend when I moved in, I saw her once and said hi, and gave a friendly reminder to clean the dishes she has had in the sink by tomorrorow. That's the only time I've actually seen her/met her because she was leaving. First time meeting her and I was in a good mood so I didn't put any harshness in it at all, since I expected she'd do it because she said she would.
Anyways the next day I left for my parents house since they are in another city right now, and I expected that she'd clean it up obviously considering both me and my roomie told her to clean it up.
I came back late last night and the same dishes were there. Literally a week. I was pretty pissed.
So when I wake up today I went to her door and pretty loudly said her name. I told her to clean the sink today, it smells disgusting. She said yes from insider her room, she'll do it. This was more of an a tougher tone I used more power behind it but it wasn't harsh. I then got ready went to the gym, and did a bunch of errands.
I come back and she's gone and the dishes are still there. It smells fucking horrible and my room is nearest to the kitchen.
I'm really fucking pissed right now. I'm going to call her the fuck out and drop all pretenses of societal niceties when she comes back.
This girl basically hides in her room and sneaks in and out when she thinks nobody else is there.
Handle it. Shame her if you need to. You can relate it to all kinds of low-class or even animalistic behavior lol. Make sure you also bring up the fact you know she's sneaking in 'n out, take that away from her.
Anyone else have more lenient ways of handling this?
Stuff like this is why people turn into assholes. Like me
Lol so the way I dealt with this was the next day I went outsider her room, told her she needed to clean the dishes, now, and that it was disgusting and super disrespectful.
She said she had to go "now" which was bullshit so I told her that since its blocking the sink I'm going to put the dishes in a garbage bag and put them outside her door until she cleans them. I just said it without really any kind of anger or anything, just very matter of fact and she said alright.
So I put the dishes in a garbage bag and put it outside her room. She left looking pretty pissed and slammed the door.
Next morning I wake up and she's cleaning the dishes. She cleaned like most of them, and said some of them were my other roommates.... I didn't really believe her but whatever I made her clean up most of the mess she made.
My buddy was doing some damage control when she said she felt like we were ganging up on her while cleaning the dishes, said there were no hard feelings blahbaha.
I didn't really give a fuck lol. I let her know the garbage bag idea was 100 percent mine. I did tell her that I appreciate her doing the right thing and cleaning it up today.
Lol. She felt like everyone was ganging up on her, huh. What about the collossal mess and rank odors coming from a nasty kitchen. She's the one forcing you all to live with the misery of it.
Bro I told you, it is like breaking a horse.
In time you will mold her into a finely obiedient asian. Her behaviour will be corrected.
Upcomming LR I hope. (jk... kinda)
Edit: BEcause you are having such a positive impact on her life already, after squashing this silly garbage nonsense soon you will be able to correct all actions in her life and mold her into the ultimate model citizen. Perhaps one day, 20 years from now, she will look back and be thankful for the harsh yet constructive rigiment you instilled into her. Piano Lessons. Piano Lessons.
You will definitely be able to bang her. In fact if you don't, she will be pissed off. ;)
Yeah, I could potentially see a hate fuck going down before I/she leaves the house. lol.