The difference Between "Buying Temperature" and "Sexual/Romantic Attraction": Why it's easy to confuse the Two
Sat, 05/11/2013 - 22:57
It is so important to understand the difference between "Buying Temperature" vs. "Sexual/Romantic Attraction" --- There's a big difference and you can get really good at amping up a girls buying temperature without actually creating any "sexual" attraction.
It's the difference between being looked upon as providing, "Fun Value" and being looked upon as providing, "Sexual or Romantic Value"
Kind of odd- but that's the way it works... it's why you can look like you're dominating but actually you're just doing a bunch of BT shit that isn't going to translate at all.
Don't get me wrong-- you can pump BT all the way to a bathroom fuck but if that's all you're doing- you can fuck her in the bathroom and she won't respond to your text the next day... Gotta hit on actual attraction switches which require more than just BT work.
If you don't understand the difference between these two concepts, it is quite possible that during the night, you can get 10+ numbers and have a blast, makeout with a ton of chicks, maybe even get a bathroom pull or be very close to something of the sort.
BUT
The next day or the next week when you go to text all of those numbers you got- You are going to be viewed, in the eyes of the woman who you are texting, as, "Just an emotion" - like sometimes girls won't even remember you as a person but rather just as that "fun", momentary, emotion and for a lot of women, that's not enough to get them to invest in seeing you again.
They may remember your name but what you provided, that "Fun" vibe- just doesn't exist anymore, so it's going to be very difficult for you to get the meetup.
If that's happening to you- it's because you're pumping their BT like crazy but... That's IT....
Buying temperature is just a momentary phase of heightened emotions but it quickly dissipates when the spark//cause is gone... You can look at it with the following analogy:
Buying Temperature: Pouring gasoline onto a fire that's still kindling- It will create a momentary burst of intense flame and heat but as soon as you're done pouring the gasoline onto the flames, it immediately goes back to its previous state
Sexual/Romantic Attraction: A properly built fire, built from the bottom with kindling and then putting pieces of wood on top of that and slowly increasing the heat, with each new piece of wood. You can increase and decrease the amount of flame/heat but once the fire is going, because it is built on actual wood- you could leave for a couple hours (given the fire is big enough and built properly) and come back and it will still be going
So if you meet a girl at the club/bar and you go super direct- you just jump started her BT... you then insta-makeout with her... again- BT... you run a lot of humor and cocky/funny- again.. BT - this is all great, too, there's nothing wrong with this.
Maybe you pick the girl up and are jumping around with her- again, this is all BT WORK. And I want to reiterate that there is nothing wrong with this, at all... Pumping a girls buying temperature is actually a very important part of game but the issue is that it, like everything, has its place.
But in order to get that "longer-lasting", properly-built, fire going- you have to take a moment and actually build attraction or as soon as you leave the environment, you will cease to be a person to her and you are simply that momentary emotion.
It's the difference between being looked upon as providing, "Fun Value" and being looked upon as providing, "Sexual or Romantic Value"
Kind of odd- but that's the way it works... it's why you can look like you're dominating but actually you're just doing a bunch of BT shit that isn't going to translate at all.
Don't get me wrong-- you can pump BT all the way to a bathroom fuck but if that's all you're doing- you can fuck her in the bathroom and she won't respond to your text the next day... Gotta hit on actual attraction switches which require more than just BT work.
If you don't understand the difference between these two concepts, it is quite possible that during the night, you can get 10+ numbers and have a blast, makeout with a ton of chicks, maybe even get a bathroom pull or be very close to something of the sort.
BUT
The next day or the next week when you go to text all of those numbers you got- You are going to be viewed, in the eyes of the woman who you are texting, as, "Just an emotion" - like sometimes girls won't even remember you as a person but rather just as that "fun", momentary, emotion and for a lot of women, that's not enough to get them to invest in seeing you again.
They may remember your name but what you provided, that "Fun" vibe- just doesn't exist anymore, so it's going to be very difficult for you to get the meetup.
If that's happening to you- it's because you're pumping their BT like crazy but... That's IT....
Buying temperature is just a momentary phase of heightened emotions but it quickly dissipates when the spark//cause is gone... You can look at it with the following analogy:
Buying Temperature: Pouring gasoline onto a fire that's still kindling- It will create a momentary burst of intense flame and heat but as soon as you're done pouring the gasoline onto the flames, it immediately goes back to its previous state
Sexual/Romantic Attraction: A properly built fire, built from the bottom with kindling and then putting pieces of wood on top of that and slowly increasing the heat, with each new piece of wood. You can increase and decrease the amount of flame/heat but once the fire is going, because it is built on actual wood- you could leave for a couple hours (given the fire is big enough and built properly) and come back and it will still be going
So if you meet a girl at the club/bar and you go super direct- you just jump started her BT... you then insta-makeout with her... again- BT... you run a lot of humor and cocky/funny- again.. BT - this is all great, too, there's nothing wrong with this.
Maybe you pick the girl up and are jumping around with her- again, this is all BT WORK. And I want to reiterate that there is nothing wrong with this, at all... Pumping a girls buying temperature is actually a very important part of game but the issue is that it, like everything, has its place.
But in order to get that "longer-lasting", properly-built, fire going- you have to take a moment and actually build attraction or as soon as you leave the environment, you will cease to be a person to her and you are simply that momentary emotion.
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 00:51
#1
Is this basically what you're
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 01:07
#2
Yeah, that's part of
Yeah, that's part of it.
But he doesn't ever actually pinpoint it as a matter of "Buying Temperature" vs. "Attraction" ... and that is exactly what this is.
It's also the difference between doing this shit for "validation" and doing this shit to "Fuck"- if you want validation... pump her buying temp... if you want to fuck her- flip the attraction switches - and furthermore- do it methodically and consciously. Don't leave it to chance.
Attraction and Buying temperature look very different.
Attraction looks like nothing... I mean, it looks like you talking to a 2set and the hotter of the two girls, slowly and discreatly getting closer to you and touching you in discrete ways that only you notice
Whereas buying temperature everyone at the club can see and makes you look like a boss
Also- I think he's trying to touch on a "larger" issue than I am touching on here.
See- the "Moment of realness" as he puts it- involves much more than "attraction game"- I'm actually just focused on the difference between BT game and attraction game- whereas he was trying to get across and discuss the entire "moment of realness"- which, actually, was probably WAY TOO MUCH to bite off for a 5 minute video
Becuase the moment of realness involves attraction + disinterest + qualification... which is all well and good but yeah, I was really just getting at the difference between attraction and BT
But he doesn't ever actually pinpoint it as a matter of "Buying Temperature" vs. "Attraction" ... and that is exactly what this is.
It's also the difference between doing this shit for "validation" and doing this shit to "Fuck"- if you want validation... pump her buying temp... if you want to fuck her- flip the attraction switches - and furthermore- do it methodically and consciously. Don't leave it to chance.
Attraction and Buying temperature look very different.
Attraction looks like nothing... I mean, it looks like you talking to a 2set and the hotter of the two girls, slowly and discreatly getting closer to you and touching you in discrete ways that only you notice
Whereas buying temperature everyone at the club can see and makes you look like a boss
Also- I think he's trying to touch on a "larger" issue than I am touching on here.
See- the "Moment of realness" as he puts it- involves much more than "attraction game"- I'm actually just focused on the difference between BT game and attraction game- whereas he was trying to get across and discuss the entire "moment of realness"- which, actually, was probably WAY TOO MUCH to bite off for a 5 minute video
Becuase the moment of realness involves attraction + disinterest + qualification... which is all well and good but yeah, I was really just getting at the difference between attraction and BT
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 01:42
#3
Ahh ok cool, I see what
Ahh ok cool, I see what you're saying. Awesome
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 02:00
#4
Your 2nd post really
Your 2nd post really clarified it for me quite a bit. I don't do very much BT stuff, only like a little bit here and there, so when people talk about this dancing monkey syndrome it doesn't really make complete sense to me.
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 02:05
#5
BT is different from dancing
BT is different from dancing monkey- VERY different
BT game actually is VERY important...
1. it allows you to gain compliance easier
-For example: Open with a high-energy opener that gets the entire groups buying temperature higher, they all start to laugh and then you have everyone's attention and can hold court moving forward
2. It allows you to physically escalate smoother- you can escalate as you spike her BT
3. If you want to isolate a girl- BT game is super important
-As opposed to just saying, "Hey come with me to grab a drink"... You can spike her BT with a joke or a playful cocky/funny tease and then as she's laughing and her BT is spiked, you say, "Oh wow I just HAVE to get a drink' and you grab her hand and pull her with you without even asking her to come- and she will almost always follow BECAUSE you spiked her BT beforehand
4. If you continually spike it enough, you can get a VERY FAST fuck
I'm sure there are more but basically it's NOT dancing monkey game... it just is the stuff that will outwardly look like she's into you- whereas attraction doesn't always share that same quality
BT game actually is VERY important...
1. it allows you to gain compliance easier
-For example: Open with a high-energy opener that gets the entire groups buying temperature higher, they all start to laugh and then you have everyone's attention and can hold court moving forward
2. It allows you to physically escalate smoother- you can escalate as you spike her BT
3. If you want to isolate a girl- BT game is super important
-As opposed to just saying, "Hey come with me to grab a drink"... You can spike her BT with a joke or a playful cocky/funny tease and then as she's laughing and her BT is spiked, you say, "Oh wow I just HAVE to get a drink' and you grab her hand and pull her with you without even asking her to come- and she will almost always follow BECAUSE you spiked her BT beforehand
4. If you continually spike it enough, you can get a VERY FAST fuck
I'm sure there are more but basically it's NOT dancing monkey game... it just is the stuff that will outwardly look like she's into you- whereas attraction doesn't always share that same quality
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 02:41
#6
Buddha this reminds me of
Buddha this reminds me of when you posted about how back in HS chicks would be down to hookup with you, but didn't want anyone to know. Would this classify as your typical BT situation?
Sun, 05/12/2013 - 02:45
#7
Nah- haha those girls were
Nah- haha those girls were legit attracted... I just had negative social proof but I mean I would end up dating some of those girls
Wed, 05/15/2013 - 03:14
#8
Good post.
This also has a
Good post.
This also has a cyclical effect on you. Long-term
This also has a cyclical effect on you. Long-term
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Wed, 05/15/2013 - 03:57
#9
That's a solid observation,
That's a solid observation, thanks MW
This was actually a distinction that I literally JUST figured out maybe 4-5 days ago.
This was actually a distinction that I literally JUST figured out maybe 4-5 days ago.
Fri, 05/17/2013 - 11:01
#10
yo BG this is so on point.
yo BG this is so on point. tonight I basically went around adding fuel to fire...it feels good in the moment, but quickly evaporates, leaving you wondering why you get flaked the next day.
any tips on how to get sexual/romantic attraction and actually create that properly built fire?
any tips on how to get sexual/romantic attraction and actually create that properly built fire?