Discipline is king
This is a topic that’s been exhausted within the game community, I keep coming to it again and again but talking about higher paradigms I want to give it a different twist.
Self authority is literally your power to author your own experience. Your emotions, your experience, how you paint both the good and the bad. This links back to law of attraction and manifesting your own life through self-fulfilling prophecy. Women are a microcosm of this. They follow your lead. What you believe and project will take shape in the interaction .
MW specifically has a drill to re-write embarrassing memories to make you the BAWS in your own mind. Extrapolate the same concept to life. I can do no wrong, and because I believe it, it becomes true.
What I’m getting at with all of this is, the more you give in to lower consciousness the less control you have of your own experience. A slave to your emotions, temptations, vices...a slave to your ego.
Once you accept though that the only thing you can ever really control (or even have the right to) is yourself, you stop resisting life. What stems from that is a focus on keeping yourself in check, directly following it, a sense of self-trust. Knowing that no matter what situation you are put in, you won’t become prey to your lower consciousness.
The reason relationships are so amazing at pointing out your ego is when you don’t have control over your life you try control your girl. Some of my best wings use their girl as a gauge for how on point they are. BUT this is inherently the wrong place to come from. It seeks to measure power from outside. The only gauge you should have is how in control you are of yourself.
The conclusion you come to is relinquishing regulating anything but yourself.
Now here comes the beautiful part. because having authority over yourself makes you inherently attractive, the girl will be the one trying to increase the intimacy. Ever try to control a girl? You might not even have noticed you were doing it but it manifested in you somehow imposing rules on her. This is ultimately ineffective because you are trying to program her. An idea or decision is MUCH more effective when it emerges from internally (one of the reasons coaches make you come to your own conclusions instead of feeding you information). And what could be better than speaking directly to her biology making her want to embody that cohesive femininity between the two of you.
And if she doesn’t? you don’t care because the only thing you ever try to keep in check is yourself.
I’ve been on a game-denialist streak, indulging my inner psych-nerd. Even as I’m talking to other girls and out of scarcity I still look for ways to analyze my girl, explain her behaviour, label it as good or bad, masculine or feminine, avoidant or pre-occupied…BLAHHH
Truth is all these frames are fun, but they inherently make me reactive. I am already attractive. I already have game. I’ve been trying to fix something that was perfect the way it was. I just need to let go into presence and flow.
Get out of your own way, the only thing you need to focus on is self-mastery. Whatever resources you need to deal with life will be there not before, not after, but right in the moment.
LOL I love that meme. Nioce stuff
Here's Dr. Peterson explaining the science behind the cognitive rewiring work I do with my students as Niv mentioned above. ;)
Starting at 1:30. BEAUTIFUL
2:52 he describes the way context changes to allow for external factors to embed shame and pain in a person's subconscious.
Just make sure of a few things. First off don't let "discipline" become an excuse for existing in a "depressed", overly serious or somber state. You have a problem with that. That is simply an excuse to remain in that prey-based life paradigm that many young men fall into around high school/late puberty, and mostly never come out of. It's a lie, a beautiful rationalization put on by your adult brain still enslaved by emotional wirings from your childish past.
Happiness = Self-expression
Self-expression creates synergy with others.
That is how you accomplish everything.
We have to learn to tear down our own walls. Discipline is good to pursue skill sets and experiences, but to be too emotionally or mentally guarded is contrary to the real goal. Becoming an empowered, financially independent, emotionally independent, alcoholic bad ass.
Yes, what self discipline allows you to do is give yourself that permission to self-express.
You are the only one that has the reference of your internal world so based on how you're operating you might have a build up of not expressing yourself. A scarcity of vulnerability because sometimes self expression isn't something social. It can be as simple as hitting the gym and making your bed or as complex as opening up to your significant other.