Ejecting From Sets Properly
There is much to be said for how to leave a set. For example, if some girls are rude to you, it's always good to make them look dumb, but in a polite way. Funny enough, this might actually flip the set and you'll possibly be reapproached later.
Say you walk up to some girls and use a situational opener, just asking a logical and non invasive, easy to answer question about something relevant. This is the perfect set up for a great exit strategy. People say "plow through bro". I think that if the behavior is exceedingly bratty or rude, or dismissive, plowing is pretty gay unless you're going full confrontational. Thats my stance on it. If they are responding like shit to your polite and non invasive question casually walk away, and as you do so, you simply say, OVER whatever they're saying, cutting their thread, aggressively but very politely, in flat kind of dismissive way, like they are sad retards, "Oh. Just wanted to see if this place gets poppin later. I'll just go ask the bartender. Thanks" and leave. You don't let them finish what they are saying, you just interrupt with this as you walk off. As you are saying it your attention should be drifting away from them, they should feel what they have just caused as a palpable change in their social status.
This makes them feel like "Damn, he wasn't even trying to pick us up or creep. He was just asking us a question, and he's actually just
a cool, normal dude who we snubbed for no reason at all."
Now, not all girls give a fuck. A lot do though. Even ones who seem very bitchy on the surface and give you a bad response.
Sometimes they will reapproach. Often they will look at you for a long time after, and if you catch their glance you can either
smirk at them, as a reward for them giving you this IOI, but don't reapproach, go get other girls or talk to other people, or you can roll your eyeballs up, not like with an attitude but as to manufacture the automatic communication of "Not interested, you are of lower status" with your eyes. Girls know what that means. It will kill them.
I say, it's always good to eject from a set as higher status. You can do this in many ways, but this is a good way to do it. This is good to
do anywhere and with anyone, male or female in any setting.
This is why thinking of things as "rejection" or a "blow out" while practical, can be harmful, it's much to better to frame that shit as
them having fucked up, AND being CONGRUENT to that after. The key is not to be butthurt, but to literally just believe in your higher
status and their folly much more than they believe you're a creeper trying to pick them up.
I disagree with the mindset on this one.
Why, as an in demand alpha male, would I strategically set myself up for an easy ejection? I get your point on being able to easily walk away from the set, but it seems as though that mindset is kind of a defeated before the fight even starta kind of mindset.
I definitely agree with not not taking the “blowout” personal and not getting butt hurt, I just feel as though I’d you have the rip cord planned in the back of your mind prior to even walking up, you are gunna pull it too soon and miss out on some chances
Oh, no see I’m not walking up with a “playing to not lose” mentality. This is just an example. These things are created in the moment from the situation itself, as it’s happening. The thread is just to make people aware of this particular social nuance. Of course we aren’t walking up to girls here hoping they’ll blow us out so we can make them feel stupid. This kind of opener is good if they play ball, as you can get them qualifying themselves to you right off the bat if they think the place is cool or whatever. All around good shit.
Had a whole reply written out to this that got blanked. But essentially you can do the same thing but stay in. That same drifting away of your attention, with or without the offhand comment, and casually or not so casually look at her friends with a look like, "So.. are you going to save her from this." It encourages one or more of them to step up and sweep their bitch under the carpet. That knee-jerk shitty response is immature and actually low-class, and women know it. Let it be known you don't get treated like that and they'll almost always correct the situation. I've even just completely ignored the shittery and continued calmly locking eyes and talking with one of the more attractive or otherwise "high value" women in the group, completely ignoring and shutting the troublemaker out. Women are very forgiving of social tension. 'Cuz they're fuckin' dorks and they know it. Lol. And they get turned on by dudes who can handle it super well, OR dish it out.
Obviously there's different degrees of this as well different purposes. I def go to war from time to time and shut a female shithead down if there's students involved or if the girl's initial response was especially flagrant. I'll tear her up. Girls can be total dickheads for no reason, and if they start trying to shit on a student I'm going to cause some discomfort. I've made plenty of girls cry, or leave the venue and go home by themselves.
And then yeah there are times I just don't care, happens too much these days honestly lol, or I just fuck it up for whatever reason haha
Thanks for your reply Manwhore, I like how you are actually actively but subtly goading them to invest and take your side AFTER you make her feel dumb lol, my way is a lot more passive after, which is good for some things, but
your reply gave me a nifty little understanding that I can take to further my game a little more than yesterday.