Elliot knocked this one out of the park - why men need mentors
Proper mentorship includes giving wisdom and direction to a mentee while allowing them to maintain full responsibility of themselves. Patriarchy instills in us a distrust of authority figures, and while a bit of that is healthy it can bite us in the ass. Mentors are not tyrannical fathers, the government, police or priests. They are sport coaches, tradespeople, counsellors, manwhores. And while they can take any form it's the overall frame of giving the mentee autonomy while moving towards the same goal and giving wisdom and guidance along the way.