Ever since i let go of ''always having to be right'' i'm much happier :)
After i started self-development and PUA and shit, i started becoming a massive dick.
If someone dared to say ''approaching girls is creepy'' or make an excuse infront of me, i would just go at it - blahblah!!!!! PRESENT TO THE MOMENT, TOLLE, JULIEN said, TONY ROBBINS, SAY ''I''
That made people hate me, but even worse, it made me hate people.
Telling the truth is absolutely unacceptable unless people really ask for it.
After i ''grew'' as a person over a few months, i changed my approach to this.
People would talk about their excuses, i would say ''maybe you should do THIS instead, but do what you like.''
This angered many people too, because i didn't fully agree with what they said.
This made me actually hate people even more for some reason...
Recently i noticed a change.
I started just nodding and agreeing or just being like ''hehe, yee, anyway''
Just never starting arguments on ''personal'' topics.
(I still talk shit about subjective topics like what colors is the coolest or which hamster race is the cutest, but nothing that can be viewed as an attack on their ego).
Everyone loves me now and most importantly.
I no longer think people are fucking retarded, now i just think they're fucking retarded, but it's ok.
YEH
Uggh. I would have slapped you silly
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I usually just smile and let people do what they want. If what I do works, people will eventually start doing what I'm doing. You can also learn from people with weird/wrong views, look at what theyre doing and copy what you like
If I ever do say anything, it's always from a place of compassion and genuine care - sometiems people need to be knocked upside the head, but people can also sense if something is coming from an egoic place or from a place of genuince compassion... and will always respond accordingly
If I ever do say anything, it's always from a place of compassion and genuine care - sometiems people need to be knocked upside the head, but people can also sense if something is coming from an egoic place or from a place of genuince compassion... and will always respond accordingly
thats a very good point. I used to be very critical and i still think i was mostly right, i am just very sensitive to details and bigger picture of things... But looking back it was definitely coming from the place of egoistic criticism. Nowadays i try to give feedback to people only when they ask for it... Or to very close friends i genuinely care about and i wont have their shit if its holding them back in life.
people usually dont want to hear critcism even if they ask for feedback.what they're truly asking for is a pat on the back. I know this from music when people send me unfinished stuff and i point out some possible improvements, most will end up being butt hurt. I used to be the same in this regard.
pottedflowers wrote:
If I ever do say anything, it's always from a place of compassion and genuine care - sometiems people need to be knocked upside the head, but people can also sense if something is coming from an egoic place or from a place of genuince compassion... and will always respond accordinglythats a very good point. I used to be very critical and i still think i was mostly right, i am just very sensitive to details and bigger picture of things... But looking back it was definitely coming from the place of egoistic criticism. Nowadays i try to give feedback to people only when they ask for it... Or to very close friends i genuinely care about and i wont have their shit if its holding them back in life.
people usually dont want to hear critcism even if they ask for feedback.what they're truly asking for is a pat on the back. I know this from music when people send me unfinished stuff and i point out some possible improvements, most will end up being butt hurt. I used to be the same in this regard.
Before i give advice i always just ask myself ''will they listen or no?''.
Even if i have the best thing for them and geniuenly want to help, i will NOT say anything if i know they won't listen.
I'm not gonna say anything.....haha jk. Good post