Exploring personal boundaries and negativity
Fri, 04/05/2013 - 04:08
K so for a while I've been doing this sans negativity. I always used to do things in reaction and out of anger/retaliation, etc.
Now when ppl cross me I let them know calmly yet firmly, in presence. I've gotten a handle on that and I think it's time to had in some harshness when due.
Yesterday a mutual friend called my sister a slut and cited her Facebook profile pic as an example (her wearing normal club wear). He teases her sometimes and it's fine but he was doing this harshly and it hurt her.
My current self would tell him calmly that what he did was wrong, hurt her and if he wants to carry on our friendships he better stop.
But I reallyyy want to tell him to fuck off and that he is an immature Aspergers riddled cunt. Not out of anger or in reaction but so the punishment fits the crime.
I can still tell him what I want but in a way that projects onto him the reality of what he did
Thoughts? I gotta explore my dick side
Now when ppl cross me I let them know calmly yet firmly, in presence. I've gotten a handle on that and I think it's time to had in some harshness when due.
Yesterday a mutual friend called my sister a slut and cited her Facebook profile pic as an example (her wearing normal club wear). He teases her sometimes and it's fine but he was doing this harshly and it hurt her.
My current self would tell him calmly that what he did was wrong, hurt her and if he wants to carry on our friendships he better stop.
But I reallyyy want to tell him to fuck off and that he is an immature Aspergers riddled cunt. Not out of anger or in reaction but so the punishment fits the crime.
I can still tell him what I want but in a way that projects onto him the reality of what he did
Thoughts? I gotta explore my dick side
Fri, 04/05/2013 - 13:41
#1
It's apparent this is
It's apparent this is ongoing? Yes you have it correct then.
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Fri, 04/05/2013 - 22:54
#2
Well yeah.I always just
Well yeah.
I always just dont react and tell them calmly yet firmly that they fucked up and it needs to stop.
I'm just wondering how to lace that with some harshness. I mean sometimes ^ that isn't enough.
Is it just in the vibe you project? Like if you don't smarten up a world of hurt is going to rain down. Cause you could project that calmly and with "nice" words or you could use really nasty words with a pitbulls tonality
edit: I know the example I used needs to stop, and I know how to pull it off. I'm just talking in generalities. It seems these days more and more drama and bullshit is being thrown at me from people. I'm not sure if I leveled up in my manhood and girls and betas need to test it, or I'm just hanging around younger people these days. Cause both are true.
I always just dont react and tell them calmly yet firmly that they fucked up and it needs to stop.
I'm just wondering how to lace that with some harshness. I mean sometimes ^ that isn't enough.
Is it just in the vibe you project? Like if you don't smarten up a world of hurt is going to rain down. Cause you could project that calmly and with "nice" words or you could use really nasty words with a pitbulls tonality
edit: I know the example I used needs to stop, and I know how to pull it off. I'm just talking in generalities. It seems these days more and more drama and bullshit is being thrown at me from people. I'm not sure if I leveled up in my manhood and girls and betas need to test it, or I'm just hanging around younger people these days. Cause both are true.
Sat, 04/06/2013 - 00:32
#3
The severity of how hard you
The severity of how hard you project depends on how far they crossed your boundaries.
Expressing personal boundaries isn't some technique.
If they disrespected you deeply, it's perfectly suitable to be intense.
Own your reality. Have a standard for behavior you demand from others.
Expressing personal boundaries isn't some technique.
If they disrespected you deeply, it's perfectly suitable to be intense.
Own your reality. Have a standard for behavior you demand from others.
Sat, 04/06/2013 - 04:49
#4
A lot of this stuff is
A lot of this stuff is prevention measures beforehand. I don't get young guys stepping up to me because at the drop of a hat I can be explosively dominant in conversation from a very happy frame. It lets everyone know unconsciously that I'm not to be trifled with, AND, more importantly, they have nothing to fear from me unless they do try to fuck around.
Aside from this, if I have to take corrective/shaping action, I can be very venemous with my words, either low spoken and sinewy, or louder and more ferocious, or some mix of the two.
Aside from this, if I have to take corrective/shaping action, I can be very venemous with my words, either low spoken and sinewy, or louder and more ferocious, or some mix of the two.
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I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Sat, 04/06/2013 - 13:01
#5
Phss I'm not scared of you
Phss I'm not scared of you manboob ; b
But also- standing up to people can you teach you lots of lessons about yourself- like when you start setting boundaries for the first time- whether it's at work, with your friends, family etc. There is a "growing pains" period..
Kinda like a mini-adult version of "Teenage Angst" where you're like, "You know what.. FUCK THIS" and you go to a place you haven't been before, then you can take a second and check out what's going on and it's like, "Oh, interesting- so I didn't like because of x" or "Maybe I overreacted here and deep down I was really upset about y"
It's a process for learning and finding out where your ACTUAL boundaries are.
But also- standing up to people can you teach you lots of lessons about yourself- like when you start setting boundaries for the first time- whether it's at work, with your friends, family etc. There is a "growing pains" period..
Kinda like a mini-adult version of "Teenage Angst" where you're like, "You know what.. FUCK THIS" and you go to a place you haven't been before, then you can take a second and check out what's going on and it's like, "Oh, interesting- so I didn't like because of x" or "Maybe I overreacted here and deep down I was really upset about y"
It's a process for learning and finding out where your ACTUAL boundaries are.
Sat, 04/06/2013 - 13:47
#6
I'm just trying to make it
I'm just trying to make it understandable to you guys, and let it be clear I have no ego or weird "super power" complex about it. It's just a facet of human nature.
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I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Sat, 04/06/2013 - 15:54
#7
Word.
I have an ego but I'm
Word.
I have an ego but I'm not too serious about it- it's more of a fuckbuddy relationship at this point
I have an ego but I'm not too serious about it- it's more of a fuckbuddy relationship at this point
Sat, 04/06/2013 - 23:07
#8
Ya she's seeing me too. I
Ya she's seeing me too. I fuck her when you're not around.
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I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male