Fashion Intern Girl
Met this girl at a concert Monday.
Walked up to her like "You go to X School" she's like "Yeah, omg how'd you know!"
I walk outside to "smoke" with her friends and then leave immediately when some dude comes up that was trying to wing with me but is weird/akward
I come back a little later and motion for her to come inside, she comes and I'm like "Walk with me talk with me" we talk a little about average topics but I have this boss type of frame going on (at least more so than I have been and that's what I'm working on)
She tells me she has to go back to her friends since her phone is dead. I have her put her # in my phone and tell her we're getting icecream ( I tried to pull her but she kept bringing up her friends)
I make sure she remember my name as she says bye to me, and pull her in and kiss her cheek and she's all giggly
So on Tuesday I call her, she picks up and guesses that its me. We talk for a few minutes and she tells me shes going to call me when she's done working on some project for work. It's getting later in the evening and I was invited to go to this nightswim pool party, so I text her
me: How's it coming along
(I have to be at the pool party by 9:30, and my time is running out so I call her and leave a voicemail saying that)
her: Chatting with my friend but its coming along! Its not too late?
me: Too late?
me: If youre coming I can stay but I was going to head to this pool party
me: Gota let me know now tho
her: Oh okay, just go to the pool party then! We can hang out any 'ol time
Weds she texts me
her: Whatcha up to?
me: Out with my friend right now, want to hang in a bit?
her: Im in weho! Lame lamw
me: Out by yourself? I'm pretty much just leaving, want me to swing by since I'm close?
her: It's kind of formal..
her: Like the 40s era
me: Want me to save you? Haha
her: Im with friends! What are you wearing?
me: Im with my friend too lets ditch it and hit a nearest bar. I'm in a pink polo not dress worthy
her: Im probs gona stay but if you wanna come its on X and XX
me: *Picture of me at a pool party fucking an inflatable pink unicorn* You think they'll let me in like this
me: Minus the pony, just being funny
me: What's the place called
me: We're coming
At this point I realize my car got towed. My friend I was with was swearing up and down that the meter spots we parked at were fine, and like an idioit I didn't look at the sign. So we had to go get it,
40 mins later we get to the bar
me: Where you at
her: Going to my place
me: We'll meet you there what's your address
her: who is we??
I call her she tells me that she's going home I'm like ok well lets hang out for a bit its not even late yet. she tells me to call when I'm back in our neighborhood, she tells me that like 3 times Im like ok fine
me: Ok I'm heading back now just me what's your address
me: I got hotpockets 'n popcorn I know yer hungry
her: Im gonna sleeee
me: Babe c'mon I'm right here lets just chill for a few
me: I promise I wont keep you up long
That last text is really weak I realize that,
Today I left her a voicemail:
Just curious on what you guys think about this interaction, any obivous places where I could have done better and what you guys who consistently pull would have done here
You're "asking" too much, you should be directing more. You're waiting for her to give permission before taking the next step. "Want me to come by?" "Want to come meet me here?" It's brimming in indecision a girl's not going to be down for that. Need to be "the man with a plan". That's why it's a fucking saying, lol. Also, this is even evident in you trusting your buddy over YOUR car when you should have made the decision yourself and found a sign. Derp
You're getting better. Stick it thru young man.
She texted me while I was in Vegas
Tried sending a video of Diplo but it didnt go thru
me: In Vegas
me: I'm so over this whole "traffic" thing. Soon they'll be building freeways for me
her: Oh yeah??
her: What makes you think so?
Any ideas of what to hit her with? Just trying to solidify plans with her and get her over
Dude you have a major template to work with. Go with it don't be a momma's boy
Not trying to be a dick here, but what's the hardest thing you've ever had to do in your life?
I'm gonna challenge you right now, and just say that you come across lazy as shit..
Look man if it's a tough texting scenario I get it, I'm here to help. Not only are you a student of the training program but you're also a buddy. But dude you know a big theme of our coaching has been you gaining not just a new level of independence, but of BOSSness. You've relied on whomever to handle things for you and this is WHY you haven't gained that level. This is why your date went the way it did the other night. You were alone with a girl and that slight inadequacy presented itself. Well it was more a snapback effect, you didn't want to stay on that independent path you were trying to revert and look what happened.
The freeway thing is an easy scenario. You got this. Do it.
me: Pretty sure I just passed u driving, past the ****
her: No haha
me: Hmm must have been ur twin she was ogling me at the stoplight.
me: I was like girl, dont make a scene
her: Hahaha I drive a scooter
me: A scooter? Wtf lol
her: Moped, yes. Haha
me: So what are u and ur moped doing tonight
her: I maay go to hollywood
me: Drinkin in the hot tub, wana join?
her: It will probably ruin my hair....but thank you!
me: In hollywood tonight?
me: I just crashed this pubcrawl
her: On melrose
me: Melrose is for hipsters
her: Yes exactly
me: What bar I might come over there and drink u under the table
her: Pour vous
me: Lol everytime
her: Told ya
me: Come to Warwick
her: Going to Hudson
me: U still there
her: Nope on santa monica and laurel
me: Awh fakk Nicole, I hate getting hungup on
me: Warwick was dope u shoulda came
her: Body shop strip club
me: Come outside
me: Not trying to pay $10 I'm not trying to stay here
me: Come outside to talk for 2 seconds
me: No time
she comes outside and we talk. im not trying to go in there and hang with her friends. plus its late
I call her yesterday and shes giggling i tell her we're gona have a moped race, i tell her we're getting drinks tmrw she says she has dinner plans with mom. Was a good convo had her laughing
me: Im going to race u in this *picture of this thing that looks like the mini batmobile
me: Ur so done
her" I thought I just began...
me: Ya the race starts at 830 after diner. Think u can manage that?
her: What race freako? Speak english
me: The moped race! I need a couple drinks before tho
her: Oh hahaha. Did you get your hands on a moped?
her: Send me yo fb, little odd one.
me: Just sent u a pic of my new batmobile tardface
me: Dont use fb i prefer real life interactions
her: But I don't know anything about you and must sufficiently stalk
me: Yeah thats why theres this thing called actually getting to know someone irl
me: U can stalk my ig: ****
her: *sly emoji
her: Haha is that actually yours??
me: Lol why
me: Yo so are we hanging later if not I'm gona get involved with something else
her: Okay then get involved with something else
Not sure how to give her the proper backhand I guess. Both times ive ever tried this technique I got this result
me: Ever been to ******? Thinking of getting bottle service there tonight
her: I havent but im staying in tonight. Should be fun though!
her: Im having a sleepova at da *my building*
me: Not a real sleepover unless (my nickname)s there
her: Joe Kelly?
me: U've seen my ig u kno who the man is
me: Besides I make the best forts
her: Naww i am unaware
me: That's like a creepy old warlock laugh
me: What's wrong with you
her: Yes precisely ehehe
At this point my friends and I got to this lookout point overlooking the city and I was more concerned with trying to set up my phone to take a pic, I also thought she was def. going to text back but I feel I could have handled this better. Her initial text was inviting, and I probably ended up making fun of her/pushing too much, whereas I could have texted her something like "So you want me to bring over connect 4 or Scattergories?"
me: I just made it rain w my wizard skillz (it rained in LA for the first time in forever)
me: So who alls at this sleepova
I think I answered my own question but just curious how you guys would have handled this.
Alex that was one sexy fuckin voicemail
I think the problem here is the eating of cheetos.
I think it's incredibly chode as fuck to drop her that bottle service text. You've been learning this stuff for how long and you drop that?? I mean you basically just threw yourself in the club chode category along with countless of other guys she knows. "Hey baby, I got money and free drinks so come hang out with me" So she rejected you immediately lol, that shit won't work on ANY quality girl, they get that shit ALL THE TIME. I mean the fact that she rejected that idea immediately saying no to free drinks and partying makes her a legit girl in my eyes. Too bad you have no shot with her anymore. This one is done. Live n learn. I would actually keep her around though since you can learn something from her lol.
Yeah it was possibly taken that way. You want to "bait" girls other ways, unless it was a genuine question then whatever
Her texts at the end seemed inviting. I think you got caught up with too much push, without any direction. You should've been moving things towards the meet up with the push. Time elapsed, then you threw out a feeler to see where she was at. Hindsight 20:20 tho, this chick wants it.
Ok I realize my text game is lagging behind my in-person. it's getting better but yeah, this girl has been pretty short with me in her responses recently and I just read MW's drama text post so I figured I'd try out something here
here's the last bit of convo before I texted her today
-before these texts I had randomly ran into her and went to this underground warehouse party, she gave me molly that she flirted with this guy to get for me, and paid for half of my drink. she was also speaking to me in an insanely feminine way, turning me on. This was probably bc I was just so gorunded and awesome ;) but before this I grabbed her by her hips and pushed her into some bushes, gazing into her eyes she was like "no no, none of that", she was right behind her friends and on the way to the party at that time but she told me I smelled good and I can tell it turned her the f on.
me: You at the tailgate?
her: Yes who dis be?
her: *my building*?
her: I am!
me: I'm partyin w kkg u cant handle this
her: Listen to my shower
her: Show haha
^i Know she did this on purpose
me: When/ where's it on
that was in october
me: Real cool *her name*, real cool
me: Can we stop fighting
me: And go back to the way things were when we met
me: When I kissed you on the cheek and you giggled
her: I wasnt aware we were fighting...
her: We hardly speak
me: I know it's sad *sad emoji*
me: cuz I think you're pretty
me: And cool, when you don't let it go to your head *tongue out emoji* :)
me: Haha u have a heart of ice girl
So basically, I'm wondering how to flip this and get her out. Haha I know it's doable
Hm not sure that's the proper use of that sort of game, and I'm not sure you're understanding my idea of "drama" game. I'm talking about negative emotions, her being pissed or what not, or you being pissed, etc. But when a girl isn't investing much it's really not a good idea to start telling her you're into her. My use of that dynamic was to take her high-strung emotions and anchor them to myself by releasing her from them and calming her down. Like a magical boss
Yeah I definitely realize that after the fact haha. Clearly theres no high emotions here right now I havent even talked to this girl in a while, but is there any way of flipping this dynamic here? Like maybe build some intrigue so she starts giving me more to work with?
You could fuck with her and be like. "ice cream. you got a heart of ice cream. It's that generic walmart brand"
Or you could bait her into meeting up to hear more with some sappy shit, which would be much harder to do, haha, but you started it down this path buddy! Be like, "I dunno sometimes I feel like your heart doesn't have a voice. Like you stole christmas you little grinch. What are you up to day after tomorrow? I'm gonna blah blah"
Or you could break that one up into a couple texts if you played it right.
I understand that this is a texting forum and guys are on her trying to close, but sometimes you just have to let her go. You just go for it with some solid game and if it does not work then let it go, dude.
just seems to me like this one is not anything special and nothing to spend anytime thinking about,