First tinder in a while, thought I had it! then last minute bail (a month later annnnnnddd i'm still hangin on)
Me: Hi :)
Her: Whats up!
Me: Your bio says your interested in dogs but you didnt post one of yours!
Her: I have some pics on my insta!
Me: I dont have insta :( :(
Me: you better not be lying and have a cat!
Her: What!! your missing out
Her: I dont have a cat and never will have one
Me: thank god cats are nasty :/
Her: cat owners scare me
Me: me too they are loney and weird :(
Me: like a weird type of hipster
Her: lonely weird and psycho. who would ever think getting a cat is a good idea :( :(
Me: hahaha wow you REALLY dont like cats
Me: was your ex boyfrield a cat person?
Her: come on (name) you think id date a cat person!
Me: had to make sure it was a great judge of your character
Me: and your looking alight at the moment :)
Me: Hello are you still there alive and well
Her: hahaha yes im still here sorry sorry!!!
Her: i hate checking tinder
Me: well whats your # this conversation was interesting but lacking continuity
Her: (number)
Me: Hi (name) this is (name) :)
Me: so i now know you dont like cats which is cool
Me: but do you believe in aliens
her: hmmmm idk about aliens hahaha
Me: well what are you unsure about
Me: its in the wiki leaks homie
her: wanna get abducted together
Me: umm yes of course
Me: I heard a huge invasion is happening tuesday...
Her: oh man ill be at work
Me: oh well im sure they will be around for a while
Me: when are you free to engae in extraterrrestrial activity?
Her: hopefully soon haha where are you from anyways
We talk about basic stuff for a bit
Me: where do you work?
Her: (shoe store) in (town)
Me: your such a girl you do it for the good deals on shoes dont you :P
Her: hahahahaha that may be part of it
Me: I knew it!
Me: (we talk about her town for a bit)
Me: so next question, are you a trump or hillary supporter? :P :P
Her: oh gosh hahaha
Her: whats your last name
Me: no comment? :o :0
Me: last name
Her: haha well i mean neither are good
Me: I agree but its fun to discuss for the sake of conversation
Me: did you just facebook stalk me or something :) :)
Her: haha no im doing homework i just needed to save your contact
Me: oh your in my phone as (name) Tinder :P :P
Her: rude
Me: :P :P you deserve better
Me: whats your last name (name)?
Her: (lastname)
Me: can you sound that out for me :P :/
Her: nope i cant
her: u gotta figure it out
Me: I dont understand linear language its an alien thing :P
Her: hmmmmm guess youll have to work on it
Me: yeah Ive got a team of 15 elves over here researching the latin origions but they cant seem to figure it out :) :) :)
Her: oh no, well you got some elves
Me: oh well its okay
Me: i jsut bought my ski pass for the winter im so excited
Her: i try not leave my house in the winter I hate the cold
Me: how girly of you
Her: i get way too cold
Her: even rn is too cold for me
Her: i cant do it nope nope nope
Me: you need to drink some more hot chocolate :)
her: haha I love hot chocolate
Me: me too but i dont make it very often
Me: where is it good
Me: starbucks?
Her: starbucks has good hot chocolate, dunking hot chocolate is nasty, literally all water
Me: hmmm i coulda guessed that, dont think i ever had it at starbucks
Me: we should do that hot chocolate AND aliens
Her: hahaha whats up w you and aliens you werido
Her: hot chocolate and hide under blankets
Me: they interest me
Me: that does sound very fun
Me: when do you work this week? im only wednesday and sunday nights this week
Her: my only night off besides thanksgiving is tomorrow
Me I could do monday night, like 7 ish??
Her: that may work
Me: how about i text you tomorrow and we can decide
Her: yes that fine haha
Me: okay talk to you later :)
next day:
Me: Hi you still down for starbucks tonight :)
During this 5 hours period she adds me on snapchat and sends me two generic snapchats about her hair being a mess and her driving, but never sends a text back. I respond to one joking about her hair by drawing weird hair on my head. The evening is approaching so i text her
Me: say something loser :)
Her: hi hi sorr
Me: oh no your so cold you can barely text :)
So i'm not completey sure what happened. This girl was very sexy looking so she def has some high value tendencies. She really seemed down to hangout with me twice (bolded texts above) but something is missing. I lost the excitability at the end and it did not seem like the idea of us hanging out was awesome enough yet, but I rolled with it because she agreed. Maybe she wanted me to leave her alone lol. That last text is bad and might be somewhat insulting. I don't understand why she was snapchatting me, whether they were personal or not she knew they were being sent but never felt the need to actually text me.
First of all, learn the difference between "your" and "you're". It comes off as lazy/stupid.
It seems like she was definitely interested, but you need to be going for meetups as soon as you see a window. She actually gave you several...when she hit you with "I love hot chocolate"...that was your queue to set up a date. Then again, after you say "I could do Monday night, like 7ish??" and she responds "that may work"...I would have taken this as a yes and been like "cool let's do Starbucks at 7". Instead you went backwards and forced yourself to have to reinitiate. A lot can happen on her end in a day so don't hesitate, especially in the world of Tinder where hot girls are bombarded with opportunities to forget you.
Also, being more challenging/accusatory/sexual will get her more invested and less likely to just let things die out, which is what I think was the real issue here. If she's sending you personal snapchats though...why do you think this is dead? Lol just hit her back on Snapchat and forget the texting. But send her messages, not pictures.
On a side note...are you opening with "hi" regularly on Tinder? I can't see that working with many good-looking women, not to mention how much value a creative first message can have in getting her invested and showing off your sense of humor.
Bruh I did go for the meet up twice lol, was that not clear maybe?
Yes I should have just snap chatted, the whole thing was just strange. I wasn't sure if they were personal snapchats, but she was taking the time to send them to me. My first fuck up was assuming she could be blowing me off when she probably needed more of an experience with me before she was ready to go out and wanted to Snapchat.
Ummm sometimes I say hi its probably not too great!
Yeah you took too long and you should have nailed it down rather than handle it the way you did. I feel like you were hesitating to pull the trigger the whole time. Remember with the hotties.. ruthless and shameless.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
Too long really? I thought I was inviting her out immediately after the opportunity arose or at least in my own head I was! Needs to be more direct I guess.
Anybody have any other thoughts on the Snapchat thing? I never experienced that before, and felt insulted in a way but I'm thinking I just read it all wrong.
They should come up with a new dating app called Tender. For all you sensitive folk
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
hmmmmmm.... This girl obviously enjoys me and invests in me in weird little way but I just can't seem to add any direction to the interaction. She is going through some tough times as you'll see below.
So this was the closest we got to meeting up. She's really hot and I didn't have the nuts to make things happen.
Me: hi where are u slow poke
Her: im cold
Me: im toasty
Her: emoji character of her in the snow
Me: sexy outfit
Me: I hope your not wearing mid calv socks rn
Her: im literally hundled under a blanket
Me: are u coming to get me snowflake
Me: or do I have to fly over in the spaceship
Me: fuck it im coming to you beb <----at this point im seriously thinking she really just wants me to go to her house and fuck her and that is maybe why she didn't want to go anywhere that I mentioned on the phone. I try and call her again and no response.
Her: its so cold out
Me: im the warmest mofucka in town
Her: I just wanna lay in bed and watch a movie and be warm
Me: imma pull your lil bod close to me and keep you warm
Her: hahaha whatt
Me: are you one of those girls that teases over text to feel better about yourself
Her: what do u mean
Me: your being rude as fuck
Me: we made a plan on the phone and now your sitting around wrapped in blankets touching yourself
Me: its fine I didnt like your haircut anyways
THE NEXT MORNING:
Me: I'm sorry for being a dick last night
Me: I was a misunderstanding on my side
I don't text her for a week but we snapchat casually, then engage again:
Me: hows my third favorite brat doing?
Her: not good
Me: aww whys that
Her: I'm just miserable I had my first PT session today and she did weird stuff to my head and neck it hurt so bad I threw up and now ive been sore all day I basically slept the whole time
Me: ohh no you need some TLC girl
Her: some what
Me: (screen shot of urban dictionary "TLC"...first definiition is "ten inch long cock" lol second one is "tender love and care")
Me: The second one lol
Me: in simple terms you need a massage hun
Her: haha she did massage me!
Me: ( I try and facetime her because I want to get her more engaged and it seemed appropiate since we kinda sorta know each at this point...she declines)
Me: What are you wearing one of those dog cones on your neck haha!
Her: (send me a picture with a neck brace thing)
Her: :(
Me: get well soon pumpkin :)
Me: that is actually pretty common for neck mobalizations. My mom's a PT
Her: shoulda just gone to her
Me: I know right
Me: You got a massage from hell
Her: shes only 25
Me: brand new!
Me: dont worry (name) they all know what they are doing they go to school for 7 years now'
Her: shes my friends older bothers gf
Me: how did this all happen hun
Her: (explains she got into car accident been on some meds and what not...seems like some tough times)
Me: thats frustrating
Me: you prob have a few locked vertebrae
Me: do you smoke weed lol <-- thought maybe she would be down
Her: no
Me: its hands down the best anti inflammatory out there <---- not trying to be a jackass...I actually read medical journals etc. but ti may have came off like an idiot
Her: haha not my thing
Me: lol yah im talking from a medical standpoint. There are topical creams and everything
Me: PT should fix yah up fine :)
Me: In no time we will be hiking everest with a pack of boxer dogs <---we both have these dogs
A WEEK LATER:
Me: congrats
Her: on?
Me: I was making hot coco with marshmallows and I thought about you <---- she talked about liking hot coco and some point
Me: yah your welcome. Im so sweet I may give you diabetes
Her: (send a picture of these hats with my name on it) <--- see this is odd, I look at this as pretty big investment and her being in that cute/girly mindset yet I can't really get her to bite much
Me: oh SHIT! thats a cool hat pumpkin I want it!
Me: if you buy me that hat it will be the key to my heart
Me: and ill buy you chipotle
aw man that was pretty bad at the end
I think this is a pretty good convo mang. Even the blitz you tried I thought was pretty well crafted and carried out.
I think her overall response here is mostly due to the fact she really is going through a tough time. If it were me I'd go that route, maybe add in some teasing as well, but show her that hanging with you leaves her better off than just treating you like a random dude on Tinder. Instead your idea of a massage was a bit too heavy-handed simply because every dude is trying to give her a massage, lol.
I go in and I'm crisp, clean and my vocals are fucking coming out like music. - Anonymous MW student
- Autismus Terminus Finis (Root Cause/Cure of Autism Epidemic)
- Called Off My Wedding & Other Turn Tail Signs Of The American Male
I think this is a pretty good convo mang. Even the blitz you tried I thought was pretty well crafted and carried out.I think her overall response here is mostly due to the fact she really is going through a tough time. If it were me I'd go that route, maybe add in some teasing as well, but show her that hanging with you leaves her better off than just treating you like a random dude on Tinder. Instead your idea of a massage was a bit too heavy-handed simply because every dude is trying to give her a massage, lol.
What route would you go exactly?
I'm assuming I should keep it on the softer side (while still teasing) but keep the emotions positive because negativity is not going to bait her at this point in time.
I started to realize that I wasn't handling her logistics well enough, I was inviting her ice skating and shit and she might not be physically well enough to do that.
Let me tell you a story MEOW, when I was a virgin (about 3 years ago), I met this girl that I was into. She was a fitness model that also worked part-time at GNC. We hit it off just right, got her number and we would exchange texts back and forth for about a year.
I tried several times to get her out- “hey want to catch a movie?” Her: “can’t out of town”
“Want to go out for a bite to eat?” Her: “busty with errands” (her breast are amazing BTW)
“Want to grab a coffee?” Her: (I Don’t even remember what she turned me down with, but I think she was going through a tough time)
Btw I don’t like coffee
About a year of texting back and forth (I knew not to come off needy but I always kept trying with this girl) I hit her up on my birthday about 2 years back:
Hey you in town?
Her: yes why?
*Conversation ensues*
Me: *Finally* “So drinks later?”
Her: HELL YEAH!
We meet up at her house, she drives us, we both have a good time and we head back to her house, she walks me to my car and
I end up getting the most epic BJ in the backseat of my car, it was heavenly. All 30 minutes of it…
MEOW good things will happen to those who persist. Only question you gotta ask yourself right now is how bad do you want to do HEAVENLY things with this girl?
Whatever you decide, I’m rooting for you MEOW
Let me tell you a story MEOW, when I was a virgin (about 3 years ago), I met this girl that I was into. She was a fitness model that also worked part-time at GNC. We hit it off just right, got her number and we would exchange texts back and forth for about a year.I tried several times to get her out- “hey want to catch a movie?” Her: “can’t out of town”
“Want to go out for a bite to eat?” Her: “busty with errands” (her breast are amazing BTW)
“Want to grab a coffee?” Her: (I Don’t even remember what she turned me down with, but I think she was going through a tough time)
Btw I don’t like coffee
About a year of texting back and forth (I knew not to come off needy but I always kept trying with this girl) I hit her up on my birthday about 2 years back:
Hey you in town?
Her: yes why?
*Conversation ensues*
Me: *Finally* “So drinks later?”
Her: HELL YEAH!
We meet up at her house, she drives us, we both have a good time and we head back to her house, she walks me to my car and
I end up getting the most epic BJ in the backseat of my car, it was heavenly. All 30 minutes of it…
MEOW good things will happen to those who persist. Only question you gotta ask yourself right now is how bad do you want to do HEAVENLY things with this girl?
Whatever you decide, I’m rooting for you MEOW
Fuck yeah dude that's awesome!! My first tinder lay was similar, I invited her out soooo many times and she finally realized that it was worth it because it takes balls to stay in the game that long.
This girl is a pain in ass but ever since we talked on the phone ohhh GAWD she's so sexy. I'm confident that if I could just get her out I'd blow her away in person. Actually, I know the shoe store she works at...I may just pop in. Does anybody think this is a bad idea?
^Dude, you can pull some mad shit with that idea. I've done it.
Bring one of your hottie hot hotties to go "shoe shopping", inform her of the girl you're trying to get with, watch the magic happen.
Huehuuueheue. Srsly, its fun.
She's on Vaca and sends me:
Her: (picture of extraterrestrial highway) <--- We talked about aliens like 5 weeks ago lol
Her: Ur highway
Me: lol my home! try not to get abducted im not there to save yah :P
Sooo this is the new vibe. I think this is what you were talking about Manwhore, I'm going to playfully frame our interaction in a way that she romantically needs me. Something is obviously up with this girl, she's engaging ME while shes on freakin vacation yet I can't hold a steady convo.
Her: Hahaha ok no promises tho
She reads the message immediately and responds 4 hours later lol